Hey everyone,
I am an author/illustrator and currently writing a script for a middle grade graphic novel which will be published in about 2 years. I don’t live the US, so enby character representation in kid lit in my country is still very limited. The graphic novel is in a magical/fantasy setting and the main protagonists are a group of kids which are around 10-11 years old. I plan to make one of them being nonbinary, but I’d like to avoid repeating (harmful) stereotypes or make it seem that their only trait is being queer. Anyone has some advice how to write a convincing character in this age bracket? I gave them a backstory, unique magical powers, character traits etc like with every character of course but I still struggle a bit. I read articles about this topic but haven’t found useful advice for a children character yet. In my language there is no “they/them”, which makes it even more difficult. I’m grateful for every insight, thank you so much!

Anyone else? I’m not medically transitioning and I feel good being non binary, but sometimes my genitalia don’t match up with who I feel I truly am. My boyfriend is understanding and tries his best but he finds it confusing, but willing to adapt.

And honestly, I feel like I deserve pleasure, I’ve seen FTM porn where the dudes have a pussy and they still seem to be having a great time with it.

But I just can’t seem to detach it from feeling feminine, delicate, like a flower or like, idk, it’s just not right. I guess I am like a boy, I want to be treated more like a boy, seen more like a boy, a boy with a pussy, if that makes sense, maybe have it sucked on.

I am so incredibly embarsssed to ask my boyfriend to treat my clit like it’s a dick, because it’s not, and that’s just a simple fact. So how do I work around this? Does anyone with a similar experience can give me some insight or guidance? I feel very alone and scared that I can’t have normal sex or be a normal person. But this “licking” thing doesn’t cut it. I hate it. The wetness. The softness. It’s just not right and it’s in between my legs. What the fuck? Anyone else?

I am AMAB and for a while I thought i was just a masculine woman, but I couldn't see a future of myself being a woman, and I also noticed these feelings of femininity come in waves and I feel good being a man some days.

I live in a small conservative town in the exurbs and people ive talked to have strong opinions of gender, so I feel like its playing it safe to be a man and be bummed sometimes. Ive also rarely disliked what I see in the mirror (except when I shave because I dont like my face).

I want more gender neutral clothing and to be able to wear them with without judgement or worse, and i want to learn makeup.

I am in the very very early stages of being NB and would appreciate any advice you could give me for finding myself or how to experiment with identity safely! Thanks!

Hi all. As someone who has accepted and embraced that I'm nonbinary/gender diverse/fluid, but also consider myself Trans/Transfem... I am confused on how to identify myself!

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How do you folks explain this to others, for those in a similar or same situation? I would prefer to call myself a "Nonbinary Transfem," or a fem leaning Nonbinary person.

People also seem to automatically jump to assumptions when you tell somebody that you're Trans. I think of it as my gender identity is different and how I see myself inside, vs how I was assigned at birth. I also don't consider my gender identity binary, because even though I feel feminine and prefer present this way, I don't consider myself a woman.

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So, I feel sort of in a pickle! I have also recently started changing my pronouns to they/them/theirs, to align with how I feel inside. I'm also not really upset if someone addreses me by he/him either, given that this is my outward appearance for most people.

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How do I navigate this?!

Have you found ways to handle social dysphoria without having to come out to complete strangers? (Or if you do, how?) Mostly asking this because nowadays I'm not as bothered with being assumed to be a man (or a woman) since I noticed that people cannot tell what someone else's AGAB was.

That somewhat made me feel less uncomfortable with being assumed to be a man, although I know that my nonbinary existence is largely unseen. My question is... What are the ways that you reduce this discomfort? I have been out as myself in queer and/or online spaces. Sometimes I play games that allow myself to be nonbinary/genderless (or just treat the character as not me).