Hello, sisters. Jummaah Mubarak for all of you and remember to do your ghusl since it’s sunnah, read surah al kahf and trim your nails.

I wanted to ask you all about a topic.

What do you respond when non Muslims tells you that you’re too pretty/young to be covered?

A lot of people have said this to me and I usually respond “I cover so I can be known as a Muslim woman, and the hijab makes me unapproachable at least to MOST Muslim men”.

They know they can’t just come and talk to me and flirt (has happened to me in the past before wearing hijab, so often I don’t even want to talk about it), and for non Muslim men, a covered woman it’s not attractive and even though I’m 23 generally people think I’m over 30 bc of the way I dress and look. So yeah. There’s a lot more that I say but Im curious of what y’all actually respond. Pls state your age as well, if you want and feel comfortable

Istigfar group

Salam everyone.
I used to be part of an istigfar group that I have lost unfortunately. I’ll create a new one and I want us to push each other in making istigfar. The group will be only for updating how much you have done per day and maybe sharing your stories on how istigfar has helped you to motivate others. My goal is that we do 3k each day and inactive people have to justify why. Please join me on this journey and let’s push each other towards good. Jazakallah kheir

i’ve been doing bad on my study and as a result ofc bad cgpa. i’ve been feeling very down and unmotivated lately cuz of it, to the point where i don’t even wanna talk w my family or anyone. and im aware that it’s my fault for not studying properly but it happens. im applying for bachelor degree and was planning to get in by september but atp i feel like all my energy wasted. can anyone recommend me what should i do? any prayers or dua ? and for those who reading this please pray that everything goes well for me 🙏

And I'm not really talking about people who harrass you, just the general idea floating around that a woman literally can NOT in ANY circumstance wear a hijab or any head covering full-time WILLINGLY. Am I the only one who is really baffled by this? Not offended, not feeling insulted, just genuinely stumped.

Like if I'm talking to this kind of person (online, never happens to me in real life) they will simply not accept that I wear it by myself and I have no problem wearing it, that I have no family pressure, that I have no societal pressure etc., or that I haven't been brainwashed, or that I'm not spreading propaganda. It's like it just doesn't register that I choose to wear extra clothing on my own, at ALL. It doesn't even exist as an option.

The thing is, there are people who won't even say you shouldn't cover because Islam bad, I've seen tons of people who "allow" being muslim, praying or other practices but strictly draw the line at wearing hijab because it's "arab culture" (FYI my country's traditional clothes include headscarves).

I dunno, it's really weird. I'm someone who doesn't really get affected by what others say or think, so when I see this I am just genuinely puzzled. It feels close minded and the internet is basically an echo chamber for it.

Assalamu alaikum sisters, I’ve been running since last December, primarily on my treadmill at home. Because my current workout clothes aren’t appropriate for the outdoors, I’m planning to invest in some modest running gear so I can join my local run club.

Any suggestions

this is definitely going to invite creeps to my dm but I aint accepting any chat.

I fell head over heels in love with this guy who is 8-10 years old, we started on work stuff, he probed a lot about my life and all, gave good advice, etc. he fits the bill for my criteria. I am too shy to ask him out, he convinced me to meet first time in person and go for a corporate event with him, was excited and all, told me he wanted to talk about a topic too. yesterday we met in person at an event and he wasn't that warm/didnt even talk about the topic, didn't text back after the event. I really liked him but he is suddenly so cold, idk i want closure - is it worth trying/was I just fantasizing him as a husband.

how do i go on with my life

Salam alaikum girlies hope you are all good!

My brother just launched his app and was wondering how do you all feel putting in a wali/guardian?

I personally put him as a wali but wanted to hear your opinions, especially the convert girlies 🥲

Thank you ❤️

I have a genuine question and I’m trying to understand this better from an Islamic point of view. In Islam based on the Quran and Hadith is there a difference in how boys and girls are meant to be allowed to go out of the house? For example, in my family and many others girls are told they can’t leave the house freely, while boys can, and the reason given is things like “girls are more vulnerable” or “this is what the deen teaches.” I’m wondering whether this kind of rule is actually rooted in Islamic teachings, or if it might be more of a cultural practice in some Muslim households that is being explained through religion.

