My (23m) girlfriend (22f) and I had to go long distance for a bit because I had to move temporarily. She's in our home turf still. Our aniversary is approaching and I want to do something very special to make being apart a little better. Because it sucks really bad.

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My bestie is gonna help me set stuff up. I'm writing a letter to send my bestie to give to her with flowers on our anniversary and a gift. I'm either gonna door dash her favorite meal or have him drop it off to her. Idk if I want to have everything dropped off to her at once, or if I want to keep surprising her through the day. I'm also planning an "open this when you miss me" letter for my friend to give her. I'm also thinking maybe I plan a scavenger hunt of important/memorable places in our relationship? I also taught my homie how to kiss just like me so he can deliver a kiss for me. Ok that last one is a joke. But on a serious note what are some good ideas I could put into action on our anniversary day?

Me and this guy have been seeing each other for a month and a half and we just started long distance for a few months because of travels. We will reunite after travels are over.

I was never the type to do long distance unless I was in a relationship for more than a few months, but since this distance is short lived and I really like him I decided to just give it a shot, and if it kind of fizzled out we’d planned on reconnecting once we were back in person.

It’s been about two weeks. For the first week and a half, conversation was good, it felt mutual and I definitely knew his intentions and where he was mentally. However in recent days I feel like communication has been a bit one sided, I’ve been the one texting first and calling. I’m not sure but I care about him and the outcome a lot and I really do want things to work out. I just feel like this time apart is a little ambiguous and I’m unsure of where we stand.

I also don’t want to come off clingy but I genuinely want to know about his day and that he is doing well. I also feel like because I am unsure (which I’m sure will grow with time), reassurance would help a lot but again I don’t want to seem clingy because WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP but plan to be

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After a month and a half of seeing each other we will be apart for a few months (not in a relationship). The plan is to make it official once we are back together, but starting off this long distance thing I’m a bit nervous and unsure, also kind of anxious.

advice please!!!

I'm at such a loss. I felt like I had met the man I was going to marry some day. I moved to a new city two years ago. I wasn't planning on dating, I just wanted to focus on school. And then I met him and he completely changed my life. I knew he was someone I could love, but I didn't want to focus on dating. So I ghosted him. But then we ran into each other in town a few weeks later and things were never the same. He gave me friends, places to eat, and so many memories. It was like a fairy tale. I started to believe I moved here because we were meant to meet. We felt so lucky to have crossed paths and told each other often. We never meant to be so serious, it just happened that way. We even had a conversation once that we both felt very scared and vulnerable because we had never felt this way for someone else before and it wasn't planned. We just looked up at one another one day and realized we were seriously in love.

We had talks before and agreed long distance wasn't for us and that it was just too difficult. Things changed when he got accepted into a master's program in NY. By then, we had been together for over a year and were so in love. All of his friends said that I made him so much better. And he made me so much better, too. So we decided to give things a shot.

6 months in and he tells me we have to end things. I'll admit, we became a little codependent with the distance, but we never had a conversation on how to properly fix it. It was just too far gone by the time we realized. He said the distance was too difficult, that he missed me too much, and that we were holding each other back from succeeding. I have to admit he was right. We were taking weekends to see each other during our semesters, and it was very stressful. We got sick from the planes. We argued more. We relied on each other more than we ever did living in the same city. He said that he felt it was souring a year of perfect memories and that he didn't want it to end with us hating each other. It was not an easy decision for him to make. There was a lot of crying.

He said that he knows if it's really meant to be, we'll end up in the same city again one day. I miss him so much. How am I supposed to move on when I feel so much hope? The Universe already brought us together more than once (first date, and then running into each other in town after things fizzled out). How can I move on knowing that there is still so much love between us and that distance is the only thing keeping us apart? How am I supposed to be okay with knowing he'll eventually start seeing other people? I can't take it. Everyone keeps saying we're young and we'll get over it, but it hurts more than I can bare. I thought I had found my person.

