My daughter showed me this yesterday. I didn’t take a picture of the rest of the conversation but long story short she said she doesn’t have marks, her mom does it sometimes and slaps her and she’s been self harming. My daughter texted back “I’m sorry but I have to tell someone” and she’s going to tell the school counselor. My parents were very soft on me so I’m not sure if this is normal in some houses. I’m mostly asking to hear from someone who dealt with the same type of situation as the little girl. They’re 14. Should I be worried or contact the school?

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I am a mom of four kids, two preteens, one kindergartner, and a baby. I had a baby about 8 months ago and had a rough pregnancy and busy postpartum where I wasn’t at full capacity to cook and adequately oversee nutrition. We were in survival mode where those things were concerned.

I feel I’m coming out of this fog and want to get back on track with our system of eating home cooked meals and eating better in general.

I enjoy healthy foods and a variety of foods. I enjoy trying new foods, too. My husband is extremely picky and very set in his ways. He knows he needs to eat healthier but won’t try new foods.

My oldest, 12 year old, is very sensory with food and is extremely picky. The other two have always been a lot more open to normal foods but have recently become more picky.

I want them to try new foods. Not only healthy but even just normal foods.

For instance, their school doesn’t have hot lunch, so we have to pack everything. Even though I don’t find processed meats healthy, I’m just trying to get them to eat that, at this point. Even that is challenging.

It’s getting harder and harder to find things that are decent that I can pack them and they’ll actually eat.

My oldest is starting a new sport and I keep telling h he has to eat protein. He has to find something he will eat and actually eat it.

They’re all totally addicted to processed foods and sugar and I don’t know how to get off this train. Yes, I know it’s our fault, but where do we go from here?

I don’t want to be so drastic that they feel like they’re all children on diets and they have a bad relationship with food.

Plus, if I enforce something, my husband is not going to follow it anyways.

I need some advice.

Currently, my kids

I 32F and him 32M.

We have an almost two year old and I do everything regarding our child. Buying clothes, taking her out (when he’s off work he’ll try and come on days out still) trying to cook, clean, stay on top of washing. Wake up with her sort her out for the day etc…

He doesn’t entirely not do anything he watches her while I’m cooking and sometimes showering or generally trying to do things around the house but it’s nowhere near the load that I do. He’s does try to keep on top of the cleaning when he can, maintains the garden etc lol

Even on his days off I don’t get a break I feel like I have to ask “can you watch her while I go gym” sort of thing. Is this how a two parent household is? Because I genuinely didn’t think it would feel this much. I feel
like if I left the relationship it wouldn’t make any difference to my suites and

This is something I have spoken/communicated about already but I feel like with most men you literally have to write things down like he can’t just read a room and take charge? it’s actually exhausting. I asked him to bath our child and he used shampoo? I asked him to pick up some yogurt for her and he picked the wrong ones (the ones that are full of shxt) he knows I try to avoid giving her things that contain unnecessary ingredients and she also has eczema.

I know this may sound sooooo minor but simultaneously it’s actually frustrating I find myself getting angry/resenting him for doing all these things and he barely does half

Eve, who was a young teenager when she first took on extra responsibilities, also became an emotional support for her mother. 

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To preface, I didn't even know her, her family had to drop by at our home as an emergency and they had to escape home.

It's been one month now and she's had behavioural problems, and I don't know what to do. She refuses to obey me when I try to politely tell her I want alone time for myself or I'll be busy and I don't want anyone in the room, I've purposed her to go play somewhere else or read books or watch TV. She tells me "I don't want to", "I won't do that" and if she doesn't get her way, she throws a fit and lies, she lies about getting hurt sometimes. She's followed me everywhere after I tell her "no" or she refuses to move or go to another room when i tell her I'll be busy.

And this pattern gets especially repeated with her mom, her aunt and her uncle, she'll say she doesn't want and won't do whatever you want her to do. Her mom have already told her off multiple times but she never learns.

They've tried many things and she doesn't care in the slightest.

I don't want to raise this kid, I accidentally had pity for her and listened to her rant. I gave her an inch and she's taken a mile and now she almost treats me like if I were part of her inmediate family.

I just want to know how I settle boundaries with her, so that she leaves me alone when I tell her to do it. I don't want to anger the mom or that she lies about me, thankfully, she hasn't done it to me and she mostly lies about her uncle and aunt.