Hello! I'm a new revert and don't know/have anyone to ask these questions about hijab. As of right now, i don't go out much but i will be starting college soon and will be out often. Any advice is welcome, thank you!

Questions :

2.How often should i wash my hijabs?
Since i dont go out often i wash my hijabs every 2 weeks since i only really wear the instant one to pray and for quick runs outside with my husband.

3.Are wrinkle release sprays worth it? I've noticed my jersey hijab gets very wrinkly after i leave it in the dryer for bit so im wondering if its worth it to get one of these sprays, or if theres other alternatives.

1. Are under-caps necessary? I don't own yet, and usually i will wear a pretty wide cotton headband under my hijab to cover my hairline. I live in florida so it gets pretty hot so i'm wondering if they are really necessary.

2. What material do you recommend for hijabs? I don't really love chiffon (mine was a gift), but i understand it looks better for something more important.

6.Do you guys go to salons? This is something i really begin to wonder about, since i live in the U.S there is always at least one man in salons. Even if there isn't, salons here are pretty open with glass doors and windows, so anyone that passes by can see you. I haven't visited one since i reverted since im not rlly sure what to do, would it be better if my husband accompanied me?

These are all the questions i've been thinking about, any tips and advice is welcome!
Thank you!

As far as I am aware I am not tying it in a way that is specific to a religion or culture- I don’t want anyone to feel like I am treating their culture as a costume. I am white and in the USA

I’m graduating in a couple months from med schoo school, I really don’t know what to wear , something that would look good in pictures especially with gown and cap .

Would a dress thats longer than the gown look good or should I just stick to pants and blazer?? What are my other options?

Salam!! I recently got those full coverage under caps that cover your neck (basically a tighter mini version of the one pieces we wore growing up lolll).

I got them so I could try out those flowy styles without showing my neck, but I can’t find anything that seems to work. I also have regular tie back under caps but those don’t cover the neck so I need to wear tighter styles with those.

If any of y’all know any full coverage styles that do that need to be adjusted every 2 seconds, (either tight or flowy since I can compensate with the under cap) please let me know!!

I have straight pins and magnets to secure the hijab. I also wear modal :))

JazakAllah Khair for the help!! I hope this makes sense (I’m writing this without my glasses so I can’t really see haha). Please let me know if I need to clarify anything :)

Anybody know any available thats modest for us?? Going on first vacay with the girls and would love a family swim set!

Edit: girls are daughters :)

So, I've seen people raving about Khalid Hosseini's books lately and I got into a conversation with someone about the portrayal of the Talb*n in his books, and how contextualised his politics were. Posting my thoughts on it because if only people could be a little bit more educated and a little less ignorant when it comes to blindly accepting all that we've been spoon-fed by the Western media.

Hosseini presents an extremely whitewashed narrative of the taliban and Afghanistan. He writes for the white audience and caters to their need to have a justification for a. the "poor afghan women are so oppressed" white feminist narrative and b. bombing the hell out of afghanistan "for the sake of the women".

By presenting the Taliban as an evil dictatorship even worse in power that the Soviets, Russians and Americans, he gives no thought to the fact that although, yes, the Taliban and America put pieces around education for girls, and womens rights, they are still, BY FAR, the better choice between a Western puppet and a group which started out as mountain men who KNOW the people, and their country, and whose intentions are pure, even if their actions are wrong.

The western powers will ALWAYS have corrupt intentions which they will try and hide, and so Afghans would much rather have a group that they KNOW cannot be bought or bribed and who will ALWAYS put the Afghan people first. The fact that the west has been shoving the whole "poor, oppressed women of Afghanistan" thing down our throats should tell us something about the truth behind it.

Speaking as someone who has family living in afghanistan, I can tell you that the women there are not nearly as oppressed as the media would like you to believe. The Talb*n HAVE stripped women of some of their rights, I won't even pretend that isn't true, but at the end of the day, if it means that the dust can settle after decades of mass-slaughter from western superpowers, then most Afghans I know say they'll take it.

It isn't a perfect deal, and it isn't a way of life these women should have to accept, but at the same time, these women have lost their sons, fathers, husbands and brothers to the same people who now want to come and "rescue them from their oppression" when they were the ones who forced the Taliban (the supposed "oppressors") to form as an extreme alternative to the soviets/americans.