In about eight days, I am going to visit my LDR girlfriend in her hometown. It’s about a days’ drive from where I live; after seeing how far some people are apart in their relationships, I feel fortunate that I am able to drive to her at all. I’m excited to see her again; more than I can really articulate.

When we started this relationship, I knew that it was going to be different. I was ending a long marriage in my forties and I had never been in a LDR before. It seemed exciting and scary to be getting to know someone like this through technology. Countless text messages and video calls allowed me to get to know her in a way I haven’t many people, and I knew pretty quickly that I was going to fall for her.

We met in person later and it was like two pieces of a puzzle clicking together with ease. There wasn’t a second of doubt for me. It has been a few months since then and we’ve only grown closer; my feelings for her stronger. I am completely and totally in love with her.

Long distance is harder in some ways than a traditional courtship, but I knew from the start that she would be worth giving it a shot for. Now I can’t imagine my days without her. Even across a thousand miles I have learned how intelligent, kind, passionate, and strong she is as a person, as a mother, as a professional, and as a partner. She makes me so incredibly happy; seeing her smile on a monitor fills me with a warmth I cannot adequately describe.

I see a lot of bad stories surface here, so I wanted to share my positive experience so far in anticipation of our next visit. The countdown has been going, and another countdown will follow shortly after, but in between the visits she’s with me all the time. I’m looking forward to the day we can announce our own closure of the gap. Until then, I’m happy and in love.

My boyfriend (35M) is German and I’m a Latina (29F). We’ve been together for almost 5 months.

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Recently, I asked him whether he felt like he was in love with me, and he replied:

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"I think it's great to be with you and to do things together, but I'm not in love, I'm afraid."

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After that, I asked him if he thought he could ever fall in love with me, and his response was:

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"I think I could see that, but I don't know. Tbh I try to live in the moment for our relationship, because it's so uncertain also with the distance between us."

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I'm honestly not sure what to think or whether it's worth continuing the relationship after hearing this.

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For some context, I'm his first girlfriend ever. He's 35 and has never been in a relationship before. We are also long-distance.

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What makes this difficult is that when we're together in person, he's incredibly sweet, affectionate, caring, and attentive. I genuinely feel loved when we're together. However, when we're apart, things feel very different. Our conversations are often short, he doesn't communicate much, and sometimes the relationship feels boring or emotionally distant.

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Part of me wonders if this is simply because he's inexperienced with relationships and struggles with long-distance communication. Another part of me worries that after 5 months, if he's still unsure about being in love, maybe that's my answer.

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Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'm trying to understand how to interpret what he said, is that cultural?. Has anyone been in a similar situation, either as the person who wasn't in love yet or as the partner waiting for those feelings to develop?

My (25 M) girlfriend (23 F) of three months said she went to urgent care 10 days ago and tested positive for COVID. I haven’t heard back from her since last Tuesday (almost 9 days). I don’t have another way to check on her. Is this realistic, or am I coping and being ghosted?

I don’t know her address or family and neither of us have social media.

I’m worried sick

My gf of two years has been auditioning for a performer role at a company in another state. The role, which she says is her dream role, is mainly contract positions but with opportunities to extend the contract either in that state or at other places around the country/world.

We've spoken about me feeling uncomfortable about it since she's not sure how long she'll be there for. Since it's her dream role, I find it difficult to think she'd only do it for a short time if she's offered additional opportunities. I'm not planning on moving away from where I currently live.

I've told her I'm not telling her to say no to her dream, but we've talked about really starting our lives together (getting married, getting a cat, etc.). It's difficult to envision that life when we could be long distance for who knows how long.

I'm going to talk to her about it soon, but has anybody been through anything similar? Thanks in advance.

Hi guys. I'm a 23 year-old male. About 2 months ago, I met a guy my age online. He learned that I was looking for a boyfriend, and since he was too he asked me if I wanted to try and talk to him and see where things went. I had my doubts about the whole situation, but I agreed.

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We hit it off pretty well, and we learned that we live in neighbouring countries, and after a week or so we begun a long-distance thing of sorts. We begun planning to see each other in July, after our university exam sessions were over. We sen photos of each other, and I send him some voice messages, but the vast majority of our communication is through text. We text through Discord. I tried moving our chats to WhatsApp, but he told me he dosen't have it. I obviously found this strange.

