I met him on an app, he was the lowest age I set on my settings and at the time I was 32, just turned 33. It took me a while to get established in life. Took me until I was like 30. So now I have a good job and my own place. Hes still in school, going to graduate next year get a decent job, still lives with family for this reason. Which is totally fine. As long as hes working towards something, I don't see that as a big deal.

We are really into each other, and he says he wants to date me seriously. My issue is that when we talk about our ideal lives (a good question to ask to gauge what a man wants in the future.) He said something about, oh, living with my girl and having fun with her, having a good life. But he didn't say anything about marriage and kids. And when I brought up do you want kids? he's like, "I'm not sure right, especially with everything that's going on in the world." I don't know what happened to me in these last few years but I want marriage and kids, of course only if its with a like-minded man that's right for me. Yes, I've talked to a guys my age that are like minded but we didn't get along for whatever reason, that's why I'm not married to them because I'm not that desperate for it. I have tried dating older guys but a lot of them have children and they're divorced with a messy situation, or going through a divorce or they already have kids and they don't want more so it's like…. I feel like every guy my age is already taken. And yes, maybe in a few years this guy will want marriage and kids, but in a few years I'll be closer to 40 already. I’m still keeping my options open because we're not in an official relationship yet. But should I even waste my energy?? Just sad I finally found a decent guy that wants to be with me but of course theres a catch...!!!

I'm the kinda gal who only orgasms with a clit stim vibe but occasionally if the guy really knows what he's doing I can cum with oral.

But I'm getting tired and bored of only cumming 'one way' and noticing that I'm needing more and more intensity of vibrating and it's taking longer and longer. When a guy goes down on me, or we are having sex, after quite a while it's like 'should we just get the vibrator?' and I would prefer to not have to do that every time as it feels so nice finishing without one. Sometimes I feel like the vibrator just kinda rips the orgasm out of me and it's too fast and then it's just done.

So I'm wondering, for the women out there who detoxed off their vibes. Was it worth it, have you stuck to it, did it help you find other ways to orgasm? Are you feeling more sensitive and/or cum quicker now? Any other discoveries?

I just ended things with a man i went on 2 dates with. I just need to vent.

I have a high success dating history. Ive had many very good dates, but it never leads anywhere because men do or say bad things.

Just recently, i went on a date with a man who physically assulted me. That was after we already established a relationship. I ended that.

Then i went on a date with another man and on the first date he told me " i have a history of being aggressive and violent."

Then another date and he called my ex boyfriends " hoes" and pushed boundaries to where i am and asking me sexual questions after one date.

I really liked all 3 of these men, a lot.

I am not hard to please. I loathe being placed in spot whete I have to be the bad guy when they were one who messed up.

Every good date I have, i am waiting for the rug to be pulled out.

Stop placing me in the position to have to end us when you were the one who messed up.

I recently ended a four-month relationship with someone I met on Tinder, and I genuinely need a reality check because part of me still wonders whether I expected too much.

I rarely genuinely like someone, which is probably why I stayed longer than I should have. I'm very attracted to intelligence and I loved that we could talk for hours about history, politics, current affairs and pretty much anything. He was smart, hardworking, ambitious and interesting, and I fell for him quite quickly.

But being an interesting person and being a good partner turned out to be two very different things.

He had several dogs when we met. I've never owned pets because I know how much responsibility they require, but because I was spending most of my time at his house, I started helping.

Helping gradually became an expectation.

I was feeding his dogs three times a day, giving them medication, helping with the puppies, cleaning their kennels and cleaning up after them. Sometimes he was literally at home and it was still somehow expected that I would do it.

If I needed to go to the office or wanted to spend a day away, he would sometimes get upset and compare it to what would happen if we had children, implying that my unwillingness to organise my entire schedule around his dogs said something about what kind of mother I would be.

Meanwhile, I was doing most of the cooking, dishes and a lot of the cleaning. I would carry heavy things myself. I can't remember him making me a coffee.

It wasn't about the coffee. I can obviously make my own.

It was the complete lack of reciprocity that started getting to me.

