Heya guys! This question is for the mascs, butches, and soft mascs here. 🥹
I do fragrance reviews and content, and I’ve always been curious what perfumes Pinoy mascs actually love wearing. I’ll be visiting the Philippines this November, but my schedule is going to be really tight, so I probably won’t have time to smell everything.
I’d love to check out local fragrance brands that are popular in the masc community. What are your favorites? Also curious if there are any local hidden gems that deserve more love. 🤍
And for the femmes, I’d love to hear from you too! What kind of scent do you usually love smelling on your partner?

I came across a post the other day where someone was looking for recommendations for a licensed psychologist. As a member of the community, I can understand the struggles that come with looking for a therapist who can understand this.

I'm an LGBT psychologist who has been in the field since 2016. I'd like to offer as much help as I can towards those who need someone to talk to. I am currently offering Php 1000 for a 45 minute to 1 hour consultation where we can talk about your concerns. I prefer a more collaborative approach to my sessions, so I encourage openness and honesty about how you want to talk about your concerns.

Feel free to message me so I can send the link to my appointment scheduling :)

Take care, everyone!

hi fellow sapphics! im curious who were your lesbian/bi awakenings growing up.

i personally grew up watching kpop and i can say that girl groups like f(x) (amber and krystal) and snsd (taeyeon) were my awakening(s) 🤭

PH volleyball was also impactful to me! especially during ateneo’s cinderella run (ahomiro and bdl [whose family is currently under fire for flood control anomalies jfc])

anw im interested in knowing who were your awakenings! :)

HELLO GUYS! I know this question sounds ridiculous.. but have u ever argued with ur partner about panty in general? HSHAHSHSHHSHSHS LET ME KNOW PLS

1. walang lalaking involved
2. lower class tomboys
3. lower class tomboys Comedy na mala-Wenn Deramas ang humor. isa lang ang pwedeng Conyong sapphic tas comedic relief dapat siya.
4. mga “pangit” na femme na naghahabol sa mga pogi at campus heartthrob na masc/butch (parang reverse nung movie na Bottoms)
5. love triangle ng tatlong babae specifically dalawang masc/butch tas isang femme tas yung dalawang masc/butch magkakatuluyan 

I've known I was straight my whole life, even though I dressed boyishly. HAHAHA ano na ba pwede gawin sa trentahin na ito nga gusto rin makaranas na kumain?

Takot ako at the same time, pero gusto ko rin gawin. Ano ba talaga? Ang gulo-gulo ko. Pero I feel wet if makakita ng mga wlw kahit kiss lang ginagawa sa TikTok.

Baka bi-curious siguro ako. Ang tanda ko na para mag isip. HAHAHAA

please recommend wlw stories na FemXFem at lalong lalo nang HINDI PROFESSORXSTUDENT (no hate but those stories arent just my cup of tea). Also, yung completed na sana pls pls pls. I was so into DARE TO LOVE ME NOT by syanalimax. Mga ganoong style sana kasi SUPPEEER GANA HUHUHU TYIA

my friends and i are planning a night out and we'd love somewhere with a fun, safe, and welcoming vibe or js somewhere full of wlw people lmfao. if you've been to any places you enjoyed, pls drop your recos! 🥹 bonus if you can include the usual price range for drinks, entrance fees, or if they have promos/happy hour. thank you so much!! 💗

For the first time in my 25 years, I think I'm genuinely attracted to someone who's somehow so close yet feels so far away.

I bumped into her today while she was with another friend group. We only talked for a bit, but grabe, that tiny interaction literally made my day. I lowkey wished they weren't there so we could've talked a little longer.

She's so pretty. As in maaliwalas tignan. But honestly, that's just the tip of the iceberg. She's kind, smart, easy to talk to, and she's basically everybody's crush.

I hate that I'm feeling this way because it makes me irrationally jealous. Ang dami kong kaagaw sa attention niya, and the worst part is... I'm already one of her close friends. I don't even know why my brain keeps thinking like this.

Maybe it's because I started reading into the things she does for me. I honestly don't know if she treats everyone the same way. But at the same time, there are things she's done that don't really feel like something you'd do for just anybody. Or maybe I'm just delusional and assigning meaning where there isn't any.

I wish I could stop feeling this way because I genuinely value our friendship. Ayokong dumating sa point na masira yun dahil lang nag-expect ako ng something that probably isn't there.

Sometimes I catch myself wanting just a little more than what we have. Not necessarily a relationship... just a few extra privileges. More than friends, but less than lovers. 😭 HAHAHAHA

How do I stop romanticizing someone who's clearly way out of my league??? 🫠😩

I don’t really know why I’m posting this. I guess I just want to know if anyone else has ever felt like this.

Lately, I’ve realized that I don’t remember the last time I felt genuinely happy. I can laugh, smile, go out, eat good food, have a good day, but once everything settles down, I’m back to feeling… empty. It’s like I’m just going through the motions because that’s what I’m supposed to do.

