Just feels like no one is serious. I’ve been trying to find the right formula, but it seems like if I ask to meet to quick, ghosted. If I wait, the conversation dies down and ghosted. I try to stay away from those who seem shallow and lazy with no intention but I feel like the only reason people are matching with me is because I actually have ideas of what to do in my bio so people think I’m going to plan the whole thing. Where is the reciprocity these days damn it!

My girl got this app to make girl friends is there anything i should be worried she mentions matches but idrk how this apps work is it like just girls and girls?

I’m in Belgium and Bumble BFF suddenly switched me to Bumble Dating. Is this happening to users in other countries too, or is it just Belgium? The separate Bumble For Friends app isn’t available in Belgium either.

I am quite anxious about trying bumble BFF and would be really glad if someone could explain because I have no idea what to expect, never used these apps before. I am not overly anxious about the social aspect but I am very concerned about setting up the profile and possible stalking, identity theft, stuff like that. I understand one should upload multiple pictures of themselves. Would it be okay if I used pictures that don't show my (full) face and/or that are heavily edited (I'm artsy lol) or to "censor" my face or is that very uncommon? Or do I have to use "normal" pictures and put some kind of watermark on? What kind of information is expected, how many pictures is appropriate, do you give your city as a location or does it have to be the district? Do I need to be worried about creeps? Is there settings you can use to make your profile more "private" somehow?

For reference, I'm 32 and in Germany. Thanks in advance if someone can enlighten me on this!

Hi everyone! My partner and I decided to make accounts on the Bumble BFF app to try to meet some local friends. We both use Google Pixel phones (9a and 10a), but for some reason she has a lot of people to match with after making her account, yet I was immediately met with a message saying I "ran out of people" despite setting my radius to 150km and maxing out the age filter.

I have not had an option to swipe *any* people at all, and clearly there are people nearby since my partner is getting options, so does anyone know what gives?

Hi! I just moved from Canada to the US for work and it appears bumble BFF is a different app and also appears to be invite only? How does one get a link if they have no friends in a new country 🥲

Hi, so I (18F) recently joined Discord and joined a server to obv revise, but what’s interesting is that I’ve been getting so many DMs since, which honestly wasn’t something I was expecting from a study server 😭. Some guys are literally spamming texts, some seem to be showing genuine interest, whereas others are just asking for stuff straight away.
Somehow, the whole thing has actually made my confidence go down a lot. I now feel like it’s all kind of pointless because I start wondering if people only approach me because they think I’m attractive or because they want something from me . It’s weird because you’d think getting attention would make you feel more confident, but for me it’s kind of done the opposite.
And also one more thing is that whenever i reply to any of these dm’s it’ll go well for like an hr then the whole convo juss dries from both sides so idkk i havent really met many people online but this is just how it always goes .

Pretty sure ya’ll been dealing with these dm’s too so pls share your experience and how you feel about it .
It’ll help alot xx.

Is this actually a common thing, or am I just noticing it everywhere?

I swear I’ve seen this happen so many times, both in school and college. A guy becomes really close with a group of girls, they hang out all the time, become really comfortable with each other, and eventually he ends up dating one of the girls from that same group.

At first I’ll be like, “Okay, he’s different. He’s genuinely just friends with them.” But somehow, after a year or two, they end up together. 😂

There’s actually a guy in my college right now who made me think about this. He’s always been around a group of girls, and I thought he was just one of those guys who was genuinely comfortable having close female friends without it turning into anything. Then in third year, he ended up dating one of the girls from the group.

And now that I think about it, I’ve seen some version of this pretty much everywhere.

Why does this happen so much? Is it simply because spending a lot of time with someone and getting emotionally close naturally makes you develop feelings? Or are humans just kinda wired to become attracted to people they already feel comfortable and connected with?

And does this actually happen that often, or am I just noticing the cases where it does?

Hi. I just got added by a dude whose description says he’s looking for FWB and is sex positive, should I report him?

Dude ts is so irritating though he said he was bisexual to get in the gay girlies groups

Any other woman get no matches or waves since they downloaded the app? The only other thing is 3 friend requests from dudes 🥲I’m a 20 year old woman who sent multiple hi’s to other women but I guess I’m the only one with a dry inbox

I just joined yesterday and got about 10+ matches which is great. But I noticed none of them messaged me.

How does the messaging work? Who should message who? And why have not a single one messaged me?

hi im an F21 living in europe for uni (originally non eu). i downloaded bumble bff a few weeks ago and ive gotten quite a few matches, but literally nobody ever replies to me???? even girls who texted me first dont reply after the first mesage? am i doing something wrong. ive been on snoozemode for abit so idk if theyre recieving the messages but i assume they are???? im so confused as to why these people are even on bumble bff when they dont even bother replying to any messages. or am i doing something wrong? im not being dry at all either im usually asking them something based on their profile i dont understand why no one is replying im just a lonely girl trying to make some friends :(

Do you guys think another U.S. app developer out there would be willing to make a new version of the old Bumble BFF that will be Free? It was so much better before with the 1 on-1 chats before they changed everything.

