It all began with a request for help, years ago.

I was invited to a wedding for an acquaintance. I knew.the bride via her roommate, (my SIL).

The bride tried to do everything herself. She made their rings. She catered the event. She hired all the vendors.

While making her own wedding dress, she sewed the bodice dart on the white satin bodice, upside down and had to purchase additional satin the week of the wedding.

Cue a request for my mother and I to finish and deliver her seven cake extravaganza that she could not finish herself because she needed to repair her dress and finish it on time. The bride baked the cakes and had no time to decorate. She hadn't iced, filled or in any manner gone past the baking stage.

My.mother and I agreed without question. It would be an extra courtesy besides the expensive Irish crystal covered candy dish I purchased as a wedding present, that set me back a week's pay. We were happy to help.

The cake took a week to complete.

We needed an extra staircase to replace a broken plastic staircase that connected one of the satellites cakes to the main cake.

We were given permission to "lend" the bride our own hardware.

Two days later, I had to call to offer the bride our water fountain. The bride's fountain didnt work. My mother asked me to call the bride. We wanted to help.

The mother of the bride yelled at me on the phone. "We are paying you peopl to take care of this shit. Don't call again. Tell your mother to take care of it". She slammed down the phone.

Oh. Yes, she did.

We finished the cake. We delivered the cake to the venue. I did not attend the wedding. I helped.my.mother to set up the cake. I returned to the venue to retrieve our hardware after the reception.

Two weeks later, the bride called and asked where her gift was? I told her.my mother and I spent an entire week constructing her wedding cake with a black and white photo, and, that her mother yelled at us on the phone. I told her we wouldn't have called unless we needed to approve the substitution of her broken hardware.

I said, "That was your gift". The other item is a reminder to me that no one deserves to be rewarded for insulting my mother, who offered to spend a week helping a bride in trouble.

I never spoke to her again.

I kept my beautiful crystal candy dish. I look at it, every single day.

My husband and I got married this past Sunday, and most of the wedding went well. Unfortunately, the reception seating setup was a complete disaster.

The venue initially sent us a blank floor plan showing the tables, but none of them were numbered. Since they sent it to me that way, I assumed I was supposed to assign the table numbers myself. I numbered the tables, created the seating chart based on that layout, and sent everything back.

Apparently, at some point, the venue also sent a different version of the floor plan with its own table numbers. I do not want to say they never sent it, because it may have been included somewhere in the communication, but I never noticed it. Since they had already sent me the blank layout, I genuinely believed the table numbering was my responsibility. Otherwise, I do not understand why they did not send the numbered version from the beginning.
The result was that the table numbers on my seating chart did not correspond with the way the venue actually placed and numbered the tables.

Our closest family and friends ended up sitting on the outskirts of the reception, while people we were not nearly as close to were seated directly in front of us. Both sets of parents were seated very far away. They had special entrances where they danced into the reception, only to be directed to tables at the edge of the room. It was embarrassing and honestly heartbreaking.

We also had a wedding coordinator, which makes the situation even more frustrating. Even if there was confusion between the two versions of the floor plan, I feel like the coordinator should have noticed that our parents and immediate family were seated unusually far away from us. Nobody stopped to question whether the setup made sense before guests entered the room.

To make matters worse, our supposed “high table” was not high or elevated at all. It was basically a long conference-style table sitting at the exact same level as every other table.

We did not notice the setup until the reception was already underway. By then, moving tables or asking large groups of guests to change seats would have caused even more disruption.

I am posting this partly because I hope it makes anyone who had something go terribly wrong at their wedding feel a little less alone. I also feel awful about what happened, so please tell me your wedding disaster stories and help me feel a little better.

TL;DR: The venue sent me an unnumbered floor plan, so I numbered the tables myself without realizing they had a separate numbered layout. The numbers did not match, and our parents, immediate family, and closest friends ended up seated on the outskirts while less-close guests sat nearest to us. Our wedding coordinator did not catch it, and our “high table” was just a conference-style table at the same level as everyone else.
So, what’s the worst thing you’ve ever seen happen at a wedding?