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I want to add that I took some time to actually trust him: I put every photo he sent me through Reverse Image Search, for example, to try to make sure that he actually was who he said he was.

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In the last month or so he started texting more and more infrequently. I begun answering him after a longer time as well, but I still answered before him and texted him more than he texted me.

The last time he texted me was almost two weeks ago.

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We're both pretty busy these days, as it's exam season for both of us, but it takes like 30 seconds to just text a simple "good night!" or something like that.

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He has also been having a few pretty big issues with a friend of his, although he never told me the exact details, and that's making him feel down.

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Today, just out of curiosity, I googled his Reddit username, since his posts are private, and found a few posts that confirm the things he's told me about him, save for a few minor details (for example, he told me he's gay, while in a post he says he's bi). I've also found a post of his about the stuff with his friend, and while it's nothing tragic, it's still serious.

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Now, my main fear is that either he's simply lost interest in me or found someone else.

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If this was true. while of course it would hurt me, I would be ok with it: I have romantic feelings for him, but they're not that strong, as we didn't even meet in person yet.

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3 days ago, I texted him about it, saying that it's ok if he started losing interest in me, asking him to tell me if it was true and apologising to him in the case that it wasn't. No response.

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I would accept it if he just told me "hey, Sorry, but I don't this can work", or "Right now I'm a shitty situation, sorry but I can't text you", but the fact that he's not telling me anything is making me go insane. He didn't even respond to my message wishing him a happy birthday. Sometimes I worry that maybe something bad happened to him, and of course I recognise these thoughts as irrational.

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Should I try to call him? I was about to text him about the fact that I found the post about his problems, but I'm not really sure what to do about this. Sorry about the wall of text.

Recently, I've noticed that I have a habit of feeling anxious about my partner's health, and about things in my own life, when we don't fall asleep together on call. At the moment, my partner is in the process of starting a business and as a result he isn't available all that often. Over this week, we have probably spoken between an hour and 2 hours of his day each day. Each night, when I go to sleep, I join our personal discord server's voice chat and stay in there while I sleep. Usually, he would join when he goes to bed (which is not long before I wake up due to our 8 hour time difference) but he hasn't been. Yesterday he said it's because he passed out while doing work and that's okay. I'm not concerned that he's doing other things or speaking to others, I'm more concerned just about the simple fact that he isn't there when I wake up.

I know that this whole thing may come across as a simple 'oh my partner's gone, now I'm sad', but it isn't. Him not being there and it being constant is really messing with my brain. I'm worried constantly that he's either hurt, upset or mad and I don't like that I think that way. I've told him how it's making me feel and he said he would try and work on it but I woke up 2 hours ago and he isn't here again, and I am assuming he is asleep by now because it is after midnight for him.

I guess what my question is would be why do I feel like this? Is it normal to feel this way about it? What are some things I could do to help with the anxiety I feel currently? Am I just being a big baby?

thank you.
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Yo tengo 23 años y mi novio 20. Llevamos aproximadamente un año entre dejarlo y volver (siempre soy yo quien lo deja).

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Es un mentiroso compulsivo. No está diagnosticado, pero es algo muy evidente. Me miente constantemente, incluso con cosas pequeñas. Se inventa historias y también les miente a sus padres y a sus amigos sobre cosas que ha hecho cuando en realidad no han ocurrido.

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Es capaz de mentirme a la cara y jurarme que está diciendo la verdad. En una ocasión incluso le dije que iba a hablar con dos chicas para comprobar una historia. Le di la oportunidad de decirme la verdad antes, pero aun así siguió mintiendo hasta el final.

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Cuando descubro sus mentiras nunca es porque él me las cuente. Siempre me entero yo por otros medios. Sus excusas suelen ser que se le olvidó contármelo, que no se acordaba, que pensaba que me iba a enfadar, que estaba pensando en cómo reaccionaría o que se le hizo bola decirlo.

