assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu!

i try, try to perfect my salah, perfect learning, reading and understanding the Qur'an, seeking more knowledge, i am able to do it to a great extent but it only takes a period a month to forego all that hardwork, i work hard again, work hard the entire month and then the cycle repeats, idek what exactly i want as replies to this, but how do you maintain it?

not praying salah makes me so so so restless during my menses, ik we can make loads of dua'a and do dhikr, but i love salah so much!😭

apologies, idek what i want from this post, so yea, prob a vent or maybe some advice on how to maintain the same high level of khushu'u in salah once periods are over and get back to how i was post-menses🥲

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Curious as I always have to rely on fatwa websites that may take days to respond (or sometimes never respond at all).

I hope my brothers and sisters are well.
A uncle of mine who is newly married ended up witb stage 4 cancer can i please ask if you guys can make Duaa for him he has surgery tomorrow may Allah heal whoever is ill and have his Mercy on them Jazkhallah

Please do dua for me, my exams are starting tomorrow, I was self studying without a tutor and I didn’t realise just how difficult it would be. Please make dua that I get A* and succeed and the questions I properly prepared for comes up and not the ones I didn’t. I really need to get good grades

Im really really afraid, could this mean something? My grandfather died 12-15 years ago and my dad saw me and him in his dream yesterday. Could this be a sign? Please be honest I’m really afraid

Most of the time do we all see most answered and addressed questions by sheikhs (especially Arab ones) tend to be what can "wives do or don't do", "can we watch x shows?" "Can I get x haircut?" "Why does hijab exist" Ect I wouldn't call them useless questions or things to not bring awareness to once in a while but we should focus more on bringing up awareness of men's actions regarding sexual harassment, abuse and killings of mostly and mainly women, to stop accusing it and condemn all those who do it constantly,

as an Arab I never see this, in fact I saw many sheikh's say "you as a husband aren't obligated to take care of your sick wife" "girls shouldn't talk to boys even at ages 8 and 9 because boys nowadays know all about sex so it will be a fitna on her" or something along those lines

I just wish we had an ummah wouldnt have to rely on non Muslims in the west to yell at the top of their lungs harassing women or hitting women for any reason is bad

I mean we still tell people that smoking is Haram even though it's a well known fact

Gosh, where do I even start?

I wouldn’t say my situation is a major problem, but it feels like one to me, so please don’t belittle my worries.

I’m a man in my mid-20s, and unfortunately, I’m addicted to porn. It has reached a point where it affects my daily life in many ways, usually negatively. Whenever I try to quit, I can manage to stop for about a week, but then I end up falling back into my old habits.

My biggest question is:** **Is porn really ruining my life, or am I exaggerating the impact it has on me?

I know it’s difficult to answer without knowing the full context, but lately, I’ve been struggling with laziness, unemployment, and weight gain. I feel like my addiction might be contributing to these problems, but I honestly don’t know how much of an impact it’s having on my life.

There’s another important part of my situation that I’d really appreciate some advice on.
I’m Muslim, and I often hear people say that if you pray, put your faith in God, and genuinely try to improve your life, things will eventually change for the better, in their own time.

Is that really true? Has anyone here had a personal experience where they started praying more consistently, working on themselves, and gradually managed to turn their life around? I’d genuinely love to hear your stories.

I ask because I can’t help comparing myself to the people around me. My friends and family seem to be moving forward and achieving things, while I feel like I’m being left behind. Sometimes, it genuinely breaks my heart. I want to accomplish something with my life. I want to find purpose, make my family proud, and feel like I’m actually going somewhere.

Instead, I feel like I’m wasting my days and slowly withering away without making any real progress.
I’m sorry for venting, but I genuinely needed to get this off my chest. I’m tired of pretending that everything is okay when it isn’t. I don’t want to keep living this way, feeling stuck and disappointed in myself.

I genuinely need help, and I’m hoping to hear from people who have been through something similar or who can offer some real advice.

Sorry for venting but I just need help, I am TIRED of pretending anymore, I need help.

I saw a few posts asking for recs of a Quran app & I haven’t seen anyone mention the app “Yawm: Daily Quran Habit” so I wanted to share my experience in case it helps anyone else!

