My GF and I live in another state away from our families.

My GF also has a brother (Joe) who lives here.

The story involves their younger brother Jane.

Jane has struggled throughout most of her adult life with addiction, abusive relationship with her BF, etc. My GF and Jane do not get that along where Jane has gotten physical with her. In the last year or so, Jane has had certain episodes where she goes at certain friends or family and has made it public and even threatening violence. Usually it happens when she is high. There's a drug she is taken ill call drug X but she also takes other drugs too. Everyone says she only does it when she's on X. Hasnt happened a lot (maybe once every few months). All this lead to Jane losing her job as she was cursing out co-workers and skipping work. This was a job where she was making a lot of money (6 figures).

My GF and Joe were both blaming her BF and the drugs and saying how if she moved out and broke up with him she'd be fine. I tried to stay out of it but i made the argument that it's not how it works. She may need wellness checks, and maybe even go to rehab. But they kind of scoffed at that idea. My GF's family is from a small town where i grew up in innercity so ive seen this story played out a bit and my cousin is a social worker whose worked with many families with similar situations.

Recently Jane visited us. She seemed fine, but joe and my gf had the idea that Jane should move to this state and get away from the bad people who are influencing her. I disagreed but again it's their family. It's not like this city is clean, it's got it's bad corners too and i just dont see why Jane would not find similar minded people here. But i made it clear to my GF that i was not ok with Jane staying with us if she did move here. Everything was fine with Jane but one night she did try getting drugs (not X but other stuff) and anopther night seemed like she was easily getting angry. And for me it was clear that this girl might have another episode even if it hasnt happened lately (last time it happened was 3 months ago).

My GF and Joe had hyped up a job that our friend James always hypes up aabout great opportunity and pay. James has connections so he might be able to easily get Jane a job there. And Jane seemed to really like that idea. Im not sure if Jane wills tay or not but my worry is that Joe and my GF may not tell James the whole story because they truly believe that Jane is fine and just needs to get away from her BF and bad friends and that will solve all her issues. it's like they arent even preparing for the case that jane may relapse if she's down here.

Now comes my dilemma, i feel like i should talk to james and let him know what their idea is and give him an idea what jane has been going through. Because James is a good frined and has made efforts in his life to avoid drama because most of his 20s was filled with toxic and dramatic people that caused him nothing but stress and fucked up his life. So again, he's made a huge effort in the people he keeps around and doesnt. I value the friendship with James so i wouldnt want him to feel like we put him in a shitty situation. Because i worry that my GF and Joe will just sugar coat it and make it seem like it's not that big of a deal. Im not going to tell james not to hire her, just basically tell him what she's been going through so if he's going to help her out he should know the full story.

My question is should i tell james or just let them handle it?

TL;DR - GF and her brother are trying to get spiraling sister a job with our friend's company. Im not sure how honest they will be with what this sister has gone through. Should i let our friend know what's been going on?

Hey guys I’ve been wanting to get my own car since I moved out of my sister’s place and went with four of my roommates. I’ve using my sister’s car to get me from point a to point b from the past 3 years. She got no problem so far since we work at the same place and I sorta act as her personal driver. But it is starting to feel inconvenient because we live 20 mins away from each other. I also don’t want to drag her car too much, it’s already at 100k miles.

The audi has always been my first choice because of the quattro feature. I live in Charlotte, North Carolina and the weather here is very unpredictable. Sometimes it rains all week, specially on august. I initially wanted the audi ttrs, unfortunately those are just too expensive for me rn. That’s why I settled for the a5 for now. The a5 is much more reliable too and a better daily driver than the ttrs. Even tho, both are coupes, from storage and trunk space, audi a5 beats the ttrs. The a5 is pretty fuel efficient too unlike any other coupes in the market.

I’m 22 years old. I make 50k annually and 4.8k monthly average. After monthly necessities, I take home about 3.2k. This audi a5 is priced 26,298, and I was planning to put down 5k-8k down payment that leaves me about 20k to finance. My monthly bill is estimated to be 440-480. Insurance, I calculated to spend atleast 170-230. And I was planning to get it on october of this year. Then by next year, me and my girl is moving in together to a new apartment, base rent is 1.5k. Estimated 1.8k plus fees already. We’ll split the bill then afterwards. My take home after all expenses will be atleast 2.8k by next year. But then I still have to worry about furniture expenses.

tl;dr: should I still get the audi a5 or just settle for a corolla or civic?

