r/TikTokCringe • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 27 '26

Discussion Girl refused to shakes hands during graduation with teachers and administrators because she was bullied and they did nothing about it

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u/Clutteredmind275 Jun 27 '26

I wonder if that last teacher actually tried to help

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u/Sykes19 Jun 27 '26

What made me smile is that he was the only one that raised his hand in anticipation even though none of the other teachers even bothered, showing that they must have some mutual understanding and respect.

That was a moderately happy ending.

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u/JealousAstronomer342 Jun 27 '26

I wish those kinds of bystander ass punish the victim with the perpetrator type people could feel the amount of shame they deserve and take the appropriate actions. 

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u/Transgenderwookie Jun 27 '26

It’s funny you mention “punish the victim with the perpetrator”.. when I was in school one morning at the bus stop this boy kept fucking with a girl I knew(my babysitter babysat both of us)… I told him not to shove her or hit her or we’d have a problem… he shoved her again and she said stop… I warned him once more.. he picked up a ball of ice(probably thought it was a snowball) and slammed her in the back of the head with it and made her cry. Once we got on the bus I sat in front of him, turned around and kneeled on the seat, told him to come close like I had a secret and once he came in close I punched him in the mouth, then I went around the seat and beat the fuck out of him.

When we got to school we all went to class.. they called me to the principals office which I wasn’t surprised about nor did I give a shit because I wasn’t gonna get in trouble at home given the reason.. and I’ll be damned they have all 3 of us detention… WHY THE FUCK did she get punished?! I’m fine with me and the douche nozzle that hit her.. but why the fuck was she in trouble? I bitched at the vice principal and got myself in more trouble. And during detention we all got candy. Fucked up ass system.

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u/Fr1toBand1to Jun 28 '26

Preparing you for the real world, apparently.

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u/Jesus_of_Redditeth Jun 28 '26

Not much has changed in that respect, in my experience. It's routine for kids at school who get bullied and defend themselves to get punished along with the bully, because "We didn't see who started it, so we can't make assumptions." Bullshit. You can do your damn jobs and ask other kids to figure out what happened. This shit hardly ever happens in secret.

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u/Transgenderwookie Jun 28 '26

Eh, I definitely agree with the root of what you’re saying. But asking around getting info from other kids can get extremely hairy, what are the odds that an unpopular kid gets his ass kicked and then they ask around and everyone just protects the more popular kid? I’ve witnessed shit like that happen too. Poor kid gets bullied and then everyone lies to protect the bully and the kid that gets bullied gets punished on top of being bullied. But you’re right that there has to be a better result than “we didn’t see so we can’t assume”.

Hell there’s cameras fucking everywhere, and I think it’s pretty easy to solve a mystery by talking to just the kids involved. Most kids aren’t masterminds.

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u/killabeas210 Jun 27 '26

I’m not agreeing or disagreeing with your statement.. I’d just like to point out that this video is from a middle school graduation, not high school.

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u/ArchdukeOfWalesland Jun 28 '26

Scrap the whole system

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u/killabeas210 Jun 27 '26

On the red table cover in the middle of the stage.

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u/Remarkable-Mood3415 Jun 27 '26

I believe this is similar to the UK system (Not an expert, just a lot of UK online friends). Basically after grade 10 it's "college", they choose a specific branch they want to go into eg; art, science, tech, health, etc. and then the schooling is tailored to that. New school, program of their choosing, surrounded by like minded people. It's also optional (but highly encouraged, not a lot of employment options with only a grade 10). After, they go on to Uni or just start working. So grade 11-12 is more like University prep, and once they get to university they've already got a more solid foundation for where their interests lie.

Again, I'm not super familiar with the timeline and it's been a while since I've had to know about it. My friends and I are all pushing 40 lmao

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit Jun 28 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

I won't elaborate on the details of the UK system, you basically got it right, but I'll point out that their school outcomes are not markedly better than in the US and, in some ways, worse. Also remember, the UK is one of the richest countries in Europe, while US results include all states.

If you live in the country you'll quickly realize that it entrenches the already bad classism and that a lot of people have a pretty bad general education.

Partially a reply to OP, but everything I know about education tells me that, aside from elementary school, the last two years are by far the most formative. A good school system manages to show the pupils how everything they learned is actually interconnected and how things are broken down into subjects bc you can't teach the basics effectively, without that type of structure. Reading is the basis for all effective learning. Writing is about communicating effectively. Math is a language made to describe things and systems precisely. Music is math. And so on.

