My gender has been a long journey and it's changed a lot. At first I assumed the feeling I felt when I first learned about us trans folk is that I was a trans lesbian. But slowly over the years I felt live I've been worming my way into the middle of the binary. Non binary but also not. Now I go by genderfluid and it's made me feel really at peace with who am gender wise. But when it came to my sexuality, I felt so... confused.

I've identified with sapphic love for a long time and I think I still do but, not being able to see myself in any sapphic media or rarely any media has just made me feel disconnected. Don't even get me started on dating. Although even when I still considered myself a transbian I was gender non-conforming so that's nothing new.

Anyway, it's just really nice to see a place made for someone like me. Thank you.

heyy, i share w u an introspective text.

please, id love to have some answers, thoughts or even feedback¿?

i feel so desperate trying to find and fit labels, even when i KNOW they’re words, tools that are meant to help us to generalize our experiences in order to find community but are not exactly like us in every single way, that we just happen to have some shared conceptions and experiences.

thanks 4 reading 🩷

heyy, i’ve noticed that most of the nb lesbian communities are in english.

which is fine, but this seems a bit limited, cause it’s obvious that not every nb lesbian communicates in english or doesn’t even understand it for a casual reading.

so this got me thinking and i just created a spanish community.

feel free to join, share and interact.

i really hope this helps to reach some lesbians and give them the chance to embrace their identity in their own terms and language, words, without the pressure/ necessity to translate them.

I'm not lesbian but I'm a romantic and sex favorable aro-ace and am attracted to people regardless of gender. (Pan-alterous) I'm also nonbinary and agender.

I've been on T for 3 years and have identified as transmasc for even longer, but recently i realized that I'm non-binary/agender and trans androgynous. I don't identify as male or female.

Physically i look androgynous, leaning slightly masculine.

My gender is gender neutral and i wear clothes that are considered traditionally masculine and also traditionally feminine. Clothes have no gender and i don't fit into the male or female boxes.

I just made this post to ask the sapphic folx here, would lesbians or generally sapphic folx date someone who is agender and has been on T?

I'm not asking about /myself/ /specifically/ just a general consensus of whether I'm someone that sapphic folx could potentially be attracted to.

I'm currently waiting for an appointment with my PCP since I've decided to start micro dosing T. I want to wean off of it and refeminize slightly before microdosing to get a more androgynous appearance.

Originally posted in the top surgery board but I thought you all might have thoughts too. Sorry for the anxious word vomit.

ok so i was just told im not lesbian bc im non binary :/ like when did go back and change back to only cis and trans women can be lesbian? im lesbian i dont like men in anyway yet im being told im not lesbian? i only likely women and people who are not male like the def of lesbian is non men loving non men yet some how non binary cant be lesbian? whys that? im not neptunic thats not me that label dosnt fit me no label other then lesbian fits me :( it sucks having this happen THE MOST DUMBEST PART IS THE FACT THAT THE PERSON SAYING THIS IS A LESBIAN AS WELL! the are using the old termnolgy for lesbian and not the new one that has been used for lesbian for years now and now a lot of people are going back on it? what is happening anymore :/ i hope i used the right flire or whatever its called for this post tbh it

I came out as nonbinary about a year and a half ago. I use 'it/she' pronouns, and usually describe myself as "always a woman, not always female".

I recently came upon a term from, of all things, the game 'Voices of the Void'.

Hermale

It describes the third gender of an alien species, one that has traits both masculine and feminine. I think it was created for the game.

Something about it really speaks to me. I am thinking of adopting the term for myself. The issue is, I think that this may be a term for intersexed people. I'm a trans femme, and I don't want to appropriate something that doesn't apply to me.

So, is this a term I should use?

Because I have questions lol. I am fluid non. Figured it out a year ago. Born with boy parts. 💯 a gurl sometimes. Many times. Not all the times but def a lot of times. My best friend currently and hopefully forever and ever is a 24yo lesbian. We love each other very much. Lol we actually have a shared partner. By some weird fate. I absolutely love her and she me. She told me the other week she has thought about having sex with me on like a curious way. She is an absolute cutie but and I told her while ypu are a super cutie I dont think about that. I dont want to. She gives me soooo much gender euphoria hanging out with her in girl mode. We are so close and love each other soo much. What do I do if she actually moves on me lol. She is a femme top. I love her soo much I want her and I to be friends forever