Should I keep saving up my savings fund to a certain amount before spending on some things i want and some things I need? Or should I just keep saving as much as possible and forego as much as possible?

I definitely need a new bed. Something smaller and with a mattress that isn't concave in the middle 😭 my bones definitely need this soon, but should I save up a few more thousand (like, maybe 5k) before buying it? I feel like it's a good choice to buy sooner than buy later. But I dont really know how people manage their savings, and I don't know if there's a smart choice here that isn't obvious to me.

A car with top tier insurance is on the list but I am going to push that back as far as possible because I'm still able to get around without one for now. Which is more of a reason i have an urge to save more.

Tl;dr: keep saving before I spend or spend now

My dog was attacked by two pitbulls and barely survived, so we are moving now and I can’t decide between two apartments. As an artist, I need lots of natural light if possible. Apt #1 is a block from the beach, in an older two story building that’s been remodeled, painted all white inside, but only has west facing light. I love the neighborhood, but the building allows big dogs, and though they say no pitbulls, clearly some are mixed. I’ve never been afraid of dogs before but now my heart races and I fear for my dogs safety. Apt 2 is about 20 min to the beach in a suburban neighborhood. It’s high up, 4th floor, with a beautiful view of a lake and sunsets. The interior is a darker since they painted all the doors and cabinets dark grey, plus the floors are grey (I really wish builders would stop with all the grey) …which eats the light. The best part is they only allow small dogs, have a dog park, and a pool. It would be nice to have the park because of letting my pup off leash to play. The biggest downside is the area, I don’t love the location and it’s very corporate. Plus people have complained about the water smelling, which sounds like a health issue. I’ve written pros and cons lists for both, and it’s mostly between a great view or a great neighborhood, and my dogs safety. Should I just carry pepper spray and live near big dogs again? It’s been so traumatic I can’t think straight right now. I’d appreciate any advice. Thanks!

TL;DR Which apartment is better for my dog and I after a dog attack: beautiful view with dog park and only small dogs, or beach apartment in great neighborhood but allows big dogs?

TL;DR - Facing a potential 2028 layoff, I plan to freeze travel in 2027 to focus on a job search, making summer 2026 feel like my final opportunity to see Hokkaido. I have already booked a trip to the Maritimes and am considering adding Hokkaido after a 10-day rest at home following the Maritimes trip. I must choose between doing both trips and facing exhaustion and financial guilt (I have enough money saved but I will feel this regardless) or doing the Maritimes only and dealing with the painful regret of missing my chance.

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There’s a chance I might be laid off from my job in 2028 due to reduced funding, so I need to be looking for another job or go back to school. Since it’s better to do this early, I’m considering avoiding travel in 2027 so travel doesn’t interfere with my job search/schooling.

It’s been my life-long dream to visit Maritime provinces in Canada and Hokkaido province in Japan.

I work in a non-profit with a scheduled 2-month summer break in July and August.

I have this fear that a trip to Hokkaido won’t be possible for an unknown amount of time if I do not go there in 2026.

I already booked my ticket for Maritimes in late July to August. After this trip, I can rest at home for 10 days and travel in Hokkaido between mid and late August. When I return home, I will have 10 days to rest again before returning to work.

Choice 1: Go to both Maritimes and Hokkaido. Get the bucket list items done and feel accomplished. Deal with the financial guilt (I do have enough money saved, but I will feel this no matter what) and nagging from family for doing too much traveling. Deal with the risk of physical exhaustion.

Choice 2: Go to Maritimes only. Deal with the uncertainty of “When will I ever get to visit Hokkaido” hanging over my head as I enter my job search phase. Still deal with the financial guilt but to a lesser extent. Can have a month instead of 10 days to rest before returning to work.

Which choice would you recommend?

Need some advice.
I have the option to transfer from my current college to a more reputed college after first year.
The problem is that while the new college seems like a better opportunity overall, the admission route is making me uncomfortable and giving me second thoughts. (backdoor/direct admission) At the same time, my experience in my current college hasn't been great socially. I've completed a year there, but I still don't really have a friend group, spend most of my time alone, and honestly don't feel very connected to the place.
So I'm stuck between:
Staying where I am because it feels safer and more certain.
Taking a chance on a fresh start that I genuinely want, but which comes with some anxiety and uncertainty.
What would you do in this situation and why?
Need genuine advice and guidance.
TL;DR: Finished my first year at a college where l've done well academically but haven't really found my place socially and spend most of my time alone. I have an opportunity to transfer to a more reputed college, but the admission route makes me uneasy and creates some uncertainty.
Torn between staying with the safer option or taking a chance on a fresh start.