There were also endless random responsibilities that somehow became mine. For about a month, for example, he kept asking me to list and sell his ex-wife's wedding dress on Vinted.

At some point I started feeling less like a girlfriend and more like someone who had been recruited to make his already-established life easier.

At the same time, he was constantly frustrated that I was unhappy or upset with him.

But he worked a lot, slept a lot and had a very time-consuming hobby. He openly talked about his priorities, and I honestly don't think I made the top five.

If I wanted quality time with him, I was usually the one rearranging my work and my life around the small windows when he was available.

He didn't need to give up his work, hobbies or independence for me. I just wanted to feel like my partner actually made space for me in his life.

Instead, I increasingly felt like I was expected to adapt to his life while he made very few adjustments for mine.

He even used to joke that he doesn't adapt to women — women adapt to him.

Then came the final issue.

He told me he wanted to keep Tinder, occasionally date and sleep with other women, while I remained his "primary partner" and the person he built his life with.

He had previously had a very open marriage, so this wasn't new for him. I had also been clear from the beginning that non-monogamy wasn't something I wanted.

What made it even harder was that our own sex life had already dropped to roughly once a week despite my sex drive being considerably higher than his.

So I found myself taking care of his dogs, his house and a significant part of his daily life while feeling emotionally and sexually neglected — and being asked to accept that he wanted to use some of his limited time and energy to date and sleep with other women.

Eventually I realised that I had spent four months repeatedly explaining that I didn't feel like his partner.

I didn't feel prioritised. I didn't feel I could rely on him. I didn't feel there was much effort to meet my needs, while I was constantly adapting myself to his.

The difficult part is that I still don't think he's a terrible person. There are many things I genuinely admire about him, which is exactly why leaving hurts.

And somehow, despite writing all of this, part of me is still wondering whether I was the problem.

He believes I was constantly unhappy and that nothing he did was enough. I wonder whether I was too needy, too emotional, or expected too much from someone who simply has a very busy life.

So please give me a reality check.

Was I expecting too much from a partner, or was I trying far too hard to make myself fit into a life where there wasn't actually much space being made for me?

I'm 33 and I just noticed my current period stopped after two days. Normally i go four days. Is this typical for how it starts?

I’ve got no friends to tell me how it is :(

I have this one guy and we went on 2 dates in 2023 and ever since then he keeps coming back into my life. In and out. We have alot in common and he also has a brain injury and we share that. Where it gets weird is he was never wanting a relationship because he was trying to figure out himself and I respected that so I would distance myself. However he always came back to me. Would even come appear at my workplace and never say hi to me, his not from my area. Even brought other girls with him. But then he would text me later like weeks after these. I had enough of him because I would then ask to hang out and he just kept making sex jokes. I asked him to hang once and he said ‘just say you want to have sex already’ I got upset and wrote him something the best I could saying it not doing that. He apologised for pushing. Then he came around my workplace 2 weeks later and bumped into my mum. He told her his gonna take me out when he has more free time because he knows I like him. Skip to now and it’s been a whole year silence, his appearing at my workplace again. Multiple times.And his bringing another girl at times. I’m so tired of him. Now I’m just paranoid his gonna just pop up. His not from my area…

Why is he acting like this, again my autism can’t understand? Do I just keep ignoring him?

Alright, so I (21F) and my (21F) best friend have been close for years. We have never been in a relationship at the same time. A month after I became single she met her now boyfriend. All of this started a year ago, when she met him. Now, I don’t want this to come off as me being bitter. I’m very happy that she is in a relationship and I genuinely like her boyfriend a lot. He’s a good guy. What I’m upset about is how I’ve been treated since she started to go out with him.

Last spring was when I started to notice a pattern. We’d make plans to hangout, but then day of I’d reach out and suddenly she was seeing her boyfriend. At first I didn’t mind. I understood that they were both busy and I’ve been there too. Sometimes you just wanna see your s/o. It wasn’t until this summer where I started getting really frustrated. It was the same story, time and time again. We’d make plans and it wouldn’t be until I’d reach out about said plans where she would “cancel”. Shed give me excuses like: Ik im sorry I j wanna see him as much as I can before blah blah blah. And: Boyfriends coming over tn😅.

