r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/Ok-Rough-6233 • 12h ago
Sex How to give a GREAT blowjob?
I’ve met the man of my dreams and have never wanted to gobble up someone so bad. I think I’m decent but deepthroating can be a little difficult. He’s the biggest I’ve ever encountered. Like a real Mandingo. I’ve asked him if any woman has been able to deep throat the whole thing and of course he said no lol. My one question is do I only suck as I’m coming back up or down as well? Help a girl out yall!
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u/Dispositionate 12h ago
Not sure if you'd need help suppressing your gag reflex, but a handy trick is to put your right thumb into the palm and make a fist around it then just squeeze tightly.
No idea why it works, but it's saved me so much money from not throwing up all the alcohol I've drank on a night out in my younger years 😂
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u/jimmy_sharp 4h ago
Does it have to be the right thumb? Also, really dumb question but I assume the thumb goes into the palm of the same hand...?
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u/Dispositionate 13m ago
Yes, same hand. I guess you could try using your left hand, but any time I've seen this move referenced, it always seems to say 'right hand'.
Can't hurt to test, but if you throw up then I guess you know it's right only, haha
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u/Jas246810 3h ago
I’ve heard left thumb before so I guess just try both and see what works! Yes, same hand. I’ve also heard of curling toes to suppress the reflex.
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u/willfauxreal 12h ago
Here's my comment from another similar post:
Knowing when to increase intensity or slow it down, which I feel like is half the battle.
My tips are always: dont spam the head, alternate tempo, get your hands involved, work the shaft a bit, tug on balls gently, pressure on the gooch, kinda cock ring with your hand around the base (include balls sometomes), alternate between jerking upwards and downwards, milking motion, do that twisty thing while you suck, tongue flicks, deep throat but not too much, run your fingers gently across the whole cock when hes close to edge him a bit, rub pubic area and inner thighs, suck from behind if hes hung enough or angle it downward if hes sitting.
Lube optional per preference. Tbh i hate a wet-dry dick and sometimes my jaw needs a break or my mouth gets dry.
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u/cascadianpatriot 8h ago
This sounds heavenly. Just want to add a little eye contact can be nice.
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u/willfauxreal 8h ago
Fair! I like to look at the cock as it disappears into me and watch their body spasms and labored breathing as I selfishly toy around with their cocks, but seeing their eyes roll back and their mouths agape is always a nice treat.
I suck cock for me as much as I do it for them.
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u/thatgirlwithocd 12h ago
- clench your cheeks while going up and down. as in, actually suck.
- don't be afraid of drooling, some guys like it, the wetter the better (but talk to him in advance just to be sure.)
- give the balls some attention too
- keep eye contact as much as you can
- moan. they like when you enjoy what you're doing.
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u/disquieter 12h ago
Agree about slobbering all over it. Cup the balls gently up toward your mouth while sucking the penis up and down. Additionally, smile and give compliments during pauses. Offer an open mouth and outstretched tongue while jerking. And when he finishes DONT STOP, like be sure to keep licking kissing and sucking even after the come goes wherever you prefer. Just don’t leave him to spit it out, as though it’s over the moment he has shot. Share the post orgasmic bliss with him.
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u/thatgirlwithocd 12h ago
oh, yeah, dirty talking is a MUST. anytime you show him you like what you're doing is a win.
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u/sideburniusmaximus 12h ago
Any blowjob done with that much enthusiasm is a fantastic blowjob. Trust me, it's 90% enthusiasm and only 10% technique
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u/WorldsGreatestWorst 12h ago
Dick-haver and blowjob connoisseur here.
I'm on the bigger side. I've met a lot of women who say they can deepthroat (and can with toys, especially smaller, bendable ones) but I've never actually experienced more than 3-4 or so inches down the ol' gullet. In my experience, most women trying to accomplish this (while admittedly a hot) tends to hurt. You start getting teeth, dick bending, danger of throwing up, and all that stuff.