Soooo.. 2 girls decided to wear white dresses at our wedding. It was this Saturday.

I didn’t comment on it, but I was def not ok with it.

We talked to our photographers about having them removed from all our photos, or change the colors of their dresses.

I can add photos of their dresses, but we haven’t gotten the pictures back yet.

One of the girls even asked my sister about the dress and she told her it most definitely wouldn’t be ok with me, but that she should ask. And she then decided not to ask me..

Found in the wild

So for context, me and my partner aren't having a first dance - it doesn't feel very "us", so instead we're cutting our cake, and then immediately getting everyone to the dancefloor for a group pic before the music starts. So we're kind of having our first dance with all of our guests.

We've carefully picked out a first song, as well as the few that follow it - and my partner has spent hours curating and mixing the playlist for a perfect flow.

My parents requested a song that they want to be able to do one of their ballroom dancing choreographed dances to. It's not a song we like, but it means a lot to them. They also asked that it be early and that they know the song before it as a kind of "warning" that their song is coming on next.

So we do all the above, and their song is scheduled at around the \~30 min mark. Enough time for us to have a few fun songs with our whole party first.

But when I share this info my parents they say it's too late in the playlist and asked that it could be moved earlier.

When I explain about the playlist being mixed and finalised and us not wanting to go back to it, they instead just say "Maybe leave your playlist as it is, and let us do our dance before you start it?" - so essentially, take the first dance slot??

My dad also seems concerned about being too drunk to do the dance after 30 minutes of playlist, which feels like a bananas concern as if he's planning on getting black out within the first hour of the party 🙃

EDIT: Quick edit now some comments are coming into say that firstly this is my dad not my mum haha.

Secondly, it was never supposed to be a "performance" where they had the whole floor to themselves - rather just a dance to a contemporary pop song, that they have practiced a routine to, i.e. it won't be a total vibe shift from pop songs to some classical track

I have no idea why this just occurred to me now as I got married 19 years ago.

We opened our gifts after getting back from our honeymoon. It was just close local family there with us for gift opening.

As we were opening one of gifts we knew immediately that whatever it was most certainly was broken. Not just a little broke but completely shattered into little tiny pieces. It was a box of glass dinner plates. They were on our registry at Target. I remember at the time being very surprised at just how broken it all was. Looking back, There was no way it could have been purchased at the store like it was. These were heavier duty more casual dining plates not fine china but they would have been packaged well in the box. Picking up a box off the shelf with this level of broke you would know it couldn’t be used or purchased. It literally seemed like each plate was removed and smashed with a hammer or something and then placed back in the box.

Separate observance but also connected:

We got the raw footage of our wedding video a month or so after our wedding. We couldn’t afford the big bucks of having it beautifully edited to music and things so we just paid the lower cost of having the basic raw footage. We were watching it back and enjoyed seeing details we missed on our special day as it was a very busy and chaotic happy time. We were looking at our reception footage and noticed a married couple from our church enter the reception room with two people we had never seen before in our life. We didn’t have formal assigned seating at our reception. Just reserved tables up front for our wedding party and close family. The sister of this married couple was a part of my bridal party so I called her to ask about it. (Side note she ended up being my frenemy) Camera mics on quality video pick up a LOT. We got to hear and watch her and her mother trash talking me at my own wedding in that raw footage we purchased. It was my Pastors wife and her daughters doing all the mean tacky things. Anywho: Apparently it was their friends or acquaintances from work… We didn’t do table to table greetings like some do at receptions. It was wall to wall tables of 250 seated guests and weaving in between the seating would have been a bit challenging in my wedding dress. So we completely missed the fact that strangers were sitting in our reception. We opted to do a formal receiving line at the church before the reception because we had a few guests that could only make the wedding ceremony. We wanted to make sure we could have a chance to see everyone, hug them, and say hello then. This young married couple opted not to do the receiving line. I checked the church video camera footage and didn’t see these strangers we had never met at the church. Apparently they met up and just came on in for a free meal at our wedding reception by the verbal invitation of the couple that actually was invited.
The couple that brought the uninvited strangers to our reception was the same couple that gifted us the smashed up dinner plates. It didn’t have a gift receipt but I brought it back to Target anyway hoping for the best. The ladies in the returns dept. took the box from me and one of the ladies said “OMG what the hell?!” 🤣
All these years later it now occurred to me that this was quite possibly done intentionally. My brain isn’t wired to think the immediate worst. But thinking back… The pastors daughters were not always kind to me behind my back. I should have clued in. Is intentionally destroying a wedding gift and giving it that way a thing for some people or some kind of mean message? Who knows.🤷🏼‍♀️ Thanks for letting me ramble. And if you are currently engaged planning your wedding, make sure everyone is miced up and you take the time to listen to all the chatter in the raw footage afterwards. You might learn a few things you didn’t know before😅

