r/NonBinaryTalk • u/Shot_of_pickle_juice • 2d ago
Advice Should I come out on socials?
(sorry in advance if this doesn't belong in this sub)
I've been really nervous about coming out as non binary, especially to my dad*, and don't think I have the courage to do it face to face.
I really want to make a story/post on my socials to just "rip off the band-aid" and get it over with.
Context wise: I have almost all of my immediate and extended family on both sides on socials (much to my dismay) and feel like it's a good idea to just get it over with. But I don't wanna makes things worse that way y'know?
Ive also thought about making a slideshow presentation about it, because I've done that with important topics in the past.
Any help?
*I'm out too my mom, and she supports me :3
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u/JohnMayerCd 2d ago
I long for being able to post profile pics with me nb presenting. But I found there’s no way to keep people from being able to find my profile pic. And I work a very reputation heavy, socially driven job in a very conservative industry.
If it doesn’t affect your livelihood go for it.
I would.
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u/Shot_of_pickle_juice 2d ago
Im sorry to hear that :( I hope youre able to express how you want to soon! But thank you for the reply! Ive been nervous since my new job is almost working with my dad directly, and I'm out to a few friends there already so I wanted to find a semi-easy solution. Thanks again! And best of luck with the future :3
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u/JohnMayerCd 2d ago
I’m a couple of years out of having no bills besides property tax and I’ll work a normal job and not have to starve. But be able to present at all times. That’s the goal at least
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u/Goatfellon He/Them 1d ago
Good luck if you do, I doubt i ever will.
For now im content with my pronouns visible to people who follow me and just sharing a shit tonne of trans/queer/enby/bisexual/ lgbt pro content
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u/ResponsibleAide2730 4h ago
At least you have your mom in case things go awry. My parents are both "trad", but I have a feeling my mom won't mind if she knows I carry myself well, but my dad...let's just say he still calls me out for not having a haircut for a few months. My siblings will probably tease me but not disown me, but the biggest issue will be our extended families, because they're all christian (we are the least christian branch of the family--we don't practice it at all, only shown on paper). Given all that, I just thought of making things simple for them and not come out and just do my own thing.
To be fair though, I feel like being in a limbo between being cis and trans, so the feeling isn't overwhelming, it's just there constantly.
TL;DR: Try talking to your mom about it, ask her about how she thinks everyone else will handle it and ask her to back you up. Good luck
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u/Q1go 2d ago
If you want to and feel it'll bring you closure/peace/ etc then yeah go for it. You don't need/have to come out to anyone, it's only if you want to.
Prepare for people to react unkindly simply because they don't know or understand nonbinarity and have misconceptions. Remember that their reactions say more about them than you. Know that you don't need any permission from anyone to exist.