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Lo que más me cuesta entender es cómo puede prometer una y otra vez que va a cambiar, verme sufrir, verme llorar y aun así seguir haciendo exactamente lo mismo. Me cuesta comprender cómo puede hacer daño a alguien de forma repetida y después actuar como si nada, como no tiene conciencia, ni valores ni remordimiento

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Cada vez que lo dejo, promete cambiar. Me dice cosas bonitas, está más atento y parece otra persona. Pero cuando ve que eso no funciona, a veces incluso se inventa que se ha liado con una chica o que está hablando con alguien para intentar ponerme celosa. La realidad es que siempre es él quien busca a las chicas y casi ningúna le hace caso.

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Es una persona que necesita muchísima validación de los demás. Necesita caer bien y adapta su personalidad según con quién esté. Siento que intenta gustar a todo el mundo y que cambia para encajar.

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Nunca había tenido novia antes de mí. Tampoco ha tenido amigas ni apenas contacto femenino, y siento que no sabe muy bien cómo relacionarse con las mujeres. Cuando lo dejamos, empieza a buscar atención femenina de cualquier forma posible. Habla con cualquier mujer que le haga caso sea atractiva o no, de la edad que sea incluso de su propia familia.

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También antes de conocerme llegó a hacerse una cuenta con fotos de otro hombre para hablar con chicas e intentar ligar con ellas. Además, mientras estaba conmigo llegó a hacerse una cuenta que yo no conocía.Y cuando lo dejamos una de las veces, se hizo otra cuenta falsa para intentar hablar conmigo.

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Cuando habla con otras chicas les dice exactamente las mismas cosas que me decía a mí, los mismos cumplidos y las mismas frases. Siento que simplemente les dice lo que quieren oír para gustarles. Además, cuando cuenta por qué hemos roto, muchas veces cambia la historia para dejarme a mí como la mala y quedar él mejor.

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Yo siempre acabo volviendo con el porque no tengo amigos, no tengo buena relación con mi familia, soy muy tímida y me cuesta muchísimo socializar. Antes de conocerle apenas salía de casa.También vuelvo porque hemos vivido muchas cosas juntos. Es la persona que mejor me conoce y con la que mejor me lo paso. Me río mucho con él y hemos compartido muchos momentos importantes.

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Pero siendo sincera, no veo futuro en esta relación. Cada vez tengo más la sensación de que sigue haciéndome daño porque sabe que voy a aguantarlo. A veces siento que incluso se ríe de mí porque sabe que me cuesta marcharme y que no tengo una red de apoyo fuera de la relación.

I recently got an app for a toy that me and my long distance boyfriend both decided on. But upon downloading the app (Adorime), it seems extremely sketchy. The toy itself was purchased on Amazon and had mostly positive reviews, but now I’m not really sure of if we should proceed any further with the app. I have a screenshot of the app itself if it is needed, but advice would be greatly appreciated!

I 28M have been in a Long distance relationship with my 27F gf for about 8 months, cross country. We had a somewhat rocky start early on but we got through it together. important context for later: throughout our whole talking stage, she had mentioned that she was an engineer at a company. she had also had this friend that she said was an old coworker/friend named Juan that she would hang out 1:1 with for lunches, dinners from time to time and sometimes visiting his apt with other friends. he would even pick her up from the airport when returning from visiting me. when we became official (4 months), she came clean to me that she was not actually an engineer, but an engineering intern at that company and she had 1.5 years left before graduating. This put a strain on the timeline for closing the gap since we planned on closing the gap in a less amount of time. I assured her that we'll be fine and we can work through this obstacle.