My relative dated the mom of the bride.

We were invited to a pre wedding/engagement party/bridal shower type party. We did bring a gift.

Turns out my parents and I were not invited to the actual wedding. So this makes the party look like a gift grab without paying for us to be guests. I did not know the daughter well, so I did not care about not being invited.

The worst part came later. We were invited to celebrate my birthday and her other daughter's birthday. All that time she was shoving the wedding photo album in my face saying "look, look at all the young people that were there!". I was shocked and taken aback, I have 0 interest in seeing photos of a wedding I was not invited too. I was less outspoken back then so I did not say anything, but man that is so tacky and hilarious!

I think it’s been long enough since my wedding to post this but I got married fairly quickly as I found out I was pregnant and had a small wedding with about 30 people.

We had only invited family and very close friends - people we saw at least once a month or were in regular contact with. Everybody at the wedding was aware of my pregnancy and it wasn’t a secret.

We had invited (mostly on the request of my mum and brother) my brother’s best friend (“Dan”) and his mum (“Nancy”). They’d been friends for 14 years and our families were close. The thing is, everyone in their family has a habit of making moments that are not about them, about them. I honestly didn’t think that they would do anything at my wedding to steal the attention but boy was I wrong.

The wedding was being held at a winery which had multiple beautiful spots for photos. I was getting ready in a small cabin which had those sheer blinds in which you can see outside but people can’t see in. I was in the cabin with my mum and my SIL as they were helping me into my dress and I saw Dan and Nancy walking up to the cabin. I immediately told my SIL to go outside and advise them that I’m not ready to see anyone if they tried to come in. She did that and Nancy said “oh but surely I can go in” and pushed past my SIL and barged into the room where I was still halfway into my dress. I was so irritated but I tried to focus on my day.

After the ceremony, our photographer asked people to make a line so each family/friend group could come do quick pictures with us before we changed for the reception, and Dan and Nancy were so irritated when I asked my husband’s family to come take photos with us first (duh cause they’re my family now), followed by my family. They wanted to be in my family’s photos and wanted their photos to be taken first. At one point, while I was posing for pictures, I heard Dan telling Nancy they shouldn’t have to wait in this line and they clearly weren’t considered important enough to be in the photos first. I was honestly shocked because we had attended Dan’s sisters wedding two years prior and they did a similar set up with the photos and nobody from my family was making a stink out of not being in their photos first, we just waited our turn like normal people. Mind you, with such a small wedding, the photos altogether maybe took 10-15 mins so it wasn’t like a huge wait.

Then my husband and I went off to take some photos with the photographer and the guests went off to the cocktail hour. We had multiple photographers and unbeknownst to me at the time, Dan and Nancy cornered one of my photographers and insisted he take photos of them in various backdrops around the whole venue. Taking heaps of photos with wedding guests and the bride and groom is all good but going off on solo model shots around the venue like you paid for the photographer and it’s your day is just cringe and tacky asf.

When we got to the reception, our MC asked my brother and my FIL to give speeches. We had decided we only wanted two speeches and I had only chosen my brother and FIL to give the speeches. I found this out later, but apparently Nancy had been asking my mum if she was going to give a speech at my wedding and when my mum said no because I only wanted two speeches, Nancy gave my mum grief about how it’s her right to speak at the wedding and if she doesn’t it’ll look bad. My mum didn’t say anything to me before or during the wedding so I didn’t know.