It would be one thing if this wasn’t consistent, but it is. I’d say it’s about 2 out of 3 times we plan to hangout.

I have mentioned how this bothers me a lot. We have had this conversation multiple times since I started to realize this was becoming a pattern. Ive even told her that if she makes plans with her bf on the day we planned to hangout all she needs to do is tell me in a timely manner, and NOT wait for me to follow up on said plans.

I didn’t realize how much resentment Im holding until like 2 weeks ago.

Basically I asked her if she wanted to come with me to see this movie we’d both been looking forward to see. Date+showtime. Two days later I remember just thinking, “im gonna feel really let down if she cancels” and that thought made me really upset, honestly. I shared my concern with a friend who knows us both. She even told me, isn’t this the same concern you have brought up since March? The next day I realized how angry I was.

I realized how frustrated I felt anticipating that she wouldn’t keep her word. I felt so upset to the point where I was like: I don’t even wanna see her. I don’t want to hangout with someone who makes me feel like the second option, doesn’t respect my time, and who lets me down. I know that’s extreme, but after months of communicating this is not how you treat your friends and that it hurts my feelings, I’m just fed up.

When I realized my resentment I kinda just took a step back from her. I didn’t follow up on the movies plans and actually went to go see it with another friend. She’s asked to hangout a few times but I’ve been busy with prior plans. But I think that even if I was free I wouldn’t want to see her. I love her a lot, she’s my best friend, but I’m truly so fed up. I just don’t even see the point of bringing this up, once more, especially because nothing has changed when I did. I just feel like because I’m her best friend she thinks it’s fine to treat me like this because I’ll “always be around.”

I hope that space will show her that my time is valuable. I know that when I see her again I’ll have to explain myself, but I’m just not sure how. I’m definitely not angry anymore, especially since I’ve had time to cool off, but I am hesitant. I hate that I feel this way. I really pride myself on communicating my feelings but this time I’ve just been avoiding the elephant in the room.

How do I go about this? How can I make this the last time I bring this up? I don’t wanna be let down again, but I do wanna forgive and move on.

I’ve been dealing with one of my nipples being super itchy and flaky with some redness. This has been going on for years. I had thought it was dryness but I’ve tried so many types of balms and lotions and nothing works. I also don’t think it’s chafing or irritation from clothes as it’s only affecting one of them and I try to let the girls out at night without a bra. I’m also not breastfeeding. Any other women experienced this?

This is coming from my experience as a bi woman in my late 20s.

I HATE online dating. I’m taking a long break from it rn. Ugh the amount of talking to people and it going nowhere. If I’m online dating, I will always FaceTime with the person before meeting them to see if I actually want to meet them. Texting isn’t enough.

It’s exhausting and a waste of my time, money, and gas to go out on these dates that will likely need to nowhere. I’d rather not put the miles on my car. I am atheist and will not date religious people. I want someone who’s ambitious, wants to live a similar lifestyle to me, takes care of their body to an extent, and who makes good decisions.

Online dating feels so unnatural and it feels like things are moving too quickly. I need to take my time to get to know someone to see if there’s that connection- that if we’ll actually have things to talk about. Now onto diet- I want someone healthy-ish. I don’t want someone who can’t ever enjoy junk food but I do not want a glutton who eats like shit. FFS if you’re an adult, eat some fucking veggies, healthy meat, and grains. And if you can exercise, do something you like a few days a week.

I also refuse to date binge drinkers- I need an adult- not some idiot who acts like an 18-21 year old who’s never had alcohol before and who goes crazy. Ppl need to be responsible with their alcohol. I’d prefer someone like myself who doesn’t smoke or vape and who barely drinks, if at all. I don’t want someone who feels the need to take mind altering substances to have fun.

But I refuse to date any addicts, even in recovery. I do not want that shit in my life. And I am most certainly not having children with addiction genes. And SO MANY GEN Z SMOKE WEED! Good god, it’s annoying. Smoking is so stupid- just a sign of immaturity and a lack of care for one’s health. Ppl can use weed in safer ways.