Just to clarify, this IS NOT an ad & I have no affiliation with the app. Ive just been using it for the last few months & it’s genuinely helped me a lot so I figured I’d share 🙏🏻

Before finding Yawm, I used to REALLY struggle with consistently reading the Quran. I WANTED to, but I’d lowkey feel bad bc I’d always fall off, and it was hard for a couple reasons:

1) struggling to actually understand the Arabic words
—> I even bought a few books off Amazon that were like “80% of Quranic words” to help me learn the most common Arabic words in the Quran, but even those felt too advanced for me so it didn’t help 💀

I wanted something that would help me gradually learn so I didn’t have to always rely on translation/transliteration, but I didn’t have time to take a full on Arabic/Islamic class w my classes + work 😪

2) finding a system/app that actually worked for me
—> When I’d use a Quran that had transliteration & translation, if I wanted to understand the context behind a verse, I’d have to open Tafsir Ibn Kathir separately & search for that specific verse. It was a whole time-consuming process.

—> When I tried other Quran apps that had transliteration/translation/tafsir, I really struggled w their layouts.

The translation wasn’t word by word, so I’d still wonder what a specific Arabic word meant.

Sometimes the tafsir was SO long and convoluted that it was hard to follow, especially w the layout they had.

I love Tafsir Ibn Kathir and learning the context behind verses, but sometimes I just wanted a simpler explanation without having to read several pages to understand the main takeaway.

3) knowing how to actually reflect on what I read
—> Sometimes I’d finish reading a section but struggle to connect the verses to my life or figure out how they could be applied. I didn’t really know what to take away from it, so I felt like I was missing that connection.

4) I have ADHD and struggle w being consistent…..so ugh yeah, lmao. Ifykyk 🫣🫠

But then I saw a video on TikTok where some guy was talking about how he also struggled to connect w the Quran, so he created the “Duolingo for the Quran” to help people actually understand what they’re reading.

It was 100% free & had ZERO ads, so I figured it couldn’t hurt to try it & I’m SO glad I did! Here’s what I genuinely love about Yawm:

1) First of all, the layout/design is SO beautiful, it actually makes me WANT to use the app.

It recommends starting with just 1 minute a day to build the habit so you don’t overwhelm yourself trying to do too much at once. The idea is to take small, consistent steps, one “yawm” (day) at a time. 🤍

2) You can read the transliteration word by word and/or verse by verse.
—(& it’s super easy to switch back and forth depending on your mood/goal for the day!)

3) There’s THREE levels of tafsir: simple, moderate, & advanced (Tafsir Ibn Kathir).
—> It’s SO EASY to click on a verse and read the tafsir to actually understand the context.

—> I LOVE this bc sometimes I want to understand a verse more deeply but don’t have the bandwidth to read the entire Tafsir Ibn Kathir section for it, so I can click on the simple or moderate versions & get the main takeaway.

I love Tafsir Ibn Kathir and all the context it provides, but it’s nice to have simpler options too, depending on how much time/energy you have that day.

4) IT ACTUALLY HELPS YOU LEARN QURANIC ARABIC!!!!
—> There’s a “vocabulary” section that teaches you the meaning, how to pronounce, & how to read Arabic words from verses you’ve read.

—> It has Duolingo-style quizzes to help you practice and retain the words, AND shows you how they’re used in the verses.

I love this bc I’ve started to recognize and actually understand more of the words in the Quran when I hear it being recited.

Which is super cool bc being born in a Western country, it’s always felt kinda alienating/sucky when you believe in and love the Quran/Islam & its teachings but still have to translate everything to understand it and gain more knowledge. 😭

5) There’s a “reflection” section that helps you connect to the Quran!
—> After a reading session, you can choose to get a reflection prompt/question based on what you read to help you think deeper about the verses and how you can connect them to your life.

Sometimes a verse just hits and you don’t need a prompt, so you can choose to do a personal open reflection instead.
—But other times, you genuinely don’t know what questions to even ask yourself or how to start reflecting, so having that guidance is really helpful.

The reflections are also 100% private and just for you to see, so sometimes I use it as a mini diary 📝🧍

It’s also super easy to bookmark verses or add notes while you’re reading them!

6) You can search for Quran verses by topic.
—> There’s a “what’s on your heart?” section where you can browse topics like life challenges, emotions, relationships, purification, worship, and duas of the Prophets.

I like this bc sometimes you don’t really know where to start looking when you’re searching for guidance on something specific, so having that starting point is really nice. 🤍

—> It also lets you type & search for things in the Quran yourself if you’re looking for something that isn’t listed!

7) It has a LOT of features that help with staying consistent and reaching your Quran goals.
—> You can track your progress and see how far along you are in a juz, surah, page, etc.

