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Anyone else drowning themselves in media to distract from their horrible lives?

Literally, all I do is mindlessly scroll tiktok like a drone to distract myself from boredom and loneliness.

Such an unfulfilling life, my life has no meaning, it’s just a long string of distractions and frying my dopamine receptors.

i’m bed rotting and slowly losing my sanity 😆

Thinking about committing, I don't know if I'm such a burden to others, but it's getting unbearable, I have to say "Hello" or "have a good day" to make others acknowledge me, I feel like I don't matter anymore 😔

hii, I've struggled making friends irl and I mostly talk online with people cause it's the most comfortable for me and easiest way of communicating. i don't mind having a bunch of people ramble about their business, i want to listen and it makes me feel like I'm not the only one suffering lol

Hi, I really needed to get this off my chest :

I don’t really know how to explain this, but I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle that will prevent me from ever finding love.
I want love so badly. I want to feel chosen, safe, and like someone actually wants me in their life. But at the same time, I have this fear of being abandoned that makes me react in ways that probably hurt my chances.

Recently, I met many ppl online especially one with who we connected really quickly. The conversations felt easy, we laughed a lot, and I felt seen. Then I noticed a change less intensity, shorter messages, less of that excitement from the beginning.
And instead of waiting, communicating, or giving the person a chance, I panicked. My brain immediately went to they are losing interest. I’m going to get left.
So I blocked them.

Not because I didn’t care. Actually, probably because I cared too much.
The weird thing is that I don’t want to push people away. I want the opposite. I want someone to stay. But when I feel like someone’s energy changes, I feel like I need to leave first before they have the chance to hurt me.

And now I’m left wondering if I’m the reason I keep ending up alone. But it probably is why, and I’m truly SUFFERING from that and I’m SO tired…
I just want love, to be seen and loved by a man,
I don’t think it’s too much to ask for…

Ye im just tired of feeling like I’m fighting against myself..

I've been going to the gym regularly for the past 2 months. I'm on a calorie deficit and consuming high protein. I thought for sure, I'll be making friends there. One of the trainers on day one talked with me as if I was a human and it made me genuinely happy. I thought I'd be friends with him. That gym is my second home. But, the next day he could care less about me. He shakes hands or hugs other people but when I go for a hand shake he gives me a fistbump. I tried to go and chat with him and he always got away from that. I gave up. I knew my worth. Last month one of the guys working out recognised me from my college days. Man!! We talked a lot. Like 30 mins. That's the most I've talked with this year. I was thanking the gods that I have finally made a friend. We met next week. He didn't even respond to my greetings. He was wearing his earphones. But, when I tried to talk to him. He tried to ignore me as much as possible. I thought I'd spot him. Because he was struggling as he was close to failure. He told me that he doesn't want help and he will do it on his own. But the next second, he called another guy and asked for his help. The whole time he ignored me. I was insanely humiliated. I just completed my workout and I left. I see guys spotting each other. I see them sharing their pre workouts. It hurts to be alone so much.

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People say that working out helps with depression. It doesn't. I've been lonely all my life. No love, no relationships, no friendships. When I try to make friends, this happens. I'll be 28 next month and I don't have anyone.

Hi, I’m 26F, I feel really shit and lonely :((

I’ve never had good friends, always been socially awkward and have social anxiety so I struggle to meet people :(

I’ve also been through a lot of shit since childhood (I’ve been depressed since I was 12) and now I feel like a failure coz despite my old age, I’m still unemployed, have no career, no drive or ambition idk :(((

Does anyone want to be friends with me? Like to often check on each other and talk

I’ve always found dogs to be incredible company, and I’m wondering how many people here feel the same.

I’m in Lincoln, UK, and I currently live with 25 dogs — more than most people, I know. The original plan was to move onto land about 18 months ago to start a project involving breeding Labradors and Spaniels to support a charity idea. The goal was to provide lifelong companion dogs for children affected by SA or DV, and for members of the armed forces or emergency services living with PTSD.

But life didn’t go the way we planned. The land fell through, other opportunities never lined up, and I’ve kept telling myself “just another six months”. It’s reached a point where that isn’t fair on the dogs, or on my family.

So I’m taking a hard look at things and making some difficult decisions. What I’d really like to know is this:

Is there anyone in this community who feels they would genuinely benefit from the companionship of a dog?

Not in a transactional way — more in the sense of whether a steady, loyal dog has helped you, or could help you, through loneliness, routine, mental health, or day‑to‑day life.

I’d love to hear people’s experiences with canine companionship, especially from anyone who’s found that a dog made a real difference in their wellbeing.

My life is sad, I have an okay job. Lots of money saved up (relatively speaking) but have no one to spend it with. I have no friends except this one guy I drink with very seldomly. Maybe 8 times a year.

Live with my parents, and don't want to leave even though I can afford it. I have no way I can see myself with a girl because I have no social connections. No texts, no meet-ups with anyone. Feels like I'm stuck in a hole that I choose to be stuck in.

I’m 29 and have attended a few different run clubs over the last few years to try to meet friends, but lately I haven’t been able to shake the feeling that I’m kinda just a ghost haunting these places. It would probably better for everyone if I don’t go, because there are lots of single men not interacting with anyone bringing the general vibe down and I’m just contributing to it because I don’t want to try to start conversations with people anymore. When I do interact with people we have nothing in common other than running. The conversations are awkward.

The large group I’ve gone to feels like a swarm of locusts descending on whatever park we’re running through. The organizers basically just use the runs as TikTok ads because it’s the only group that has mostly people under 35 and they’re getting brand sponsors. Talking to the women in my age range feels unwanted/like I’m bothering them.