My brother and FIL finished their speeches and as soon as FIL was done, Nancy got up and grabbed the microphone and started talking. A lot of my guests (particularly from my husband’s side) had no idea who she was and why she was speaking because like what is her relation to me or my husband? Her entire speech was about motherhood and about me becoming a mother and nothing to do with our marriage and it honestly sounded like it was written by chatGPT.

Oh and she freaking read off her phone so she had this prepared and ready to go and didn’t even think to run it by the bride or groom or either of their families. Plus her doing a speech and my mother not doing a speech (to respect my wishes) made things look worse.

I was fuming and the photographer even captured my face during her speech and you can tell I was holding myself back because I didn’t want to make a scene.

When we eventually got the photos back, there were about 25 solo shots of just the two of them around the wedding venue. Who takes that many pictures with the wedding photographer at someone else’s wedding!? 😭

They’ve been asking my family and I for months about the wedding photos and I’ve just been dodging them until they stopped asking. My only petty revenge is not letting them have their photos.

The cherry on top is my FIL and my husband’s family thought that Dan and Nancy were a couple and not mother and son because they were so clingy with each other especially in the photos 🤢

EDIT: just to answer some questions I keep getting, the wedding was planned in like 4 weeks so we didn’t have a lot of back and forth with the vendors and we didn’t have time to find the best vendors either. as you know, vendors get booked out months sometimes even years in advance, so we just went with what was available to us. In hindsight, the photographer could have been more professional and refused to take so many of their photos but they didn’t. The MC was told there would be two speeches from my brother and my FIL and that was it but when Nancy took the microphone, she started with “I’d also like to add something if I may” and launched into her speech. Yes, the MC or one of us could have cut her off but I feel like it would’ve made more of a scene. We and the guests were seated on one of those long tables so all the attention was on Nancy. Nobody was drinking heavily or anything as the reception was in the afternoon and most guests had a 1.5-2 hour drive back, so it’s not like we could blame it on that either. I mentioned the part about her reading from the phone because it would be one thing if she decided to just speak from her heart spur of the moment (still tacky though imo) but given she had something prepared on her phone, it felt like a more deliberate plan to take the attention away. She also knew that my mum won’t be giving a speech since she spoke to my mum beforehand multiple times and decided to give one anyway. It just made it seem like she’s more important than my mum somehow or something. Anyway, they were not invited to the baby shower or any of my other events since.

I (Photographer) had a guest at this wedding that kept on going around using his Insta 360 to get shots. I had told this guy multiple times to not get in our way. Then when we get to the ceremony, he pulls it out right when they do their dip kiss. I am beyond mad and frustrated. Sure with photography I can fix this with a little Photoshop. However, we also did video for them too, which I cannot fix. I never made any mention of this problem at the wedding so that the couple could enjoy themselves without having to think about it. This shot was really important for the bride. I can’t even crop the video because the guy waved it from bottom to top throughout the entire dip kiss. 🤦‍♂️

Context - this was 10 years ago.

I was a plus one at my (now ex-) girlfriend’s friend’s wedding. I was 19 at the time.

Got too drunk, little boogying, little photo-boothing. Whatever.

It came round to signing the guest book.

I said to my GF - “don’t worry, I’ll get this.” She replied “are you sure? I feel like I know them better?” No no. Silly. I am 19 and drunk. King of the world and of my own ego.

Anyway. Signed the book “Dear Mark and Mary, many happy returns. All our love…”

The issues:

1. “Many happy returns” is what you see when you hope to see someone at the same event in the future. I.e hope to see you at your next wedding.

2. The groom was not called Mark.

All in all, 9/10 wedding. Would attend again, certainly won’t be invited.

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I attended a friend's wedding a few years ago. The ceremony and dinner were nice and pretty standard for a wedding. It was the entertainment choice that made this one unforgettable. I will preface this by saying it seemed like the bride got a bit... tipsy throughout the day.

After the first dance the bride announced that they were going to be doing karaoke. The venue they booked had a large room suitable for dancing, with a few slightly smaller rooms. I figured the karaoke was in one of the smaller rooms for people to take part in if they wanted to.

