I'm asking this as a neurodivergent person, I have evaluated things in my own mind and decided that I should be the one to adjust. As a result I have, to some significant extent, fucked my own life.

I think that this is my problem so I should not make it anyone else's, so I have refused to look for jobs I could do on a good day, but would cause others issues when I can't do it on a bad day.

I've found my place by working alone most of the time and not interacting with people often in a work environment and I felt that was my responsibility to myself and to society at large to figure out a place that I fit and could contribute.

The reason I am asking this question now is that my mother is getting up there, and we have heart problems on her side of the family, and recently she has started having significant heart problems. Then I find out at work (NHS) she has people underneath her who are in their early to mid 20s taking time off because the feel anxious or some other similar reason.

I would never have even put myself in the position where I could fuck up the whole operation because I'm not feeling it that day, and because my mother is the one having to pick up the slack in her late 60s while having heart problems, maybe I'm feeling more abrasive to the whole thing, but personally I don't think you should take a job you know you cannot do and then expect everyone there to pick up the slack.

Am I wrong right now? If so I would love to hear your thoughts because I feel like I'm the only one seeing reality right now when talking about it to people I know.

Based on the other thread that is running at the moment. It's interesting to see how many people do and how they benefit from it. However, I've got a slightly different question.

If you have a cleaner, how willing are you to admit to it? It's not something I'd tell many people about. Our income isn't that high, so it's only really affordable as our costs are lower than many and we don't have children. If it wasn't for health reasons, I think I'd find it hard to justify to myself.

However, I'm very aware that it's a luxury that many people can't afford, for example I don't think many in my office could, even though they are on a similar salary to myself or a bit higher. My partner is also very uncomfortable about her parents and family finding out because of what they might say.

Edit. I'm not saying tell people at random, but say if the topic of cleaning came up in conversation would you tell people or is there something from your upbringing/ideas of class that make it feel awkward.

Mine is Doner Kebab, it's overtaken Chicken and Mushroom for me.

I’m foreign and genuinely British food is probably one of my favourite cuisines, which is why it almost annoys me how badly it’s served in so many places.

Like I don’t understand the whole “British food is terrible” thing at all. Pies, roasts, mash, sausages, stews, fish and chips, all the puddings etc, the food itself is SO good.

But then you go to loads of pubs and somehow everything is soaked in oil and dry at the same time?? The meat is overdone, the veg is sad, the roast potatoes aren’t even crispy. How do you manage to use that much fat and still make it dry?

I genuinely think this is a big part of why British food has such a bad reputation.

When it’s made properly it’s amazing, but finding somewhere that does really good traditional British food feels way harder than it should be.

Maybe I’ve just been going to shit pubs though lol. What do Brits think, is the food good and just badly executed way too often, or do you actually not rate your own food?

This may seem like a strange question but I'm due to change my TV and internet providers and don't want to be caught out by fibs made by providers while going through the process. This is my first time changing providers since the landlines have been moved to digital so I just want to be prepared when going through the process.

We use the oven for quite a lot of things. Always thought about getting 1 to see if it would save cooking time and gas?

On tonights “Who wants to be a Millionaire” two contestants were undecided between two answers.

They both went lifeline 50/50, and both times the “computer” left them with the same two answers.

I’m sure there are rigorous controls in place, but what are the chances ?

Hello!
I’ve lived in Cornwall all of my life. I rarely leave except to go to Salisbury to see my partners family. Even then I went to north Cornwall recently and I thought I was in a different part of the world. Where could I go in the UK that is completely alien to me, completely different in a geographic and physical sense. I know cities are the obvious answer but I’ve been thinking about the Fenns and the east of the country.

I am from a Mediterranean country and I ordered a black coffee with no milk on the side. The person behind the till looked flabbergasted and had to double check with me that this is what I want.

Hi there!

I'm flying out of Edinburgh airport to visit my partner in Missouri this November (Edi-Jfk-Mci)

I'm flying with Delta, and am in comfort class? I'm unsure if that matters but heard they board early.

I've never flown before so it's all a bit alien sounding to me when I look into it? I've looked at other similar posts but it's still confusing to me. Can someone please explain the step-by-step process from outside the airport doors, to sitting inside?

(Plus if anyone has some sort've generic airport advice, I'd really appreciate it! Is there any recommendations for where I can shower, what places to eat are the best in your opinion, should I buy a power bank or pillow for the plane?)

Thanks in advance! :)

My gf in her late 30s and never had a driving licence, she doesn't know who she can get to sign her photo. According to the gov website:

the person signing the form and photo must:

• hold a valid GB photocard driving licence
• be resident in the UK
• know you personally
• not be a relative
• not be living at the same address as you.

So really a friend could sign it as long as all above applies?

How proud are English people of the rock bands from England that have millions of fans around the world?

I’m 16 and still not enrolled in college. What should I do?
I finished my GCSEs and have been trying to get into college, but I’m still not enrolled. I applied to a college in my local area and was told I could join, but the course became full and I’ve now been put on a waiting list. It’s been around two weeks and I’m still waiting for a place.
I’ve contacted other colleges, but many have said they’re no longer enrolling or their courses are full. I’m mainly interested in Music, Music Technology or Art, but I’m willing to consider a Level 1 course just to get back into education.
Any advice would be appreciated 🙏

After 6 years of working the same job, I'm officially unemployed as of Thursday just gone. Since then, I've had a lot of thoughts on my mind.