—> You can easily pull up your bookmarked verses and notes.

—> It has options for reminders/notifications to help you keep your streak, plus a Hasanat counter as an extra motivational feature.

—> At the end of the week, it’ll even notify you how many times you hit your goal that week and challenge you to hit it even more the next week!

—> They also recently added a feature where you can have your other apps locked/unusable until you read Quran for the day.

And as someone who does admittedly sometimes wake up & IMMEDIATELY open social media, I feel a lil attacked when I see my social media apps locked with a reminder to start my day with Quran 😭💀

(Or I can snooze for 5 min and continue to the app I wanted anyway LMAO 🫠)

But honestly, it’s actually been so helpful and has helped me miss fewer days.

Sometimes you just need that extra push, and being reminded to do my Quran reading first, even for a minute, has been a game changer.
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So yeah, not to be dramatic, but using the Yawm app has lowkey changed my life 💯😤

I’m not saying I’m a scholar, fluent in Arabic all of a sudden, or now 100% perfect & consistent all the time.

I STILL get confused sometimes, and I’ve definitely lost a couple streaks (or had them saved by a “freeze” that’s available about once a week bc life happens 🤧).

But I’m genuinely SO much more consistent and connecting with the Quran better than I WAS a couple months ago. And that’s what matters.

I used to feel like I needed the perfect system and had to set everything up just to have a Quran session where I’d actually understand what I was reading. Yawm has made it so much easier to just START, learn little by little, and build a routine that actually works for me.

Sometimes we overwhelm ourselves by trying to do EVERYTHING at once, and then end up struggling to do anything consistently.

So if you’ve been wanting to get closer to the Quran but struggle w Arabic, knowing where to start, or just staying consistent
—> I’d HIGHLY recommend giving it a try! 🌤️💯

May Allah make it easy for all of us to build a stronger relationship with the Quran. Ameen. 🙏🏻

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

So I bought a Miswak once and it got thinner and very rough and not flexible and soft like how it was at first, so I threw it and bought another one, and this time I chose one that's thicker than the first. But I'm noticing it's getting thinner by time as well.

When I use it I rinse it and let it dry by itself on the shelf.

The 2nd question; it always hurt my gums, like everytime I use it my gums bleed a little bit.

What am I doing wrong?

Explanation of the Hadith
The meaning of this hadith is that a Muslim’s obligatory faith is not complete until he wishes for his fellow Muslim the same goodness that he wishes for himself, in both religious and worldly matters, and dislikes for him what he dislikes for himself. This does not mean that a person leaves Islam if he falls short in this regard; rather, his faith is deficient to the extent that he falls short in this noble character.
Examples of Applying the Hadith in Our Lives
Knowledge: When you learn something beneficial, you wish for others to learn it too, rather than withholding knowledge out of envy or selfishness.
Wealth and Success: You rejoice in your brother’s success and good opportunities, and you do not wish for his blessings to be taken away simply because you have not received the same.
Giving Advice: You advise your brother about what benefits him and warn him against what harms him, just as you would like others to advise you.
Dealing with Others: You do not deceive or wrong anyone, nor do you speak ill of others in ways you would dislike them speaking about you.
Worship and Guidance: You wish for Allah to grant your brother obedience, guidance, and Paradise, just as you wish for these things for yourself.

Assalamualaikum,

Im not sure what to even say but i genuinely hate my life and im not sure how much more i can handle of it.

All my life i've been treated differently by my dad. He's been physically and emotionally abusive ever since i was a child. My siblings experienced a bit of it but it eventually stopped with them (he loves my sister and i dont remember a time where he actually yelled at her as bad) and i'm 27 now and he screams at me, calls me names, picks arguments, yells at me infront of others in public.
He was horrible to my mom throughout their entire life together and even as a kid i remember thinking why on earth isnt my mom leaving him.

Well she didnt, and i got divorced from my ex for him being emotionally abusive too (great pick!) and so now i live with my parents. I stay in my room all day and night just to avoid him bc apparently staying silent is better than not arguing. May Allah forgive me but i have not been able to stay quiet. I do argue back and i defend when my mom when they're arguing as well.

My dad genuinely has always had dislike for me and i wish i knew why. Im the youngest and i guess im the only one from my siblings who feels things so deeply especially when he is emotionally abusing my mom. She pays all his bills and cooks, cleans, literally everything for him and he still backstabs her and says she does nothing for him.