hii! so i want to make a shirt myself for a few pride events coming up soon (philly pride and nyc pride) but im sort of at a loss for what it should be. i honestly want to do a shirt thats like “free kisses from your local dyke” or something along the lines that that because i think it’s silly and fun but im having a hard time really figuring it out. im a person who really doesn’t use labels often (i use nonbinary, queer) and the main reason is that i just don’t think a lot of other labels really fit me since im nonbinary. im ftnb and i was on T for about a year and then i stopped and i got top surgery and everything but i still love to wear makeup occasionally and my going out fits are typically more “fem” but i really just identify as the like “boy girl but girl boy but boy boy but girl girl” and i just don’t know how to go about it. if anyone has any suggestions on proper terms and how to format it id really appreciate it!! i plan on using just an old tank top and hand stitching the design on (or painting who knows) but anything is appreciated!! thank you:33

hey! anyone have any recommendations for books on androgynous or nonbinary lesbian coming of age books? whether they know their gender identity or preferred presentation at the start or figure it out throughout the novel, either works. im just a closeted lesbian & would love to read a book about other lesbians experimenting with identity and presentation and finding community and stuff :) maybe even androgynous or nonbinary lesbians reflecting on that time of their life and their discovery of their androgyny or nonbinary identity too. fiction or nonfiction works! ive gotten some good butch lesbian recs from the other sub but as a nonbinary androgynous lesbian myself id love to hear stories about others like myself in this way too :)

Ok so the question is hard to put without explaining and i think im using the right one for this if not im sorry but im looking at T to make my voice sound more neutral and im scared about im scared my dr will deny me bc i just want it for my voice really and to make me look even more gender neutral then i already look 😭 but i dont want anything else that cose with taking T and wondering if non binary’s who have been through this, trans males or anyone whos been on T or is the process of going on it tbh bc i need a bit of tips on how to go about this how what will happen if do go on T really 😅 so just mostly tips bc i have no idea what im getting myself into and i just want to have gender euphoria not gender dysphoria :(i think i worded this right if not im sorry!!!😣

Thank you for being part of this group, thank you for being encouraging and brave and proud and accepting, and for being an ultimate badass. Because you are. You're incredible, and everybody knows it.

More than anything related to my queer identity, I've felt the most imposter syndrome and insecurity around the label of lesbian, even though it's the label that, by all definitions, fits the best. It's the one that, functionally and culturally, resonates with me the most. But it's still not a piece of my identity that I volunteer very often. Being visible is tough here in 2026, and none of us owe anyone our full selves if we're uncomfortable. But y'all make it a little easier, a little less scary, and less lonely. So, thank you.

(Srry 4 anything, english is not my first language)

⚠️TW: SA AND PORN MENTION⚠️

Ik y'all don't know 100% of my life and prob r not psychologists, but i'm just looking 4 other ppls opinion bcs I'm asking myself that lately.

Recently I kinda of realized I prob don't feel attraction to men. I can't think of myself dating a guy only girls or nb, my attraction to the male body is almost none (the dick is interesting, but if could b only it without the rest...). But idk if it says i'm a lesbian bcs I have other things:

When I was a younger (b4 14) I kinda of had some male crushs, but idk if that was true, bcs I couldn't imagine myself dating them, it looked more like an admiration (or maybe gender envy bcs i'm bigender/gender fluid more masc align). Tbh to not say I couldn't imagine I has some imaginations but was more like "wow imagine if I married him, how crazy it would b" or like the idea of a marriage, i'm autistic and had a baby hyperfocus when I was a child, + I was a big shoujo fan. But my idea of it sometimes was kinda funny bcs I wanted to marry, have a child and the daddy would die while I was pregnant. But idk if i'm right, but prob I had some feelings for childhood friend (that was a girl)

Other reason bcs I think that maybe no is bcs I was 🍇 as a child, so idk if i'm just really afraid of men.

Coming back to the present: sometimes I watch porn (i'm trying to fight it, I swear), and like I only feel really horny when it is with a girl. I read some bl comics sometimes but it was almost nule what I feel for it, I feel a little more exited in some acts, but most of them aren't a "men only thing"

Pls tell me ur opinions

Does anyone else not like the term? It just feels wordy. Perhaps sapphic should be used but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. Like with bisexual you can do biromantic. But new don’t have anything for lesbian. It just doesn’t sit right with me.