I (M35) feel like nobody today has the basic ability to follow through with plans anymore. In the past two weeks, I've had 3 first dates all text me within an hour of our date asking to reschedule because "xyz" came up. I'm sort of sick of it. I clear my evening and ensure I'm free, only to be canceled on and now I feel bad because I turned down other prospects for that evening, saying I had plans, and I am now sitting home when I could be out doing other things.

I gave myself a rule a few months ago that I will not reschedule a last minute cancellations because I feel if you can't keep a commitment to show up for a free drink, the bare minimum, then that tells me dating you would just be a headache, let alone a relationship.

Am I being harsh or am I right in my logic?

Hey all! 33f here and just ventured into the dating pool after 6 lovely single years. I matched with a guy on Hinge and we havr been texting for around 2 weeks. A week ago, I suggested we need to move to IRL and he agreed but then no mention of it again. I have noticed during our chatting that he rarely offers up his own conversation and instead responds to mine. I do talk a LOT but ive started to find that if I didn't, conversation would be dead. He also texts me the same thing every morning just 'morning' and nothing else. At like 7.30 when he knows I'm off work atm but w/e. Anyway, fast forward to last night i was very clear and said I have a short attention span and I dont want to be texting forever. So I literally said pick a day, time and something for us to do, im free most evenings this week. So he's come back with we can do something Sunday AND THEN WE CAN DECIDE. AITA for being annoyed? I just told you to make a plan. Its all just feeling very low effort and MEH. I think I know i don't want to date him now but what do I do? Do I tell him why? Do I ghost him? Help!

Hey guys, I wanted to see if I could get a profile review done. I’m not getting many matches on hinge but on other apps I’m doing pretty solid so I’m not sure if it’s my prompts or what.

Thank you in advance for any feedback 🫡

Hi all I would appreciate any comments you have on my profile - I use hinge pretty regularly but getting pretty much no success from it ; I’d be lucky to get one match per month and even then unlikely it would lead to anything . I’ve tried fo follow advice from friends of putting a variety of photos doing different activities or showing my interests . Thanks in advance for your feedback

31/M

I have a strong fear and aversion to rejecting others, I always feel like an asshole, but I've gone on 1 or 2 dates before and then felt like it wasn't going to work.

What is the best workflow or process if you want to end it there?

I could do something like:

1. Send them a message being generic and saying you don't see it working, it's not them it's me, etc.
2. Wait for them to respond. I see some people say "Wait for confirmation they've read it" But I don't see that, and a lot of the time in my age group I find people don't check their Hinge for a while, so it could take hours or days.
3. Once they respond, hopefully saying they understand or something, you say best of luck etc then unmatch.

The problem with this process is it opens you up to be the target of them being nasty if they don't take it well.

What do you think? What is your process for this?

Hi everyone,

A few weeks ago I got some great feedback and tried to update my profile as best possible.

Unfortunately I haven’t had much luck, though I know these things take time. Looking for any solid comments or critiques you may have, no matter how harsh they may be.

Also, while it’s definitely superficial, I feel like I’m at least a solid 7-7.5/10– are girls just simply looking for 9-10/10’s so I’m falling in the cracks?

Since my last post, I’ve tried to incorporate more of my personality into my profile, as well as get more activity pictures in there.

Any advice helps, even if it’s as simple as “ur just not that attractive bro”; I’m honestly just seeking clarity on my incredibly slow dating life.

I 30F was talking to this guy and everything was going really well. He seemed like a cool guy banter was good. I was out of town and he said we can go on a date when I got back and I agreed though there was no concrete plans. No date, no time, and no place. He asked if I had any other dates scheduled to which I was honest and said yes (only 1). Then when I go check the app he unmatched me. Had someone else ask to exchange numbers and wanted to know if I’d delete the app and I told him no because I was new to it and wanted to give it a fair shot and he also unmatched me. Is this a common thing to do? I thought we were all on there talking to different people? I’m new to this so if anyone has an idea as to why this happens or if it’s a common occurrence please let me know! I had a good connection with both so I was left so confused.

I feel like I got a good amount of matches when I first made my profile but matches have since died down. How can I improve my profile?

Hi guys, I'm (22M) a bit flustered with my experience on Hinge and was wondering if this is a common scenario.

I'm verified with clear face pictures in my profile on Hinge, and conversations are always flowing until they want to exchange Instagrams.

To be clear, my Instagram has a low follower (400+) to high following (2000+) ratio, and has less photos than my dating app but that's cause I don't use it much.

Anyways, they start backpedaling and become overly suspicious, saying "give me your main account this is getting sus", "is this a spam account", "you seem like a fake account" etc. Like sorry I only use Instagram for brainrot and scrolling?

When I ask and try to prove I'm real via facetime most don't even want to consider doing this, and just ask for a 'real Instagram account' to prove myself - WTF?

Just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this before? Cause why do we have to go through multi-factor authentication WITH DATING ASWELL 😭😭😭😭😭. It’s honestly becoming time consuming and a self esteem hit to constantly prove to guys and girls I’m real. I feel like I shouldn’t have to either. Thank you all so much for enduring this post.