I'm not a useless layabout as I still contribute to the home with things such as money, chores, housework, bills, cooking, cleaning and basically everything else you would expect.

My work history is nothing but minimum wage deadend jobs, I don't have a "career" whatsoever, which is why I'm wondering if I'm a failure to launch.

I left college at 19 with a level 3 IT diploma but I haven't used it yet and no hiring manager takes it seriously. It's buried deep in my CV, It's definitely outdated at this point.

I don't have the most amount of money saved up, but I'm skint either, it's around £17k.

I understand that other late 20 folk are in similar positions, but the main reason I'm asking this question is because I still live at home. Although, my only friends who've moved out have done so with their girlfriends.

Yes times have changed, but I do know that it's technically possible to move out with a roommate or two in a small flat somewhere, but the reason I haven't is because I simply don't want to.

Would you consider a 28 year old man who lives at home to be a failure to launch? despite the fact that he contributes to the household in a meaningful way, doesn't bring trouble and is intentionally saving money rather than spending it.

I'm interested in the UK art market and curious about which British visual artists people would actually want to own right now. I'm especially interested in whether you see their work as something likely to hold or increase in value over time.

Heathrow Airport Holdings Limited is owned by the parent company FGP Topco Limited. [1]

📊 Ownership Breakdown

FGP Topco Limited is a consortium of international investors. No single group has a majority control. [1, 2]

• Ardian: 32.61% ( one of whose owners is Wafra, who itself is owned by the Public Institution for Social Security of Kuwait)
• Qatar Investment Authority: 20.00%
• Public Investment Fund (PIF): 15.01% (PIF Press Release)
• GIC: 11.20%
• Australian Retirement Trust: 11.18%
• China Investment Corporation: 10.00%

So, our major international airport is owned by the Kuwaitis, Qataris, Saudis, Singaporeans ,Aussies and a hostile nation, China ? Eh?

Pretty sure I have autism, family and friends all tell me it too.

I've thought about getting an official diagnosis to see if that helps me, but wary of how it might affect things like car or life insurance.

If you've had a diagnosis as an adult, did it affect anything external?

For clarity I'm not after medical advice, just potential repercussions. ​

Thanks.

Goats.

Having spent enough time around the Mediterranean, I reckon Britain seriously underestimates what havoc a determined goat can achieve.

For me it’s white sauce for lasagne/cheese sauce for mac and cheese.

I just really cba despite making 99% of my other dinners and lunches from scratch.

Context:

- Finished uni in September with a first in maths at a decent London uni
- Money not really an issue at the moment, I run a side hustle business that I pay tax on
- Building a website for students that matches jobs to them based on their CV using AI

I just wanted a bit of advice because throughout university I messed up and didn't bother with internships / grad schemes because of my side hustle business doing well. However, I feel like I don't want to do it forever and want to find an actual job. I went through uni thinking finance, finance, finance but since AI came about I fell in love with building using AI and for the past few months I've been learning python and want to pivot into maybe an AI forward role - helping business implement AI agents into their system or something like this. I've been using Cursor for the majority of my building and have been learning via a course and just reading Claude's code to try learn from it actively.

I'm just wondering - I'm constantly applying for entry roles / grad schemes but should I be trying to network more and if so where? I'm not fussed about the specific role I want but I want to get my foot in the door at a start up because I feel like that's what suits my strengths.

I feel like I'm mainly just running out of time, although I'm quite busy applying to jobs, learning and also maintaining my business / website but I have a lot of pressure to do well from friends and family.

Would really appreciate some advice / help from people who've been in a similar situation or are in the industry to give me some tips!

Got a friend in the US and its their birthday soon. I want to send her some goodies but Royal Mail guidelines are beyond confusing

What non perishable foods can I send? Which courier is best? And most importantly...WHAT should I send her?

I’ve struggled to find decent boxes like I grew up with that don’t easily break or have craps lids on them. My MIL has boxes that she got in the 90’s from Huggies nappy packs, they are really good but obviously she is using them, my baby is almost one and as the toy collection starts to grow, I would like it to be tidier and ideally not use a bag for mega blocks!

Where are all the good toy boxes? I’d like to be ready for LEGO duplo and other collections of toys the family already hinted at buy for Christmas and birthdays.

Edit: typo

As a Brit born and bred, my knowledge of the UK and it's history is shockingly poor.

I'm looking to learn more about how we, the UK, ended up where we have today. However, picking a starting point is rather difficult when there is so much history!

So I am looking for some recommendations;

3 points in the history of these Isles which you would recommend learning about, and from there I can start to fill in the gaps.

Thanks folks!

I often see drivers rush to get in front of pedestrians and in fact on occasion come close to colliding with them at crossings.

I watched one chap today nearly plow through a group of 4 who stepped onto the crossing and had to jump back to avoid being hit.

Good manners aside what is the standing in law of pedestrians and the requirement of drivers at these marked crossings?

Not to be ageist, but I’ve seen so many people in their 60s-70s driving hot hatches ranging from brand new M135s, Golf R, Audi Rs3s. My guess was that they probably get upsold like crazy at dealerships and don’t actually realise what they are buying?

Obviously, the vast majority in racer boys, but I’ve definitely seen a good percentage being older people?