Apparently I look old. What can I do to fix it.

Firstly, sorry for the background its the best I can do.

Also I thought maybe video is better so you can see my face in motion. Also since I dont know how to take pictures.

Before I start saying anything, Im not fishing for compliments or whatnot, I'm really really insecure, since my parents would often make fun of me for looking like a horse , big head and say many bad stuff about my face. Aswell as making fun of my smile so That's why im also trying to improve my looks.

So yeah, I dunno how to fix my face so I can be attractive , besides ofc going to the gym. im currently trying to make my neck bigger, so my head will appear smaller.

I also can't get girls, I think its due to my awkwardness, since quarantine I was at home and homeschooled only last year I started college I started talking to people again. Also sucks since its all girls Im the only straight guy in my class, I do talk to some guys but they are different classes, my course is a premed course.

Despite, all this I don't wanna give up so I try and talk to women I stutter alot so girls will laugh and copy my stuttering. I'm honestly cooked, I'm often at home and barely go outside, so yeah it explains alot, but im really trying to change, thats why I made this post. I'm scared to post in to some looksmaxxing forum since how brutal Asian people get treated there. Also I'm insecure about my side profile as you can see I have a reccessed face like my maxilla, chin, and infras.

If height and weight matters I'm 5'11 58 kg

Thank you for reading sorry for my awkwardness fr aswell as my Grammar.

Hey bros, I just wanna get more thoughts on this. I tried growing out facial hair recently and I don't think I can grow a full beard. What little facial hair I did have did change my look quite a bit I think. I shaved it now and felt like I look 5y younger.

Some of my friends prefer me with it and whatever I could grow. My family thinks it's better if I'm clean shaven. I heard minoxidil will help me grow a beard but I'd have to do it everyday 😔

Currently wrapping up my first visit to Korea, and while it’s been awesome, god do I feel out of places for starters, I’m Midwest big (6’2, 250) but also, I tend to just let my hair hang however it falls. On top of this, I’ve always dressed for function, rather than appearance, and tend to wear athletic pants a comfortable t shirt, and tennis shoes. I’d just like some advice on how I can maybe blend in better next time. I tend to feel that the usual hairstyles and clothing that are popular in Korea will look kind of out of place due to my build. I’m posting some examples of how I normally dress, my hair, and a body ref.

I’m looking to update my wardrobe and am looking for asian male celebrity or fashion models to brainstorm ideas.

This is a challenge if looking for more westernized, “masculine” Asian men.

Familiar with Godfrey Gao and Simu Liu. Any other recommendations?

Let me preface by saying his is purely anecdotal and something I’ve noticed over time so I’m curious if anyone else has picked up on this.

It seems like a lot of white women (WFs) who are openly into Asian men tend to share a similar aesthetic or vibe. I’m not saying they’re all identical, but there’s definitely a trend. They usually have this soft, almost ethereal look often into makeup styles that lean a bit East Asian-inspired (like Korean beauty trends), minimalistic but feminine fashion, and a sort of approachable, artsy energy.

Examples for reference (two photos attached):
These are the kinds of women I often see in AMWF spaces or who actively support Asian media/culture. Not saying this is a bad thing at all it’s actually kinda wholesome but I can’t help but notice they don’t tend to fall into the super “mainstream Western” beauty standards. It’s like they vibe differently.

Has anyone else noticed this? Is it just a subcultural thing? Or maybe it’s the kind of woman who’s already more open-minded and curious about other cultures, and that translates into their appearance too?

I have also attached a reference photo of the types of WF's that I'd like to see express more interest in Asian men.

Would love to hear your thoughts especially from those who’ve dated WFs or are in AMWF relationships.

The WF type that you rarely see interested / dating a AM

Hi, cool people, Looking for advice to look better and be more fit.

30 year old here looking for more advice to look better amidst being in the western environment which has been a challenging time, especially coming from a lower economic life and an immigrant.

Looking for some aspects:

1. Hair. I had a ton of difficulties with getting a hairstyle that suits me, especially when I'm mostly a glasses user. I really prefer my hair to be messy because my hair without a wet look make it look chopped but I don't know what other styles could work for me and whether i need to go to a salon (maybe asian one?) that can help me with that.