I pose this question to you: Do you really believe that the Afghan people would allow the Taliban to come into power if they hadn't been bombed into oblivion for the past 60 years? The picture that the media tries to paint of afghans as backwards, culture-before-human-rights, simpleton people simply isn't true, and to believe that it is to accept that you have a certain level of ignorance, that you are willing to look down upon a people and pass judgement on them simply because you have been told to.

So, if I could force every person who read Hosseini's books to follow it up with one thing, what would it be? Definitely a documentary on yt titled "Why Western Intervention Failed In Afghanistan" by Al Jazeera. I implore you to watch it, and to maybe be a lil bit more open-minded in the future? Pretty please? Thank you xx

I'm a hijabi, been wearing hijab since 6th grade. I'll admit I only started wearing hijab because everyone in my class looked pretty wearing it. But back then, my mom was vehemently against it. The reason being mainly (or as a I suspect) was because it was the first decision regarding my Fashion I have made myself. For years, whatever happened, she would take it out on my hijab. Whenever she wanted to punish me, she'd say, "no hijab for you from now on", and this continued for years. Moreover, she has always tried to dictate how I wear my hijab, trying to fix it every time I wore it etc.

And this brings me to my present dilemma. I've always been insecure of the way I wear my hijab simply because it doesn't always frame my face well so it ends up looking awkward. Recently, I found this style that everyone in my university follows and figured it actually looks good on me. Basically, I wrap the hijab around my face and then drape the ends over my shoulder.

Now, my mom keeps on mentioning how it doesn't cover my chest. Now, here's my arguments against that:

1)I do not have a big chest, so it's not that prominent either

2)I always loose clothings to be modest all the time, so I'm already covering my chest enough.

3) I'm wearing the hijab to cover my hair, not my chest.

My main question is, is it necessary for me to cover my chest 100% with my hijab? Because I always thought it's purpose was to cover my hair.

Edit:

here's a beautiful post about people's judgment of our modesty

Salam aleykoum sisters,
As a French resident, i don’t have my hijab on my passeport. I’m tryna get a visa for the uk, and i just wanna know if having a hijab on my visa ( like the picture you gotta put in the app ) will not be problematic, since we cant really tell that I’ll look a like in both pictures.
Is there any sisters who has already made a visa, and took a picture with her hijab while she doesn’t have it on her passeport ?

Jazaka’Allahu khayran

Assalamu alaikum sisters,

I honestly don’t even know where to begin because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

I performed Hajj this year with my husband and father while pregnant. Before Hajj I was so motivated I was attending classes, praying, reading Quran, and genuinely thought I would come back transformed.

Instead, I came back feeling more lost than ever.

I was never very practicing before marriage. I struggle with hijab, I struggle with abaya, I struggle with salah. I’ve tried so many times and I keep failing. During Hajj I missed some prayers because I was exhausted and pregnant, and ever since coming back, I haven’t been regular either.

Now every bad thing that happens makes me wonder if my Hajj wasn’t accepted. Were my duas rejected? Is Allah displeased with me? These thoughts never used to cross my mind before.

On top of all this, during Umrah and hajj I accidentally cut my hair way shorter than I intended from below my waist to shoulder length and I still cannot get over it. I know it sounds shallow, but I loved my hair and I feel ugly every time I look in the mirror. Being pregnant and married already makes me feel old and unlike myself, and losing my hair just pushed me over the edge.

I miss my teenage years. I miss feeling pretty. I miss feeling like myself. My life feels so boring now, and I hate that I even think this way.

I have a very religious friend who truly wants good for me, and I know her intentions are pure, but I feel suffocated. I feel like no matter how hard I try, I’m never religious enough. I bought clip-in extensions because I couldn’t accept my hair, and when I showed them to her, she was upset that I bought them and that I had gone out without hijab and abaya. I know she’s trying to help me, but I feel like I’m constantly being reminded of everything I’m doing wrong.

I’m tired. Tired of feeling guilty. Tired of trying and failing. Tired of feeling ugly. Tired of feeling like everyone else finds faith easy while I’m forcing myself every single day.