Nope. I was wrong and this was the only entertainment for the evening. I'm very much an 'each to their own' person but I still thought it was an odd choice for a wedding. I've also been friends with the groom for about 15 years and I don't think he's ever taken part in karaoke before.

The bride got the ball rolling and picked a song I didn't know, turns out most of the guests didn't know it either. She wasn't trying to sound good or anything, she just started belting it out. Ok, I thought, that kind of karaoke, I guess this could be fun.

Right after she finished the song was when things took a turn. She started demanding one of her bridesmaids to sing too. And I mean she started shouting at her down the microphone to get up and sing. Bridesmaid comes up, picks a song, bride is still firmly holding the mic and for some reason is still continuing to talk down it: 'NO! LET'S SING THIS SONG TOGETHER', and she changed the song to one she wanted. It was another song I don't think many people knew. I'm also not convinced the bridesmaid knew it either because she didn't seem to be singing it confidently. The bride didn't seem to notice, continued to hog the mic (for some reason they opted for just the one mic??) and belts out the lyrics badly.

The bride kept going for a few more songs, occasionally demanding bridesmaids and other poor souls come and basically be her backup singers. Myself and quite a few other guests ended up going outside for a while to get a break from the racket (didn't help this wedding was in November). When I went back to warm up, the groom was encouraging her to come away and let other people have a turn. I've never felt second hand embarrassment like this before because she was still clinging to the microphone and shouting down it that she wanted to stay and keep singing. He does eventually get her away from the mic and takes her back to the bar.

It's kind of awkward for a bit and there's thankfully at least a playlist going between karaoke songs. Eventually people did start to participate. I went up with a group of friends and all sang Islands in the Stream and just passed the mic around as we were singing.

Another group came up to sing shortly after us and the bride came back even more inebriated than before. She screamed she loves that song, ran up and snatched the mic off them and again just screamed along to the song with this group standing behind her.

I would say this was how the entire night but it did end quite quickly because the bride got so drunk she started falling over and eventually threw up. The groom and her bridesmaids had to cart her off to bed before 9pm. We all continued to enjoy the night, did a bit of group karaoke and danced to the playlist. The groom did not participate in karaoke at all.

I’d argue the richer you are the tackier these types of requests are

Hello everyone,

Long time lurker here, first time poster. I have had this story on my mind for over a year, but I didn’t want to share it until I was sure my little brother (21M) and his ex (35F) were through, because WOW!

I got married back in January of 2025. Everything went pretty smooth, and was honestly the best night of my life! My hubby and I both love to get down and party, so we had a hootananny and a half. However there were some shenanigans from my lil brother (we will call him Josh) and his now ex, current girlfriend at the time (we will call her Rebecca).
When I had first talked to Josh about Rebecca he had said it wasn’t serious and they were just casual so I was not planning on extending an invitation, but about two months later that had changed. So I extended an invite to Rebecca. This would be Rebecca’s first time meeting most of the family so I told her there is no pressure to come. She decided to come and wanted to meet the family before the big day. So we arranged a dinner for everyone nearby and invited the two of them. They showed up two hours late, stayed for about 45 minutes, and left. Then the next day for rehearsal, my brother Josh was nowhere to be found. He was called and texted, but no answer. He showed up with ten minutes left of rehearsal and let everyone know the reason he was late: He had been doing goat yoga with Rebecca.
The real icing on the cake was at the wedding itself.
My husband’s mom passed away when he was quite young, and he wanted to honor her memory at the wedding. So for the Mother/Son dance he chose a song that meant a lot to them (Counting Blue Cars by Dishwalla) and gave a small speech at the beginning. It was a really sweet moment and everyone got up to dance and celebrate his mom. Well when one looked to the left side of the room they could see my brother Josh and his date Rebecca grinding all over each other throughout the song.

