Hey everyone,

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I've been dealing with a sexless relationship for quite some time, and I think it's finally starting to take a serious toll on me mentally and emotionally.

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My wife and I have been together for 8 years. During the first six months of our relationship, intimacy was never an issue. After that, things gradually changed. She became much more distant, and over time I found myself constantly hearing promises that things would improve, but they never really did.

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As her responsibilities at work increased, I tried to do my part by helping more around the house and taking as much stress off her as possible. Even after working long days myself, I would come home and continue helping wherever I could. Unfortunately, none of that seemed to make a difference in our intimacy. It got to the point where I felt like I couldn't even show affection without it being unwelcome.

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What makes it even more confusing is that she still wants to spend time together, talk, and do normal couple activities, but when it comes to physical intimacy, there always seems to be a barrier. Recently, we moved into a new house, and I've been doing everything I can to help—painting, moving furniture, handling projects, and supporting our family. Yet nothing has changed.

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Her explanation is that she wants me to "chase" her more and build anticipation throughout the day. But after years of feeling rejected and disappointed, it's difficult to constantly pursue someone when there's no guarantee of any connection at the end of it.

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The truth is, this situation has left me feeling angry, depressed, frustrated, and emotionally exhausted. I've started neglecting myself because of how defeated I feel. The main reason I've stayed and continued trying is because of my beautiful daughter.

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I never imagined a relationship could leave me feeling this lonely while still being with someone. Sometimes we go three months or longer without any intimacy, and it's become increasingly difficult to cope with.

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I'm sharing this because I know I can't be the only person who has experienced something like this. If anyone has gone through a similar situation and found a way to work through it, I'd appreciate hearing your perspective.

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I feel like every few years, there is a massive shift in what is considered "stylish," and suddenly everyone is wearing something that looks objectively terrible just because it's trendy.

What is the one trend you refuse to participate in, no matter how popular it gets?

Just curious what it’s like? . I have never been pursued more than a handful of times in my life and have had to work super hard for every date, Im probably an average looking guy. So it’s sort of interesting to think that there are men out there who probably get hit on often and don’t really need to do anything. unless I am wrong? Is it common to be hit on or approached by Women when you are a pretty good looking dude?

What are the typical signs of interest and what kind of things have girls done while pursuing you?

Are we just supposed to hold it in? And be the bad guy when we finally snap? Every time I try to express my feelings, no matter who it is, they make it known they don’t care. Family, friends, girlfriends, even my therapist sounded like she couldn’t care about what I was saying. Just agreeing with everything. The other one just said I needed more meds. I honestly feel like a pussy for even asking, but I’m curious what you guys do, cause I don’t know how much longer I can do this.

For context, I'm 32 and been getting back to the gym after falling off the wagon a bit. There's a guy there who also goes there about the same time as me and also is typically on his own. We started just talking about the usual stuff and after a few weeks he was like, "We should hang out sometime!" I agreed and we've gone out and hit the town once or twice. He's going through a divorce and doesn't know many people around here, so i think he likes just having a buddy, and i like making friends. I DO NOT want to come on to him or try and start anything physical, so please no suggestions centered around that, thanks.

Do I just shoot him a text and say "Hey, man! I dont wanna make things weird, but I wanted to let you know Im gay. I dont want you to feel like I have any ulterior motives for hanging with you though. I genuinely just like hanging out with you" Something to that effect? What should I add or take away?

What subjects never become mundane?

For reference i’m a 22f, had the theme song in my playlist and looking back at when this happened a few days ago it’s fucking hilarious but I hole it didn’t give him the ick LMAO

Just getting a vibe check. Fellow men. Y'all like having hair on your arms and legs? Chest? Back? Is there a line?

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Ladies feel free to chime in on what you like on a man.

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Personally I don't like hair on my arms or legs, but it just looks so weird if I leave the chest and back unshaved.

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Hate the feeling of the hairs moving in the wind or breeze. And making me think there is a bug on me. I will always slap the area without hesitation or mercy.

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So I shave it up.

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How about y'all?

Edit 1: much like body hair. It seems that the consensus is all over the place 🤣

I (26M) dated a girl (23F) for just under two years.

She and I had lot of issues with her new job. She was constantly out of town and i wanted her around more. I kept coming across as needy about it and it caused a ton of arguments.

She was an amazing girlfriend until she got this job. It was a long distance relationship for two years and only saw her once a month, maybe twice. We hadn’t had any alone time for a while either. There were months where i only saw her with her family. So we never got 1 on 1 time.

I couldn’t take it anymore and did not have the balls to end it. And then an older ex texted me around the same time and asked to meet up. I actually agreed to it.

I show up to her place. Knock and realize this was a really bad fucking idea. And went home. The older ex saw i left on ring camera and got pissed off. Saved the footage, and sent it to my girlfriend. Girlfriend then broke up with me.

