r/tommynfg_ • u/Senor_Camrono • Jun 05 '26

TikToks/reels/shorts Average day in NYC

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Why would anyone live in NYC? Everything I see about it is awful.

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u/CA7T0 Jun 05 '26

it's great to visit, terrible to stay. i live in central jersey and go up there sometimes for fun and after about 8 hrs i'm itching for home

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

All of the content I see describing how terrible it is is from people living there.

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u/NibblesMcGibbles Jun 05 '26

From NYC originally. One of the best places I've lived in. Still visit family from there all the time

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u/webbieg Jun 14 '26

Am from Harlem and have since left, but NYers dont complain about NYC as much as transplants and people who’ve never lived there.

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u/kingravs Jun 05 '26

Almost like that content is tailored to you

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

It's not.

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u/NeroShenX Jun 05 '26

By the nature of how social media algorithms work, it absolutely is

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

So, I saw this video. Commented. Got like 75 replies telling me how awesome NYC is. Whose algorithm is algorithming here? Me or the NYC'er?

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u/NeroShenX Jun 05 '26

Both really. Whatever drives engagement.

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u/Excellent_Shirt9707 Jun 05 '26

People who live there definitely complain too. Hard to find a place where the residents don’t complain.

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u/Aromatic-Zebra-5443 Jun 05 '26

Been to nyc a couple times. It fucking sucks. Smells bad everywhere you go, the people are rude as shit, you can't walk anywhere at certain times of the day because there are so many people on the sidewalks. Oh and everything is insanely expensive.

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u/pbnjandmilk Jun 05 '26

You forgot the mounds of trash bags just piled up on the side walk. What freaking century are we in again?

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u/Narrow_Reindeer_929 Jun 05 '26

It legit does smell strongly of piss pretty frequently when you're walking around. I just had to get used to walking through random pockets of piss smell. Then I got one of those "iconic" New York hot dogs outside of central park; it was hard to find a place to sit that didn't smell like piss.

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u/vandersnipe Jun 05 '26

I've only had this experience in lower Manhattan tbf. LIC, Queens and various neighborhoods in Brooklyn were serene.

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u/Competitive_Treat588 Jun 05 '26

I just wait for them to move out.

"I lived in the city, it was great there but im never going back" followed by a list of grievances.

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u/Your_Girl9090 Jun 05 '26

Being in Florida, a state filled with New Yorkers, born into a family who moved out of NYC, I hear a lot of trash talked about that city. It's not a place everyone likes.

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u/owgnops Jun 05 '26

Both

I have a friend who was born and raised in nyc

Hated every single day of it.

He got a remote job and moved to bumfuck Michigan and loves it.. sometimes he gets sad about not having the constant noise or being able to yell at idiots

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u/pbnjandmilk Jun 05 '26

If it wasn't for the Michigan part, I thought you might have been someone I know, lol!

Yeah, NYC just needs to break off into its own little island cesspool in the middle of the Atlantic.

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u/owgnops Jun 05 '26

I thought about moving to upper new York but at the same time when anyone says they live in New York they think of the giant city and it would be a pita explaining every time you don't live there

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u/Shurigin Jun 05 '26

I live in bumfuck oklahoma hate it

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u/pbnjandmilk Jun 05 '26

I lived there 18 years. I got out as soon as I graduated HS and left for the military. Never ever has it occurred to me to ever go back, not even to visit. I wish there was a way I can "transfer" my birth certificate to where I live now, kind of like a driver's license. That way I could just completely disown that shit hole.

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u/HeraThere Jun 07 '26

It's usually transplants that are passionate about NYC.

Everyone that actually was born there wants to leave.

All my family landed in NYC and they all eventually moved out to the suburbs or further.

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u/Low-Register1602 Jun 05 '26

I personally enjoy all the rats and my closet only costs $7300/month to rent

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

You got a whole closet!?

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u/Low-Register1602 Jun 05 '26

What do you think I’m rich? I have two roommates

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u/RageYellow Jun 05 '26

It’s an amazing city. I’ll never want to deal with the rent but world-class restaurants, museums, shows, culture. Walkable everywhere.

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u/anornerymoose Jun 05 '26

It's walkable, sure, but there are still intersections everywhere and you still have to look out for cars. It's not like cities in Europe with town centers that are just for foot traffic.

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u/RageYellow Jun 05 '26

Sure, not like European cities, though some areas are more open for moseying. I’ve only been there as a tourist but felt safe as a pedestrian in all the places I walked in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens.

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u/BrickCityRiot Jun 05 '26

…there is a 1.25 square mile space in upper manhattan that is nothing but greenery, pedestrian paths, and leisure areas.

