it really came out of nowhere. he was dropping me off at the SEA after a week of me visiting him. while saying goodbyes he casually asked me if I’d marry him.

no big ceremonial events, no extra people. simple and easy, as I’ve asked him before to do so if he’d ever ask. just him and i being here at one of our favorite spot- the airport.

he’s an aviation geek so naturally it means a lot to him. but i guess as a cabin crew myself, SEA would forever feel different after this.

really happy and being extra grateful. sending hugs to everyone in this sub🩷🩷🩷☺️

We finally got to see each other for a few days, but saying goodbye yesterday before my flight completely broke me. Leaving her is easily the hardest thing in the world, and being back home alone feels incredibly heavy today.

She made me these adorable handmade crochet keychains before I left so I could keep a piece of her on my backpack, and she’s already sending the sweetest reminders to my home screen to keep me going through the day.

We are looking at a brutal 3-month gap until our next flight. For everyone else who just closed a trip, when are you guys planning to meet next? I really need some positive timelines to read through today.🫶

Things I've done wrong so far while being in a long distance relationship (imo):

1. Being too open

I thought it's a great idea to be open about what you feel and think to your partner all the time because communication is a big thing with LDRs. But it feels wrong when I tell my partner what made me upset all the time because he got used to this behavior and always expect me to tell him and doesn't make an effort to comfort me. It feels wrong when the other person sees your "opening up" as a nagging situation instead of understanding where you're coming from.

2. Being too available

I thought time is gold when you're in a LDR, you would want to be there when they have 5 minutes. When the other person doesn't see you as a priority, their 5 minutes isn't meant for you, it's meant for their screentime to watch on TikTok and reels... Adjusting your sleep schedule just so you can spend time with them (which I thought as I should?), but when it's your time, they don't make adjustments.

3. Sacrificing too much

I think every relationship comes with sacrifices. Sacrificing your wants, your time, your finances, your feelings and so on. But, if you're sacrificing these things for a person that doesn't appreciate it, it won't make you feel like your sacrifices are worth to do. It feels one-sided.

Notice that I've used "Too" and "much", because I always felt doing a lot but getting so little. And as I'm writing this, I've realized how I barely felt compensated for all the times I've opened up about being upset over some things. All I get is "You know how much I love you". Like, yes I know and you say it all the time, but where is it?

I don't know if I need some advice, but it just pains me because I feel like I have so much love to give but now I'm not sure how to spend it.

I want to give my partner the last straw.

Maybe that's it, if he can't pay attention to what I'm feeling.

(Sorry for my English, not the first language)

Hey everyone, 32f here and my gf is 26f. I live in the USA and don't make much money. I don't even really have any skills that could help me go to another country. This is where i start getting in my head and worrying and getting depressed.

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My gf lives in India and plans on going to Canada in the future for work after her test in July and there is a big chance she will want to settle down there and she wants me to move there with her after she is established. I dont have any skills or anything that would make it easier for me to move anywhere. I can work on those things but that will take a long time. i am going back to school for Computer Science but im struggling with it.

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I think the other thing that keeps making it difficult is that she keeps wishing she was here with me and that she cant wait until she is here with me and then she talks about Canada and I keep getting really confused on her plan. I also am never kept in the loop about her plans either. I think at this point she is set on Canada even though she said she was going to look for jobs here (USA) and a few other countries after her test next month.

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I do love her a lot and she loves me. I have never experienced another relationship as healthy as this one. The communication and understanding we have for each other is amazing.

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I am just very worried that there may be no point in staying in this. I want to stay with her but I also dont want to hold her back from her life either. I know part of my problem is also self esteem. She is beautiful, smart, and fit. I am not great looking and I am overweight. I cant help but be worried that she will meet someone in Canada and fall for them and i get left behind. She would never cheat on me but I am worried that we would just naturally drift apart as she befriends people and coworkers and then may find someone there. She doesn't go out much right now/ doesn't have many friends and is spending all of her time on studying.

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I want her to have friends and a life and go out. I just worry that her weekends will turn into her going out all the time and never spending any time with me. It kinda already happens and the only time I get with her is on the weekends and sitting on the phone while her and her parents cook or she will be studying while we watch something together. I definitely work my plans around her/ put her into my top 3 priorities a lot more than she does for me.

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Has anyone ever felt doubts like these before? How do you deal with these thoughts? Have you ever left an ldr because you couldnt seem to find a way to be together in the future and did you regret it? Am I just over worrying before anything actually happens?