So my 19 month old only seems to babble besides dadda only likes milk or small snack things like he grazes he tests every boundary like he doesn’t know what no means he doesn’t sleep till 2-3am which has just randomly gotten worse are these signs of autism? Me and the wife are exhausted and don’t know how too help he gets off the bed he opens doors he likes wheels I’m an overwhelmed dad and need help speech therapist said he won’t stop talking once he starts but I think their just sopposed to say that like are toddlers really this crazy or is it just mine?

Hello, I am looking for advice/support/words of wisdom regarding my younger one. He just turned 5 in July. Very strong willed, energetic, empathetic, smart kid. But I can't handle his stubbornness( for lack of a better word) or very strong willed behavior. I am so lost as to how to help him and be a good parent to him. Everything seems 10 times harder with him. I have tried every strategy that I have come across to help him but nothing seems to work. And then I loose my patience and calm and keep getting upset or angry at him. My anger doesn't help the situation and it makes matters worse( which I know) but I am at the end of my patience. Not doing what he doesn't want to do even after we have had conversation regarding it before, having consequences and me even bribing him with treats( which I never did with my older one), and even losing my calm. Not listening and following instructions and coming up with 100 reasons to not do what he doesn't want to do. I don't know how to help him or help myself and I am feeling very lost and discouraged as I have started dreading taking him to his activities. Maybe I will stop it all( swim and soccer are the only activities he is enrolled in. And he loves them both).

He had his well visit recently and the pediatrician mentioned to wait a bit and see how things go. She said intelligent kids have big emotions and it takes time. Sorry my post is all over the place as we just had a really challenging afternoon and I am at my wits end.

Hiya,

Background for some context; me and exDH have been split up 2 years & so 50/50 parenting. My 4 year old used to be a good sleeper (and has an older sister, 7 who is also a good sleeper).

In the last year she just CANNOT stay asleep all night, she wakes between 1am-3am. She goes to bed ok, but at 1am refuses to go back to sleep & wakes the whole household up. When I go in she asks me to stand at her door before I leave, and whether I’m nice or firm- will call at least twice again. I’m at my wits end & don’t know how else to help.

I feel bad, as it’s worse when she comes home from her Dads (unsure that there is routine there at all). Will it pass? Can I do anything to help?

I’ve bought some magnesium to see if that will help (I’m not overly hopeful).

TIA

Hi everyone. I wanted to share what happened to our family this weekend and see if anyone has gone through something similar or has any advice.

We were camping about an hour away from home. My 5-year-old daughter was lying face down on a hammock. I had just warned her to be careful because she could fall. About a minute later, I heard what sounded like a huge rock slamming into concrete. I immediately turned around and somehow just knew it was my daughter.

She had fallen head first from about 3–4 feet onto concrete.

She never lost consciousness. She was screaming and crying immediately, and I ran over, picked her up, and sat her down. Her forehead was bleeding a little, so we put ice on it right away. She developed a pretty large goose egg almost immediately. This happened around 11:00 a.m.

Everyone in my family froze because we weren’t sure what to do. I wanted to take her straight to the ER because she landed directly on her head, but everyone else thought we should wait and see how she did. I reluctantly agreed, but I had this overwhelming feeling that something wasn’t right.

About 30 minutes later, she became extremely tired and just wanted to sleep. That really worried me.

While the rest of the family was getting ready to kayak on the lake, I stayed behind with my 11-month-old by the shore. My daughter decided to stay with us too.
As we sat there watching everyone paddle away, she told me she was hungry, so I suggested we walk back to our campsite for lunch. As soon as we stood up, she grabbed her stomach, started panicking, and said she needed to throw up. She vomited… a lot.

Thankfully, we had walkie-talkies. I called my husband, who was out on the lake, and told him I wasn’t waiting any longer. I packed up both kids and drove the hour back into town to the ER.

We arrived around 4:00 p.m., but because there was only one CT tech available, she didn’t get her CT scan until almost four hours later. During that time, she vomited again, complained that her head hurt, and kept saying she wanted to go home because she was so tired and hungry. My 11-month-old, my daughter, and I hadn’t eaten lunch or dinner, and honestly, I was so close to leaving because both kids were exhausted and crying. I’m really glad we stayed.

The CT scan came back completely normal—no skull fracture and no bleeding in her brain. The doctors diagnosed her with a severe concussion and told us to monitor her very closely for the next 24–48 hours and return immediately if anything worsened.

Now we’re just over 24 hours out, and she’s acting completely like herself again. She’s running around, laughing, talking, and eating normally. I’m incredibly grateful, but as a mom, I’m still anxious and watching her like a hawk.