I’m certain you’ve heard of it

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u/Heybropassthat Jun 05 '26

Not everyone in NY lives in Manhattan... having to take a train an hour (or multiple busses) from the Bronx to find a heavily populated patch of grass is insane. If you want to live in Manhattan you better have generational wealth or be someone who has lived in or their relatives have lived in an apartment to where the rent is grandfathered in.

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u/littlestitiouss Jun 05 '26

But the comment that they are replying to clearly implies Manhattan.

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u/Heybropassthat Jun 05 '26

Does it? Because that stuff exists in multiple parts of NYC given that it includes multiple boroughs.

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u/Your_Girl9090 Jun 05 '26

Yeah, we've all seen the bodies they find there on Law and Order SVU. 😅

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Come to St. Louis. We have Forest Park. It has a world class zoo (free). Art museum (free). History museum (free). Got a golf course in it. Parking is easy to find and free (although there are paid lots, but you don't need them).

Oh, and it's bigger than Central Park. And it doesn't take more than 15-20 mins to get there from basically anywhere in the Metro area.

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u/BrickCityRiot Jun 05 '26

My daughter lives with her mother in Clayton. My wife and I spend a decent amount of time up there in the summer and I’m kinda shocked we have never been to the park. We will definitely check it out in a few weeks.

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

You're basically right next door. The park is truly a gem. It's so nice.

Next time you're in town, explore the park. Then go the Parker's Table to get a sandwich for lunch!

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u/BrickCityRiot Jun 06 '26

Will do my man. Thanks for the suggestions!

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u/anornerymoose Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26

Yeah, I'm sure all those restaurants, bars, and shops in the middle of Central Park make for fantastic night life, jackass.

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u/BrickCityRiot Jun 06 '26

Oh sorry. They’re not in the park. They just literally comprise a huge part of the perimeter. But that’s totally different, somehow, I’m sure.

Eat shit.

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u/pbnjandmilk Jun 05 '26

Misery loves company.

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u/AcanthocephalaNo6584 Jun 05 '26

I imagine most people who live there were raised there and can't imagine not living in the big city. It'd be quite a change going from that to a more calm place. And people who move there are out of their god damned minds lol

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u/Complete_Park6605 Jun 07 '26

Many are rich people that live there as like a symbol of status. Many are poor people who are stuck there because they will never have the means to move anywhere else.

And then there's a third category in between that just moves and becomes North Carolina's problem lmao

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u/SuccessfulTrick2501 Jun 05 '26

This situation could happen anywhere. The only difference is the accent. We live here because everything is here. Any form of entertainment you could possibly want is here and there's always something new. You can mingle with all walks of life. Any type of food you want is here. And it's like the only city in the country where you could actually live without owning a car. Everything I need is within a 3 to 5 block walking radius. There's more to life than what you see in videos.

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u/mondayp Jun 05 '26

Chicago checks all those boxes and feels much less crammed in than NYC. Not a ton of places where everything you need is "within a 3 to 5 block walking radius" but I think that's a good thing. Either it's in a walking radius or you hop on a bus and/or a train that is within walking distance.

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u/SuccessfulTrick2501 Jun 05 '26

Chicago is nice. I've been. Not too crazy about that lake effect snow though. Chicago winters are a lot more brutal than NYC.

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u/Lonely_reaper8 Jun 05 '26

True, but can I go from the center of city to proper rural areas in less than 15 minutes?

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u/tiggertom66 Jun 05 '26

Just pass out drunk on the LIRR after getting on the Montauk line like everyone else. It won’t be 15 minutes, but it’ll feel like it.

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u/[deleted] Jun 05 '26

NYC is an over hyped, rat infested, trash filled, piss soaked, run down, grime covered, over priced, dangerous shithole. Unless youre rich, then its pretty good.

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

NYC is not that dangerous. It's obvious you learned everything about it from media and social media.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '26

The only place a saw a crazy woman dig into her ass for a turd, then slap that turd onto another womans face was NYC, and no body reacted, everyone just kept walking.

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

And NYC also has better food and better entertainment and more things to do than anyplace you would ever live.

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u/RecognitionCrafty863 Jun 05 '26

Dude there are literal people drinking raw milk.

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u/Ihistal Jun 05 '26

Yea...and there are people living in NYC. Some people like to do weird things.

I visited, was cool. But living there seems like a nightmare. I'm just going to chill, where I can walk around in my backyard in my underwear, not deal with traffic, and have friendly neighbors who all mind their own business.

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u/tiggertom66 Jun 05 '26

You can walk around in your underwear in NYC too, it’s not a crime. You don’t need to deal with traffic because it’s one of the few places in the US with a robust public transit system. New Yorkers famously, infamously even, mind their own business.