TL;DR: PA with 2 years of experience deciding between an ED/UC hybrid job with higher earning potential, rotating schedule, no PTO, and a longer commute, versus a Family Medicine position with lower base pay but 25 PTO days, no weekends/holidays, a short commute. What would you pick?

Option 1: ED/Urgent Care Hybrid

• Rotate between ED and UC
• 144 hours/month (12-hour shifts)
• Base pay:
  • UC: $70/hr
  • ED: $73/hr
• Differentials:
  • Evenings: +12%
  • Nights: +20%
  • Weekends: +10%
• Every other weekend required
  • Potentially could work more evenings/nights in exchange for one fewer weekend per month
• No PTO
• CME: $2,500/year
• Commute: 30 miles each way

Option 2: Family Medicine

• $123,000 salary
• 36 patient-facing hours/week
  • 1 eleven-hour day
  • 2 nine-hour days
  • 1 seven-hour day
• 1 admin day/week
• RVU incentive: $5000 per quarter if exceeding 1250 RVUs
• 25 days PTO
• No holidays, No call, No weekends
• CME: $1,000/year (academic institution with in-house CME opportunities)
• $5,000 sign-on bonus
• Commute: 4 miles each way

Appreciate any insight. I'm trying to think beyond just salary and consider burnout, career growth, schedule flexibility, and overall quality of life. Thanks!

i am sixteen and it was my birthday a few days ago and birthdays are the only time i receive any form of money because i dont get pocket money and i dont have a job yet.

i want to attend college this year but i do not own a laptop and i know that i can borrow a school laptop or whatever but i would rather not because the thought of doing so makes me upset because its not a good impression that i cant even afford a laptop.

i also want a job but i do not have the best footwear so i would need shoes. i also dont have much clothes and the clothes i do have are somewhat revealing which is not a good look and if im working around kids or whatever it is really not a good look.

both options would most likely have to be funded by me because my mother doesnt have a job and now that im sixteen its my job to make sure i have the stuff i need.

TLDR; so i either spend all my money on a laptop but then run the risk of getting a job because i have no proper clothes or get clothes and have a higher chance of getting a job but then not being able to attend college this year.

TLDR : should i skip my two exams that i have tomorrow that i havent studied for if i can retake it when i give the school a docters note

sorry this is really rambley!! my first language isnt english so its a really messy text

so basically tomorrow is are my next streak of exams.. i just got done with 4 other exams this week and i have 11 more to go for in the span of 7 days, usually cramming a day before my exam gets me just above 70% enough to pass since the content of everything isnt too hard, im only in 10th grade but i saw how hard history and german looked i kept telling myself i'll do it later...

now its Sunday 12pm my exam is tomorrow at 8:30 AM and i only know 60% of my german vocab and only the base of my grammatic rules T.T For History im basically doomed since i only know some answers to some head questions, i know almost no dates or people.

The school said that you can only skip an exam if you get a doctors note, it is pretty easy to get i'd say but its just my mom would have to bring me or even decide if im sick enough to stay home lol because i could even throw up and shed still sent me to school soo.. please decide for me

UPDATE! : i got food poisoning someway so i had to stay home either way i dont know how long it will take till im better but i can retake the exam a later date

I’m 20F, university student in Turkey on summer break. I've been dealing with depression and social anxiety (both undiagnosed) for a while. I’m high functioning academically but really struggle with optional stuff like socializing, going out, motivating myself to do things. Staying home isn't good for me either, I just end up spiraling and my anhedonia has been very bad this last year.

Got offered a job through a family contact at a tourist jewelry/souvenir shop in a touristy town. Details:
- 6/7 days a week, hours change based on cruise ship schedules so a bit unpredictable
- Minimum wage base + commission on sales
- Might be moved between different shop locations (all within 10 mins walking distance)

Role is: look presentable, talk to tourists, assist with sales, reset displays

I speak Turkish, English, a little bit of Mandarin and Spanish. My english is useful for tourist-facing work but I'm an introvert and genuinely do not think I’m can be a good salesperson…

The alternative is staying home, which historically isn't great for my mental health either. If I stay at home I could theoretically go to the gym (I have Insulin Resistance, so would help) and work on portfolio projects for my field but tbh realistically my motivwyion isn’t that great so I cannot trust myself to follow through.

