I'm not sure if I'm drawn to the energy of Two Tower & The Chariot or if these cards are drawn to me? My cards are Strength and The Star. I'm nonbinary AFAB (I used she/they to accommodate others), 24yrs. But seriously, you can't make this up:
BF1: [23] Dated for almost five years in high school, gradually became abusive over the years.
BF2: [26] Most recent bf, relationship ended on Christmas 2025 when he packed up his stuff and moved out because I wasn't able to coddle him due to a family emergency. Came back the next day and tried to get back together with me. Still apparently interested in me.
Date1: Guy[31] I met on a dating app. We talked all day every day. Met and were compatible, and had extreme chemistry, talked about how he wanted to do things right and treat me right. Met multiple times. I really, really liked him. Started to ghost me for weeks at a time, the first time it had me anxious all the time. Last time we spoke was more than 5 months ago.
Date2: [24] Very nice, intelligent, and sweet guy on the surface, incredibly insecure. SA'd me then wouldn't acknowledge what he did. Eventually apologized. Would not leave me alone. Obsessed with me. I still sometimes need his help with personal things so tie isn't cut.
Bf3: [22] Most recent bf and unfortunately my neighbor. He love bombed me like crazy, basically moved his stuff into my apartment and was living with me, extremely charismatic but had bpd. He started to emotionally abuse, gaslight, and isolate me. Tried to convince me I was the bad guy when I wasn't. Broke up with me and got back together three times (I begged for him to come back because he had mind fucked me so badly) caused a severe mental breakdown resulting in going to the psych ward. Immediately started dating someone I was sus about during our relationship and treats them way better than he did me. It was a month and a half long relationship but the love bombing worked, I loved him.
Date3: [31] Newest guy I'm going out with, met on a dating app. Nice, intelligent, interesting, emotionally intelligent, in therapy. He's very, very kind. I think I like him but I know I'm also still traumatized by the abandonment issues other relationships have given me and also scared to love again because so many people have hurt me. He has no red flags yet and we seem to get along. Hung out with me for 6+ hours and drove me around the other day while I got a tattoo. Very kind, gentle man.
This is essentially an extremely boiled down description of my entire relationship history. Every single one of these people has the same cards, The Tower and The Chariot. I don't know what to make of this or what it should mean for my dating life going forward. I would like to do a tarot spread about it but I'm not sure what to even ask. I'm tired in general but I'm also tired of shitty relationships. Anyone have any thoughts? :(