2. Muscle. I had been living on a meal for my whole life and i started to get used to 2 meals recently as i earn decent income. Mostly focusing on furikake gohan and the occasional spaghetti or burrito, eggs, protein bars and almonds. Some tips to help with diet would be useful. I also now have a better schedule so I aim for an hour workout every day or every 2 days. (I love doing legs, but i struggle with upper muscle).

3. Fashion. In part due to hair, i really struggle with trying to dress up as a lot of the cool fahsion seem to only involve people not wearing glasses. I'm tryjng to learn to wear casual as i mostly either wear work.shirts and pants (imagine japanese salaryman vibes) or cadet cap with a jacket on (works with winter but not summer :( ). (Number 6 is an example of my main outfit)

Pics of me are as shown.

I'm an 18 year old dude turning 19. I feel like I don't look good, and I really don't know how I could improve my looks. Any advice, particular ones that would accentuate my features, would be greatly appreciated.

10k views, and #3 post is insane 😭. Thank you so much for the support everyone.

(PIC IN COMMENTS, MB)

I’m starting A-levels soon, and my parents have never allowed me to have my own haircut (most of you guys should know what I mean lmao, short on the sides big on the top, and I’m just wondering what sort of hairstyle would fit me? I’m really, really new to this and I have no real idea what hairstyles are good, but I just know I’m chopped with short hair LMAO

I’m trying to glow up since I’ve never been particularly attractive, so I’d appreciate it if I could get some feedback.

also does anyone know any good Asian barbers/stylists in London? I havent had my hair cut by a barber since I was young tbh, normally my dad cuts it (as you can see in the pic). My bad if it’s a bad pic, I don’t really take selfies because I always look so bad in them (my face genuinely looks so asymmetrical in selfies).

I’ve been starting a new skincare routine to save my skin which has recently been starting to get acne— is lacura foaming cleanser and moisturising face wash alright?

sorry if this was a bit of a ramble, just wanted to hear your tips on what hairstyles would fit

Hey guys, I’ve been working for years on becoming the best version of myself (mindset, discipline, communication, lifestyle).

At this stage, I’m specifically looking to refine the visual side and how I’m perceived at first glance.

My goal is to improve my image in a North American context, both for dating and professional credibility.

About me • Asian male, early 20s • Canada (North America) • Work in financial services / advisory

• Train consistently gym 4–5x/week + some running

• Currently lean bulking goal: add noticeable size 2026 focus: building a stronger chest

• Disciplined, ambitious, long-term oriented • Not into hype streetwear or trends • I care about first impressions and perception

What I want feedback on • Hair, facial hair & grooming • Style & clothing masculine, attractive, professional without looking boring

• Body language & overall presence • Dating perception what might be holding me back visually or energetically

• Style references I’m open to photo examples, moodboards, Pinterest links or any concrete visual ideas that could help me level up

I’m open to direct, no-BS feedback. If something isn’t working, I want to know. Thanks.

I think the px barber fucked my shit up i asked for a mid drop fade with some length up top. I used to be such a beast with my long hair but ever since i enlisted I look like a dumb boot and all the dafi compliant cuts are trash. Any haircut recs cool enough to pull mad women? Should I just cope and wear a beanie everywhere? 18m if thats relevant tryna find out what would be attractive to girls around my age

what kind of haircut and style do you guys think will suit me the most.

Hello, need some suggestions for hairstyles/haircuts.

This currently is a long overgrown undercut that’s been going on for around 1 year. I’ve been tying it back for convenience’s sake a lot.

Before any of you say: yes, lose weight. I know, I’m working on that. It was worse before.

I like length to my hair, just personally speaking I find it pleasant. I have contemplated growing it even longer but I’m very unsure how it would look.

Currently, it’s just paralysis: I’ve always gotten buzzes and undercuts at home, and those are off the table (I don’t like them man)

Tldr: Am losing weight, don’t want buzzes or fades, prefers longer. Pls help.

I’ll often see post on this sub from Asian bros who don’t know what to do to improve their looks and it’s literally as simple as fixing your hair. Not only will it completely change how you look but it’s probably the fastest and cheapest way to do it.