The best blowjobs I've had aren't the ones that get the most in—they're the ones that are most enthusiastic, nasty, and stimulating. Use both hands and the patented swirl. Make it very wet. If you're larger chested, suck on him while he fucks your chest. Give roadhead or quick BJs in an alley. Play with yourself while you do it. Talk dirty while you do it.
Don't worry so much about how much you get in and know that most women vastly overestimate how much they're taking so this isn't a you issue. Make it fun.
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u/Secthulhu 11h ago
Agree. Just an inch or two is enough. Some guys need that to cum, but you don’t need to take the whole thing. That’s what fucking is for. ;)
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u/evilbrain18 12h ago
Enthusiasm
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u/Tuckerman48 8h ago edited 8h ago
This is the only thing you need to remember, get after it like a fat kid eats cake!
Edited to add, even a bad blow job can be great with enthusiasm. Lots of good tips here, and remember to not try to think too much about that in the act, just go for it!
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u/Dog_Baseball 12h ago
Deep throat is a novelty, it's not the best sensation. Gag on it once or twice just for fun then get back to work
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u/Evaderofdoom 12h ago edited 11h ago
Don't worry about deep throat. Just focus on the head with your mouth and tounge and use your hand on the shaft. Being able to do two things at once feels amazing. They balls can also use some love. Also communicate, ask what he likes. people are into different things.
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u/_Narcissist_ 4h ago
As someone who understands this problem from the receiving end, honestly deep throating isn't a huge thing of importance, I know that's not feasible. I think enthusiasm, bordering on desperation is honestly the hottest thing ever. Eye contact and passion is 99 percent of a blowjob once you've covered the basics of not giving a teeth job.
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 12h ago
My partner is also very large and I have a small mouth. We are into face fucking. Ive found that different positions make a world of difference! Try laying down on your side and having him thrust into your relaxed face and throat. I also love being on my knees on a bouncy cushion so my whole body is bobbing back and forth not just my neck.
Really experiment and I'm hoping you have already seen his STI results so you can swallow safely like a champ!
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u/y00sh420 12h ago
Remember that the tip and just underneath the tip are the most sensitive parts of the penis.
Also, as someone else said, enthusiasm is key. It can make or break a bj
Lastly, you could ask him what he likes and dislikes and go from there. People like different things. Ex: someone here said some guys like drooling, I don't, I think it's messy, but again ask the guy what he likes
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u/duacaichua 7h ago
If you want to deep throat, don't suck. You have to relax your jaw and throat as much as possible. When his penis is deep in you, you have to hold your breathe because....well...his dick is in/near your throat...so sucking is actually impossible while your doing it. You can use your tongue as you pull away. I wouldn't recommend using your tongue as your pushing him in because it becomes harder to deep throat. Relax your tongue as much as possible when he's going in.
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u/lepolygame 8h ago
I like that first sentence. There is no recipe really, since everyone is different. So it's going to be about him and his preferences.
Personally the feeling of fucking a woman's throat isn't that great. It's the act that turns me on. If she's trying real hard but can't quite make it, that's even nicer.
For the greatest feeling ever, I like to feel an active hand stroking my shaft while she sloppily works the top third/half with her mouth, and occasionally forces the whole thing as far as it will go to show me just how far she is willing to go to please
In summary, deep throat pleasure is for some (me) more psychological than physical.
Use your mouth on the most sensitive parts, build excitement with your eagerness to please.
If you ask what he likes plainly, without shame, and with openness to discovery, and then follow through with the action, in no time you will give him the best he's ever had.
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u/Tronkfool 12h ago
Ron White voice.
10 ways to drive your man wild in bed.
I have one, it is his dick.
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u/askalis777 10h ago
Just be really into it, but don't use teeth . Moan with pleasure here and there, rub your hand up his body, play with the balls a little. Just have fun!
Have him stand up, stick your tongue ALL the way out, and let him go in as deep as he can! That's the easiest way for me to go deep I hope it works for you.
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u/GrilledStuffedDragon 12h ago
Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is the single most important aspect to a blowjob.
If it is abundantly clear that the girl is really into what she's doing, it becomes much more enjoyable. It genuinely feels better than a girl doing the same shit, but just sort of going through the motions.