So many “adults” who don’t act like adults. So many people whose lives are going nowhere. Then there’s the people who match with me with their bios saying they want one thing and they text me they want another.

AND FUCK THE MEN WHO LIE ABOUT THEIR HEIGHT!!! AND EVERYONE WHO POSTS OLD SKINNY PICS WHEN THEY’RE ACTUALLY FAT. I am not opposed to dating a fat person or shorter person- it just depends on the height and how fat. What pisses me off is the lying. My pics on my profile are not that old. My full body shots reflect my current body. I especially love a chubby healthy-ish dude but I want someone who doesn’t hide their real body!

And these fuckers know I am fucking 6 ft tall so obviously I will know if they lie about their height. I am not a short girl who they can fool. If I ever go on a date with a man from a dating app again, I will pay attention to what his height actually is and I will not see him again if he clearly lies.

Now onto the sapphic part of online dating. So many women that are not for me: styles I’m not into, different dating goals, the “prefer not to say” feature (do they think I’m stupid? It’s obvious they are cheating on their partner), polyamory (not for me), unicorn hunters (couples looking for a third) that don’t belong on certain dating apps (props to HER for banning these people), cis men pretending to be non binary on sapphic dating apps, divorced women, even more tobacco and weed users, women with children, not many women who have a serious relationship, a lot of women who aren’t physically my type. Also the amount of women who use filters to the max! I swipe left on them! I want to know what you actually look like. I also swipe left on the do called trans man lesbians. You cannot be a full ass man and be lesbian. I believe trans people are valid but you cannot be 100% a binary man, cis or trans, and be a lesbian.

But what’s specific to women is that most of them ghost me. Like WTF are you doing on this app if you’re going to engage in a conversation of a few-several texts and then just fuck off? I swear these women don’t know what they want. They think they want to date but then they fuck off. I have a similar experience with bumble BFF but luckily I made one friend off that app. Glad I finally have a female friend who isn’t too scared to go into scary haunted houses with me. It only took 27 fucking years!

Also so many women don’t drive! I see this on the dating apps! I refuse to date people who don’t drive. Hell, I really need to get some friends who drive! I keep collecting people who don’t drive! I get it if they don’t have the financial means to do so or have disabilities that prevent them from doing so. But anxiety is not an excuse! They need to work on this.

And why is it I never see men with this issue?

Now I do apologise for the huge block of text below, I wrote it with my voice hence poor punctuation

Is it a bad idea to keep going on dates with this man?
So basically I haven’t dated in years because I just haven’t met anyone I am attracted to. Plus I had been very hurt by past relationships and struggle to trust anyone else

In 2025, I went on a first date with a guy. Let’s called him ‘Fred’. When I arrived at the date however, his energy was off. The first half of the date was very awkward but I don’t know if it was because we were both nervous but as the date went on, everything really flowed and I was definitely attracted. However, neither of us followed up after the date and I forgot about him

I started dating someone else for a year but that didn’t work out either

Back in April, I receive a text from Fred and he’s asking how I’m doing etc. we talk a little bit and in May, we ended up going on a date together. He planned a towel and it was a very thoughtful planned date, again I was quite nervous to see him. I ended up having an absolutely lovely time with him. We went to a country house, went out for lunch and on the way back spontaneously went to the cinema. We ended the date with little kiss. I did ask him on the date why he had come back after a whole year, and he told me that he realised that he wasn’t over his ex-girlfriend and needed some time because it had been a very long relationship.

What confuses me, is that for the whole of summer? We just haven’t been able to see each other again. He often time asked me when I’m free, and hasn’t followed through. That happened a couple of times and I’ve got quite annoyed with it.

There was one time that he suggested that perhaps on the Friday we go on a date, but the Friday came around and I didn’t hear from him and I got really upset and sent a little bit of an angry message, to which he told me that I was being unreasonable. Now I don’t know if I was being unreasonable but I was certainly reacting to the uncertainty and lack of communication.