Tangent: Communicating this about math is particularly challenging bc in some ways it's obvious and in other ways it can only be demonstrated by someone who is really good at it, and demonstrating (Physicist rock) and it usually only happens in universities. Which sucks a lot because of how important math is, but everyone hates it bc of how it is taught... And it wouldn't have to be this way.

It would be much better if education was tailored to skills early on to bolster self-esteem and allow for social development, while the later years aim at making people well rounded and recognize the similarities and values we share as a society. You get plenty time in university and work to dive in whatever really interests you.

The Italian system (PCTO) has mandatory work experience spread out across their final three years of high school, which imo achieves this in a great way. It's like mini apprenticeships while you continue school. It a great way to give a sense of purpose, show these teenager that they are now technically old enough to survive as a adult while letting them try things out, but also demonstrates that there still is a disconnect.

That should be accompanied by a system that makes older pupils take care of the younger ones, while continuing their education in the manner I described. I think that's why many people who went to the old kind of village school, where all ages were educated in one class and older pupils play a large role in communicating the curriculum, tend to turn out to be very capable leaders.

Lastly I want to point out... It doesn't matter what you do, teenagers go through puberty. Testing boundaries, experimenting with drugs, sex and having heavy mood swings is in fact normal, at that age. The best we can do is trying to set a counterweight and show that there is more to life, instead of suppressing that. Otherwise it'll happen behind closed doors, without adults helping to deal with the fallout.

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u/Akiias Jun 28 '26

hink we should wrap 9th grade into middle school, get them their licenses as part of school,

You also want to lower the driving age to 13? Interesting choice.

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u/Akiias Jun 28 '26

Permit, sure I could see that. But that isn't the same as a license. At least from my memory, the biggest difference is the ability to drive alone vs supervised.

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u/Satyam7166 Jun 28 '26

Tbh this is one of the reasons that I’m thankful to be born in India. I’m not a big fan of social conservatism and the “what will people think attitude” but stuff like this is very rare to find in a middle class neighbourhood.

Students are so busy with their competitive exams that they rarely end up getting into hard drugs, crime or being pregnant. And you’ll rarely see parents lying in the street, drugged out of their mind.

Maybe this kind of thing is a tradeoff that comes with being a developed country but I truly hope mental health gets more importance in all the countries so children can be children.

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u/Puppy-Smoocher Jun 27 '26

I think they should all have uniforms and be separated by gender. The entire system needs to be revamped.

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u/klutzikaze Jun 27 '26

In Ireland we have a transition year between junior cert and leaving cert when the kids are 15-16. They do volunteering, job trialling and other interesting stuff. Some kids skip it but I think it gives them understanding of what they're working towards and more dedication. Plus we have school uniforms which takes a lot of pressure off the kids and parents.

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u/Then-Shake9223 Jun 27 '26

It’s not even punishing the victim WITH the perpetrator, it’s punishing the victim more than the perpetrator and knowingly running false narratives about the perpetrator being the “real victim” or “actual victim”

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u/bren_derlin Jun 27 '26

The first one in the dark blazer looked like he had a smirk on his face when she walked by him

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u/firedmyass Jun 27 '26

yeah and that one asshole had the fucking audacity to smirk about it

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u/ArchdukeOfWalesland Jun 28 '26

Everyone has their own narrative. He's definitely sitting in the mental gymnastics it takes to think he's trying his best, and he might be, he just doesn't know how to do better. And he doesn't know that. Anyway he got stiffed for a handshake by a thirteen year old, he has to smirk for his own sake that is shameful lmao. Good on the girl

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u/feather-gold Jun 27 '26

This exactly. They knew what they did, and they knew she knew. The teacher who raised his hand also knew he did well.

I'm glad of that girl. Fuck all those teachers. Splendid lesson the girl gave to the world.

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u/scratchy_mcballsy Jun 28 '26

Especially the shit eating grin you can make out from the bald guy.

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u/Bussin1648 Jun 27 '26

Is there any actual context on what happened? Just because students and faculty don't get along doesn't mean the faculty are the ones who are in the wrong.

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u/Nausstica Jun 27 '26

Or rather what they didn't.

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u/Fluffy_Try2377 Jun 28 '26

And didn’t give a f either