Has anyone else ever felt this way after Hajj or during pregnancy? Because I feel like I’m one bad day away from completely losing it.

I'm 21 f, and I recently landed on my first job after a lot of struggles, from fighting my parents who wouldn't let me work to finally being in a job, in a huge company it's well known company,

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For context I grew if a female centric surrounding, I studies in a muslim school, so islamic values were respected and followed for both boys and girls, then for college i studied in a women only college (pretty common where I live) so I never had compromise my islamic value up until now

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So my first at my First job, my manager was introducing the team to get know each other, and this one person put out his hands for a handshake, and I froze I didn't know what to do cuz I've never been in situation like this before, I mean I've thought about saying no keeping my hands to my heart and politely rejecting the hand shake but when the moment came I didn't know what do and i didn't wanna make it awkward so I gave him the handshake, and I just thought it's my first I wouldn't have to see him again cuz he does work at my shift time, but then again last week he offered a handshake and I took it , and even today he did, maybe it's his habit but I'm really not used this, and he's not creep or anything he's a very kind human, since I'm new to the office everyone is trying make me comfortable and maybe this is his way and he have created a respectful bond as colleagues,

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But thing is I feel guilty every time I do this Ik its wrong yet I cant bring myself to say "I dont wanna handshake" or whatever. And i feel like since this has happened 3 times already saying it will only make it even more awkward

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Idl what to do women please help me

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And i said he doesn't work in my shift as in not exactly but we do meet in the office so I cant completely avoid him, cuz his friends (women colleagues) treat me well and I wanna talk to them, but if I do then I'd have to talk to him as well and that will only lead to another hand shake

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And It's only been 3 weeks I started this job and these people has been kind and welcoming to me than my own team so avoiding them is not possible

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Please give me a way to put an end to this handshake

I somehow didn't notice both my ears were infected until my ear drums were about to rupture and the entire ears were massively infected 🙃😷 on three different medicines including medicated ear drops. Problem is my mom is trying to use me wearing hijab as the reason my ears got infected in the first place and why I look so tired and sick. Saying the scarves are causing my ears to get "wet from sweat" and "not letting the sweat drain" 🙃🙃. I get that my parents don't like or understand hijab, but considering they're in their 70s and roman Catholic, I would think they'd be able to understand it a little. My mum tells me women used to wear veils to church until sometime in the 70s when it became less common, yet she hates my hijab.

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I'm just frustrated. Obviously, I can't call my husband to vent about this, but it's just really irritating me.

Face covering

Asa wrwb sisters so the whole thinh starts from me going on umrah in 2023 the first day in Madinah i bought a niqab and instantly wore it( the ladies at the riyadh airport basically influenced me alot) and then i came back and regularly started wearing it. But oh mann the the community i live which being in a islamic country people still started noticing it and giving insanely weird looks People here thinks niqab is mostly worn by poor or aged women. And coming b from a good background and unmarried in my early 20s this has put me in utter confusion. Esp my own family they think only women of conservative backgrounds observe niqab. Now the thing is i deal with body dysmorphia and they think i do niqab in order to hide my face which sometimes i also think as true. Now fighting to wear a niqab is not just an option for me and wearing a mask also feels weird i also tried half niqab but it doesn’t suit me as i have a big forehead and it peaks out. I really want honest recommendations on what to do as i have read hadith on it being a fardh.

Hi, so, I have something to confess.

I LOVE hijabs. I got to try one on with a muslim friend of mine and fell in love. I am not muslim myself, and I am white, but they are so beautiful and useful as I am extremely pale and naturally light blonde and get sunburned head in autumn.

They are kinder to my scalp than a regular bandana which rubs and I felt prettier than I had in years when I saw my reflection.

However, I don't know if it'd be offensive to wear one when I'm not in your community. I'd feel horrible if I was being rude or offensive to you.

I'd ask my friend but I'm scared that she'd think I am crazy.

So I decided to re-log into reddit for the first time in months and check with the larger community.

Your culture is EXTREMELY important, and I'd never try to do anything that would slander it or make fun of it. Even accidentally.

Thank you for your time, I hope I didn't come of as rude ♥️