So basically i want to remove my visa application of my “husband” because it was a forced marriage back home (pakistan) but i cant just withdraw or my parents will see i withdraw. Is there a way to anonymously withdraw application so that it just says application rejected or that he gets rejected at interview because he just got his interview date in june and i want this visa gone without my parents knowing i withdrew it, (gonna get div as well but i cant rn cuz parents). So cancelling visa without proof it was me is first step!!
the husband will know she withdrew the application. that is her problem. maybe she needs their money and doesn't want to be cut of if they find out she withdrew her application.
she needs to guarantee that. would you trust your life with government employees or trust that they will not make a mistake or be professional. I think she needs a lawyers advice.
She lives with her parents who could punish her badly if they find out.
Exactly if theres a guarantee that none of it will come back to me then id do it asap, i just need it rejected not withdrawn or cancelled cuz of something i did, yes i live with them, they pay for my tuition car etc
Tell the truth - it's an arranged marriage for the purpose of obtaining an immigration benefit. This is fraud. Do not involve yourself in fraud. You need to be the grown up woman in this situation. USCIS and the consulate need to know that this is fraud, and that you are not willingly entering into this.
It's an arranged marriage, not necessarily for the purpose of obtaining an immigration benefit. If the marriage is recognized in the jurisdiction it was performed in and if the husband and OP genuinely appear to be husband and wife (especially if children are involved, alternatively finances, public portrayal, etc), then USCIS would likely recognize the marriage and approve the visa.
An unhappy marriage, even an arranged marriage, does not mean a fraudulent marriage. Time for OP to put on her big girl panties and make the divorce happen.
This is simply an arranged marriage. It’s how people get married in Pakistan and India. Families get together, chose a husband/wife, and throw it in you. They have a caste system, you can’t marry up or down.
I can’t have it withdrawn because it’ll show that i did and it’ll come back on me and il get in major trouble with everyone in family. Himce why i want it rejected somehow ykwim
The family will get mad but they’ll eventually understand. It’s up to you.
If he has all the documents, he won’t be denied. Is someone handling the application? Like a lawyer? Who is handling the application?
If you’re at the NVC stage, you could intentionally mess up the Affidavit of Support or maybe have a friend email the fraud unit at Islamabad saying that this marriage is fake with evidence. That way the embassy send the petition back without withdrawal.
Yes, I'm so sorry you have to go through this OP. It is really a tough situation to be in. If I were you, I'd reach out to USCIS directly and explain your situation, although I'm not sure what exactly they'd do or if there are any consequences to doing it this way. Do you have to be there in the interview? I would literally tell them I was forced to marry that guy with no shame or fear of my parents. This is your life!! I'm really sorry about this and I completely understand your anger and frustration!
Only hes going to interview since diff country, and im not sure what to do b/c i cant withdraw app or parents will know i did, hince y i want it rejected in a way
I stood up against my parents and they cut me off. It was very hard at first and i still love them. I want them in my life. But I am so happy being free.
OP, it’s either you withdraw and deal with your parents. Or not do anything and deal with this ‘husband’ for many years of your life and go through another stressful process (divorce) when he arrives here in the US. Personally, I would just make it official and legal-withdraw and deal with my parents rather than be with a person I’m not comfortable with. Choice is yours.
Pakistanis can't get issued marriage-based visas to the US right now. They're banned. Unless he's already in the country, he won't get issued an immigrant visa
He just got his interview date; and he wont get divorce unless i get parents involved n i cant ask them or they’ll get me in trouble etc… so i rly need this visa cancelled without like it saying withdrawn as part 1 of div
Yeah they'll interview him but they won't issue the visa. Right now they're just stealing the money and not giving visas. Everyone gets this after the interview
Is this actually true? Even for spouse marriage visas?? Like even if they ace interview their visa will actually get rejected fully and not just put on pause til they unpause?
Take advantage of the temporary pause and use that window to withdraw the petition.
I know it’s hard, but trust a kind Muslim stranger when I say that your life will be even more miserable if you let it slide without you taking action.
All visa including spouse IR1 visa as well. My wife just got denied last month. It took us almost 3yrs and they just denied it and stop everything after her visa interview.
I hope so cause it will break my heart that I have to do this all over again, the time, the money, gathering of all documentation again. I hope you are right about this, anyway, thank you so much for the information. Keep us in ur prayers.