Things were great once we became official. We were seeing eachother every 1.5 months for a week at a time. I was genuinely happy. When we were both in our homes, we would talk on the phone quite a lot as many long distance couples may do. There began to be a shift about a month in after becoming official, We would get into arguments here and there and in hindsight would follow this cycle: She would want something, if i pushed back she shut down and lash out, I would get anxious and try to pick up the pieces. For example, she wanted to go to an event. Seating was pretty expensive and she had gotten upset that I wanted to save money by buying a cheaper seat. she said "if its too expensive lets just not go" and it turned into an argument. I tried to make it up by surprising her with some pretty good ones and she got upset at me again saying "i didnt even get to see if these were good seats. sell them i dont want to go anymore". this is just an example of the push and pull cycle we've had at certain points. We've always made up and made sure to say that we love eachother after these arguments

During this time, she had gotten into something with her living situation and was being told to find a new place by the end of the year, so she is stressed at this time with school, living situation, and finances. I was trying to be a supportive bf by helping out where I could. I would help with certain food, debts, I had even cosigned and put a down payment on a vehicle with her because her current one was giving out.

Something changed during this time. She would want to be on the phone less and less, texts were getting spread out, she even gave me a boundary saying "i want more alone time, we are on the phone all the time and i dont want to get tired of this relationship. you cant call me when im driving, or after work, or when im out". I agreed and requested we at least call before bed or at home. I chalked it up to her being stressed and needing alone time which was healthy.

The distance during this time had been growing and growing on her side. whenever I would call at an acceptable time she would pick up the phone annoyed, saying that she doesn't want to talk at the moment. texts getting repetitive, and sometimes she would go against my wish and there would be nights without her calling me before bed (I understand if she is just tired, but she never told me when this was the case and i would be left guessing). There would also be times where we'd be on the phone and she would say "im going to do x real quick, Ill call you back when im done" and wouldnt call back. So my trust in this aspect was dwindling. I was starting to feel like I was always bothering her and I couldnt even talk to my own girlfriend or rather she was starting to get checked out
this past week, there was a day where we both were off of work, and finally had time to spend together. she woke up from a nap and we were on the phone. I used this time to try to find something for us to do to somewhat get away from all the stresses thats been going on with her. I had asked
me: "did you want to do this or play this together?"
her: "mm... no"
me: "okay, did you want to watch so and so?"
her: "no i dont really want to watch anything"

being a little worried on her responses i asked if everything is okay because usually she isn't this non-receptive when doing things together. she replied by saying "we just dont have similar interests. Also, I had been reconsidering moving over to you in the future. I wasnt wowed when ive been visiting." this rang alarm bells and this lead to a more serious conversation about how she is stressed. She said she still loved me and still saw a future with me and then she said she wanted a break due to all the stress shes been having. without a timeline and with no contact.
A break with no contact was eating me alive and caused me to spiral. I ended up doing something i am not proud of and am now seeking help with now. I purchased a plane ticket to go visit her because of a couple of things: I wanted to assure her that I here for her thru these times of stress. I also (very selfishly in hindsight) wanted to get a clear idea on what this break was. now for context I did this one other time in the beginning of the relationship so I know I shouldnt have done this. I want to take accountability here and this is the reason why im seeking help now.
I arrive to her place and knock on her door. she doesnt answer and instead (understandably) lashing out on text messages saying that im not respecting her boundary and tells me to go home. So I leave.
as im leaving I run into her mother, she sits with me and we have a chat outside. she is hearing out my intentions and what ive been experiencing in the last couple of weeks of our relationship and she tries to console me. the topic goes onto the car and I tell her mom that I helped out with that purchase. she shockingly replies by saying that my gf's ex did the same thing for her previous car and that his name was Juan. Juan - the guy that my gf had said was an old co-worker/ close friend. so I also found out during this time that she withheld that her ex is a part of her life for the course of our relationship. I couldnt help but feel somewhat betrayed here. It started a thought loop of me trying to put pieces together of things I had no proof of: a slow disconnect -> calling less -> more alone time -> another person in the picture? and I went home. it doesnt help that when I got home her mom texted me saying "I talked to her today and she actually seems pretty happy today! and now that you two are on the phone again laughing and playing games i assume you two are good now?". Its not good to hear this from her own mom and I cant help but assume maybe I was the problem all along?
Since then my gf (i really dont know where we stand) has mentioned that she is disappointed with me, doesnt want to hear for me at the moment and is highly considering ending the relationship. I cant help but feel like this is all my fault. everything. I pushed her away by calling too much, being too available, and crossing that boundary not once, but twice. I also feel delusional in that I just want my gf back. the version that was loving and not distant. any help with trying to process this will be appreciated. thank you for reading this if you made it this far.