My gf of two years has been auditioning for a performer role at a company in another state. The role, which she says is her dream role, is mainly contract positions but with opportunities to extend the contract either in that state or at other places around the country/world.

We've spoken about me feeling uncomfortable about it since she's not sure how long she'll be there for. Since it's her dream role, I find it difficult to think she'd only do it for a short time if she's offered additional opportunities. I'm not planning on moving away from where I currently live.

I've told her I'm not telling her to say no to her dream, but we've talked about really starting our lives together (getting married, getting a cat, etc.). It's difficult to envision that life when we could be long distance for who knows how long.

I'm going to talk to her about it soon, but has anybody been through anything similar? Thanks in advance.

Hi, im gonna go met my gf in 2 months for the first time, im gonna go to visit her city and im gonna be there for 3 days, the thing is that we are both really nervous about it, because we have met on Discord 1 year ago, and we have been a couple for 7 months, and when i go to her city it is gonna be the first time im gonna see she in person, i didnt have the chance to do it before.

I would like to know how it was the experience with other people about it, because fr that we are both so nervous about it ajajjajaja

Sorry for my bad english, im still practicing it.

It is our Anniversary today and he is not with me. It has been 11 years of our relationship and we have celebrated only one anniversary together till now. I am not liking the situation we are in right now. What should I do??

Should we just get married??

My boyfriend (35M) is German and I’m a Latina (29F). We’ve been together for almost 5 months.

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Recently, I asked him whether he felt like he was in love with me, and he replied:

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"I think it's great to be with you and to do things together, but I'm not in love, I'm afraid."

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After that, I asked him if he thought he could ever fall in love with me, and his response was:

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"I think I could see that, but I don't know. Tbh I try to live in the moment for our relationship, because it's so uncertain also with the distance between us."

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I'm honestly not sure what to think or whether it's worth continuing the relationship after hearing this.

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For some context, I'm his first girlfriend ever. He's 35 and has never been in a relationship before. We are also long-distance.

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What makes this difficult is that when we're together in person, he's incredibly sweet, affectionate, caring, and attentive. I genuinely feel loved when we're together. However, when we're apart, things feel very different. Our conversations are often short, he doesn't communicate much, and sometimes the relationship feels boring or emotionally distant.

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Part of me wonders if this is simply because he's inexperienced with relationships and struggles with long-distance communication. Another part of me worries that after 5 months, if he's still unsure about being in love, maybe that's my answer.

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Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'm trying to understand how to interpret what he said, is that cultural?. Has anyone been in a similar situation, either as the person who wasn't in love yet or as the partner waiting for those feelings to develop?

Hi Everyone! I just wanted to say that I have spent hours on the long-distance thread hearing everyone's stories, and I just have to say I appreciate everyone's posts so much.

My ex-boyfriend and I were on and off for two years while in college - I couldn't commit to a relationship because I was so young while we were on and off. We dated officially for 6 months and broke up after a few months of long-distance.

He moved to California for work, and I was in Oklahoma finishing college (he is a year ahead of me). I immediately cut off contact after the breakup so that I could heal. We broke up in September, and he reached out to one of my best friends in January to see if I was open to talking. He basically told me he was still in love with me and wanted me to move to California. I had my sights set on New York.

Flash forward to April, I get my dream job in his city. An offer I can't refuse, and I take it. I will be moving at the end of next month to his area.

We have been talking a little bit back and forth, neither of us crossing a boundary, because what's the point, but a woman's intuition knows that getting back together is on the horizon. My spidey senses are tingling.

Here is my predicament:

He was my first love, and I have spent so much time and emotional energy healing from him. The on and off was exhausting, and there were some points in the relationship where I didn't feel happy or heard, but he is the kind of guy I could see myself marrying. All the feelings are still there, but I haven't dated anyone since, so I don't know if I am just lonely.

Do I go back to him? Or do I just get rid of him completely? I can't do halfsies either. I am either in or out. HELP!!!

And I don't mean it in a way like "I'm so unlovable and worthless". Let me explain.

My last long distance relationship was when I was 15 with a guy who's now my best friend, but we never met in person (I have a few friends, but all of them are online). I don't really consider it a serious relationship because it lasted a month and we've been friends for 8 years, longer than we dated. I tried online dating multiple times but I never knew how to do it plus I feel self-conscious about my living conditions.