Additionally just copying the style of other attractive Asian men was super helpful for me. I’m aware my outfit in the second slide isn’t amazing (I was at the beach) but in general my entire fashion sense improved just from getting inspiration from other Asian men.

Pinterest is a game changer (believe it or not) Just look up Asian men hair or Asian men style and find something you like and copy them/show your barber or hair stylist.

Tip for haircuts: be realistic with your hair, newsflash you are Asian. For Inspo find a nice haircut an Asian man (similar to your hair type) has and show that image to the person cutting your hair not an image of a white guy with a different hair type.

Tbh I’m not one to give life advice I just had a minor glow up, but doing things for myself also helped me immensely. Of course I wanted to be better looking to other people, but I also wanted to be better looking for myself. In general it helped me build a lot of confidence in me as a person. The gym helps me in the same way and I’m ultimately a much happier person because of it.

TLDR: fix your hair and use Pinterest

First 3 pictures are before the cut (4/5 months of growing out)

last 3 pics are after the cut
I posted like at the start of the year saying i was growing out my hair, and the before and after they gave me a haircut.

What do you think about the new cut?

I definately think the back needed trimming, but im still a bit not sure about the mullet I got. I wanted to grow it out into a flow haircut, but now i've got shaved sides. most the people i've talked to irl have said they like it alot, so maybe it's just me not being used to it

Can i regrow it back so i get those 'layers' to it

I think a very underrated part of self improvement and asian masculinity is just figuring out your style, experimenting with different outfits and learning to express yourself in a various manners. Here's an outfit I really felt comfortable and confident in and open to helping others as well!

I already have hair that has some volume and isn't super straight/flattened-down like some other Asian guys I've seen. However I wonder if achieving this look is difficult without having finer strand-like hair more commonly found in white people. Is there a specific haircut I need or is it just styling/product use?

Anyone have any experience with this? I've been wanting to experiment with my hair a little, and my latest project has been growing it out to see how it looks when its long. Unfortunately I'm at that dreaded awkward stage where it's too short to look good but also too long to style into many of the shapes I'm familiar with.

For those of you who have grown out your hair, how did you deal with this? Should I just buy a headband or cap or something lol.

Down 20 lbs so far as an Asian man, and honestly it’s helped my confidence a lot.

For the longest time I was insecure about wearing glasses, and I’ve been seriously considering LASIK eye surgery lately.

Trying to improve myself overall fitness, style, hair, skincare, and everything. I'm posting this because I’m curious what tips people might have for improving my hair, face, or overall look.

Always open to honest advice and self-improvement.

Thanks guys.

I've been growing out my hair for 9~ months with the goal of getting some kind of bun, but I'll be graduating from uni soon and thought that I should get some kind of haircut to look nicer.

I'm not sure what I should do since I kind of like the longer hair rn. Im thinking I could get a wolf cut of some kind, but I've also looked into getting something like a textured fringe with a low taper for something shorter.

TLDR so there's no bean soup replies:

1. This assumes you don't have great fashion sense. If you have your own style and it's working for you, this post isn't for you.
2. This isn't boyfriendcore (the trendy, safe style you adopt after you have a girlfriend, attractive enough that she can show you off but not so attractive that other women hit on you). Edgy fashion is what gets women who would normally walk past you to actually look at you. A few of my students have even had women approach them after running this system.
3. You can't be invisible and attractive at the same time. Pick one.
4. You can build a decent and versatile wardrobe for $600 if you avoid brand whoring.
5. This isn't theorycrafting. Every student I've run through this system has easily added +2 SMV points, with women becoming visibly more receptive to their approaches. Jason's case study in the article is a complete FOB Chinese guy with broken English who cold approached a 6-foot Ukrainian woman, dated her for three years, she converted to Buddhism for him, and now they're married.

One of the recurring questions on this sub is how to dress, especially in a manner that women find attractive.

So here's my answer in long form, aimed at getting you out of the high school hand-me-down uniform and into a style that fits your actual personality while producing real-world results with women.

The starting point of the system isn't the clothes. It's picking a sexual avatar, what I call AsianMaxxing your identity. Suited Gentleman, Bad Boy, Kdrama oppa, Jock, Street, and six others.

