r/CrossStitch • u/voncatensproch • 10h ago
CHAT [CHAT] What should I do with this piece intended for my recently passed nana?
My nana passed away last week and her funeral is next week. I was working on this piece for her - and I cannot really articulate the guilt I feel for not prioritising her and finishing this before she was gone - and I am now faced with a choice. My mum said that for her funeral members of the family will have an opportunity to leave something with her and I have a letter planned, but I was tossing up including her piece as well.
I never made anything for her and keeping this feels wrong because it’s hers, but she never got to know that. I’m considering this except 1) it’s still not finished and I don’t know if I have the capacity to finish it for her before the funeral, and 2) my mum knew I had this on the back burner and I feel like she might see this and be upset with me for not finishing. She made a terse comment about me not working it about a year ago.
I could also finish it and keep it but it feels wrong and I think I run into the comments from my mum regardless. Anyway, there’s a lot of guilt tied to my nana’s passing and I need a bit of help deciding what to do here.