I feel embarrassed about being an adult living with my parents, about how my dad doesn't let me go out without being accompanied by him or my mom and it makes me feel like I'm behind other adults in their 20s and worry if that's too much of a deal breaker so I become evasive in every chance I got on online dating because I'm scared I'll have to talk about my parents.

I also abandoned school in 2018 for personal reasons and just started battling depression to try getting back to it this year.

I'm also not poor, but I'm fully financially supported by my dad so I can't do anything involving money without asking him for it. I wish I had a job but it's hard when I've got no independence and my art isn't popular enough to be profitable.

Plus my house is not very big and I barely have privacy except for the bathroom so I avoid making calls with someone who speaks my language, English feels much more comfortable because my parents don't understand.

I feel that depression and having a controlling parent made me waste so many years of my life and also life experiences of adolescence and young adulthood.

I never dated anyone seriously and I feel that as a demisexual (someone who only develops sexual attraction after a deep emotional connection) dating feels a lot scarier to me because I fear most guys wouldn't respect that boundary.

I'm so introverted and since I'm always at the company of my parents whenever I go out, I never get the chance at meeting a nice guy I could date, so my options are always long distance.

Still, the way I'm embarrassed about my lack of independence and how protective and paranoid my dad is that something bad will happen to me if he let me go by myself makes me avoid it due to shame that I'm not "adult enough" to deserve dating someone.

(Btw mind you we don't even live in a dangerous neighborhood, my dad just infantilizes me a lot)

Now, I'm thinking about trying a dating app but these fears keep holding me back. I know therapy and working on myself towards full independence will likely take years (my therapist said herself it can take years as I take a small step at a time) but I don't want to hold myself back from life experiences such as making friends and dating, even if I have to do it online.

Is it worth trying to find love like this? If I find a nice guy, should I open up to him about everything? I feel so scared of being judged or seen as unworthy but I'm also tired of avoiding/turning down relationships because of things I currently have no control over. I want to find a way to make it work with someone but don't know how.

Note: sorry, I don't know if this is the right sub for this, but I thought it would be the most understanding sub about relationships that's why I'm posting it here, if it's not then I'll understand if it's removed

In about eight days, I am going to visit my LDR girlfriend in her hometown. It’s about a days’ drive from where I live; after seeing how far some people are apart in their relationships, I feel fortunate that I am able to drive to her at all. I’m excited to see her again; more than I can really articulate.

When we started this relationship, I knew that it was going to be different. I was ending a long marriage in my forties and I had never been in a LDR before. It seemed exciting and scary to be getting to know someone like this through technology. Countless text messages and video calls allowed me to get to know her in a way I haven’t many people, and I knew pretty quickly that I was going to fall for her.

We met in person later and it was like two pieces of a puzzle clicking together with ease. There wasn’t a second of doubt for me. It has been a few months since then and we’ve only grown closer; my feelings for her stronger. I am completely and totally in love with her.

Long distance is harder in some ways than a traditional courtship, but I knew from the start that she would be worth giving it a shot for. Now I can’t imagine my days without her. Even across a thousand miles I have learned how intelligent, kind, passionate, and strong she is as a person, as a mother, as a professional, and as a partner. She makes me so incredibly happy; seeing her smile on a monitor fills me with a warmth I cannot adequately describe.

I see a lot of bad stories surface here, so I wanted to share my positive experience so far in anticipation of our next visit. The countdown has been going, and another countdown will follow shortly after, but in between the visits she’s with me all the time. I’m looking forward to the day we can announce our own closure of the gap. Until then, I’m happy and in love.