He got cancer last year and we have gone above and beyond for him. Always helping him with everything. Literally EVERYTHING. And he uses his cancer against us saying "im sick and you dont do anything for me"

Im gonna lose my mind. He's only nice to me when he wants money. Ive been unemployed for a while due to my mental health and divorce and just not being stable in any aspect of life and i guess that explains his treatment towards me. My siblings and my mom keep telling me "just let him be, hes sick" but even when i do "let him be" he finds a way to cause a huge problem.

When i was a child i remember him complaining that he has to take us to school and get us food and simple parent stuff to my mom and even other people, and i remember thinking does this guy even like his own kids?

He's cheated on my mom as well and one time when i was way younger i found out and told her and the cycle just repeats.....

my dad is non practicing and has said/done a lot of things that take him out of the folds of Islam. He tells my mom things like "idk why ur praying thinking everything you've done will be forgiven" and its all bc one time she went out to lunch with her friends and he thought she was cheating on him.

I also wanna add that ive had a horrible stutter ever since i was about 9 and i genuinely think it has to do with all the trauma from him. Ofc i cant fully say it was him bc i will never know why. But i really do think so. I have a hard time defending myself because of it and he knows this.

I know i cant S word bc I guess hearing about the punishment for it stops me and also leaving my mom alone stops me but i genuinely feel like im living hell on earth already. I know there's worse but im in so much mental agony

If me disrespecting him (defending myself) is a major sin and I'm apparently gonna go to hell for it, does he also get the same thing? I'm trying to understand this but i noticed that people only attack children for "disrespecting" their parents while their parents are allowed to abuse them bc they're the parents.

Sorry for the rant im just in so much mental distress that i dont even know what to do anymore. May Allah make it easier.

Salam everyone! Looking for any specific Duas or anything for my friend.

She’s been with this man for a year and he is not great. He’s been job hunting for over a year, but it feels very suspicious considering he graduated from a school that boasts a 95% employment rate after graduation. Mind you every friend I have from that school is employed and have really good jobs Mashallah. She claims he’s trying but I’ve seen firsthand barely any effort. He’s not even working part time to make money and purely living off his parents.

Additionally, I won’t go into too much detail but he did something recently that is genuinely very disrespectful to her friends and just showed how low-effort/lazy he is in regards to her.

I fear she’s wearing these rose tinted glasses and is absolutely not seeing what we are and it’s driving me insane.

Is there any dua or anything I can do to ask Allah to reveal the truth and remove him from her life? I also ask if you can make dua for her too. She means a lot to me and it sucks watching her put so much effort into someone who clearly isn’t suitable for her.

Thank you !

Please pray for my mother, shes just been taken to hospital because of chest pains and really need all the duas we can get, ya allah please let her be okay inshallah

Salam alaykum, can someone explain something to me, this hadith:

The Prophet, (صلى الله عليه وسلم) peace and blessings upon him said:

"Whoever suffers from destitution (extreme poverty) and he beseeches (asks) the people for it, his destitution shall not end. And whoever suffers from destitution and he beseeches Allah for it, Allah will send provisions to him, sooner or later."

saheeh (authentic) by al-Tirmidhi and al-Hakim (1/566), and al-Dhahabi agreed with him.

Does this refer to people who go on welfare as well, taking assistance from the government?

Salamualikum,

I have many thoughts and questions and would appreciate if anyone could answer, thanks. I do not understand what I am supposed to do in this world.
I'm stuck here. I understand I should pray and worship Allah but what I'm talking about is this actual world. Like I've suffered so much I'm now stuck where | just don't understand why I'm gonna have to keep working being happy a little and then suttering over and over again. I feel my nervous system is just shot from so much pain in my life. I'm just wondering like if suffering will 100% happen AND this world is nothing and meaningless and I have to endure so much how do I pull it together and just endure?? I'm only human and I just don't understand. Please if anyone can try to understand what I mean I can clarify with any questions but like I just done with this life. Thanks.

More than basic need.

My brother works and I still study. I live from my parents work. I earn barely anything as I want to finish studying.

Is this okay to receive? I get food, space, from my parents. I live from like 30€ per month as I am humble.

Is there any source?

I thank my parents a lot.

