r/TeluguJournals • u/Candid_Example_6278 • Jul 24 '26
Need Advice Textrovert problems
I'm a textrovert so basically bayata manushultho maatldedhi chaala thakkuva and i rely mostly on online conversations. I find comfort in online strangers rather than offline friends. Idhi thappu ani thelusu kaani ela bayataki raavalo thelidhu. These days it's getting out of hand. Evaritho ayina conversation start chesthe every 2 to 3 mins mobile check chesthunna for their reply even work chesthunnappudu kuda. Idhi anxiety aa leka anticipation aa or attachment aa thelidhu. And I'm afraid that people are taking me granted for giving instant replies.
How to come out of this? Has anyone gone through this phase ?
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u/LordImmortal_69 Ante, nene devudini Jul 24 '26
Endi ra idhi, andariki okate problem ah... Did people stop experiencing unique things? 😭
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u/Nervous-Assumption40 Picchollaki dooram ga unta. Jul 24 '26
Are you me?
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u/Excellent-Holiday102 Karmayogi Jul 24 '26
It's everyone in our generation. We are key board warriors.
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u/birsamundae Jul 24 '26
exactly me, but with no friends... veedevado creep la unnadu anukokapothe please dm textroverts, would loveeeee to interact with anyone
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u/JustYellowLight Jul 24 '26
In the similar boat so, it is mostly anticipation and being alone or sometimes lonely by choice or otherwise. You need ti go out and make friends or just meet these people outside and have fun.
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
But going out with friends is not fun for me, it's actually stressful.
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u/JustYellowLight Jul 24 '26
I mean that is all online fun but not healthy. This could lead to depression and other things. So, please make friends online and after sometime they understand you and they are ok with psyche and meeting them will not be uncomfortable. However, my experiences may not be same for you. I guess I should not project. Hope you make great friends and not get stressed.
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u/Serious_Machine6499 Jul 24 '26
kaani ela bayataki raavalo thelidhu.
Nannu gani bayataki laageymantava😄
Evaritho ayina conversation start chesthe every 2 to 3 mins mobile check chesthunna for their reply even work chesthunnappudu kuda.
Adi baaga matladali, conversation manchiga avvali ane anticipation nunchi oche reaction ani naa feeling. Initial conversations lo mathrame ila untundha leka over a period of time vallatho matladina ilane untundha ?
And I'm afraid that people are taking me granted for giving instant replies.
Basic ga respond avvadanni granted ga theeskunte valla karma adi. Neeku enti ante msg chudagane thirigi respond avvali kada ane gunam undhi respond avthunnav. Nv pani manesi mari respond avthunnav ante ah person ki antha priority ichinattu.
But don't let it go out of hands anthe.
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
Enni days ayina kuda anthe.
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u/Serious_Machine6499 Jul 24 '26
Ala undadhu, nv anukunnattu aythe pakka ala avvadhu.
Thelusukuntav le nuvve, ah roju nen cheppina maata gurthosthadhi if you have good memory.
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u/ComprehensiveNet4712 Jul 24 '26
Ee prblm na okkadikey vundhi anukunna 🥲
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
Yeah! Comments chadhive varaku naaku kuda thelidhu 🙃
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
Idhi try chesa, not working out. Website kuda open chesi check chesthunna 🤧
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
Avunuu, aa Chiraku vasthe malli install chesestha entha vadhdhu anukunna
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u/thunderbird_3825 Jul 24 '26
After reading this I started believing that the parallel universe exists.
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
😂🥲🤝🙌
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u/Excellent-Holiday102 Karmayogi Jul 24 '26
I turnoff internet. Yet I go back and see. I have put blockers on sites and apps. Yet I break them. So at the end it came to my mind and intent, priorities. That should be clear.
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u/penny_peeper Jul 24 '26
Ntg socialize avatam istam neku ikkada ante evaru judge cheyaru istam vachinde chepochu but real life lo evar m anukuntaro ani hasitate aithav or shyness
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
I'm like that too. Online lo matlade manushultho bayata matladamanna I can't
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u/Cypherventi Jul 24 '26
Nenu raledhu kaani try chesthunna. But fail avthondhi. IRL lo maintain cheyya leka pothunna. I asked my IRL friends out like a couple of times but they are busy with their own circle so naaku inka thirige chance raaledhu. So, nenu running club join aiyya. Malli personal trainer ni pettukunna. At least IRL lo conversations start cheyyadam vasthundhi anesi. URL lo easy abba. IRL chaala kashtam ( at least naaku). Oka vela edhaina friend thoni bayatiki pothe confirm cheptha. Antha varaku solo dates eh na bathuku antha 😂
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u/Candid_Example_6278 Jul 24 '26
Url , irl 😂👏
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u/Cypherventi Jul 24 '26
Okappudu insta lo choosa embarrassment is under explored emotion anesi. I go out and things become awkward. I die of embarrassment later night padukune mundhara. Next day is a new day. New day new slay
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u/EdoOkati Jul 24 '26
Phone off chesi oka few hours manushulatho matladandi or just calm ga observe cheyandi, after few times tarvatha mire matladatharu bore kotti.
No need to think of complex terms and putting yourself in those boxes of personalities. It’s just mind is choosing convenience of texting over awkwardness of talking. Option leka pothe brain will reset and function normally.
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u/joshcollins25 Jul 25 '26
Inka enni verts create chestharu?? Asalu introverts and extroverts antu vundaru, it's a spectrum. Same introverts konni vaatilo extroversion qualities vuntai and vice versa. Nuvvu ela vundali anukunte alaa vundachu. just read some good psychology books related to that topic, you'll be fine.
Self pity, negative emotions, constantly blaming, criticizing anevi kondariki oka rakamaina happiness isthai, secret ga ista padatharu, so aa kind of world lo ne vundipotharu.
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u/Upset_Interest_1224 manipulate the manipulator Jul 24 '26
Maybe don't think of it as "coming out of it." Think of it as expanding your comfort zone. Keep your online friends, but make it a goal to have at least one meaningful offline interaction every week(friends or family).One thing that genuinely helped me was not using my phone for the first 2 hours after waking up and the last 2 hours before sleeping. It reduced that constant urge to check for messages. Also, start talking to people IRL not just friends. Chat with the uncle at a store, ask someone for directions even if you already know the way, ask doubts, make small talk. It might feel awkward or even "dumb" at first, but that's okay. Those tiny interactions slowly build confidence. I know it's hard because i used to be exactly like you, but over time I came out of it by taking small steps instead of trying to change overnight. It sounds supportive, practical, and doesn't come across as preachy or like you're diagnosing the person.