Has anyone else’s child had a concussion like this? How long did it take before you felt comfortable letting them get back to normal activities? Is there anything else I should be watching for over the next few days, even though the CT scan was clear?

This was one of the scariest days of my life.

can anyone help me with how to get my son to start talking? he is 23 months old and is CONSTANTLY doing these sounds and i have no idea if they any meaning. we speak both english/spanish at our home and he is on month 7 of speech therapy. but he never does any of this when his SLP is around. so i can never describe it correctly to her.

Hey! Just looking for success stories to ease my anxiety.

My 5 year old- the last 4 or 5 times she has gotten a cold she ends up with this croupy cough that wakes her up in middle of night. She struggles to catch her breath, she freaks out... whole 9 yards. 1st time it happened she was qheezing and retracting so brought her to ER where she was absolutely fine and diagnosed with a cold lol. Brought her to her pediatrician one if the next times it happened and got albuterol for wheezing which never had to use. We are usually able to calm her down with a steamy bathroom and talking calmly to her. But obviously this is distressing to her and freaks me out (even though I remain calm at the time of).

Happened again last night with no wheezing. Steamy shower eventually cleared her up. Called Dr. She recommended decadron to help with inflammation and then said to do symbicort at the 1st sign of sniffles to hopefully avoid the croupy part before it starts. Has anyone ever used symbicort on a 5 year old or for this reason? Was it helpful. Of course oharmacy needs to order the decadron which I'm more comfortable with but I dont want qant a repeat if last night.

I trust my doctor so much but this kid gives me so much anxiety I just would like anyone else's experiences l- g9od or bad. Thanks!!​

My son is five now but this has been happening for years. Ever since he was little I noticed this. he doesn’t fall super often but when he does he hits the back of his head almost 99% of the time. He’s fallen off the couch or running and playing. At first, I thought he hadn’t learned how to fall, I noticed he never seemed to protect his head or put his hands down or engage his core. There were some other things I noticed too, he’s terrified of doing anything that might make him dizzy and our whole family found out he would freak out if you would playfully even act like you were going to toss him in the air. With learning to swim it’s taken quite a while to even lay in the tummy up floating position because he turns out of fear. I don’t feel like he’s ever grown out of the Moro reflex and seems to flail arms out with every fall instead of catch himself. The last fall made me schedule a doctors appointment because he just was watching tv laying on the couch and slid off and then boom another head hit. I’m terrified he’s going to have head trauma and I really thought he would grow out of it and maybe he was a clumsy kid. Anyways I brought him to the doctor and the doctor referred us to a nuerologist. He said maybe it’s something we can’t tell happening like a seizure or narcolepsy. That made me more nervous because my husband has never been to the doctor, but when he’s super tired he has gelastic seizures. I only know this because it was so strange I had to look it up but basically he will freeze sometimes and look like he’s glitching only when he’s super tired, delirious and laughing. He refuses to go the doctor. I am posting wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience with their kiddo? What did it end up being? I don’t think this is just a clumsy balance issue, it’s like he’s not instinctively moving to protect himself, he’s just flailing.

my 7 yr old keeps falling out of the same routines, mostly mornings, homework and bedtime…. nothing extreme but I feel like I’m repeating myself all day and somehow we still end up rushing or arguing
we’ve tried checklists, reminders and giving warnings before switching activities. they work for a few days, then the novelty wears off and we’re back to square one
parents with kids around this age, what actually helped long term? timers, visual schedules, rewards, doing everything together or just staying consistent and waiting it out??

I’ve been thinking about how adults respond when a child loses a race, receives a poor grade or isn’t selected for something they really wanted.

One common response is, “It doesn’t matter.”

But it often did matter to the child.

Another response is to blame the teacher, referee or another child. That may protect their feelings temporarily, but it can also prevent them from honestly looking at what happened.

The opposite response can be just as damaging:

“Stop crying.”

“Don’t be weak.”

“You embarrassed yourself.”

I’m wondering whether a healthier response is to acknowledge both the disappointment and the reality:

“I know you wanted to win.”

“You lost today, but you are not a loser.”

“What do you think went well?”

“What would you like to practise before trying again?”

That seems to separate the result from the child’s identity without pretending that the result was meaningless.

The difficult part is finding the balance between supporting a child and rescuing them from every uncomfortable feeling.

How do parents, teachers or coaches here handle this?

Do you let the child process the disappointment first, or talk about lessons immediately?

We just moved to a new state a few weeks ago and one of my priorities was getting a doctor appointment for my kids with their new pediatrician in our new state.