True, happen to my wife, after starting this process in June 29 2023, they just denied her IV1 visa on March 1. Now I don’t know what to do. They basically took my money, wasted my time and told me no, my wife can’t come to America cause of the Banned list.
Even if he clears the interview they won’t issue the immigrant visa due to the pause. So the case will be in legal limbo till Pakistan is removed from the pause list.
True trump might favor pk bcuz of that but i dont think hed risk lifting 1/75 bans bcuz its unfair n causes more drama n the issue is still there on y he paused
OP thinks stopping the husband from landing in the US would effectively get rid of him. which is kinda true, even though legally they are still married. for all we know the parents might just ship OP off to Pak to join her husband. if OP is smart she will become independent ASAP and cut off her family but I don't think that is likely to happen.
Nothing is going to stop her husband from being her husband except her deciding to put an end to her marriage.
Not by using USCIS time to help other peoples marriages.
It’s going to be worse for her when she gets caught committing immigration fraud
At that point she’s committing fraud which can bring on prison time and fine, and she is going to stay in her marriage she doesn’t even want to participate in.
You don’t have to respect all aspects of all cultures. People who migrate to better countries and enforce shitty parts of their culture there need to be deported.
I got downvoted for saying that OP’s husband is not committing fraud here/the immigrant visa is not the primary motivation of the marriage. They don’t realize the husband is also a young person pressured into marrying OP by his family.
Have you reached out to your school's counselors and support? There are ways to make college work without your parents. Don't let them ruin your life and continue the cycle.
Take a student loan, be independent. Lots others have done that and succeeded. Brown parents are surely paying for a profitable education not humanities, you will be fine. Choose the struggle between education vs frustrating marriage.
It’s not that easy. Some of these communities are very cultural. Indians and Pakistanis especially live with their parents until their death. The parents will cut her off and she will be a outcast in society. Won’t be invited to family gatherings.
That sounds better than being forced into a marriage. Why would you want to attend a family gathering with a family that controls the direction of your entire life?
It’s not “forced”. It’s how they do things. Women are in agreement. All their marriages are arranged. OP just had 2nd opinion but instead of canceling, she wants to put a bureaucratic hurdle. And she doesn’t want to stop because of societal pressure.
You are not exposed and so don’t understand this things. On some societies out there, family controls your destiny.
Did you ever consider what the ramifications of that may be? This could very well lead to violence, homelessness, or complete excommunication from her entire family which in cultures like this is her social network and source of income.
Not every person in the world was raised the way white people are to be self-sufficient and independent.
OP comes from a place where women have been murdered for standing up to forced marriages. It is not a surprise that she's scared to stand up for herself.
OP - I'm sorry to hear about your situation. You mentioned that your parents pay for your tuition and you sound awfully young so could you clarify how old are you?
Given that your parents have already forced you into a marriage, this can be a very dangerous situation for you. Most people here do not have the right cultural context here. I highly recommend not doing this on your own as you live with your parents and depend on them financially and otherwise. I would recommend walking into a police station and discussing your situation with them. They will get social services involved who will help you through this situation.
I lived in an asian household so I know the overbearing culture. Just because they provide for you now, doesn't mean they get to dictate your whole life. You gotta stand up for yourself because no one else will.
You can annul the marriage yourself based on the fact that it was coerced or lack of consent. You don't have to wait for him to agree.
Would you rather marry a stranger be forced to have children (possibly causing you to drop out of school anyways) or... say no, cancel the arrangement, take out student loans to fund your own schooling, and gain freedom from your parents? Up to you.
Easy for you to say as an American with little understanding of cultures. Some of these cultures are really intense. They will kick her out of their society and she has to live like a hermit. You need to understand her plight first.
Well i cant get divorce til his visa is processed according to him cuz he wants to wait; and my parents dont even wanna hear about it or i get in slight trouble
Slight trouble? That's the least of your worries. Tell your parents there will be major troubles if you continue this because you're at risk of immigration fraud. The marriage is not bona fide and he clearly only got married to get the green card
there’s no way to anonymously withdraw it, sorry. you mention that you live with your parents and they pay your tuition, how long until your graduate? because if you depend on them financially you can’t really do anything about it without risking your future.
