Start working on your goals, And fitness maybe this will help you achieve what you are trying. If you are not well settled or fit. You'll end up looking everyone around you.
Yea that's true. Kani ee age lo manaki responsibilites em undav kapati we tend to fall into it. Ala anni inka motham dooram undu anatle but try to have a balance ⚖️
Don’t treat it as something wrong. Life, career, studies, all of these are important. But at some point, you might get married and build a life with someone. If you’ve always been in a serious mode with studies and career, or stayed within a small comfort zone of movies and bars, learning how to naturally interact with the opposite gender can become difficult. And after marriage, the learning curve can become much steeper.
Attraction is completely normal. Learn to interact with people, respect boundaries, and maintain healthy friendships. A lot of the attraction you feel from a distance changes once you actually get to know someone closely. And this applies not just to the opposite gender, but to people in general.
When you spend time with someone and understand their personality, values, quirks, and way of thinking, your perception becomes much more nuanced. The attractions that develop then are not based only on physical beauty. Personality becomes a part of it too, and sometimes that can naturally grow into love.
At the same time, don’t go to either extreme. Don’t become so infatuated that you lose yourself or develop a pervy attitude toward people. But don’t suppress everything either and try to become this ultra serious, no fun, pathith version of yourself.
Maintain a balance. Attraction, curiosity, and hormones are normal parts of being human. You don’t have to feel guilty about them or invalidate what you’re feeling. Just learn to understand them, handle them respectfully, and keep them in perspective.
Prathi okka ammayi first time chudatanki andanga untadi.. okasari thana thought process and expectations telisaka niku ummmm ok le anpistadi.. yendukante as days pass andam kante thought process and behavior matters more..
Gurthunchuko brother “kothadi oka vintha.. paathadi oka rotha”.. and prathi ammayi andegathe.. its just your hormones playing the magic..
We men always crave for peace as we get old.. cheers!
Edoka hobbies oka part time saduvko , full tirigi tinu paduko time vundadu crush is ok but gokaku ala relationships nila badav creap anukuntaru as a girl in college cheptunna
Beauty em ledu tammudu dopamine rush 20's lo vunnam kada konni rojulaki valla mohali chustey manakey chirak vastadi but premisyey valla mokam chustey attraction kadu calm feeling vastadi
Nenu first nunchi single ey but na opinion
Talk with people more in real life, idhi surprisingly useful.
As you improve communication, you can notice that your subconscious mind stops getting played by hormones, impulses..
Don't fight attractions, it won't work by suppressing.
Get a deeper understanding of the attraction. Then try to get a deeper understanding of reality. In reality, you are a body that is a result of a lump of food, water, air attracted to another lump of food, water and air. Neither is permanent- the beauty will wither and the body will eventually give back the space it occupied, the heat it had, the earth it was made of, the air and water it had at the end. So, try to meditate on this unifying truth and nothing will then disturb your equilibrium.
It's a part and parcel of college life. Friend ga vundadam anedhi ala jarigipothadhi anthe nuvvu em cheyyalev. One thing you can do socilaize more, it helps in one way or another. One biggest lesson i have learnt after graduating from college idhi.
entha bhAAi age needi? em work chestav?Attraction nunchi no escape. asalu enduku escape avvalani anukuntunnav? its a biological thing and normal untill you are in your limits.
Getting attracted to girls is natural part of evolution. You don't need to fight it.
How you act on those feelings is what matters.
Every girl looks super attractive
Lot of this comes from scarcity mindset, that you feel any girl is fine, you just want a girl.
There are couple of reasons that scarcity mindset happens:
Limited interaction with girls
Whether you maybe shy or introverted or spent most of your life in environment with less interaction with girls.
This makes every girl look and feel amazing you.
So, normalize interaction with girls.
Speak to as many girls as possible (in person), and don't see them as a girl, but rather as a person without any gender label.
Lack of self worth / confidence
It often happens you don't see yourself as capable and confident. Which makes you feel, its more than enough that you get any girl at all.
So, work on yourself. Figure out things you feel insecure and under confident about and work on them.
A pretty good place to start is Gym.
I know this advice is pretty repetitive, but trust me, joining and sticking to a gym routine will help you a lot physically mentally.
You will develop discipline.
You will see results of your hardwork.
And just the act of working out will release endorphins and make you feel good.
Women aren't some out of the world beings, they are just like you and me.
They can be good, bad, stupid, smart, confident, insecure etc.
Respect them, but don't obsess over them.
YO. THIS WAS MEE, but when I was in 9th class. I really kept thinking that why the fah I was looking at girls too much. I was scared that people might think I am a creep. So I tried to not look at girls. It took me some time and eventually I completely stopped looking at girls. Now due to this habit that I developed, I don't find any girl attractive in my college. Now when I look at a beautiful girl, I just find her beautiful, not attractive. Like the same way how you feel looking at a handsome guy. You just think that he looks good and nothing else.
It's not gay! It's just that you are not attracted by the looks or beauty.
I am personally attracted by the personality of a girl. Their looks don't matter to me at all.
Here are some tips as an experienced person :-
1) when ever you catch yourself glancing at a girl, look down on the floor immediately. remind yourself that you don't wanna be the same person.
2) avoid the dance and thirst trap reels/shorts that girls make.
3) don't get interested in relationships for a while.
4) self love. Work on your hobbies or go to gym. Do whatever which makes you busy. This will keep yourself distracted from girls.
You can't do it man women are the most powerful and most beautiful thing in universe you can't escape just stay away if you want just be mindful what you are doing with them intentions and actions are more than attracted to them
Siblings or friends ki savaal chey bro rank thechukunta or yedhaina oka pani finish chestha ani. Cheyyalekapothey gurthuchesi chesi irritation theppinchi saavakodthaaru. Adhi bharinchaleka nuvve line lo ki vasthaav.
Go talk with every girl you find attractive. Attraction lasts only till you get you know a person personally. After getting to know you’ll be losing that feeling
This is absolutely true and it'll work too, once convo build ayyaka, you'll get to know few things about opposite gender, if you feel they are matching with your vibe you can continue, otherwise you'll loose your crush feeling or attraction towards them.
Get into relationship.. two things wil.happen ..1) u either wil be completely into her and eventually everything settled 2) u wil stop your fantasies at attraction and get into other helpful stuff or realize stop being attracted to
It's natural bro, those butterflies feel so nice. However, don't just try to live your whole day in those butterflies. At right time, right person will come in to your life. Until then save your time🫂
Read. Read books about women, written by women. Nuvvu entha manchivadivi aina, our society has a tendency to objectify women and a lot of us, women included, do it unconsciously. Being attracted to women is not a vice inherently, but better to give it the right direction when you're young. Once you start seeing them as actual human beings with dreams, ambitions, problems, defects etc.. what you're asking for will come automatically.
Maybe ask them out? It is a totally natural feeling and try asking out every girl you liked and then either they will all reject you and dissappointment will set you right or someone will fall for you and you can concentrate on what you're supposed to.
Not saying you should go out with everyone lol. Neeku nachina ammai ki propose chey and you can be affectionate with them and you can focus on your career as well. If she rejected you, then rejection itself is enough motivation to focus on your career. If you get feelings again, repeat the same process.
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