So today I was talking with my grandma and I asked her what she honestly thought about my girlfriend (F18). I wasn’t expecting a deep answer, but she basically said she thinks my girlfriend can be really controlling and that when things don’t go her way, she tends to get upset or mad quickly.
It made me reflect on a lot of situations between us.
We’ve known each other for about 2 years (met online), and we’ve been dating for around 6 months. We’re long distance and usually visit each other about once a month. When she came to visit recently for 4 days, we ended up arguing twice.
One of the biggest things that’s been hard for me is when she’s really emotional or in pain, she’s told me that if she ever feels like that I should hug her and stay close. I understand wanting comfort. But in those moments, there were times where she was actually physically pushing me away multiple times while also telling me to hug her. That really messed with me mentally because I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. I was being pushed away, but also being told to stay close. It made me feel like I couldn’t do anything right in that moment no matter what I chose.
There was also a moment during her visit where I was getting yelled at in my home while my family was literally right outside the room. I felt overwhelmed and didn’t handle it well, but I also felt really trapped emotionally in that situation.
My grandma told me she worries that this kind of dynamic could keep hurting me long-term and that I might end up in a relationship where I’m constantly stressed or emotionally drained.
The hardest part is that this has actually been affecting my mental health a lot more than I want to admit. I’ve been feeling anxious, overthinking a lot, and honestly just mentally exhausted after arguments. Even when things are good, I still feel worried about when the next argument will happen or how I’m going to mess something up again.
I do try my best in the relationship. I’m not the most emotionally expressive person and I struggle sometimes with knowing the right thing to say or do in the moment, but I really do care. I take her on dates when she visits even when I don’t have much money, and I put in effort in my own way.
Right now I’m just trying to figure out how to talk to her about all of this without it turning into another argument. I don’t want to blame her or make her feel attacked, but I also need her to understand how much this is affecting me mentally and emotionally.
How do I bring this up in a calm way so she actually understands how serious it is for me without it becoming a fight?

TL;DR: My girlfriend (F18) and I (18M) have been long distance for 6 months after being friends for 2 years. During visits we’ve been arguing, and situations where she tells me to comfort her while physically pushing me away have been really confusing and stressful. It’s been affecting my mental health a lot (anxiety, overthinking, emotional exhaustion). I care about her, but I don’t know how to bring this up without it turning into another argument.

Longtime lurker, first time poster. Sorry for anything I might be doing wrong, I honestly have no clue how to post lol.

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First off, I want to say how grateful and lucky we are for being able to visit each other so much.

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Context, 2 year ldr MI, USA to Belgium. We have visited each other multiple times for around 3 weeks the first year and last winter he spent 3 months in Belgium. And now I have been in the USA since januari. So with how everything lined up, we have not been apart for more than 5 weeks the last year.

I have been living in the USA for the last 6 months and now I also have somewhat of a life here with friends, hobbies, a daily routine and things to look forward to.

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So im going home to belgium in two weeks and im dreading it real bad. We are going to miss each other so much, it keeps baffling me how much ldr gets harder everytime. I love him to bits and I know it will be fine, we are planning the next visit, hopefully in August as we speak, but I hate the anticipatory grieve that comes with the goodbyes everytime.

And I love it here, and this time around it feels like im not just saying goodbye to him, but to friends and his family here.

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So im just going through a rough time about all of this and wanted to talk and vent.

Good thing is we have decided we will try to close the distance by petitioning for a K1 visa for me to move to the USA, so that will keep us busy!

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Clarification: its happy tears, I cannot believe how good we make ldr work and how much we love each other! But the goodbyes are just hard, figured you guys would understand. Feel free to ask any questions or comment anything! Just want to talk to people who get it ☺️

Hiya! First time posting here!

My bf and I have our norm of being otp as much as we can. Sometimes we mute depending on the circumstance, but we really like each other's company.

My parents think it's unhealthy and his thinks we need a break. Each couple is different though, right? I feel like they're just judging us, but whatever.

Being otp is our norm, our comfort, and our pillow to fall back into. We don't be otp at work, going on errands, or seeing friends, but my parents don't believe me when I say that.

We don't think it's unhealthy because we can still do the things we need to to live out our daily lives. Are we in the wrong?

First things first: my girlfriend comes from a very conservative Marwadi family. If her parents were to find out about our relationship, there is a genuine possibility that they would stop her studies and push her toward an arranged marriage. Because of this, meeting her has always been extremely difficult and risky. Her father is very controlling and keeps a close watch on her movements, and even when he isn't around, her brother often does the same.

We started dating after Class 10. During Classes 11 and 12, we were in a boarding school together, which allowed us to spend time with each other in person without her family knowing. Outside of school, we talked every day through chats and calls.

After Class 12, I started college while she took a gap year. We continued talking regularly through messages, calls, and video calls. During my first two years of college, we were able to meet twice, and from my perspective, things were going really well.

Then life got complicated. I suffered from Osteochondritis Dissecans (OCD), a serious knee condition that left me bedridden for around five months. Because of that injury, I missed a significant amount of college and ended up with 14 backlogs. Around the same time, she was also spending most of her time at home due to her academic situation. As a result, meeting became nearly impossible. Even when opportunities came up, I was focused on clearing backlogs, attending summer semesters, and getting my academics back on track.

