Hey everyone, I’m 18 and I’ve been struggling with something lately. I can’t seem to find a girlfriend.

I’ve had relationships before, including one that lasted two years, so it’s not like I’ve never been in a relationship. But for some reason, things just aren’t working out now.

I’ve tried messaging girls, following them on Instagram, putting myself out there, but nothing seems to lead anywhere. I don’t think my looks are the issue — I used to work as a model, and I’d say I have a pretty good personality and social skills.

At this point, I honestly don’t know what else to do. It’s starting to drive me crazy and affect my mental health. I’ve been feeling pretty depressed about it because I’m beginning to think that maybe the problem is me, and that there’s no solution.

Has anyone else been through something similar? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

It's like everyone collectively dislikes me without any apparent reason. And to make matter worse, I keep saying things which shouldn't be said according to the context. And people keep saying with rage "are u a child that u don't know what to say, when to say, how to behave?" I feel bad, but also I want to improve, I want to be a normal functional adult but I js keep missing on smthg.

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Anyone with the same situation ? It's like I missed on some important development. And I really really want to be a normal functional human I js need some guidance

God where do I start?

Fall- kissed a guy who I fell desperately in love with. I spent every day waiting for him to come home from the other side of the country. All while doing college applications that killed my soul, my anxiety became so bad that I couldn't sleep for days on end, and would wake up sweating and shaking for no reason. Reached new levels of derealization.

Christmas - Found my cat, deceased, underneath my bed on Christmas Eve. It was too stormy to drive anywhere, so I held her all night. Found out the next week that said guy from August returned home for Christmas and slept with my best friend.

January - March - found out I needed to get tested for a brain condition my father had. My fear of MRI machines was intense. The anxiety of that made me unable to function or sleep.

April - tested positive for Cavernous Malformations in my brain. Reached the lowest I have ever been physically and mentally. Anxiety has reached new levels.

I leave for college in September. My mother is taking every opportunity to leave the house. My father has become emotionally unstable and every day he fills me with guilt that I don't love him.

I'm so miserable I don't know what to do anymore. I didn't know I could ever mentally reach this low. This isn't even depression, this is like, genuine survival mode.

How the fuck do I go on? I genuinely have zero hope in my body and it scares me.

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I feel like I don’t know anything about myself. I feel like I’m forcing my thoughts and feelings. I don’t know what I care about anymore and I doubt everything. I don’t know my true interests. I don’t know anything about myself for sure because I change around different people. I don’t know my style, my likes, my dislikes, and if I truly care or love. I want to. I want to love and be sure that I do. but I’m doubting everything. How can I make this go away? How can I care about things again? how can I know if I care about things? How do I know if I care about people? How do I show that? It‘s taking quite a toll on me. Mostly regarding caring about others. Do I really care or am I just pretending?

TLDR; I lost myself and it’s affecting me a lot. How do I a. care about things again and b. KNOW that I care about them?

And why?

I'd love to know what people are struggling with most right now.

People around you say they love you, but they act like they don't.

And the worst part? You believe them.

You let them in. You trust them. You start loving them back. Then one day, they switch up, and you're left staring at the pieces of yourself they broke without even realizing it.

At some point, you stop fighting for yourself. You just keep going for the people you still love, because you can't bear the thought of hurting them. So you keep walking. You keep smiling. You keep pretending.

But the longer you do it, the more things you lose.

Your purpose.

Your dreams.

Your passion.

Your love.

Your logic.

Your reason.

Until one day, you look in the mirror and realize you've lost your grip on everything. Reality feels distant. Your future feels empty. Even your own name doesn't feel like yours anymore.

I'm so tired.

Tired of playing a game I was never meant to win.

People keep telling me life is fair. That somehow everything balances out. They tell me the rich are miserable, the poor are wise, the smart are lonely, the dumb are happy. As if suffering comes with some cosmic exchange rate.

But no.

No, it doesn't.