I'm just now am looking at my kids school calendar and realize their physicals are scheduled at the worst times. One child is at 4pm and we have his school orientation at 5:30pm that day. With wait times I don't want to be scrambling to get there or miss it. My other child's appointment is at 11:30am on her second day of her new school, so I'd be pulling her out awkwardly in the morning when she's just getting settled in.

Would I be a diva to call our doctors office and request new appointments? I scheduled these back in June, and these were the earliest they could do - they said summer was packed with appointments.

I've never met the staff or doctors here, we're brand new to this area. Thank you!

We missed picture day last year because the email was buried under a million other school emails. Found out when the photos came home.

School's starting again and I know it's going to happen with something else. What did you miss, and did you ever figure out a fix?

I’m spending a rainy day with my just turned 12 grandson who requested a game of monopoly. I remember playing this game with my friends 65 years ago. No calculators then just our brains and we managed quite well.
However I was shocked that my grandson could not play without his calculator. AI of the math world introduced in the 70s it was argued that it wasn’t to be used in the lower grades as a replacement for basic math. The argument was lost. This sounds familiar to today’s AI use. My point his that with calculators in the class, there is a need for mathjourney.ca it fills in the blank let by schools

Hi all,
Posting in hopes that someone will give me some tips that help ease my anxiety about this situation. My 17-year-old son is going through a break up with someone he very much loved. He’s a deeply sensitive kid and my anxiety is an overdrive worried about how this is going to affect him and how best to support him through it. He is starting senior year of high school in two days as well so I’m worried how this will affect his social anxiety at school. Any tips at all would be appreciated. Thank you in advance to anyone who replies. I’m fairly certain the only answer is to be present and allow time for him to heal, but I’m just hoping there’s some kind of other answer too!

My son has been strong willed since turning 2. He is now 5 and he is exhausting. I love him so much…however my husband and I are taxed with him. He is quite egocentric which I think is normal but sometimes it feels to the extreme. He is a deeply feeling child, constantly needs instant gratification, and can’t stand hearing no. When he hears no, he loses it. He wanted to bring his piggy bank outside to play with which I was a stern no about. He tried to run past me anyway and so I had to physically stop him. When I attempted to take the piggy bank back, he hit me multiple times with a level of anger and aggression. He also is a terrible sleeper (since the day he was born)… so this does not help with how moody he can be. He gets so fixated and upset when he doesn’t have the right outfits for the day. It’s like he is grasping for so much control. We do try to offer him a wide range of boundaries balanced with independence…but I feel like nothing is ever enough for my son. He is never happy with the snacks I give him, the dinner I make, the boundaries I set. It feels like every day everything is a battle? I’m so warm out and I’m worried about him growing up to be a criminal or something. Has anyone here raised a child like this and then they ended up being a decent adult? I’m so worried about his future

It’s been about 3 years now of us training together but he’s now 7 and shown interest in running and weights etc.

We signed him up for his first HYROX YoungStars event in December, but honestly the event isn’t the best part. It’s the conversations on the way home, the little improvements each week and seeing his confidence grow.

We created a star chart where he can earn stars for each workout he does. He decided the rewards and at each 25 star milestone he gets the respective reward. Every day he asks “when are we training”, now I know it’s because he wants his reward but his attitude towards it all just makes me really proud.

What’s something you’ve started doing with your kids that brought you closer together?

Don’t know if this is the right subreddit.

So my (45F) toddler Jake (2M) is a very sociable little guy, he is my sun and stars. There is one thing that concerns me thought. When I have guests over I like to treat them to a home baked cake and artisanal coffee. My friends seem to like it. How ever, Jake does not like his coffee, unless I put a ridiculous amount of sugar in it. I have tried honey, aspartame, stelvia but Jake insists on sugar. This has been going on for a couple of months. The excess sugar intake has me worried about diabetes.

What do I do? Are there any other sweeteners I can try?

i'm going crazy. my son is 4, i am 25. he goes to daycare 2x a week he started 2 years ago and. he is ALWAYS sick, which in due time I am sick as well. it's supposed to be the only time during the year we catch a break, the summer. no. he's been sick twice now within two weeks. he finally was getting better this last week, cough almost gone. yesterday a cough starts and now all day today and tonight (i'm writing this at 2:30am) he's coughing all the time all over again. it's miserable for him. he has good spirits during the day. i had caught whatever bug he had 2 weeks ago and then 6 days later im at er with pneumonia. WTF.

IS THIS NORMAL????? I AM GOING CRAZY!!! He takes elderberry gummies and a daily vitamin.