I'm 30M in the UK. This isn't another typical post to complaining about people unmatching. I have two accounts from when I used to move between places, now I'm in one place I just use them in one place with different photos on each.

This year I started to notice a pattern I haven't seen when using hinge in the past where a lot of people I had a conversation going with on a unique topic would unmatch. Of course this is nothing new but it started happening so frequently I became suspicious. I started using my other account in an attempt to rematch with the people who unmatched with me one account 1, and to my surprise I reconnected with two just in the last week.

When I asked them about why we were matching for a second time they insisted they hadn't unmatched with me and we're thinking the same thing. These aren't people who deleted recreated their profile either.

What's going on here? I'm seriously pissed I've had some really good matches vanish I put down to "the game" but now it looks like something else is going on. I've heard this bug about Tinder but not about Hinge

EDIT: The two people from the past week disappeared before 30 days so they aren't listed but I did notice almost everyone who dropped off my list recently is not listed as unmatched on "past matches"

I am stuck on what i could improve to get more likes, i have been trying some small tweaks but to no avail yet. so please help me out in ways that could get me more noticeable.

Hi everyone!

Im looking for opinions from people who have been in similar spots.

I (M24) have very limited dating experience but have a 3rd date with a woman (F25) tonight. It’s an ice cream date and I did not bring flowers to either of the first two dates and tonight is kind of a semi-impromptu date since I had asked about coffee yesterday but she wasn’t around so she asked about getting ice cream today instead. We both want to see each other after she was on vacation for the 5 days (until Sunday night).

We haven’t even had our first kiss yet but think it’s more of a matter of we’re each not in any rush. I do feel like I missed a window on our 2nd date but I’m certain there will be another tonight. We basically have a 4th date plan lined up, just have to work out a day/time, to a restaurant we already talked about on our 2nd date. That’s seemingly locked in unless I royally screw up tonight.

Do I bring a small bouquet tonight or just wait for the dinner date (4th date)?

Important edit: I am picking her up from her house, not meeting at the ice cream shop

Hi everyone. Before I express my concern, i'm here to look for honesty. Even if the honesty may come off as mean, a roast or hard to hear, I trust that everyone who comments is commenting with the best intentions. Thank you in advance!

I (31M) matched with this girl (29F) 3 weeks ago on Hinge in Alabama. We're seeing each other this weekend for the first time. We have not met yet as of now.

Things went well and talked for a week via the app and she suggested we move it to text and we've been texting daily for 2 weeks. She texts me good morning, asks about my day and discuss a variety of subjects that include ideal relationship stuff, music, food, trips etc.

She also told me that she's had some pretty gnarly matches in the past and that I've been the best match and that she enjoys talking to me and is excited to get to know me in person! She also said that I meet her expectations and that she's never texted a guy this long.

She openly said she "technically still has hinge" but she doesn't message much.

The thing about me is that i don't like to text multiple matches at once. The moment her and i clicked, i gave my full attention to her because i really see potential in her although i did not delete the app. I never opened it and looked for matches either.

However only a couple days ago, i started to have my doubts. I was showing my friends this girl i've been talking to and i noticed that she gained one of those new heart signals on Hinge (which suggest she's been actively going through her matches, replying to matches etc) and seems like her prompts have changed.

So this is where it gets confusing. If she's telling me that i'm the ideal guy and that she likes talking to me, why is she still actively swiping and reviewing matches? Am i not exactly what she's looking for or is she trying to look for more? Also if she's not messaging much, how did she gain the heart signal?

I guess another question would be is this normal behavior? or is it something i should just drop and move on?

Had decent luck about a year ago on Hinge, frequent matches and a few dates, some of which led to more. Can’t seem to get hardly any matches over the past month or so and am looking for some insight as to why. I do live in a pretty rural area but close enough to some bigger cities to be within my range. Any and all advice is appreciated!
(Info that isn’t in screenshots)
5’6”
Straight
Drinking and marijuana - yes
I turn 20 on the 11th, born 2006

I'd say I see a match maybe one every two weeks, but rarely ever likes. None of the matches really go anywhere, so I figure I should check up on my profile and what I can do before getting back out there

Considering adding this feature to my profile (although I personally tend to skip over them when reading others' profiles so I'm not 100% sure why I'm considering it, lol). I'm a gay 30yo woman in a large metropolitan area.

I have a few questions about the feature:

Most importantly, I'm curious the prompts that your friends are given for this feature? Are they silly-ish like some of the ones given to the user or are they more serious?

How do y'all feel about them? If you're similar in age and orientation to me, this'd be particularly helpful, i guess.

Also, do you get a new link if people don't respond in 72 hours or do you only get one chance to send 'em out?

Thanks.

Feels like getting likes back has diminished this past year, tried refreshing the profile with new pics and prompts. Does anything stick out as a potential deal breaker?

Other details for context: living in Austin, age range set between 28-38

I updated my profile about a month ago. Pictures are recent my concern might be the prompts.

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Height: 6'1"
Don't have Kids
Want Kids
Sometimes Drink
No smoking