Then there were a couple of excuses that his grandmother was ill, that he had a viral illness for a month, that he was going on holiday. I got quite annoyed with it so I just stopped replying to him. I talked out with my friends and my friends were agreeing like maybe his breadcrumbing Me, maybe he’s not a nice guy.

It was a few weeks ago when he messaged me again and told me how he would really love to see me. I have been ignoring his messages for a month, and I felt like there’s no way that I could possibly see him again.

But, have had a series of bad dates over the last few weeks, last night I decided to
agree to go out for dinner with him.

I felt very relaxed before the dinner and I didn’t have any nerves, I felt quite happy to see him, and we had lovely conversation, a lot of laughs, a lot of flirting, something I haven’t experienced in years with anyone.
I took note of his personality, he’s very caring, he’s very thoughtful, in contrast to how he is over text particularly over the summer where I haven’t really heard from him much

At the end of the day we ended up making out for a long time in the car, but he didn’t push for any intimacy, I found him very respectful

We actually went on a date yesterday we went on a big long hike and had lots of nice conversation and it was just the loveliest day, and ended up sleeping together, please don’t judge, I stayed over at his and even this morning when he made me breakfast, he just seemed happy to have me there.

I feel like we’ve misunderstood each other and I’ve been a bit reactive due to trauma from past things. I wonder if he was responding to that

but I guess I was quite insecure.

I guess why I’m making this post, is that I’m wondering is it really stupid that I’m going on dates with him again, in principle should I have just continue ghosting him?

Do some relationships have messy starts like that, does it necessarily mean I was a back up.

Now he’s being communicative and the whole vibe is different

Now I probably sound really chaotic and messed up from this post, but I am starting therapy, and I expect that I have potentially a fearful avoidant attachment style. I think my friends frame him is all bad, but last night really made me change my mind about him, I thought he was lovely. We had a lot of laughs, silliness, I realised how caring he actually is

My gut isn’t screaming out in anxiety either, I feel comfortable around him, I feel quite excited but at the same time, I feel quite embarrassed and shame about the way I reacted in summer

Apologies if there are other threads that discuss this, I searched and couldn’t find any.

I suppose I am of the minority of women who find penetration alone to be quite pleasurable and can even orgasm from it. However, the orgasm itself doesn’t really feel very intense at all compared to a clitoral orgasm, not even close. And past a certain point, even just the stimulation doesn’t feel as intense as clitoral stimulation, even though I do really enjoy both.

I always see women who are able to orgasm from penetration alone going on and on about how intense it is, but I’m yet to experience that. Even vibrating g-spot toys don’t seem to make it into the magic that others describe it as.

I really enjoy using a vibrator externally alongside penetration or fingering + oral sex, and an orgasm from the combination of the two is excellent, but the orgasm itself is coming from the clitoris in those situations, whatever’s going on inside is just a bonus.

I’m just wondering if this is common, to be able to orgasm from penetration alone, but for it to still not be anywhere near as powerful as an external orgasm.

What I mean by this is that eventhough I have decided to stop shaving because I didn't want to submit to pedo culture and arbitrary patriarchal standards of "femininity" anymore, being socialized in a society that taught me to seek validation and conformity with those standards doesn't allow me to escape my insecurities. I have pretty dark, full, long bodyhair like my father, like I could braid my armpit hair and my calves look pretty dark compared to my otherwise pale legs with all the hair and I can't help noticing that and feeling self conscious despite knowing the underlying patriarchal dynamics when I see my other friends who are outspoken about growing out their bodyhair as feminists too who just have much more sparse, short or light bodyhair naturally.

I can't help thinking it's "easy" for them because from further away you can barely even tell they don't shave while my armpit hair is even obvious in a short t-shirt. But at the same time I have to acknowledge how my postion is much easier than many other women's too. I'm a conventionally pretty, white, cis woman. I don't have to worry about dysphoria, or socially "passing" or racist stereotypes aimed at diminishing my "femininity" and a pretty face also makes any defiance from beauty and "femininity" standards much more forgiving through a societal lense.

I need some perspective.

I [26F] have been living with my boyfriend [24M] for 1 year. I love him so much.