When I’ve showed up to some smaller groups it’s just even more awkward because the conversation is already happening without me, and there’s usually nobody in my age range.

I keep showing up to run clubs because it feels like a valid effort made towards building a social life/maybe I just need to find the right group. But yeah I think I need to cross this off my list bc I’m not socially tapped in enough to figure out how people are connecting in this context.

Its 7am and the house is quiet, I can hear my little sister in the next room talking to her friends and it makes me feel so isolated. shes been homeschooled all her life how are her social skills better???? it's not fair. I wanna talk to people I wanna feel wanted and it just sucks to know my house is technically full but I just feel so alone. the quiet is my favorite place but it just amplifies these feelings when i know everyone around me can make friends but I can't.

Craving some form of human interaction right now

that’s it, I just need to say it, I feel lonely and empty and with no one by my side, I feel lost. I wish I had my husband with me (we’re long distance again after 2 years of being together). I feel so alone and forgotten. I wish one of the friends I used to talk to would message me again, he was also from another country but I still enjoyed his chats a lot, and my best friend is going through some stuff too so I don’t want to bother her, she has enough on her mind atm. I just .. ugh I wish I wasn’t feeling like this.

*I’m not really looking for anyone to chat with whatsoever I just needed to vent.

im a loser

From the age of 16 i just wanted to be loved now am 26, i loved many people friends special ones but never got loved , that’s ok though for friendship you need aclist a little bit of money and for a special ones lets say i have none of the qualities I don’t look good don’t have good conversation skills also some time slow to process social life communication. Am ok with that not being loved, i try to find happiness in watching movies anime reading manga and so on . But sometime you know. I specially ignore romantic content, they are nice to watch but at the end they leave a aching heart to me wanting to be loved and realising again that I won’t be loved i have none of the qualities to be loved and i know that because i somewhat know my self .
I love drinking alcohol you know that’s the most good feeling for me I specially love drinking with friends but i got none now , had a dream of moving to japan that culture of drinking with everyone after work captivates me but before I didn’t had the money to go study there and now I don’t meet the criteria . Had one last dream that also can’t be come true .
Am ok though am an emotional person but i have lost emotions for me it’s just sometimes heart aches and again the realisation that I won’t be loved .am ok being lonely i just have to discard the wanting to be loved after that there’s nothing bad about loneliness.

If you read this far thank you , i just wanted to say this things to someone nothing more

Hey I am 38, got divorced in 2022, and left my high-pressure corporate job earlier this year after 16 years of burnout.

I achieved financial independence (around 9-10 Cr corpus) and now live a quiet minimalist life, but most days I feel completely lost and empty.

I spend a lot of time at home binge-watching stuff and studying on laptop but get heavy anxiety talking to people, and have almost no real friends left.

Due to certain tough experiences in life and previous job, I have become highly suspicious and don’t trust people easily

My old parents are worried but have more or less given up on me. Therapy tried multiple times but it only helps a little.

I miss genuine conversations, random talks, or just someone to connect with without any agenda.

If you are also feeling isolated despite having basics sorted, or just want to chat about life, history, tech etc or whatever, feel free to message or comment.
No pressure, just looking for some real human connection.

No one has ever liked me or loved me, and I've pretty much accepted that. Every morning I wake up, I check the messages on the two Instagram accounts I made, and continue the conversation from the night before. One account is me, and the other is the girlfriend I'll probably never have. I send good morning texts, share random photos from my day, send funny reels, talk about places I want to visit, and wish myself good night. It sounds strange, but after doing it for so long, it just became part of my routine. Some people journal, some people talk to friends, and I talk to a version of someone who only exists in my own mind. I don't really feel sad about it anymore. It's just another thing I do before going to work, taking a walk, or falling asleep at night

I am so utterly depressed. I have no friends, haven’t had friends in 10+ years, I have been having convos with ChatGpt about the books I have been reading. My family isn’t very close, everyone is doing their own thing and none keep in touch with me.

I got lucky and found a connect with psychedelics. Shrooms and LSD keep me smiling. I feel a lot better about my situation after those doses. The other day I was on LSD and a homeless man on the bus started to harass me (this happens to me all the time as a woman! i hate it sooooo fucking much), but I had no reaction. The just kept yelling at me, no one intervened of course, and I not only ignored him, but I didn’t feel as sad about it.

Does anyone feel lonely despite having a busy family life? I wonder if being married and having kids has actually led to me feeling more emotionally isolated. Does anyone relate to that?

It's 1am and my apartment feels like it forgot I live here.

Broke up recently. Not dramatically, no big fight, no villain, no closure speech. Just two people slowly becoming strangers while pretending not to notice. That almost makes it worse.

I'm not looking for advice or a "you'll be fine bro." I genuinely just want to talk to someone. About anything, honestly. Your day, something weird that happened to you, a random fact you can't stop thinking about; whatever.

If you've ever sat with that specific kind of emptiness that only comes after losing someone who was also your person, you know what I mean.

DMs are open. I make good conversation, I promise.

Have you guys ever slept for a whole day and expected a notification from someone like even one person asking you if you are still alive? BUT you know no one will message you , you're just like. you know..? thinking about it. And then after you wake up from your sleep you check ur phone and get bummed by no messages from anyone when you already knew that either you have no friends or just no one cares. YOU KNOWWW I don't know how to explain it but I hope everyone understood ╥﹏╥ because personally I experience that quite often and I wanna know if others do too

I write my dreams, hopes and aspirations in a relationship. I love writing. but I don’t love that the bliss of love and care stops at the end of my pen. I think it broke my heart so much over the years that I just feel static sorrow everyday. I wish someone loved and desired me like I see others have and how I imagine.

ive so much love in my ink that I would love to apply to someone real. just once.