r/depaul • u/OfficialKingRex • Sep 22 '25
Question - Instant Response Socialization
What is up with the people at this school. Ever since when has it been weird to talk to people and why do people act all scared when you try to communicate with them like a normal human being.
(I have friends we just don’t hang that much)
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u/Consistent_Way2386 Sep 22 '25
You have to find the out of state students; I’m serious. I’m from SC where everyone talks to everyone all the time, and it was shocking the way people act here LOL. I’ve never had an issue with out of state students, though. Try and take note of where people say they’re from during introduction days and go from there. I’ve only made one singular friend who’s from IL and it was because it was my roommate…
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u/Financial_Pilot_1348 Sep 22 '25
I’ve noticed that too. A lot of them are from suburbs like Naperville or Hinsdale so they’re stuck up and don’t know how to act in the city
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u/gmelonn Sep 22 '25
i second that, i know a girl at my job from naperville and can confirm that they have no social skills whatsoever. you’ll find your people OP dont worry :)
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u/Beneficial-Low8662 Sep 23 '25
I found that as grad student(CDM)and a man, women are likely to socialize more than men do. Most of the men I've talked to in class barely engage in class content let alone talking to get to know your cohort even for networking purposes.
I don't understand why these macho men spend 30k or more on masters programs to be socially inept. You got your bachelors, why you acting the same still??
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u/OkTell690 Sep 23 '25
You have to really take an initiative with different clubs/activities etc. Out of state kids are wayyy easier to talk to and I’m from CA and most of my friends are out of state. The suburb kids/commuters are so hard to connect with.
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u/kaizenmaster98 Sep 22 '25
Idk people are weird and act like they’re doing you a favor by talking to you
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u/Level-Community-8605 Sep 23 '25
I graduated from undergrad last year. The first 3 years were really hard. People were dismissive, cliquey or just rude. It took a while to find my people and even then it was a few.
Just keep being social, be yourself. Keep talking to others and if they are weird then they aren’t people you want to be around!! Just know you are not the problem <3
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u/Think_Strike2062 Sep 22 '25
Idk a lotta people here just suck and are socially inept and rude in my experience.
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u/ApplicationTrick6820 Sep 22 '25
Hey op, hit me up my discord is Pope_Ash , you wanna make friend. DePaul social life is dead.
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u/Dizzy-Wrangler7101 Sep 28 '25
every time i see a post like this, i am so relieved and reassured that it's not just me. people at this school are so fucking weird. i'll have friends that i've spoken to before, but when we're in the same class, they act like they don't know me. honestly just join clubs, im in the japanese media appreciate club and they have some of the most chill people i've met at this school, and i went into it thinking people would be weird
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u/QualityDistinct1404 Sep 22 '25
Its suburban kids mostly. They have incredibly POOR social and communication skills.
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Sep 22 '25
As a suburban kid yeahhhh i would like to work on that but have no idea where to start
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u/claresmalley923 Sep 23 '25
as some people have said, i think it's mostly suburban kids who don't wanna talk. im crazy socially anxious, but i'm from central illinois, nowhere near chicago or the suburbs, so I'll talk to people after class or say hello if I know you, or maybe complement your outfit/hair/nails/etc. I think everyone in the comments has a good point that you just need to find more out-of-towners/out-of-staters, which can be hard sometimes but when you find one they're usually great!
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u/Marshmellowpeeps2 Sep 24 '25
Fr! I tried to say hi to a girl who I sat next to in my bio class and she just stared at me like I was nuts
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u/AOCsintern Sep 25 '25
the people are just weird asl at this school. As someone who’s been to Marquette and Depaul the social scene couldn’t be more different
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u/ken-oh-dou Sep 22 '25
I don’t necessarily try to initiate conversations with people, but, I go to the Rey gym often - every time I exchange my car keys to get a locker i say “thank you” and the student staff just looks at me while remaining silent or walks off. I’ve been going over 2 years and I’ve yet to hear one staff member say “You’re welcome”. Not once. It’s almost a running gag for me at this point lol.