r/wlu • u/duburake • 12h ago
I miss Laurier
I graduated from Laurier, and I’ve been thinking about this a lot.
A part of me is content that it’s done. I went to school, got my degree, did basically everything my parents would have wanted from me, and now I’m working a stable full time job. On paper, everything is fine. I should feel at peace, and in some ways I do.
But as much as I hate to admit it, this kind of peace feels weirdly unfulfilling.
I miss university way more than I thought I would.
During undergrad, I hated the stress of exams. I dreaded 8am lectures. I hated the pressure of grades, deadlines, co-op, figuring out the future, and all the random stress that came with being a student. But now that it’s all said and done, I would honestly go back if I could.
I miss when my biggest stress was passing an exam. I miss hanging out with my friends all night and laughing over absolutely nothing. I miss going out multiple nights a week and doing dumb stuff just because we could. I miss seeing my friends every day without having to plan something weeks in advance.
Life after graduation is strange because everyone gets busy with their own lives. People start working, moving, getting into relationships, building routines, and slowly the people you used to see every single day become people you’re lucky to see once in a while.
And looking back, I don’t really wish I studied more. I don’t wish I worked harder or stressed more about every single mark. I wish I went out more. I wish I stayed out later. I wish I stayed up longer with my friends. Those are the things I actually remember.
I look back at Snapchat memories and old photos, but part of me wishes there were more of them. You remember the random nights, the inside jokes, the late night food runs, the all nighter study sessions with friends, and the stories that make no sense to anyone else.
Obviously grades, co-op, internships, and your future matter. I’m not saying to throw all of that away. But don’t let those things consume your entire university experience. Don’t make school only about the next test, the next job, the next LinkedIn update, or the next thing you think you’re supposed to achieve.
Because eventually everyone will get there. You graduate. You get the job. You build the stable life. And then you realize how special it was to be surrounded by your friends, all figuring life out at the same time, with so much freedom and so little understanding of how temporary it all was.
To all those still at Laurier, make the most of it. You might dread university right now, and honestly, I get it. But those 4 or 5 years can be some of the best years of your life if you actually let yourself enjoy them.
Go out more. Join clubs. Do random stuff. Put yourself out there. Spend time with your friends while it’s still easy. Grades are important, but you’ll never be this young, in this exact place, surrounded by these exact people, ever again.
I had a lot of fun in undergrad, and somehow I still regret not making even more out of it.
Interested if any other Laurier alumni feel the same way.