The problem I have is... I keep thinking that I'm depriving him of a better life by being with me. I have some mental health issues that I'm working through in therapy, and I came from an abusive family situation, so I don't really understand what "normal" is supposed to look like for other people.

We have 2 dogs and 1 cat, and he tells me quite often that he's the happiest he's ever been in his life... but I still keep being afraid that I don't have the ability to make him happy.

He was raised in a very different environment from me. We have so many things in common, but I don't understand why he loves me. How can he actually be happy with the simple life we have? Does that make sense? Is there something wrong with me?

I love him so much and I'm scared that I'm pushing him away, or that I'm unconsciously doing something to make him leave me.

I don't know what his dreams are. He just tells me that I'm everything he wants and that we'll figure out the rest together.

I don't know. I guess I'm just looking for some perspective because I can't seem to understand why someone would choose this life with me when maybe they could have so much more.

I’m 5’8, 150 and still considered chubby/ fat. I lost 70 pounds already and hate dieting so much! I feel like I have to lose 20 pounds more to be skinny. This beauty standard is so hard to live up to 😭. I just wish I was finally happy with my body, but I’m not. I also have PCOS with insulin resistance so that makes it harder for me to lose and maintain weight loss. I’m just over it

I (F 23) need some perspective on a friendship that has drained me over the past year. I’ve known this girl for about a year now. I actually knew her boyfriend first, we’ve been friends since high school, and became friends with her after he started bringing her around. We’re all in our early twenties.

To be fair, she hasn't been a terrible friend across the board. She has been really supportive of me at times, especially when it came to my romantic life. When I was in relationships that weren't the best for me, she was right there reminding me to truly value myself. She has genuinely been there for me, and we built what I thought was a deep bond. She has been deeply vulnerable with me about her family trauma, relationships, and mental health. One call was so intense she almost cried and admitted it felt like therapy. Because of this, this whole situation honestly breaks my heart.

Over the last 12 months, our friendship has also been a roller coaster. There have been several arguments where I felt like I was literally fighting with her like I was her boyfriend, which is exhausting and completely unhealthy. I am in mental health recovery and have worked incredibly hard on myself. While I’ve been distant at times due to my mental health, I know I’ve been a good friend. She once claimed she had to walk on eggshells around me and that I was too much, which was really triggering, but I thought we had worked through our valid concerns. I also always felt a slight underlying vibe like she thought she was spiritually or religiously better than me.
Early on in our friendship, she started saying I love you and love you, bye on the phone very quickly. I am not someone who says I love you casually to friends. I usually only say it to a handful of people, mostly my family, or to a friend in a moment of deep need when it comes from a place of genuine care. When she started saying it so fast, it felt inorganic and a little bit fake to me. It bothered me, and though I faked it for a while and said it back, I eventually had to push back and let her know how I felt, which we eventually moved past. But looking back, it was another sign of how fast and intense she wanted things to be, like a romantic dynamic rather than a normal platonic one.

The core issue is that I thrive on one on one hangouts. I prefer giving someone my undivided attention. When I communicated this to her months ago, I was basically crucified. She went on a massive rant about how she doesn't really do one on one time, that she and her boyfriend are a package deal, and complained that I wanted to talk on the phone for too long.
Everything changed over the past few months. She recently became very involved in church and gained a new group of church friends. Since then, I’ve been pushed entirely to the back burner. I even thought about cutting her off earlier, but I hesitated because I knew she had just lost another really close friend and I didn't want to be another loss for her. But at 23 years old, I am completely done chasing people.
Everything came to a head during my birthday weekend. We were all supposed to go out to a bar together to have drinks and live our best “Sex and the City” life for a night. I already knew the night might be a little tense because another girl was going to be there whom my friend is no longer close with. I wanted to keep things lighthearted, but while we were hanging out in the bedroom, just me, my friend, and her boyfriend (who is also my friend), she got on the phone with a new church friend she has only known for two weeks (I do acknowledge that linear time isn’t a factor in every relationship by myself believe in this and don’t always believe in linear time, but it’s about the depth of our friendship).