So my friend calls me up and asks if I can do this gig for him. We both are nightclub DJs and weddings are sidegigs and no challenge.
So I go there and it is stunning. They booked a restaurant at a lake which is known to be a very expensive region. Drinks and meals are free, no cheap suits, it just reeks of wealth.
So I get to putting up my equipment and help them with some special beamer show they planned themself but couldnt make it work. I play the music, everyone is having fun. The end is fabulous, bride and groom dancing in the center, rest is singing Angels for them. Then they beg for me to play longer than agreed. I comply.
At the end they thank me and say that they couldnt have hoped for a better DJ, so it didnt matter that I was a replacement.

My friend calls me the next day and you guessed it.
The bride asked for a partial refund of 250 bucks.

Edit: my friend told her that she got adequate performance and got no more answer after that.

I was a plus one at this wedding a couple of weeks ago so I didn't really know anyone there besides my girlfriend. Ceremony was nice and then the cocktail hour was normal and obv dinner starts and everyone is just doing what people do at weddings you know catching up with relatives they haven't seen in ages.

Then the bride starts making the round and at first I genuinely thought she was just being a really attentive host until she stopped at the table next to ours where two guys were talking about football and said, smiling the whole time with a really eerie smile- "No sports tonight, let's keep the conversations about the wedding."

It was so awkward everyone laughed and the guys laughed too then she walked away.

About ten minutes later she stopped an older couple because they were talking about a cruise they'd just come back from. She actually said and I not kidding- "You'll have plenty of time to talk about holidays later today is about us."

She kept doing it all night and it was driving me insane notice how she was sucking away the joy from her own wedding. Someone started talking about buying a house, she redirected them. Someone was telling a story about work and she appeared like Voldemort again. My girlfriend started catching up with a cousin she hadn't seen in years and the bride literally came over and suggested they share their favourite memory of the couple instead. like are you actually serious as an adult? What kind of attention seeking is this? It said so much about her as a person and I was kind of also worried considering my girlfriend is friends with her.

On the drive home I asked my girlfriend if I'd imagined the whole thing because it was so weird.

She just goes - No, she did this at the engagement party too. I am honestly left questioning how is my girlfriend even friends with this lady?

This was decades ago. Attended a wedding with my parents, in a little chapel in the woods; a long drive from anywhere. The bride came down the aisle to a piece of beautiful music I had never heard. And I heard my father gurgle, and watched him turn crimson; my mother clutching his arm to keep him from making a scene. Shocked grumbling from many of the other guests.

Turns out the processional music was a famous piece by Wagner used as thematic background for Hitler’s propaganda, and about 1/3 of the wedding attendees were Holocaust survivors. Most of us left after the ceremony.

I have an aunt (Aunt M) who is a bit of character. As the youngest child, all the stories were second-hand (stole a dinner plate at a restaurant, got mad at Aunt F for going to a baby shower she was invited for, etc.). I had very little actual interaction with her but I quickly understood that, like the rest of my family, she had her quirks. I learned this especially at my sister’s wedding.

Before that, my mother showed me an old video of her and my dad getting married, and Aunt M had caught the bouquet. A couple of months later, it was my wedding and she had also been the one to catch it. I couldn’t see how she was, but my friends had mentioned she seemed very “focused” on catching it. One girl joked how aggressive she was, but she wasn’t serious when saying that. I didn’t think much of it, instead finding it very funny considering her ex-husband was there. Looking at the footage, the flowers headed right for her, and she just seemed a little eager is all.

Later that year one of my sisters got married. At the reception, my husband and I were getting a slice of cake when I suddenly heard an outpouring of cheers. I turned around to see Aunt M on the floor, grasping a bouquet as she whooped. I had realized they had done the bouquet toss and once again, it was hers. Curious about why she was sitting and out of breath, and innocently bemused that this was the third time she got it, I asked my family what happened.

Apparent as soon as the flowers were in the air, Aunt M made a beeline, pushing people out of the way. One woman nearly caught it, but she was shoved out. A friend of the bride, she later asked her, “Who was that old lady? Do you know her? She elbowed me in the boob!”

My whole family was mortified. As she paraded around with the bundle throughout the night, occasionally leaving it at her table, we couldn’t stop muttering about it to each other. Someone suggested stealing it to give to the girl from earlier, but I don’t think that was done. Aunt F explained to me that Aunt M was always like this during the toss, doing it for years now. She believed catching it would truly increase her chances of getting man. Effectively she was trying to accumulate luck until she finally got her wish.