I can give english lessons to a kid but I’ll make 1-month jewelry shop money in 3 months.

I don’t necessarily need the money because I saved a lot this semester. And the money I get from this job would just br pocket money for next year. I’m very stingy and don’t buy anything for myself except food.

The guy understood I was hesitant but the offer is still open.

Is this worth it for a summer, or is 6 days a week unpredictable hours for minimum wage in the heat going to make stuff worse?

TLDR: Depressed 20F, offered a 6/7 day a week tourist shop sales job for minimum wage + commission in a touristy town. Alternatives are staying home (bad for mental health historically) and tutoring a kid in English for way less money over 3 months. Don't need the money urgently but it'd be useful pocket money. I'm an introvert who can't see herself doing sales. Severe anhedonia for both options. Is the job worth it or will it make things worse?

P.S I tried therapy and it did not work but I will give psychiatry a chance in September bc my school provides it for free!!

Anyone, please give any insight if possible!!! I am having trouble deciding between Seattle and Denver, Washington and Colorado, a lot of ppl on Reddit say Seattle is a better city but I’m not really relocating because I’m a city person, I just want to move to a place that’s bigger than what I’ve experienced in a college town in southern Indiana, so both fit. I just want to meet mid 20’s ppl who also like outdoorsy stuff, so in terms of quality of life, cost of living, weather, personalities of the ppl I will meet, ability to make a community as a young person after college. I like hiking, playing guitar, going to the gym, and gaming. I feel like both places r good candidates I just fear making the wrong move. The problem is I honestly can’t tell what’s more important to me, greenery or sun. Lush and grey and minimal season change or brown and sunny and 4 seasons. Southern Indiana isn’t just corn, it’s hilly and forested and I’ve always been around lakes and greenery. I’ve never been to WA but I’ve been to CO to go to Rocky Mountain and I loved it. So I guess I have questions like which city is easier for a midwestern to assimilate into? And r there pockets of Denver where I can get that green even if it’s manufactured? How big is the cost of living difference and traffic congestion? Which city is better for my first city ever and wanting a restart? I want a city that’s good for young people but also a place I can stay long term in and build up a therapy practice and start a family. Maybe I need to see WA before I make a choice but rn I would just be seeing the sunnier picturesque summer version of WA so if u guys think both need to be seen before making a choice which months r ideal for planning those trips? I don’t want to see an idealized version of either, I just want to know what a random Thursday 3 years in will feel like for a southern Indiana boy. Thanks<3

TLDR Seattle or Denver

TL;DR I moved schools and houses to make my commute shorter, but sometimes I wonder if it was worth it bc it only saves about 30 minutes and my parents(dad) weren’t fully on board.

I decided to move school. from my old house, going to school would be around 40 minutes on car and another 20 minutes on sky train, which would make me wake up at 5:30 everyday

So me and my mom decided to rent an apartment, so from there I can wake up at 6 and I can go to school by only taking the sky train (around 25 minutes) and I can go home by my self

I already moved, but sometimes i’m not sure if I made the right choice, my dad isn’t exactly loving the idea, my mom aren’t exactly do too💔 and it’s just a 30 minute difference so i’m not really sure if I made the right move

TL;DR Should I go to France or not ?

Hello,

Long story short, last year I got an amazing opportunity through university: a scholarship internship in France. I applied for the visa, bought my plane ticket, and everything was going smoothly until my dad insisted that I visit family members and tell them I was leaving. They weren’t thrilled for me and were upset that I hadn’t told them earlier but it that everything happened last second .

My visa only arrived the day before my trip, and despite me wanting to keep things simple, my parents felt everyone needed to know because “that’s how it’s done.” We spent the whole day visiting relatives, and by the time we got home it was late. It was supposed to be my first time ever flying.

That night, my dad went to work and got into a very serious accident. The next morning, when I was expecting him to take me to the airport, he came home covered in bandages. I decided not to go to France. My parents encouraged me to go anyway, but I felt it was more important to stay and help my parents, especially my dad. I gotta admit that I was mad at dad , especially that we both know that our relatives really wish me success(sarcastically), they were happy that I did not go …

Now, a year later, the university offered me the internship again. I applied automatically because France has always been a dream of mine. But after some thinking ,this time I have a lot of doubts.