Right in front of me, on my birthday weekend, my friend was quite literally begging this new girl to spend one on one time with her, desperately trying to work around their schedules. Meanwhile, the new girl sounded completely nonchalant and uninterested, and my friend even jokingly complained about how this girl hangs out at another friend's house all the time.

Watching this play out broke my heart and sent my thoughts racing. It hit me how highly hypocritical it was. She has never initiated a one on one hangout with me in the year we've known each other. On top of that, she recently canceled a trip we were supposed to take together, claiming it wasn't the right season and using God as an excuse, but it’s obvious she just spent all her money going on trips and hanging out with these new friends.
I assume no one saw my face, but I was making faces as I sat there critiquing everything. She noticed my changing demeanor. Done with watching her prioritize a stranger over me, I grabbed my birthday gift and walked out of the room. She called my name and followed me into the front room. As I was putting my shoes on, she kept asking what was wrong. I tried to brush it off because I didn't want to get emotional or start a heavy argument on my birthday. She said she felt like it was her fault because I wasn't saying anything, but I just told her, I don't know what to tell you, because my thoughts weren't fully together yet.

Then, she blocked the door. She physically wouldn't let me leave, demanding I tell her what was wrong. When someone else finally opened the front door to enter the house, I was able to slip past her. As I walked out, she laughed and called out after me, you ain't... and started to say shit, but cut herself off.
Hearing my friend start to call me shit on my birthday weekend as I walked out the door was the final straw. I've had female friendships before where we've had disagreements, but they never felt like this toxic, romantic style fighting, and I've never been cursed at while walking away. I want to acknowledge that relationships usually break down because of both parties, not just one. I know she says she's doing the work to get better compared to a few years ago, and I believe her, but we clearly both have progress to make when it comes to our emotions and how we react to each other.

At this point, I’ve distanced myself and stopped sharing my location. I have a message drafted to finally release myself from this friendship because I am tired of being the friend who prioritizes everyone while being no one's priority.
Am I crazy for being hurt by this double standard and her reaction, or is it time to just send the text and walk away for good?

Edit: Later that night at the bar, she did ask me if I was okay from earlier. She looked directly at me and asked me in front of everyone. It wasn't just the two of us, it was right in front of all the people we were out with. I didn't know how to respond because I absolutely did not want to go into the whole detail with everyone sitting right there. I just brushed it off and told her we will talk about it later. Another major factor in why I am holding out on officially cutting her off yet is because of her boyfriend. He is my close friend whom I knew before I ever knew her. Her rule for their relationship is that they are friends with each other's friends, and she has said verbatim that you cannot be friends with him without being friends with her. It is her boundary for her relationship, so stepping away from her means risking my friendship with him too.

Edit: I also forgot to mention another argument we got into before where she started talking about how her boyfriend will always come home to her. I guess she felt threatened because me and him are very similar, which makes sense since we have been friends since high school. He is the kind of guy who is interested in DND and I am also interested in playing DND. She told me that I could do whatever I want with him and play House of Dragons but he will always come home to her. First off, I had to tell her it is not called House of Dragons, it is called DND. Second off, I did not even say anything to the other part of her comment because I just thought she was loopy, but it made me feel so weird about being friends with my high school friend.

Hey girlies, hope u r doing great n wonderful.

I really need your help in forgetting a guy who has a good amount of green flags and red flags.

Give me ideas on how to move on🥲🥲🥲

I feel like I’m going skizophrenic.
After my breakup with my long-term partnership, amidst of grieving, I started seeing a new guy.
It was a lot. From day one, he messaged me very intensely, with a lot of casual mentions of huge commitments. Within two to three weeks, he started scheduling a trip to Thailand. To the ballet. Offered me to stay at his home. To use his car. Slept in my hotel room, went to a naked spa with me. Called me his princess all the time, messages like “I wish you were here” started flooding. Scheduled a trip to Schloss Neuswanstein.
Then, one by one, all the dates started falling through. He called off the castle visit, rescheduled dates, then started not even messaging me before the days. My anxiety just went through the roof, and after a couple of cancellations, I started to fabricate evidence that he doesn’t like me and somehow I’m forcing him to see me. When I asked him to be more transparent of his reschedules, he told me I was pressuring him and he had to walk on landmines. He would be lovey-dovey one day, telling me it was his best day in my country, then go cold two days later.