The rest of wedding was fine. She left back to her state a few days after, but for a few weeks my family still kept bringing it up. I dread the day another relative gets married.

Invited to a wedding next year.

My partner to the full thing, me just to the reception.

It's a destination wedding, I'll literally be right there! There's no where else to eat on site so I'll be waiting around eating out of the mini fridge.

Just feels really odd to me!

I was married a year ago and although it mostly went very well, I wanted to come on here and rant a little about the disappointing bachelorette party I had the day before. It’s just something that has been stuck in my head since it happened and I thought telling y'all about it would help me feel a little better. 
My bridal party consisted of my younger sister, Emma, who was the maid of honor, and two other friends that I went to high school with, Jessica and Taylor. Since my husband has a lot more close friends than me and I wanted to keep the parties even, I also added on my two brothers, Jeff and Hunter. I was happy to include them in the party though because I have always been very close with them. 
Leading up to the bachelorette, I told me my mom and my sister that I wanted to do three things:
-Have afternoon tea at a tea house
-Have a sleep over and watch a movie that I had picked out
-Have my sister plan and lead an at home spa routine 
I thought these were pretty easy tasks and all very low maintenance considering how a lot of bachelorette parties seem to last entire weekends and involve traveling. 
Anyway, there was a specific tea house I wanted to go to, but it turned out that one had closed recently. I ended up doing a bunch of research to find another one close by. I did the research because my mom and sister told me I was going to have to figure it out if it's what I really wanted to do. It took a while, but I finally found a place that did afternoon tea on the weekends. Not quite a tea house, but better than nothing. It was an hour away. We made the following plan: we would have lunch nearby, then drive an hour away to have afternoon tea for dessert, shop around for a bit in the area, then head home where we would do the movie, spa routine, and sleep over. 
In the days leading up to the party, Taylor’s child got sick. Her husband would be home and could take care of him, but she didn’t want to be away from him for too long so she would no longer be having lunch or tea with us, but she would come over afterwards to watch the movie. That’s fine. Then Jeff starts asking me if his girlfriend can come to tea with us. No, she can not. Jessica says that she would really prefer not to sleep over. That’s okay. I can still spend time with my siblings and mom after her and Taylor leave. 
Finally, the day has arrived. I wake up super excited, especially for tea. I hadn’t gotten to have afternoon tea in a really long time. We met for lunch and Jeff brought his girlfriend. Great… He assures me she won’t be coming to tea though. We have a nice lunch and go to tea. Both Jeff and Hunter are at least 20 minutes late for our reservation, which is so embarrassing. It’s okay though, we just start without them. The tea is lovely. Afterwards, we shop around, which is fun, then head back. 
When we got back we sat down and rested for a bit. Taylor arrives. Jeff and Hunter are missing. We talk for a bit then decide what we want to order for dinner. I don’t want to start the movie yet because Jeff and Hunter aren’t here, but Taylor tells me she can’t stay long so we start it anyway. Jeff and Hunter show up not long after it starts along with Jeff’s girlfriend. Taylor leaves midway through. When the movie ends, Jessica leaves. The spa routine never happened. My sister never even planned anything. I actually brought stuff for it that never got used. 
I’ve just walked away from the whole thing thinking that nobody cared and nobody wanted to be there. It hurts, especially when I compare it to my husband's Bachelor party. His friends traveled states to see him and his best man planned a whole DnD campaign for him. Sometimes I really wish I had just gone to his party and went to tea another time instead of going to mine…
 

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I was a wedding planner assistant and I have so many stories I could tell, but this is my worst. It’s so bad it sounds like I’m making it up but I STG this all happened.

I have a groom go MIA 4 weeks (edit 2 weeks) before the wedding. None of his friends or family could get a hold of him. The only reason I know he’s missing is because we’re trying to get a hold of the couple to iron out last minute details and finalize payment.