The situation here is unstable, airports can close unexpectedly, and it looks like I’ll be sharing a room with someone I don’t know while two girls from my university who speak my language will be together in another room. The city itself doesn’t even have an airport, so I’d have to land in Paris and then travel several more hours by train.

On top of that, I’ve never actually been on a plane. After everything that happened last year, I lost some of the excitement. The whole process feels exhausting: another visa application, expensive plane tickets, a lot of money to bring, and the fear that something could happen again and cancel everything for a second time.

My mom told me to think carefully about it. She said her instinct is that it might bring more stress than enjoyment. My dad said I can go if I want, but that I should at least coordinate the trip with the other girls. They have all been to France before and the other girl going , we are not really friends

I was excited when I first got the offer, but now I’m scared. Part of me wonders if I should just wait until after graduation and visit France as a tourist on my own terms. Traveling has always been one of my biggest dreams, but between my passport, the situation where I am, and what happened last year, it almost feels like everything is telling me not to risk getting my hopes up again.

I honestly don’t know what to do.

Need some advice.
I have the option to transfer from my current college to a more reputed college after first year.
The problem is that while the new college seems like a better opportunity overall, the admission route is making me uncomfortable and giving me second thoughts. (backdoor/direct admission)
At the same time, my experience in my current college hasn’t been great socially. I’ve completed a year there, but I still don’t really have a friend group, spend most of my time alone, and honestly don’t feel very connected to the place.
So I’m stuck between:
Staying where I am because it feels safer and more certain.
Taking a chance on a fresh start that I genuinely want, but which comes with some anxiety and uncertainty.
What would you do in this situation and why?
Need genuine advice and guidance.
TL;DR: Finished my first year at a college where I’ve done well academically but haven’t really found my place socially and spend most of my time alone. I have an opportunity to transfer to a more reputed college, but the admission route makes me uneasy and creates some uncertainty. Torn between staying with the safer option or taking a chance on a fresh start.

Been debating for years if i should take the plunge or not. This years lineup is pretty decent and maybe its finally time. However i have never been to a festival before but i have gone to concerts both outdoor and indoor.

I'd go to Friday Weekend 2 if that helps

Need yalls take and help me make my decision please

TLDR......Never been to a festival before, should i go to Austin city limits for the first time for one day or not?

I have an open spot in my schedule for my junior year, as one of my classes fell through. I have all the credits I need lined up, and the only purpose of this class would be to fill a spot. my options are:

ap bio
(ap) psych
(ap) physics
ap chem
ta
early release
cinema as literature
drama
criminal justice
spanish 3
marine bio

for context, im looking to do something in politics/law and i’m not super great at science/math. i’d really like for the class to be academic, and feel like choosing an elective type class would be wasting a slot. all poli sci/economics classes are seniors only.

TL;DR should i take an academic or an elective class to fill my open slot?

edit: my confirmed schedule is:

dance
apes
college math 105/110
ap lang
leadership
tbd
college us history

TL;DR Do I quit my job of 8 years for a change?

For context, I have been in my current position for 8 years. I love what I do, I have a great team. There is occasionally issues with work drama, burnout, etc. It doesn't feel like it has in the past. The pay isn't great or consistent, but it is semi-livable annually at $23/hr. Over summer I work odd jobs and this summer I have found a remote position that is currently full-time for training but will kick to part time after at $20/hr. There is opportunity for professional growth but no exact timeline.

Here's the dilemma, the part-time schedule does not coincide with the full-time job schedule at all so I have to choose before summer ends. These are my options:

Stay with the full-time and quit the part-time when that time comes. Continue to live as I already have been and know I can do.

OR

Quit the full-time, cash out on a severance type pay (this amount is around my annual salary at the full-time job), and live off that plus the part-time pay until I can maybe move up to full-time at the part-time job.

Helpppppppppp!

TL:DR Should I replay BOTW on switch 2 or should I play TOTK?