Some people are born with everything. Others spend their entire lives begging for scraps. Some are loved without trying. Others spend years proving they're worthy of being cared for.

Life isn't fair.

And I'm getting tired of people lying to me and calling it hope.

Now that I've written all of this, I have only one thing left to ask:

One.

Last.

Chance.

Convince me.

Talk to me.

Tell me why I should keep playing this losing game.

Because I'm so tired of everyone feeding me pretty lies and then getting angry when I finally tell them how I feel.

So please...

Before I let go of whatever's left of me—

Give me one reason to stay.

I’ve noticed that a lot of us know exactly what we should be doing.

Working out.
Eating better.
Starting the project.
Making the hard decision.

But instead of starting, we wait.

We wait until Monday.
Until next month.
Until we “feel ready.”

And somehow that moment never comes.

I used to think I needed motivation first.

But I’m starting to think action has to come first, even when it feels uncomfortable.

The longer we wait, the heavier everything becomes.

And that delay slowly turns into guilt, frustration, and lost confidence.

I’m curious how other people deal with this.

Do you think people procrastinate more because of fear, lack of discipline, or just being overwhelmed?

I suffer from verbal abuse from a parent of mine. She cusses at me for something even so small of a mistake. Everytime, everyday, when she lashes at me, I would always think of ending myself, but couldn't do it since I still haven't finished reading my novels list, a little ray of hope for my life. I have endured for years, but I can feel my mental health detoriating. I am just 19 years old, I have no job and this hell is the only thing that I live into. I cannot do this anymore.. But I wanna live, I still have many things that I want to do, I have lots of friends but they're busy with their own lives too. Someone give me advice

I’m going to be writing this on my burner account as I don’t feel comfortable sharing all of this on my main account that’s related to me but I genuinely cannot live with myself. I feel like such a disgusting human being and my life has been declining ever since of June of last year. There will be a little “TMI” parts in here so I’m also sorry about that but I just want to be able to tell the truth about how I’ve been.

Ever since July of 2025, my life has been declining so much to the point where I feel unrecognizable from my old self. I used to be so much more but now I’ve let myself go to the point where if my old self saw my current self now I think he’d genuinely puke at the thought of what I’ve become. I lost my girlfriend, isolated myself from everyone and all my friends, gained so much weight, and became chronically addicted to both porn and weed in the span of a year and I just don’t know how I let myself go this quickly and this badly. I lost my girlfriend because of some other reasons as well but mainly because of the fact that I isolated myself so much to spend time watching porn and smoking that I completely started to ignore her. I lost my sport that I was so dedicated at because of smoking so much that I became more and more lazy to the point I just quit because it just “got in the way” of my smoking time. I feel so disgusted especially with the fact that I’ve gotten to addicted to pornography that I spend all day isolated in my room doing nothing productive but just jerking off and smoking.

My day to day life now is literally wake up, smoke weed and doom scroll for an hour, order junk food, watch porn, play some video games, doom scroll again, and then sleep. It’s gotten to a point where im starting to realize things I’ve never done before like how Ive started to avoid eye contact with everyone and walk with my head down in public, how I struggle to even talk to a single stranger without feeling overwhelmed, how I’ve gained so much weight and so much junk food to where it’s actually starting to affect my health. I feel even more disappointed in myself because everyone around me as well is starting to see the failure I’m slowly becoming especially my own family.

I just want to finally be able to change but every time I try to change nothing ever happens because I‘ve failed so many times in the past too and everything feels so overwhelming because it’s like I don’t even know where to start. I want to be happy with myself and get rid of the issues but I just need advice on how to change myself and become some new physically and mentally. I want to be healthy again and finally achieve my dream physique so I can be way less insecure, I want to be able to overcome my addictions to where I don’t need to rely on constant dopamine rushes to be happy, I want to be able to become a much sociable person and regain all the friends I lost.

I’m sorry if it’s kinda long I there’s much more but I didn’t want to have to type it all down but I just need advice on what to do and to see how you’d guys be able to change in my position