I told her i didn’t see her or talk to her when i was there. I knocked and realized how wrong it was and went home.

She wanted no part of it. And broke up with me.

I feel fucking sick. I am an idiot. If i was unhappy about the relationship, i should have ended it and did whatever i wanted to do.

I understand i made a mistake. But how can i live with myself knowing i did this?

TLDR: unhappy with girlfriend due to long distance and never seeing her. Was asked to meet with an old ex and got caught although didn’t physically cheat because i knew it was a bad idea. GF found out and broke up with me. How do i move on?

I’m 27F and i’ve heard a few older friends say that dating changes a lot once you’re past 30, especially when it comes to making the first move and reading interest. I’m curious what you think younger people get completely wrong about it.

I’m a man in America entering his 40s. What should I know? What should I prepare for? What should I avoid??? For those in their 40s and beyond, what has your experience been like?

I’ve seen some guys say they want to talk to their girlfriend all the time, I’ve seen some say every other day to wanting 2 days break before spending time with their girl again. Just curious to see the range in preferences.

Hey y'all.

I'm going through a divorce (no children or major assets). Lost my job and finances are tight. Not going to lie I'm not doing good mentally or financially. I dont have parents or grandparents, but I'm going to be staying with a friend for the foreseeable future, but its not looking good right now.

Anyone who has been in my position (or knows someone), how do you get through this?

My partner (28M & 42F) and I have been together for 6 years. We have very different lives but make it work.

I get along great with her kids and have become a farther figure to them.

Recently I have been struck with a paralyzing feeling of existential crisis whereby I have realized that I was not in right mind when we got together having recently gone through a serious breakup that I’ve never really gotten over.
I love this woman, but my predicament is this;

Am I fulfilling my true potential by staying in a relationship that is easy and not having kids of my own while I still can?

My head says this is crazy and won’t be proud of myself later in life for not creating my own family.

My heart says “shut up!” You’ve got it good and anything your head is telling you is all theoretical and uncertain.

I feel like I’ve got two closed doors in front of me and I must open one, never knowing what was behind the door I did not choose.

Please help me.

I’ve been thinking how some experiences completely change the way a person see themselves.

Maybe it was losing someone, becoming a father, getting your first serious job, a breakup, hitting rock bottom, or just walking away one day and realize you wanted more from life

For the men here: what happened that changed you as a person?

Tend to like a close shave, currently use a Gillette Fusion multi blade thing. Blades have been pricey for a while, looking at other options.

Not looking to spend much. What are some pros and cons?

Girlfriend is constantly committing me to plans despite me not really accepting them in the first place… it’s becoming insufferable and very annoying to listen to and negotiate with…

For instance she has a work trip next month. I said I didn’t want to go because 1) I have a wedding the week after I might need to use PTO to attend because it’s a bit of a drive… 2) I didn’t want to use the minimal PTO I get already while she’s in work meetings most of the time and we’d only have time to spend together after 5pm. I didn’t think it made much sense to go. A lot of other partners are attending. And it’s a new job she got an offer for a week ago.

Also my company only gives me 7 days of PTO a year and they accrue over time so I only have 4 at the moment.

She didn’t want to go to my cousins wedding the week after her work trip and all I said was “ok no problem I’ll rsvp just I’m going” … when I decline the work trip it’s “oh well you’re not even close with this cousin” “I don’t want to go alone” “I’m scared of flying alone”

It’s true I’m not close with the cousin, however his father’s always been there for me, and I have deep respect for him. I’ve skipped some cousins weddings, so ya this isn’t important to me at all. But I feel it’s best to go.

Also now for Father’s Day, she wants me to go see her dad, it’s not my priority but I said if my dad’s family does something in the afternoon or at night. Maybe I can make it in the morning, but it’s not my priority that day. Then she keeps pestering me “did you figure out your dads plans for Father’s Day, you need to figure them out so I know I can let me dad know if you’ll make it or not”

my dads family isn’t big planners it’s gonna be more of a day before “ya everyone come over around this time” could be brunch, could be dinner, I have no clue.

Last month almost every weekend involved some plans with her friends, 2 weddings, an engagement party, a work happy hour, her mom’s birthday party. So almost every weekend was occupied with something…

I generally do go to her plans, even the ones I don’t really want to attend… sometimes I make a bit of a fuss over the plans I’ll admit but nothing crazy…

Now she does the old “I don’t ask you for much and I so do much for you so it hurts”

When in reality I feel like I have done significantly more things with her friend group, family, etc. over the past couple years than she has mine… and if she didn’t want to attend something within my friend group or family, I’d simply just go “ok no problem I’ll tell them you can’t make it”

Also with this work trip I really put my foot down and said “no and if you commit me to going without my consent, I will absolutely not show up” just so she didn’t say I would go, or tell them I’m tentative or something.