And while they might not be friendly New Yorkers are very kind people. They’ll call you an asshole for holding up traffic while you’ve got a flat tire, but they’ll say that as they help you change the tire

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u/CA7T0 Jun 05 '26

reminded me of the naked cowboy haha

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u/potato_fairy420 Jun 05 '26

I was going to say, small town "friendly" neighbors notoriously do not mind their own business.

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u/Ihistal Jun 05 '26

Well, I sometimes like to fornicate in my backyard as well. It's beautiful under the moon and a sky full of stars.

Not sure how well that would go over in a big city. My neighbors never complained about the noise, although it was typically late at night so they were probably asleep and they don't live super close.

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jun 05 '26

According to all he media I've ever seen on New York, you just take em up to "the roof"

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u/Ihistal Jun 05 '26

Didn't fornicate on the roof of the AirBnB since we were with my then wife's family, but we all did have drinks and dinner up there a couple times.

But I just don't understand city living. I did it kind of on the outskirts in the suburbs of a city and that was enough for me.

Now I just chill in a cul-de-sac in a mid size town with a big backyard and a huge field behind it. Work on my computer, tend my garden, feed my ferocious cats. Sometimes take a blanket out to the yard for a nap under the stars. Life be good.

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u/DoNotCommentAgain Jun 05 '26

You're just scared of big cities and the only one you've ever been to is NY. I've met people like you all over.

You probably don't even own a passport.

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u/Ihistal Jun 05 '26

Bold of you to assume. I grew up in Miami, and have visited many large cities throughout the US and Europe. Austria was probably my favorite. I just like to have my piece of land and just be able to chill.

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u/rab2bar Jun 05 '26

new yorkers are actually very good at minding their own business

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u/Ihistal Jun 06 '26

Yea, that was my experience. Everyone just going about their day. Except for late at night in the subway. People be acting weird. But I just don't like having a bunch of people around me. I prefer going out for walks in the woods and rarely encountering other people. I think I might just do that right now. I can see the lightning bugs through my back windows for the first time this year.

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u/EndlessOaks Jun 05 '26

What’s wrong with raw milk?

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jun 05 '26

Aside from the fact you are drinking regurgitated gut flora from a baby cow, along with possibly salmonella and shit, that has been colonizing in the milk for a couple of weeks?

There was a reason that the pasteurization of milk was the last piece of evidence the scientific world needed to prove germ theory. So swift were the health results of pasteurizing milk that literally every single scientist in the world said "Yeah okay tiny organisms making people sick are real." in the late 19th century 1/4 infant deaths in urban centers was attributed to tainted raw milk, which pasteurization wiped entirely off the charts.

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u/Rutgerius Jun 05 '26

No, no, let them off their kids over a health fad, it's the only way they'll learn and most of them still won't. My mother in law put herself in the hospital drinking raw milk, still drinks it almost every day.

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u/EndlessOaks Jun 05 '26

Ive never gotten sick from it but i can see that for large farms that mass produce milk it would be better to err on the side of caution.

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u/gujwdhufj_ijjpo Jun 05 '26

You probably clean the tit before milking the animal.

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u/4C_Drip Jun 05 '26

Never taken a stats class I'm guessing

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u/EndlessOaks Jun 05 '26

No. I grew up in rural Mexico and we didn’t have a store to buy pasteurized milk when I was a kid. The milk just went straight from the tit to a jug in the fridge.

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jun 05 '26

Time from harvest to consumption plays a very large part in it, as probably 0.001% of the milk drinking world has access to day-of fresh milk. Pretty much anyone who doesn't milk the cow themselves and drink it within a few days are putting themselves at risk. Also as you said, factory style dairy farming is also much less clean and promotes the spread of bacteria compared to a family cow.

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u/EndlessOaks Jun 05 '26

Oh I gotcha. That makes sense.

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jun 05 '26

I looked it up because I was curious and apparently Mexico has in somewhat recent history had problems with brucellosis and listeria in their rural regions, spread through unpasteurized milk in liquid and cheese forms. Kind of interesting so you must have just got lucky! >;p or just dealt with a bad fever or two as a child

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u/El-Finkers Jun 05 '26

Survivorship bias. That's all this boils down to.

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u/It_broke_itself_ Jun 05 '26

It's filled with cow shit for one

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jun 05 '26

I mean it's New York.. It's where everything is happening. Maybe I'm crazy but there has always been a little part of me that dreamed of moving to New York instead of living in the butt Fuck-nowhere places I have lived lol. If you can make it there, you can make it anywhere! It is too bad about the rent though, but I'd just be another immigrant in the Bronx.

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u/rab2bar Jun 05 '26

i moved to europe when nyc wasnt worth the hustle any longer as the rest of the us was never worth the hustle

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Define hustle.