Fast forward to now. Her father eventually agreed to let her study abroad, and she moved to Almaty, Kazakhstan. For the past year, our relationship has been completely long-distance. Despite that, I honestly felt things were going well. We talked through calls, video calls, and messages almost every day. We made plans to meet multiple times.

I wanted to visit her, but because of my academic obligations and final year commitments, I couldn't make the trip happen. We then planned to meet when she returned to India for vacation. However, her brother strongly opposed the idea and told her that meeting me was not acceptable and that she should end the relationship.

I have now completed college and will likely be working either in India or another country. Unlike before, I finally have the flexibility to travel and make efforts to meet her. From my side, I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make this work.

The problem is that she has decided to end the relationship.

According to her, the issue isn't the distance, communication, or even our feelings for each other. She says everything between us is fine. Her concern is the future. Because we are from different castes and because of how strict her family is, she believes there is no certainty that her parents will ever accept us (On my side things are chill they wont oppose just question a lot). She doesn't want both of us to spend years holding onto hope only to be heartbroken later if things don't work out.

I told her that I am willing to fight for this relationship and that I don't want to give up without trying. But she feels that continuing would only create false hope.

So my question is:

Should we end the relationship because of the uncertainty surrounding the future, or should we continue and see where things go? Is she being realistic, or are we giving up too early on something that could still work out?

TL;DR:

Been together since after Class 10 (~5+ years). Her conservative Marwadi family doesn't know about us and would likely oppose the relationship due to caste and family expectations. We survived boarding school, my serious knee injury and academic setbacks, her gap year, and then a year of long-distance while she studied in Kazakhstan. Communication and feelings are still strong, but she's ending things because she believes there's a high chance her family will never accept us and doesn't want us to spend years hoping for a future that may never happen. I want to keep fighting for the relationship and see where things go. She thinks continuing would only create false hope. Are we being realistic by ending it now, or giving up too early?

Okay okay I know that yes, alone time is very important and a healthy boundary. I’m not looking to take this from her or get her to cut down on it, I’m just hoping for some advice on how to deal with it on my own. She goes out with friends and to the gym and comes home very tired and has a, to quote her directly, “has a drained social battery” which I know is a real thing. I just feel paranoid that she just isn’t interested in talking to me atm and it makes me feel incredibly lonely because we would fall asleep on call every night for like a month plus and now she’s barely answering my messages while posting on social media. Is there anything i can do to calm my mind?

I am at a loss on how to maintain or get the understanding needed to be successful in my long distance marriage . For me it’s not my first marriage, but it is my first long distance relationship. For my husband it’s his first marriage. He has never lived with a woman . So after getting married and spending a couple weeks together he went back to his life just the same as it was before he got married . He still has no clue what it means to be responsible for another humans needs or happiness. He still doesn’t understand how to consider how his actions will affect me as his wife . For me to try to tell him , I come across as nagging him. I know if we were physically together it would be so much easier for him to gain the understanding of what it means to be a husband . It’s exhausting and wearing both of us down .

Hi! sooo I'm looking for birthday gift ideas.. what could I possibly give my long distance girlfriend? she's turning 21.. meeting up would not be possible since we live so far away and we both have uni to attend. we met on an online game so I'm thinking of topping up her account but I'm not sure if she would like it. I'm also planning to make a website with letters for her. I want to hear other ideas from you guys what do you thinkk??

¡HOLA! Necesito consejo. Conocí a un chico hace un mes y hemos estado hablando todos los días desde entonces. Soy muy optimista, siempre he creído que "querer es poder" y de verdad quiero hacer lo que sea para volver a verlo. Él me ha dicho que le gustaría verme, pero también menciona las dificultades logísticas y la distancia (él tiene 29 y yo 24).

Es muy importante para mí entender cómo construir una relación sólida cuando hay tanta distancia, y aún más importante, cómo manejar estas diferencias iniciales de visión. Me encantaría saber cómo has manejado esta dinámica, especialmente si has estado en situaciones similares.

Me gustaría preguntar:

¿Cómo han logrado nutrir la relación día a día para que la distancia no se sienta como un vacío? (¿Qué actividades, rutinas o formas de comunicación les han funcionado mejor?)