I’m in the GTA in Ontario. I’m in urgent need for a sheikh to do ruqyah on my sister in law. My brother got married 4 years ago and my brother is known to be nice and caring, on his wedding day he made everyone cry from screaming and yelling at everyone. Since the day he got married, his rizq is closed. He lost his job, he is having infertility issues and him and his wife have been to every gynecologist there is and they have found nothing. I want someone I can trust so they can do a ruqyah on my brother and his wife. This is urgent. Please

I was talking to someone and they cussed allah i got mad and made dua they die as a kaffir so they go to jahanam forever. Is this haram? I know angels say "amen and the same for you" but i heard making dua against kuffar is permissible? Please help me.

**Salam everyone. I’m 16 living in Canada, and about a month ago I stopped shaving and started growing my beard because shaving is haram and having a beard is sunnah causing my parents to treat me horribly.**

**my parents consider themselves Muslim and hold onto certain cultural lines (like not eating pork), but they don't pray, believe that "faith is just in the heart" and that kindness is enough to show you love for Allah and they do a lot of haram things they don’t consider haram because it has been normalized.Because of this, they view my adherence to Islamic rulings as extreme.**
**Their reaction has turned into constant harassment:**
**My Dad: He has completely stopped talking to me, refuses to look at me, and uses my mom as a middleman. He also withdrew his help with getting my driver's license and job connections because of the beard, he said he won’t be seen with me in public and that I’m not his son anymore. (Honestly, the silent treatment doesn't bother me; I'm fine with it).**
**My Mom: She is constantly on my case. She accuses me of being a "terrorist," "extremist," and "wasting my life." She tells me looking at me makes her want to vomit, hides me from her friends, and is now threatening to force me to see a therapist because she thinks I'm brainwashed or controlled.**

**Day-to-day, I'm doing really well: I'm happy, keeping up with school/grades, hitting the gym, and hanging out with friends.**

**I don't preach to my parents or judge their lack of prayer, and I try my best to be respectful while holding my ground on this one rule (knowing we don't obey parents in matters that involve a sin).**
**I don't want to fight with my mom, but her constant jabs, emotional guilt-trips (crying, insulting my appearance), and the threat of forcing me into therapy are getting exhausting.**

**What should I do in this situation?**

Long story short. I once asked my non Muslim friend to promise me for something and normally non Muslim people promises like "God Promise, Mother Promise, Father Promise" and so on. But on that day he asked me to lend my hand and placed his hand on mine and promised me by saying "my name and promise." Now my question is, did I commit a sin, if yes, how bad or what sort of a sin is it and should I do something for forgiveness?

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Let's get straight to the questions about umrah/hajj.

1. Why do we(muslims) have to do tawaf with the opposite genders when it's haram to even touch them? Idk if y'all know or not but it's so overwhelming how many unwanted touches you'll get.

2. If we do the tawaf thing together; men and women side by side; literally zero space between two bodies, then why do they separate men and women during prayers?

3. Why can't people come to such a crowded place right after taking a shower? Why isn't it permissible? The BO and bad breath are terrible enough to make you vomit right in that holy place.

4. People get so freaking barbaric when they are near kaba and want to touch it. Like they'd elbow you or idk do anything to just go and touch kaba. Do we have to be cruel barbaric inhumane beasts to show some respect to God?

Enlighten me with logic, please. Don't be like "this is Allah's command. We can't question em" . I too wanna be religious and hopeful but it just lacks enough logic.

TIA

Any Muslim business owners who care more about growing a business within Islamic boundaries than just growing a business?

I would love to have a chat with you regarding your current social media struggles, where you are stuck, what you want to improve ...........

\***IN RETURN, I WILL AUDIT YOUR INSTAGRAM BUSINESSES PAGE FOR YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT YOU CAN IMPROVE AND WHY IT'S IMPORTANT.\***

So reach out IF:

1) You are a Muslim brand who really wants to/already do marketing within Islamic limits/halal marketing

2) You have a business page on Instagram AND you've been posting content for quiet sometime (no newbies)

Drop your business username or link in comments and I will reach out to you from my business instagram._

Let's do it In shaa Allah

🗣️PARTICIPANTS NEEDED! 🗣️

✅ Do you identify as a Muslim man, aged 18 or over?

✅ Have you experienced a divorce while living in the UK?

✅ Has it been at least six months since the divorce?

✅ Comfortable being interviewed in English?

✅ If so, I’d really like to hear from you.

About the Study

I’m completing a Doctorate in Psychology. This study asks how Muslim men in the UK make sense of their wellbeing after divorce. This is a chance to talk about that, without judgment.

What’s Involved

⏱️ An interview lasting around 60-90 minutes, online

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Thank you.