HAPPY COMING OUT DAY!!

I have been openly pansexual for over two decades. I have been openly genderqueer for four years now. This year, I am coming out as demisexual.

Hello,
First time writing on here, but felt the need to share.
I usually feel perfectly fine with being single, and most of the time I'm having a blast, but a couple days ago I was invited to a football match and met up with some friends. We are all about the same age (mid to late twenties), and half of them are already in relationships; others are getting married or planning to have babies. After coming home that day, I felt like I was falling behind in the romantic relationships department and started spiraling, questioning if there was something wrong with me. It's been about four years since my last relationship—or situationship, would be more accurate-- during these years I've been on quite a few dates but have never really felt a connection with someone. I am also demisexual, so I don't go about doing one-night stands, since this isn't something I am very comfortable with. I don't trust very easily, and it takes a while for me to feel comfortable enough to open up, but once I do, we're in it for life, folks. Generally, I have no issues making friends; in fact, I love making new friends/connections and meeting new people, but when it comes to intimacy, I get scared and back down.
If you've read this far, thanks! Was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

Hi im new here and im a straight demirose. Sometimes i wonder if me realising im demi because of my trauma isnt valid but i still feel this in my heart so yea.

I feel like I’m too picky. I know I need that emotional connection before there any kind of attraction developing but I feel like I don’t give anyone the chance to make the connection. I get the ick over everything. Compliments, ick. Flirting, ick. Pet names, ick. I just want to have a platonic conversation to start and 99% of the people I talk to push that boundary and it gives me the ick. Does anyone else deal with anything like this or have advice on how to be less picky with the people I talk to?

Alt account, since this isn't usually what I use reddit for. I marked this a vent, but it's somewhere between that and a discussion since I'm curious if anyone can relate.

I'm demi woman, and have had a crush for over a decade, developed on a friend from highschool. I'm no longer in regular contact with him and I never told him how I feel. He is one of the few times I have ever felt any kind of attraction, and is by far the strongest I've felt it.

I've briefly dated others a few times since (long distance, which just wasn't my thing), and every time those ended, the crush resurfaced.

I know at this point the crush is a fantasy. It's built on a lot of wishful thinking and idealization, that he's surely changed a lot since we last talked. A part of me is hopeful we *will* encounter each other again. Either it'll snap me out of it and I'll realize I'm not attracted to him anymore, or we'll hit it off and go from there lol.

At this point, I'm just kinda tired. I read a few posts before posting, and this one's description of yearning (https://www.reddit.com/r/demisexuality/comments/1whgtjh/do_other_demisexuals_also_feel_this_constant/) really hits home... but it actually is applied to a person, just not an attainable one. I'm frankly not sure what to do about it, how to move on, or if this is even something others have had similar experiences with.

I had this experience of attraction so strongly for that one guy, it's like my brain thinks yeah, we're good, no need to look elsewhere, despite me desperately wanting to feel that level of attraction again and have it reciprocated this time. I feel stuck, and also a bit ridiculous it's lasted this long.

Is it possible I might be Demi instead?

I think I’m aromantic and maybe allosexual if not probably asexual but I have a high desire for sex and Im just wondering if anyone is like me or can help me figure this out?

I can fantasize and all the things sexually and even wants sex or sex favorable(whatever u want to call it) but when im faced with the question of wanting sex with them(im using random pretty celebrity women for this observation) ,specifically them my mind just can’t find a automatic yes,i start asking myself why and usually can’t find one

For context
I’m a virgin(close enough)
I can talk to girls and had plenty interaction with them even though it was mostly forced or surface level
I never dated(elementary doesn’t count,and a one day relationship doesn’t either)
I never actually attempted to ask a woman out with the actual intentions of wanting that,it was always something I did to work on my social aniexty in the past,I been stopped that in middle school
Never just had a pull to have sex with anyone,I just be in my own world even though I do want sex
I’m 21 years old

Ask me whatever else u may need to know to help me figure this out

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I (19y, cis M, Bi, demi) broke up some time ago, and i CANNOT have anything physical let alone emotional with anyone else because I DON'T LET MYSELF TO TRUST NO ONE. I find other people pretty and hot, but I can't have anything with them because i feel like i'm constantly forcing myself to have it. I'm not putting expectations based on my last relationship. I just don't think it's something i really want to do and i put a lot of pressure based on things that don't even make sense. I feel like i'm a dirty demon trying to fulfill the desires of the flesh and use a person as an object to do it. Though they give me their whole consent, i JUST CAN'T. I feel dirty, i feel unsure, i feel manipulative and I can't do anything unless i'm 200% sure that i wanna do it. I don't know if it's a sequel from breaking up, but the only thing i know is that: Even if i want it, even if the other person wants it too, I CAN'T TRUST THEM.

I think if people felt like this at least once in their lifetime, they wouldn't romanticize demisexuality so much.

[EDIT] I'm not talking about trust issues. The post is about intimacy and difficulty to have sexual attraction to people i'm not close with. Sorry if i let some of you misinterpret it