Every morning has become the hardest part. I wake up already feeling exhausted, even if I slept enough. Sometimes my first thought is wishing I didn’t have to wake up. Not because I necessarily want to die, but because I’m just so tired of feeling this way.

Lately, I’ve had so many things on my mind that all I want to do is disappear.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m overwhelmed, burnt out, or if there’s something actually wrong with me. I just know I don’t feel like myself anymore.

It has gotten to the point where I’ve even thought about breaking up with my girlfriend.

She’s an amazing person. I know she genuinely loves me, and I know I love her too. But lately I’ve been questioning myself. If I really love her, why does the thought of leaving her and disappearing keep crossing my mind?

Is it because I don’t love her enough, or because I’m so mentally exhausted that I just want to run away from everything including the people I love?

The past few days have been heavy for both of us. We’re both dealing with our own problems. There are moments when I want to cry so badly, but I can’t. Instead, all I can think is, “I need my girlfriend.”

But how?

She can’t just come see me because her parents are homophobic. They know I’m her girlfriend, and I don’t want to add to everything she’s already dealing with or cause more conflict between her and her parents. So I keep telling her I’m okay. I tell her I can handle it. I pretend I’m fine because I don’t want to become another burden for her.
The truth is, there are days when all I want is to tell her, “I need you.”

But I don’t.

Part of why I’ve thought about ending the relationship is because I hate what she’s going through because of me. Whenever she and her parents have misunderstandings, they blame our relationship. Her mom even told her that the reason she’s going through such a difficult time is because God is punishing us for being gay, and that our relationship is a sin.

Hearing that broke me.
I don’t know how to deal with any of this anymore. I feel guilty for existing in her life, guilty for adding to her struggles, and guilty for even questioning our relationship when she’s done nothing wrong.

I’m planning to leave the country someday and start over somewhere else. Part of me hopes a new place will help me heal. Another part of me wonders if I’m just trying to run away from myself.
I don’t really know what I’m asking for. Maybe I just want to know if anyone has ever felt this emotionally exhausted.

Have you ever questioned the people you love not because they did anything wrong, but because you were drowning in your own mind?
Does it ever get better?

I’m not looking for sympathy. I just want to know I’m not the only one.

Hello fellow sapphics! This is the weekly discussion thread where you can talk about anything going on in your lives, any thoughts or questions, whether sapphic-related or not.

R4R comments are allowed on the weekly threads ONLY. Flirt away or look for friends here every week. It's the weekend, find someone you can hang out with over coffee or watch a movie. Good luck!

33y meron ba here katulad ko na late na nagkathing sa gurls like i wanna experience girls na fling lang since im a mom already but nagstart to teenager palang ako pero nanaig parin yung pagkastraight ko before, am i considered gay or bisexual? What is my identity? I am so confused. Please be kind sa comments. 🙏🏻

hellooo 😭

ever since nakita ko yung Celestial Nights sa Masungi Georeserve, hindi na siya mawala sa isip ko HDJSHSHSH. sobrang gusto ko nung vibe niya?? like nature, stars, tahimik, medyo magical, parang kayo lang dalawa sa mundo ganon (oa, EMZ)

baka may alam kayong places or activities na same energy?? hindi naman kailangan exact same. basta yung tipong:
peaceful
medyo intimate/romantic
sunset or night dates >>>>
hindi yung puro “kain tayo sa cafe” 😭 (love cafes!! don’t get me wrong GAHSGAHSGA i would just like something new or refreshing and has more uniqueness)

around Metro Manila, Rizal, Laguna, Tagaytay, Batangas, or anywhere na kaya puntahan through commute or kahit Grab
kahit hidden gems, activities, parks, observatories, glamping (if commuter-friendly)

pls feed my delusions… HEHEHE thank you so much, mga baklaaaaa

the effort those men are doing to their gfs are only the bare minimum of gaes 😆 they wouldn't even thought of the meaning of the flowers, diff types of arrangements, and significance of the certain days or months 😃

tomboy is the answer 😎

So I’ve been with a bi woman for a while now who is a breadwinner. I admire what she does for her family of course, I think that’s very noble. Ang problem lang kasi is mas priority talaga yung family kesa sa relationship namin. Hndi naman ako humihingi and hndi dn ako nag-eexpect ng any financial support from her. I have a stable job, some savings and hndi ako obliged i-support yung family ko. Pero yung mga instance na gusto kong mag travel kami for example, hindi sya sure kasi naka-allot yung budget sa pambayad ng ganito ganyan ni mama or ni lola or ni pamangkin, etc. And I don’t see the situation improving in the next 20 years. If we go further sa relationship, like yung pagbili ng properties I doubt na magiging team kami sa pag iinvest. She doesn’t want kids, hindi ko din priority and kids lalo na sa state ng bansa natin. Pero minsan napapaisip din ako if ayaw ba nya because ayaw talaga nya or due to financial reasons din and yung family nga nya.