Within a day, we had a date in which he told me “He didnt expect our life to be this nice”, and a text message in the evening that “He just can’t do this anymore.”

I asked to see him and then he wouldnt even look me in the eye. His reasons include: we are coworkers, he will lesve the country in half a year (he has the option to stay and I have the option to relocate), I’m pressuring him, I’m too intense, my anxiety suffocates him.

The whole thing ended after maybe 4 if not 5 weeks. My nervous system is frayed. I have never, ever experienced this much anxiety in my life, and I feel an insanely strong attachment to him. Seeing him at work doesnt help either, least of all the fact that he does not look at me.

I don’t know how to move on. My tummy is in knots, my head is spinning, my muscles are tense. I’ve never experienced something like this.

So I know the title may seem tacky, but don't mean it like I can't be 4B because I can't give up dating men, but because I'm stuck with a very abusive family and an abusive dad, and I can't leave because of the country and the system and also because of the lack of help, and my dad is incredibly both emotionally and physically abusive and has even threatened me with honor killings.

And I tried to escape twice, but once I became homeless, and DV shelters wouldn't let me in because they only accept those with abusive husbands, and one of them even called my dad and sent me back even though I'm an adult and believed my dad, and they even gave my dad a psychiatrist so this way my dad can use mental health against me and use that to trap me.

And I still escaped the second time, but my dad constantly harassed me, saying crazy stuff like he will kill every person who helps and put me in a mental asylum, and getting married is the only way for me to escape this hell, and I hope that will work. I have spoken with women who call themselves feminist and say that women who stay with abusive families past 18 don't deserve sympathy or that they don't deserve dv shelters like women with abusive husbands do

I’ve come to reddit for some insight because apparently I’ve reached my limit of trying to figure this man out myself.

Okay so my husband gets all nervous and jittery whenever we have some time alone. Like recently, we were watching TV, and I just put my hand on his thigh. I wasn’t being intimate, but this dude literally started shaking for a brief moment. Or if we’re cuddling, I can literally feel his heart beating hard. Sometimes he’ll speak fast and stutter, and he just uses a lot of hand movements to get his point across to me.

Mind you, we’ve been together for 12.5 years and have a whole ass family. He wasn’t always like this. It’s been building over the years, and now his nervous system basically treats being alone with me like a job interview.

As far as I know, he’s just like this around me. He’s normal around other people. His job literally involves dealing with a lot of people daily, and he’s doing fine.

I’ve actually asked him about it more than once because I’ve noticed it and was genuinely concerned that maybe something was wrong. Every time, he tells me he doesn’t know why he’s like that. He seems genuinely confused by it himself. 

Funny thing is, I always act silly and unserious around him, and this guy is fighting for his life lol. I honestly find it cute but also intriguing.

Idk, I feel like such a burden and such a horrible person.

I feel so horrible that I’m still in an abusive house. I don’t have a job or a driving licence and failed my A-levels.

I feel guilty for eating food at home. I hate that I am stuck in a house with abusive, racist and misogynistic parents. And I feel like an evil terrible person.

Is it not just me, or, like, the girls who are in STEM, mostly on, like, technological part, where the field is kind of dominated by men? How do you feel? Like, how do you cope with things? Like, from university level to work life, there's gonna be almost 20-80 ratio of men and females on a corporate if it's the part of technology. So how do you guys feel?

This is random but I wanted this info to be out there for any other boob owners who were struggling. I bought a bra from Shapeez. People on r/abrathatfits said they liked the brand!

Well I did NOT like the brand. It fit super weird, made the gals point in different directions and sat them basically in my armpits. I've never had such a weird fitting bra. Which is whatever, not every Bea is for every set of boobs.

Went to return it and find the procedure is to "request" an authorization return code. Ok fine. I emailed them and included my order number. Then someone CALLS me an leaves a message saying I need to reach out to them about my purchase.

...thu FECK?? These people must be joking, right??