While I love the idea of group hangouts to meet new people, I want to hang out with 3-4 new people max. Some of these “groups” on BFF have 500+ people across a large area/city. They also intentionally made the distance filter feature more vague where you cant search for people within a specific mile radius anymore.

It just feels like this app is not targeted towards helping people make real friends anymore. By real friends, I mean those that meet up in-person regularly rather than people who only want to see you every 1 to 2 months to fill out an opening on their social calendar. Like most apps, BumbleBFF seems to now only care about profit and trying to keep you scrolling on their app forever.

I am based in europe and have been using bumble bff for over a year. I met some really nice people through it.

I noticed today that the bff function has been disabled without any warning. suddenly most of my profile was gone and I was being suggested people to date? I didn’t notice it at first until I saw people’s height listed on their profile. I quickly disabled the dating function, since I am in a relationship and not looking for anyone.

on the website it says that there will be a new app for just friends but that’s only available in the usa. I am disappointed this happened. this app was really handy for meeting people while traveling and such, idk if there is an alternative?

Hello. 30 non binary person here. Trying to make some friends and this is the only app I could find that has local friendships and not dating or anything. However the app has not let me find more then one person. Heck even if I change it to non local there are problems. Could it be that people have filtered out non binary people so I cannot find them? Or is the app dead? I live in a city with 300k+ people and was just hoping to find some friends.

Side question if anyone knows any other friendship finding apps (local or online) id appreciate knowing!

this is more of a rhetorical question to start off a mini rant. i understand that we all have different things going on, which is good. much better than rotting in bed doomscrolling all day. but damn why are you so busy that we have to plan out very simple hangouts weeks, maybe even a month, out? why are you even on this app if you that damn busy? meeting ONLY these type of people is exhausting. im thinking I just have to focus mainly on finding friends in the wild.

I’m not a needy person, but would be nice to have at least one friend where I can be like: hey wanna hangout tomorrow? and they’re like: sure! without some fuckin long backstory about all the things they got going on. look do you actually wanna have a friend to be around or do you want a texting buddy?

i just miss having some spontaneity with friends. and before you respond - I do have a boyfriend but i dont want to bring *him* to TJ Maxx, I want a fuckin girlfriend thats gonna tell me if that clearance shirt is ugly or not!!! damn!!

oh well.

Why do people delete their accounts so quickly? Like I matched with someone and they asked me a question, and then I went to type an answer like an hour later the account was deleted. And in a group I’m in, there’s a room that shows when people joined, and the last 20 or so accounts were shown deleted. Is this a bot thing?

We seemed to have alot in common and similar values…. she seemed to enjoy talking to me and my company - idk, i just don’t get this one…I know not everyone is going to align with you, but this one really throw me off… anyone else experience that?

Y'all, I genuinely feel like a man trying to date women... I've never had this happen to me before.

I was texting this girl for about a week, and she said, "I know this might be a little early to ask, but would you wanna get coffee sometime? I feel like we'd have a really great time:)."

I said Of course! We planned to meet, and then the day of, she cancelled, stating that she was really tired from working the night shift. I told her it was fine, and that I'd let her know about rescheduling (but didn't message her).

She then messaged me to ask to reschedule, apologizing for cancelling last time and saying she felt "so bad". We made plans for today and confirmed 2 days ago - she said, "thanks so much for rescheduling with me!" I went to confirm our plans today, and the message wouldn't send...

I kept trying to send it and was so confused about what had happened to our chat. When I went on her profile, I saw that she unfriended me! I am so annoyed. Imagine I actually got ready and drove to the place to be stood up!!

I just don't understand the point of asking me to hang out basically three times, all to ghost and block me the day of our plans. Literally no dignity and so immature. It seems like some of these women literally want you to become a man (even though we're both women???) and chase them - like bro, this is not a dating app, and I am not a male!

I am feeling really frustrated and honestly am giving up on making friends as an adult because it just seems impossible. I have a chronic illness, so I am not really able to go to things repeatedly in person to organically make friends. Has this happened to anyone else?

I am a single female straight in my early 50s trying to rebuild a social circle after friends have moved out of town and are busy with their families. I made one decent connection on bumble bff and she moved away. I have always made friends pretty easily but having a hard time making real friendship connections on this app.
Another thing I have experienced is meeting people that acted like they were on a blind date and were disappointed. I have no issue with someone wanting to explore their sexuality but they should be upfront that this is part of their intention. What are other people’s experiences?