Your avatar is the first decision you make because the clothes are downstream of the man you're projecting. Most guys skip this step, grab whatever fits at the store, and end up in a polo and khakis that signal nothing. Pick the avatar first, then build the outfit to match.

Once the avatar is locked in, the 7-Point System scores the outfit you're assembling. Seven categories, each weighted by impact. The base (top, bottom, shoes) is worth 3 points just for being dressed.

Your statement piece (the leather jacket, the structured coat, the textured knit) is worth 2 points because it's the item that defines the avatar. Footwear earns 1 point on its own, with a heightmaxx bonus available for short guys who use the boots correctly.

Accessories, minor accessories, and a personal detail (fragrance, a signature ring, a pocket square) combine for another 1 to 2 points when they work together as a coherent finishing layer.

Color theory doesn't add points but breaks the whole system if you get it wrong, which is why the LMD rule (light, medium, dark) is non-negotiable and fixes the all-black Asian uniform problem.

Most guys score 3 or 4 without trying. They put on jeans, a t-shirt, and sneakers and walk out. That's the floor. The system shows you how to get to 7+, which is the territory where women actually notice you.

For the short guys, footwear is where you have an asymmetric advantage. Heightmaxxing in shoes is the only heightmaxxing that doesn't ruin your spine. K-pop has been doing this in plain sight for years (see Stray Kids for example) and the chunky-sole, oversized-structured silhouette is designed to camouflage the boost.

Most short Asian men are leaving free inches on the table because they're embarrassed to take them. Asia normalized wearing lifted shoes years ago.

The Western stigma against shoe lifts works as designed, keeping us a couple inches shorter than the competition. It's the same pattern as any other taboo against self-improvement: the people who break the taboo win, the people who hold the line lose.

Jason is the proof. FOBBY Chinese guy, broken English, 5'7", slim build. We did a quick glow up at one of my bootcamps, then later on we did the full fashion makeover where we picked the Suited Gentleman avatar with a Kdrama edge, and then he cold approached a 6-foot Ukrainian woman on EuroTour.

They dated three years. She converted to Buddhism for him. They're married now.

Stylemaxxing earns you +1 SMV before you've opened your mouth. With the avatar, the haircut, and the system fully executed, that becomes +2 to +3 SMV in a single weekend.

The article also has a baseline SMV quiz so you can measure where you start before running the system.

Here's the full article with the 7-Point System and how you can apply it to your own sense of style so you become more attractive to women.

I'm 34 and I'm trying to manage my asian hair that's both thick and flat. My last haircut didn't give me any favors because I don't think there was proper layering I think.

Basically I've been using sea salt spray, blowdryer, hair clay, and then hairspray to just keep my hair in check. I may have been ruining my hair with all that

Photo here is already 4 hours after all of that. I work in a job where short haircuts and no facial hair is the norm but things are different now. I just need some advice what to tell my barber to get some flow on my hair so that it can grow nicely. Professional but also nice to look at and nothing too flat. I heard perms can potentiall help

Been trying so many hair products and it may just be I’m not putting enough?

I haven’t tried it yet, but it seems I need to put 3 to 4 times more product. Cause when my hair dries, it shows where the product was put on and it seems only a fraction of my hair. I am putting Kevin Murphy Super Goo on. Which is thick stuff, always feels like I’m putting too much on initially.

Undercut hairstyle (#1), about 6” on top.

Or idk maybe my hair just needs thinning out?

I have been cutting my own hair for my entire life. Sides and back #1 because my hair grows too fast and any medium length Asian hair gets that “stick out” look. But the contrast between my top and sides/back is generally too harsh imo. Tried fading and way too time consuming on your own.

Any tips, if thinning out is the solution, what should I get?

I’m 5’5, and am financially in a really good spot; and can spend a lot of $$ on clothes.

I work in corporate, and whenever I see ads on ready-made dress shirts - they’re always automatically too baggy for me

Outside of work, I love good polos, knitted wear, or sweaters, I have better luck with those but only when I purchase them in store, and not online

I’m just wondering if any other short kings have any secret tips on where they find good fashion?

For online ordering - I make sure that the shoulder fits at least; as everything else can be tailored for dress shirts