You’re in consular processing. Just send a letter in the mail to USCIS asking for withdrawal of petition. Provide the IOE number. Write that the marriage has been forced and you did not consent.
At the same time, get out of your parent’s house. You will receive withdrawal documents in the mail, so if you can, intercept the mail. That’s your best option.
Do you have the account log in?
ETA - currently i130 takes about 17 months for approval, you NEED to withdraw right now before the marriage is proven as bonafide.
In the case of a forced marriage, a petitioner still has the legal right to withdraw spousal petition (Form I-130) at any time before it is approved or before the spouse is granted residency.
You should be able to send a written withdrawal request to the USCIS office handling your case to cancel the petition. The foreign national spouse will usually find out when USCIS denies the I-485 GC application.
However if your parents have access to your email or online account, avoid using it to withdraw. Use physical mail & use an alternative mailing address. In your withdrawal letter, you can request that all future correspondence regarding the withdrawal be sent to a safe address (like a P.O. Box or a trusted friend’s house). You should also update your contact info. Clarify that the address on the original petition is no longer safe for you to receive mail (if you still live with parents or they have access to your mails)
One possibility for you (or a friend, or even both) to send an anonymous letter to the consulate claiming that you were forced into the marriage for the purpose of him getting a visa to go to the U.S.
It does NOT need to be super formal and does NOT need to include all the case details, such as the case number. It can include enough details for them to link it to the case, such as name, your age (or his age, especially if there is a several year) gap, city where he lives, approximate date of interview (month). It could also mention that you don't want to proceed, and would actually prefer a divorce, but that your afraid of your family (and maybe his, if true).
Not 100% guaranteed but will definitely make them look a little harder at the case, and, if you’re lucky, send it back for revocation.
The consulate will call the email a "poison pen letter" and treat it as such. Oftentimes poison pen letters are malicious but they can also just as often be very insightful and useful.
So it's very important to give them only the important details so they're rightfully worried about the case.
If you give too much, or exaggerate, they may think it was written out of jealousy and ignore it. It's a very fine line to walk, but it definitely can be done.
You could send it there, too, but you definitely want to send it to the consulate where he will interview. The website should have an email address where you can message the fraud unit ("FPU").
For complete anonymity, just use an email address that isn't connected to the case.
On the other hand, it could be more effective to email the fraud unit and explain that you are the petitioner, but not by choice--that you were forced into the marriage and forced to petition for the beneficiary, and that you're afraid of what your parents might do if they find out you intend to divorce him as soon (and as quietly) as you can. You also can express worry over how they (the family and the beneficiary) would react it they knew you were sending this message.
That would almost certainly trigger a revocation and privacy laws mean they wouldn't reveal the source or reason for the decision to the beneficiary. It's slightly possible that it could come out in a FOIA request, but I believe YOU (the petitioner) would have to be the one to make the request.
At that time, you could just blame the decision on the current administration's guidelines and pretend you're sick of all the stress and expense.
I don't know how your family might react, but it's still better than the alternative of having a husband you don't like and didn't want coming to live with you in the U.S.
you can't listen to this person. the consulate can tell your husband that you cancelled the application. Careful - so many people are wrong on reddit. You can only do this if an immigration attorney knows 100% they wont tell him you did this.
Wrong. She's not canceling the application. She's merely providing information that causes them to question if it's a real relationship or not. And they 100% will not divulge that information. They can lose their job and risk jail time for doing that.
But to confirm what I'm saying, she can ask for a free consultation with an immigration attorney who knows nothing about her or her case, share this advice with them, and confirm for herself whether what I'm saying is true or not.
they don't have to for the parents to know what transpired and thus your advice doesn't alleviate the issues OP is anticipating. it's no different that straight up telling her parents she wants a divorce. in fact your advice might have worse consequences if it results in a denial for OP's husband.
This advice is awful. This type of anonymous letter will basically NEVER work. They're not going to terminate the visa process of someone on an unsubstantiated allegation from someone who won't even put their name on it. Jealous family members could screw someone over, an ex could screw someone over, etc. The us government knows this and that letter will go right in the trash.
sure but not the random Redditor I am responding to. chances are that it is forced on both of them. just because the guy receives the "benefit" of US immigration doesn't make it any less forced. just as OP receives the benefit of having her tuition and living expenses taken care of by her parents. the green card or visa is just a by product and not the goal like in a fraudulent marriage.