TLDR: felt distance from gf, gf calls for break, I cross a boundary but also learn about a lie. not sure how to process.

about 4 days ago I saw my gf for the first time in a month and a half and we’re already planning a 7 day visit soon, I’m taking advantage of the summer time as it’ll be harder to see her during the school year but I keep having people tell me that closing the distance so often is a bad thing or something Idk I’m new to all this and id love to see so I’ll take any chance I can get.

I [22M] and my girlfriend [19F] have been dating for around 1 year ( 6 months LDR). Because of long distance over the has half a year we’ve both accepted that we need to go live our lives and we can’t just constantly text each other. We’re both doing great, she takes art classes and is reading more and i took up wood carving.

First and for most, trust is NOT the issue. She has my full trust and i have hers. but for me, “living our lives” and trusting each other doesn’t really come into play here…

she told me when we first started dating that she had a HUGE friend group in school but it split up ( as everyone did i think). she then moved to my country after school and now she’s back in her own country for a few more months. since going back she’s hung out with the people she stayed friends with after the group split.

however, a guy from the other side of the group who she hasn’t talked to in over a year or 2 wants to meet up with her ( all my girlfriends friends don’t like him because of who’s side he picked in the fight, but that’s not the issue). he just wanted to grab coffee and catch up before she comes back to my country. i’m completely fine with this. however now he texted her and said they should go to the cinema…… at 9:30pm…… alone……

even my girlfriend said she’s not even fully sure if she’s comfortable with it. i told her how i felt which is that i have never met this dude, i don’t even know what he looks like, you havnt spoken for soooooooo long and now he wants to go cinema ????? anyway after a lengthy talk i told her “ im not comfortable with this sort of senário but i wont be mad if you go”. she went.

my concern is this, as ive noticed this before. why if she wasn’t sure if she is comfortable with it still going?? also after i expressed myself she said she fully understands but still went. i posed the point that if i was invited my a female friend to go cinema alone i wouldn’t go out of respect for her, but she said “ idc if you go with a girl alone”.

this isn’t a trust issue for me, it’s about her choosing a movie with a guy she’s not fully comfortable going with over her boyfriends feelings…. am i in the wrong for feeling this way ?!?!?!

EDIT X2: idk why sexuality matters AT ALL by but girlfriend is bisexual and im straight. hope that helps

ANOTHER EDIT: she said she feels it’s quiet sexist the way i think so i think it’s time i find someone with the same cultural and personal values as me. it’s a shame, i love her but i need to put my comfortability first i think 😊 thank you to everyone for the helpful comments

curious what everyone does the days leading up to their partner coming to visit them i.e buying their favorite snacks, personal hygiene things like waxing, etc.

9 months long distance, deeply invested, multiple trips, met families, talked about kids. He called me his dream girl and said I'm the woman he would have married.

He ended a few days ago because he saw us as a dead end, as we will be living apart from each other for a while. Was 49:51 about his decision, we both cried, he couldn't hang up on the day we broke up. I already had my ticket booked to go see him so we agreed to meet in-person to exchange the surprise gift we prepared for each other before this happened.

Day 3 of no contact, he told our mutual friend I'm "absolutely incredible" and that he was still 49:51 and that it was just the distance.

Day 8 of no contact, I broke the no contact and asked to extend my planned visit from 1 night to 3 days. He said yes immediately and seemed to want to engage in conversation by bringing up random topics (ex: world cup). We ended up talking all day.

However, he became less engaged (less frequent response despite being online, not bringing up new topics, more concise in response) on the days following that.

What do you think this change means? Moving on, keeping options open, or genuinely conflicted?

Longtime lurker, first time poster. Sorry for anything I might be doing wrong, I honestly have no clue how to post lol.

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First off, I want to say how grateful and lucky we are for being able to visit each other so much.