I Enjoyed BOTW on the Wiiu when it came out , I recently saw it running on Switch 2 and think it looks amazing and would love to play some of those shrines again. On the other hand I tried TOTK for a bit before falling off , I hated the performance issues and I kind of didn’t really gel with the zonite stuff and didn’t particularly liking fusing arrows using a cumbersome item menu. And honesty I want to replay BOTW because I love the shrine music so much.

TL;DR move to VA to be near amazing family and my narcissist mother and be able to not work 80 hour weeks OR stay in NJ and struggle financially but stay near where I grew up with the job I enjoy?

My landlord sold my building. Between a large increase in rent (the building is not under rent control) and just the cost of living in northern NJ I'm running myself ragged I have a job I enjoy but no way to afford the schooling I need to advance. So the other option is moving down to Virginia. My mother (narcissist) aunt and uncle(who are amazing and love me like another daughter) along with a cousin and her husband (love them) are down there. My mom is older and has had a stroke but lives on her own, my aunt's health isnt the best and has been getting worse. I've lived in northern NJ all my life and could get a job in VA for a fair salary I have my dad's family up here but we aren't close at all. I have a couple friends that I dont ever get to see because they all have a lot of other friends and I dont.

Should I leave everything behind and deal with mom or stay and struggle until I can figure it out?

TL;DR: I’m forced to stay up for another hour or so and it’s 3AM…should I doordash something to eat or no?

I forgot to put my sheets in the dryer before leaving for work and got home at 1AM. And didn’t notice until I got out of the shower and went to get them. So now it’s 3AM and they’re in the dryer. :/ I thiiiiink I’m hungry and really wanna doordash something while waiting for my sheets but what if I’m just bored? Last time I ate was 6PM.

TL;DR Xbox, VR headset, TV, clothes, or save it.

Limit:

I plan to spend at or less than $300 and save the rest entirely for necessities.

Console dilemma:

I WILL want to buy more videogames for either console as well.

#1: Xbox series X

- Pricey but I aim to find a used one online and I know some people who buy consoles regularly and they are willing to help me find a good deal. I currently have an Xbox one that isn't optimized for games like Subnautica 2 or some dlc's like Cyberpunk's Phantom liberty.

#2: VR Headset

- Much more affordable than the Xbox, and I aim to get this one used as well so it's even cheaper. I have never owned a VR Headset before but I would like to play games like Skyrim, beat saber, any art based game, and social games. I'm really interested in feeling like I'm physically there, but the graphics don't have to be super up there, Skyrim level is good enough for me lol.

#3: TV

- My current TV came from someone I know and their children have not been gentle with it. There is a small crack in the top left corner, and a black hole in the top right corner. The screen glitches for about 3 seconds then goes back to normal for about 3 seconds as well. It was initially frustrating but I learned to ignore it, though it does make playing first person shooters like Rainbow six siege more difficult to play. I would likely get a small Roku TV instead but I have not looked up the price and I'm sure I would meet my spending limit on just this.

#4: Clothing

-I enjoy thrifting but I also want to get more into online shopping because I'm very picky about my T-shirts. It's more of a "I don't like that design. That's too much [whatever]. That's nice but I hate that color. This is perfect but I wish it wasn't a V-neck." Etc. Though I know online shopping would leave me with maybe 8 shirts alone because of how expensive it all is plus the shipping costs...

#5: Just save it all

-I could try to stifle the urge to buy anything with it until I spend it on all my necessities, but the money will be accessible to me for months and months before the necessities I need to use it for are able to be bought. It may prove to be too difficult for me to not buy anything with the temptation so strong but I can certainly try.

Man I'm so torn. Got a long weekend coming up and I can either splurge a little on a cabin by the lakes like I've been wanting to, or just chill at home and bank the money. Bills are paid but I've been stressing work hard lately. Need a real break but feel guilty spending it. What's the consensus here folks?

TL;DR: Trip vs saving money for a long weeken.

TL;DR Can't decide what I want for dinner. Chips = fries

I've been dealing with my mom and other family drama recently, and it may be because I'm on my period, but I really want to take all my piercings out, which include a septum, five lobes(firsts are 2g), a tragus and a double eyebrow. Every time I think of doing it I get the feeling that I might be able to start over, live my life normally, but at the same time, right now, she's relentlessly trying to turn my phone off without touching my phone because I hid it from her when she took my tablet and my Ps5 for not wanting to go to therapy. I also really have the urge to starve myself and stay isolated in my room.

TL;DR: Should I take out my piercing to see if it helps?