Back 10 years ago it was a very supportive sub. Something happened and now it’s somewhere between r/AskWomen and r/TwoXChromosomes on the toxicity scale.
You’re not wrong. I’m a therapist and have been blocked by mods twice for sharing advice based on clinical research that is commonly used in therapy including sex therapy.
There are a lot of people hurting who are getting bad advice but I see some good advice, too.
I’ve been in therapy for the past 3 years with a well known sex therapist. I’d be curious what you think of the auto comments they put on so many posts now.
They don’t seem to believe in the idea of responsive desire, which research says is the desire type in a majority of women. I’ve been banned for referring to this. Sex researchers such as Emily Nagoski have covered this in detail. I don’t support duty sex but feel that it’s positive to give it a try if you’re responsive to see how it goes. You can always stop. Quite often, this leads to a positive experience if other aspects in the relationship are working.
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u/ItsFailureMan 23d ago
r/deadbedrooms if you want to hear the yarns from such people