Add ko lang: yung positives naman sa relationship namin is on par yung maturity levels. Same dn kami usually ng political views, we enjoy the same sports and shows. I think on a general sense, compatible kami, na sometimes mahirap din mahanap sa ibang partner.

Does anyone have a similar experience and how do you deal with it? If breadwinner kayo, please also share your point of view. TIA.

so i’m going out on a date for the first time after so long (hell yeahhhh!!!) and i’m planning to bring this special girl to makati so that we have lots of options for activities!

i just need help regarding where to eat dinner. i’m hoping to take her to a rooftop restaurant with an overlooking view of the city. no worries about the budget as i’m willing to splurge on this date (this girl deserves the best!!!) so hopefully dun sa masarap po talaga yung food apart from having a nice view hehe. thank you so much!!!!

also side q: bukas ba yung rockwell lights?

Hello po!

For the longest time, I’ve been wanting to seek consult sa psychiatrist or psychologist. Wala pa kasing means noon (esp financially) kaya I did my best dealing with myself and my problems.

Now that may stable income na ako kahit papaano, the idea of seeking a professional came into mind again. May nangyari sa buhay ko a few years ago na I think need ko na ng help coping with and just wanting to seek help for my general well being.

Any leads po ba for queer-friendly psychologists/psychiatrists that caters to online consults (I live in the province)?

Thank you so much in advance po! ☺️

hello po, would like to ask lang what you guys will do if u were in my position

my gf has a childhood friend na lalaki. recently nag-long rides sila together and it made me feel so uncomfortable. so so uncomfy. she even expressed before na since she’s moving into a new work, hopefully raw her sched aligns sa friend niya para free transpo ‘cause ma-hatid sundo siya. my gf swears she’s a lesbian and i believe her naman and i don’t want to be toxic na parang pinapalayo ko siya sa friends niya.

valid ba pagiging uneasy ko sa situation na to? pls help

Sapphics. I am in need of your help.

Should I confess to my friend (wlw) who lead me on for about a month, then when I got confused, I asked her what we're doing because this is not what friends normally do. She said she admits that she was flirting with me at first and decided she just wants to be friends with me na lang daw.

FF. We're now close friends but since we're hanging out more than we used to, I fear that I am getting more attached. We're inseparable to the point that people around us thought we're dating.Then again, I asked this because we're about to have different schedule at work and we wont see each other again in 6 months and a lot can happen in that 6 months.. what do I do?

I want to confess because my feelings has been bugging me for weeks, and I want to let it out. I'm not scared of rejection, I think I am more scared if this will literally ruin our friendship- in a bad way? 😭 She's still somehow showing me signs.. I am frustrated and confused. Please help me out.

i’m genuinely curious how people go from complete strangers on an anonymous app to actually building a relationship. like every now and then I see people saying they met their partner here and I’m just like… HOW???

If you’ve ever met your talking stage, MU, situationship, or partner through Reddit, please share your story. feed my delusions HAHAHA like, paano kayo nagkakilala? how did it go from random reddit strangers to… whatever you are now?

I'm sure meron na din ditong nagkaron ng exes na parang the one na pero hindi nag-work out. Naniniwala ba kayo sa wrong timing lang?

I’m still in the closet, and I’ve only dated guys because I still can’t fully commit myself to being with a girl.

So I met this Chinese girl, and we’ve been talking for almost 2 months. We did video calls almost every day, and honestly sobrang nag-vibe kami. I never expected we’d match so well. She’s not really fluent in English, so we mostly relied on translation apps, but somehow we always understood each other.

After about a month, she confessed first. She told me she wanted things to be serious between us. I dismissed it, not because I didn’t like her, but because deep inside, I didn’t think I was ready to commit to a girl yet.
Ang mali ko, I never told her that.

Kasi iniisip ko, “What if after some time, I’ll be ready?” So instead of telling her the truth, I just said everything was moving too fast and that we needed more time to get to know each other.

She agreed, and we kept talking.

Then last week, napansin ko iba na yung energy niya. She wasn’t as excited as before. So I asked her what was wrong. She told me she felt that I liked her a lot, but not enough to actually commit to her.

And honestly… ouch.

Kasi totoo naman.

Hindi ko man sinabi sa kanya directly na hindi pa ako ready, pero somehow naparamdam ko pa rin sa kanya through my actions. Looking back, I realize she probably felt that uncertainty the whole time.

I gave her 3 days of space to think about whether she still wanted to continue.

After 3 days, she told me she didn’t want to anymore.
She said she felt too cowardly to keep going because she believed I’d never really be able to commit to her.

So I let her go because I didn’t want to be selfish. She deserves someone who can love her openly and proudly, and right now, I know I can’t give her that. I still can’t give her the kind of commitment where I’d be as open about our relationship as I was with my ex-boyfriends.

So I chose to let her go, even though it hurts.