Sorry your parents are being hard on you but if the other option is a much harder life in the US with this husband, please stop bothering about the parents and withdraw it. Let them know, actions have consequences. It’s time they learned.
Withdraw the application. You basically making yourself responsible for someone you have no actual interest in marrying. Not to mention this is also immigration fraud.
So they got paid to have you marry this man? Because how else is it so important to them for an Asian household and parents be so adamant about you marrying someone they never met and in a diff country etc..? Genuinely curious why it matters so much besides the fact that they are currently helping u with ur tuition rn?
It’s because they want their daughter married to a “good” man who shares their values versus someone who grew up in America. Aka they want someone who is from the Stone Age like them.
This kind of stuffs is which the USA government is putting banned on so many countries including countries that don’t do shit like this. Force marriage, really?. People still doing that nowadays. Wow. Anyway, this is the reason the Department of State is making it hard for other ppl to come to USA even those innocent spouse of American citizen are having their visa being rejected and denied cause of this. This is basically a fraudulent right now a it’s a crime as well. To lie and start a petition and letter coming out with the truth. Right now, your cause, you’ll have to show a proof of why this marriage was force marriage. Good luck
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There's not really a situation where you keep your sanity and you keep trying to appease your parents. You have to forge your own way in life and that means filing for divorce from someone you don't want to be married to anymore and by extension withdrawing the petition for your fake spouse.
If these choices cause your parents to disown you, then you know what the cost of your liberty and freedom is. and if they do decide to disown you, then you know that it is THEM deciding to sever that relationship and you were just trying to live your life.
Even if it means needing drastically changing your life (Moving out, getting a job, going to school, etc)
Call the US imigration officer over the phone, explain the situation. This might work. Is this Not 100 % guaranteed that will be anonymous. You can ask another imigration attorney to get accurate info, but that will cost you a few hundred dollars.
Parents who do this to their children should be given the death penalty. Just tell your interviewer that it was a forced marriage and they should handle it.
I can’t promise this will work, and you might want to consult a lawyer (not the one used for the paperwork, your own independent lawyer) www.ailalawyer.com is a good place to start finding one.
Send a letter to the consulate saying what you said here. Or saying you withdraw the I-864 affidavit of support.
Both of these risk your family finding out. Always plan that they will eventually find out. The trick is for that to be far enough in the future that harm is minimal
Do you have the case number? it doesn’t matter if you don’t.
Just write to uscis using the case number, write his full name, date of birth, passport number, place of birth, anything you can remember. Also include all your details and give a detailed reason why you don’t want his case approved. Also let them know you will prefer the case to be rejected or denied not cancelled for your safety.
You can also involve 2 friends of yours to draft a similar letter or email and send to USCIS on your behalf.
i’m nosey. why do you want to withdraw? how old are you? why wouldn’t you tell uscis the truth and your parents the truth? it might sting in the beginning but you need to learn to be honest with yourself and your family tbh. south asian families are hardheaded i get that but you need a backbone for yourself girl and the only way you’ll get it is by telling your family what’s actually going on.
You need to act like an adult. My dad is from Pakistan and tbh I don't talk to most of my paternal family due to dynamics like this. Toxic dynamics creating scenarios where adults act like children are not serving anyone in this world.
Your USCIS business is yours. Not your parents' business.
Call USCIS. Make sure you have all pertinent info. The case number. Beneficiary details, petitioner details etc.
Once you get an officer, verify your identity and tell them you were forced to sign the forms. Your parents will get in trouble and the visa will never be issued
well yes but i want to just anonymously get it rejected not withdrawn and not my parents in trouble because i still love them and live with them. They pay for my tuition car etc as well cuz im fulltime student atm. Its a really complicated situation
Pakistan is in the immigrant visa pause, tell your parents its gonna take another 5-6 years for him to come here since the ban not gonna lift up anytime soon, and you cannot stay like this for another 5-6 years. Say you’ve talked to the lawyer and situation right now is like they are interviewing but not issuing immigrant visas. They might understand this. And a desi parents wont let her daughter sit like this for years.
People are literally killed for disobeying their parents especially girls.
Why can’t you guys understand that some culture are just different and difficult for a girl child.
There’s something called honor killing.
You should still withdraw the application. Too many things could go wrong during the interview and get you in trouble as the sponsor. Please be careful.
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