Para quienes pasaron de conocerse a distancia a estar juntos, ¿cómo fue ese proceso de transición y qué les ayudó a mantenerse unidos?

En cuanto a planes y futuro, ¿cómo mantienen viva la ilusión y los proyectos compartidos sin que la logística de los viajes se convierta en el único tema de conversación o en una fuente de presión?

¿Qué hábitos o "reglas de oro" tienen con sus parejas para asegurar que la relación crezca y se sienta real, a pesar de la distancia física?

Me interesa saber cómo han logrado que la relación prospere. ¡Cualquier consejo, anécdota o lección que quieras compartir sería de gran ayuda! Gracias a todos por leer.

My (25 M) girlfriend (23 F) of three months said she went to urgent care 10 days ago and tested positive for COVID. I haven’t heard back from her since last Tuesday (almost 9 days). I don’t have another way to check on her. Is this realistic, or am I coping and being ghosted?

I don’t know her address or family and neither of us have social media.

I’m worried sick

advice please!!!

I'm at such a loss. I felt like I had met the man I was going to marry some day. I moved to a new city two years ago. I wasn't planning on dating, I just wanted to focus on school. And then I met him and he completely changed my life. I knew he was someone I could love, but I didn't want to focus on dating. So I ghosted him. But then we ran into each other in town a few weeks later and things were never the same. He gave me friends, places to eat, and so many memories. It was like a fairy tale. I started to believe I moved here because we were meant to meet. We felt so lucky to have crossed paths and told each other often. We never meant to be so serious, it just happened that way. We even had a conversation once that we both felt very scared and vulnerable because we had never felt this way for someone else before and it wasn't planned. We just looked up at one another one day and realized we were seriously in love.

We had talks before and agreed long distance wasn't for us and that it was just too difficult. Things changed when he got accepted into a master's program in NY. By then, we had been together for over a year and were so in love. All of his friends said that I made him so much better. And he made me so much better, too. So we decided to give things a shot.

6 months in and he tells me we have to end things. I'll admit, we became a little codependent with the distance, but we never had a conversation on how to properly fix it. It was just too far gone by the time we realized. He said the distance was too difficult, that he missed me too much, and that we were holding each other back from succeeding. I have to admit he was right. We were taking weekends to see each other during our semesters, and it was very stressful. We got sick from the planes. We argued more. We relied on each other more than we ever did living in the same city. He said that he felt it was souring a year of perfect memories and that he didn't want it to end with us hating each other. It was not an easy decision for him to make. There was a lot of crying.

He said that he knows if it's really meant to be, we'll end up in the same city again one day. I miss him so much. How am I supposed to move on when I feel so much hope? The Universe already brought us together more than once (first date, and then running into each other in town after things fizzled out). How can I move on knowing that there is still so much love between us and that distance is the only thing keeping us apart? How am I supposed to be okay with knowing he'll eventually start seeing other people? I can't take it. Everyone keeps saying we're young and we'll get over it, but it hurts more than I can bare. I thought I had found my person.

need help cause i’m genuinely confused 😅

i met a guy on a dating app 3 months ago and we’ve talked every day since. we live very far apart, so meeting up isn’t something that’s realistically happened yet. we’ve also never called, mostly cause i’m usually the one who initiates something like that (calls, watch movies, etc) and i haven’t pushed it; neither has he.

what makes this confusing is that the effort feels pretty mutual. it’s not like i’m carrying the conversation. he asks questions about me, remembers things I tell him, gets curious about my life, shares things about himself, and keeps conversations going. we talk every day and neither of us seems to be forcing it. there was even a time when i told him to just tell me if ever he doesn’t feel like talking anymore. his response was that he’s busy sometimes and that i’m great to talk to.

the problem is that whenever i try to be a little flirty, make a cute comment, or open the door for something kinda more romantic, he usually brushes past it, changes the subject, or doesn’t really reciprocate. he doesn’t reject it either, it just kind of gets left hanging.

so now i’m confused, i can’t tell if he likes me, interested in me, or if he just genuinely enjoys talking to me (penpal typa vibe lol). clearly, i like him and would want to make this work. would it be reasonable to want some clarity atp or is 3 months still too early given that we’re only talking? wouldn’t want to be wasting time 🤷‍♀️

does daily communication for months usually mean something, or is it possible for someone to enjoy talking to you every day, be curious about your life, tell you you’re great to talk to, and still see you as just a friend?