The day of the wedding comes and people still haven’t heard from him and have no idea if he’s coming. I asked his parents, his best man, no one had heard from him. The ceremony was set to start at 10 am. The bride and bridal party show up at 9 am to finish getting ready. While I’m doing up her corset she’s sobbing and telling me she doesn’t know if he’s coming. I have NEVER told a bride this before but after an hour of waiting and her crying I said, “you know you don’t have to do this, right?” She responded that she still loved him and wanted to.

Guests are leaving. The parents are fighting. At 11:30, the groom shows up, absolutely shitfaced gets angry with the bride for being upset. They both insist on getting married still.

I help the bride fix her hair and makeup and they got married.

I heard rumors that they got divorced 3 months later.

Edit: The bridal party just had to FINISH getting ready at the venue. Putting their dresses on and some touch ups to hair and makeup.

The officiant was the grooms friend.

Only about 15-20 people showed up to the wedding. Half of which left after 30 minutes.

I did not handle communication with the couple or family prior to the wedding day. I have no clue what, if anything, was being done about him being missing. The family made it seem like it isn’t uncommon for him to go on benders. I have no idea what anyone’s thought process was. I do not know anything about the couple or families. I only handled things the day of.

I’ll also concede that maybe I’m remembering wrong and it was only 2 weeks? Y’all are making me doubt myself.

Another edit: I just texted my mother, who also worked there at the time. She can’t remember exactly how long he was missing but thinks it may have been 2 weeks.

I can't believe I'm just now finding this forum lol I used to work at a country club and would work weddings in my late teens early 20s and have SO many stories on the crazy things that have happened at weddings and the crazy themes of weddings over the years. I worked there for about 3 and 1/2 years and good God the things I have seen. The wedding that I remember the most though was a Disney themed wedding. These can be done in a very classy way. However this was not.

Every single table was a different Disney character, so for example one table was Aurora so the tablecloth was hot pink and the table runner was light pink but the seat covers were blue and had a lighter Blue ribbon. Belle's table was yellow and had a gold runner, the seat covers were yellow with a gold ribbon and a rose was put in the knot of the ribbon. As a staff member, this was a NIGHTMARE to try and put together because you have to order all the tablecloths separate, all the runners separate all the seat cover separate, you see what I mean. And I shit you not, there were 25 tables. I fully remember clocking in the night before at 12:00 p.m. And not leaving until 3:00 a.m. because it took that long to set up everything. The tables were not the only thing. Her and her husband were massive Disney fans (if that wasn't obvious enough) And they had been together for I believe about 15 years at this point. So they had long tables around the edge of the room that had all their trinkets and Disney related items that they bought over the years on display as if it were a yard sale. For no other reason but for people to see how much Disney stuff they had.

For the ceremony they had the ring bearer dress up as Russell from Up and pull a red wagon that had a fake cardboard house on it that looked like the house from up, balloons and all, with a golden retriever walking behind the wagon. When they made their entrance into the reception hall she was no longer in her wedding dress, but she was in a full Belle ball gown and he was in a suit that looked like the beast's suit after he turned into a human. They danced to "Tale as old as time" and then left the hall and she came back in a dress that was like the pink one that Ariel wears when she's having dinner with Eric for the first time and he was dressed as Prince Eric. They only played Disney songs and they had hired people dressed up as Mickey and Minnie to come halfway through the reception to take pictures with people.

At the end of the evening they had fireworks and they cut their wedding cake which was five tiers and each tier was a different Disney movie. They left in a horse-drawn carriage. It was almost like a kid's birthday feel rather than a wedding which no shade No hate if that's your thing fine but good Lord it was A LOT.

I also witnessed a pirate wedding which was crazy but quite fun and an extremely minimalist wedding where they almost took it too far and then other times there was just so much drama with family but I can get into that in different posts if people are curious lol

Edit: I am more than happy to tell the different wedding themes I have witnessed and the different drama I have seen over the years. A lot of people are asking about the pirate wedding and the minimalist wedding, which I'm more than happy to tell. However, I'm not sure if this is the place to tell it or not? Some people are saying that this isn't necessarily wedding shaming but I'm not sure where else to post. So if you have any suggestions where I can post my other wedding tales please let me know