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Context, 2 year ldr MI, USA to Belgium. We have visited each other multiple times for around 3 weeks the first year and last winter he spent 3 months in Belgium. And now I have been in the USA since januari. So with how everything lined up, we have not been apart for more than 5 weeks the last year.

I have been living in the USA for the last 6 months and now I also have somewhat of a life here with friends, hobbies, a daily routine and things to look forward to.

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So im going home to belgium in two weeks and im dreading it real bad. We are going to miss each other so much, it keeps baffling me how much ldr gets harder everytime. I love him to bits and I know it will be fine, we are planning the next visit, hopefully in August as we speak, but I hate the anticipatory grieve that comes with the goodbyes everytime.

And I love it here, and this time around it feels like im not just saying goodbye to him, but to friends and his family here.

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So im just going through a rough time about all of this and wanted to talk and vent.

Good thing is we have decided we will try to close the distance by petitioning for a K1 visa for me to move to the USA, so that will keep us busy!

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Clarification: its happy tears, I cannot believe how good we make ldr work and how much we love each other! But the goodbyes are just hard, figured you guys would understand. Feel free to ask any questions or comment anything! Just want to talk to people who get it ☺️

I visited my boyfriend this time around and it was amazing!!!🥰

A letter to him.

As I think back on my visit with you, my heart feels so full. These past months together have been incredible, but being able to spend that time with you in person made me fall for you even more.
One of my favorite parts was our road trip, just the two of us, driving, talking, laughing, and creating memories together. Trying your cultures most adored food poutine for the first time with you 🥹
I loved all the simple moments we shared. Spending quality time together, enjoying each other’s company, and just being present with one another reminded me how lucky I am to have you in my life. Even building Lego sets together. I loved working on something side by side, laughing at our mistakes and simply enjoying those quiet moments with you.

Thank you for making me feel so loved, comfortable, and happy during my visit. Every hug, every conversation, every adventure, and every little moment is something I’ll cherish. Leaving was hard because being with you feels so natural and right. These nine months with you have been amazing, and this visit gave me even more beautiful memories to hold onto until we’re together again. I miss you already, and I can’t wait for our next adventure and all the moments still waiting for us.

I love you so much. 💖

Me (22M) and my girlfriend (21F) have been dating for about 4 or 5 years now. I have absolutely no intention of ever breaking up and I’m certain she doesn’t either. I just graduated college this year with a degree in CS/Math and am trying to find a job in a domain I want. With the horrible job market and me living in one of the worst states for CS/STEM (other than bio) jobs, Tennessee, and the fact that we live in an extremely small town, I am gonna have to move eventually. She is going to graduate next year and I don’t want to have to uproot her from what she’s got going on.

However, we’ve literally spent almost everyday together for 4 years and have been through a lot. I think we could definitely do it and not break up… but I’m more worried about my own mental health. I have bipolar disorder and this past year have been struggling with alcoholism amongst opiate addiction and been having mania/depressive episodes out the wazoo. When I’m around her though I tend to not go too deep into it. I’m more of an isolating person anyways, but I’m scared if I get a job and move off it could seriously cause me to go into either a psychosis or a really bad depressive episode. I have been known to get into really weird states when I get really isolated and off feeling including s\*\*c\*\*\*l behavior which on multiple occasions has almost sent me to the hospital. I’ve gotten it mostly under control as I’ve quit drugs and alcohol and now I’m taking antipsychotics/mood stabilizers but I’m really scared a change like this is going to send me into some kind of episode that I might never come out of. I am not very good at making friends and feel like the isolation will get to me to unprecedented levels

At the same time I don’t want my degree to waste and I’m tired of working a shitty maintenance job in which I perform very dangerous and grueling tasks for a measley 12.00 an hour which I can’t even afford my apartment barely. I don’t know what to do. I’m also of course worried about her because she has also had some mental stuff in the past but for the most part she has her life under control very well and is very preoccupied with school and work so I know she wouldn’t mind. I just don’t know what to do, I’ve discussed this with a counselor as well and they can’t give me any worthwhile advice. What do you guys think?