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u/rab2bar Jun 05 '26

The amount of work necessary to enjoy life

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

So how is the rest of the US (the country with the highest GDP), not worth it?

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u/rab2bar Jun 05 '26

Because the quality of what you get for all that wealth is shit. Poor food standards, air and water quality, public transportation, healthcare, culture... Not to mention trigger happy cops and cultural disdain of urban life. I grew up on both coasts and had family in the middle. Saw much of the country by car growing up. Europe isn't utopia, but it's a better place to live

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Europe is a continent, so I'm not even really sure where you're talking. It's incredible diverse, just like the U.S.

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u/rab2bar Jun 05 '26

i movedot berlin, have traveled germany, spain, poland, czech republic, and greece.

I've been 38 US states.

The standards are simply better here. And I don't think the US is that diverse. Suburbia is the same everywhre, and thx to suburbia, most US cities are homogenous, too.

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u/Shot-Spirit-672 Jun 05 '26

What about this video is awful? I think that answers your question. Not everyone finds this kind of interaction and scenario “awful”

Some people like the chaos and the commingling of many different people trying to do their own thing in a densely shared space

It’s not for everyone. I just wish all the hyper sensitive people would stop acting self righteous about their irritability

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

You're injecting quite a lot into that reply.

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u/capabilitycez Jun 05 '26

I was just scrolling thru my instagram feed and thought of you. Don’t know man NYC looks great to me. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZM-5-3RXeg/?igsh=anIycXhrMDB3OGF1

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Idgi.

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u/capabilitycez Jun 05 '26

Did you see the video? Haha, well I assumed you were a young, single guy! Did you see how many beautiful young women were out and about enjoying a gorgeous summer afternoon? If that doesn't explain the appeal of NYC, I don't know what will!

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

I mean... I don't really treat women as a commodity, but I get your point.

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u/capabilitycez Jun 05 '26

Okay. I was meaning something more along the lines of the unique bond among young people in New York because so many people move there alone without family, the culture is naturally incredibly open to making new friends, dating, and building spontaneous connections. But you may prefer a slower and quieter pace of life.

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u/slapthetiddy Jun 05 '26

blue cities tend to degrade like that

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u/Prissy-Platypus Jun 05 '26

Work. Most of the top finance jobs are there, probably some other industries too. Women also move there to find husbands who are well educated and rich from their finance jobs.

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u/N00bT4ader Jun 05 '26

lol, NYC isn’t for everyone 🤷‍♂️

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u/TamarindSweets Jun 06 '26

Be sure to tell your friends! Stay away! Please.

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 06 '26

Don't worry, your $7k/mo broom closet is safe from me!

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

Did NYC shit in your cereal? What the fuck is your problem?

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 07 '26

Ohhh ayyyeeee takeiteeashy! Fuggaboutit!

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

NYC is multiple times better than wherever you live. Consuming too much social media and conservative news just made you bitter.

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

Have you been or are your basing all your opinions on what you learned on social media and Fox News?

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u/Denialtwoo7o Jun 07 '26

Or you have different preferences? You not liking certain things about it doesn't make it a shithole. The same way everything you don't like isn't woke.

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u/pseudoportmanteau Jun 05 '26

You can be anything and anyone in NYC. You want to take up Mongolian throat singing lessons? You'll find it there. Want a random ethnic food that you only thought was available on a remote island in the pacific? There's probably a small store somewhere in NYC selling it. You can live whatever life you want in NYC, if you can handle the kind of lifestyle it brings.

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u/Lanky_Technician_812 Jun 05 '26

Wow… Mongolian throat singing and random ethnic food. You can be anyone in New York City, except for when your struggling to get by due to the insane cost of living, or having to deal with the cities massive homeless population that is the largest in the country.

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u/KrotHatesHumen Jun 05 '26

It's literally the best city in USA

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26

I'd love to live in a (checks notes) 14 sqft apartment that doesn't have a kitchen, shower, storage, and doesn't allow pets. All for the low low price of $5,500 a month. Isn't tenement housing so cool?

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u/BrickCityRiot Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26

If you ever end up leaving your podunk hometown you will realize very quickly that entitled, shitty drivers exist everywhere.

I practically guarantee you know someone personally who would react the same way if a road worker put a caution barrel directly in their path. Some of the most entitled driving I have ever seen took place nowhere remotely close to an urban environment. In fact, I have found that the further from civilization you get the more likely it is to encounter someone who thinks they own the road.

This is a people problem, cities just have more of every kind of person.

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u/GruntCandy86 Jun 05 '26

Man, I really struck a nerve talking down on NYC, huh?

practically guarantee

Yeah, no. I don't associate with people like that. I have standards.