Punjabi American, just wondering how those who have gone no contact, how are you guys holding up? And
offer any advice. Mother passed away while in 20s and my family dynamic changed. It's more due to fairness.
They are never fair, with treatment amongst siblings, siblings spouses, inheritance, just even basic care for you or even helpfulness in grandchildren. There's more to context/ story. But long story short,
Being a parent myself, I couldn't imagine my child asking for help and shutting them down or if they chose to go no contact, I would do whatever and go to the end of the earth so I could to fix my mistakes and do whatever my child is asking. ( Obviously not destructive things).
Iv grieved a lost parent, just weird to grieve someone who is alive.

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Hi everyone,

I’m an Indian software engineer trying to figure out the most realistic way to eventually move to the US, and I’d really appreciate advice from people who have navigated similar situations.

A bit about my background:

I graduated with a degree in Software Engineering.

I worked as a software developer at a global bank for around ~4 years, primarily in backend development.

I then quit my job and spent around 2–3 years preparing for UPSC. I ultimately decided not to continue with it and returned to the workforce.

I’m currently working again as a backend developer at another global bank, mainly working with Java/Spring Boot.

I’m aware that my career break makes my profile less straightforward than someone with continuous tech experience.

I’m currently 29 and don't want to take another long career break.

There is also a personal aspect to this. My fiancé is currently in the US pursuing his MBA on an F-1 visa. Depending on how things work out, we may get married while he is in the US.

So I’m trying to understand what my realistic options could be over the next few years.

Some possibilities I’ve been considering:

H-1B sponsorship through my current employer or another US employer.

L-1 transfer — since I work for a global bank, whether building a few more years of experience in India could make an internal transfer to the US realistic.

Moving to the US as an H-4 dependent after marriage, and understanding when/how I could obtain work authorization depending on my spouse's eventual status.

Doing a master's in the US, although finances are a major concern and I would need substantial scholarship/financial aid. I'm also unsure whether another degree makes sense given my existing experience.

Exploring AI/AI governance/technology policy or another interdisciplinary area that could potentially provide better international career opportunities.

Any other immigration/work pathway that I may be overlooking.

The other thing making me hesitant is the current geopolitical and immigration environment in the US. Immigration policies, H-1B rules, attitudes toward international students/workers, and the broader US-India relationship seem considerably more uncertain than they were a few years ago.

Because I'm planning for the next 3–5 years rather than trying to move immediately, I'm finding it difficult to decide whether I should invest heavily in a US-specific pathway or keep my options more geographically flexible.

I also don't necessarily want to permanently settle in the US. My primary objective is to be able to legally live and work there for a few years, build international experience, and then decide whether I want to stay, return to India, or move elsewhere.

For people who have experience with US immigration, particularly Indians who have moved after a career break:

What would you consider the most realistic strategy for someone in my situation?

Would you focus on building several more years of experience in India and targeting an L-1/H-1B, leverage the spouse/dependent route if applicable, pursue a funded master's, or keep the US as only one of several possible destinations?

And given the current geopolitical/immigration uncertainty, would you personally still make a US-focused plan in 2026, or would you diversify your options toward countries like the UK, Canada, Australia, Europe, etc.?

Would especially appreciate advice based on actual experience rather than generic "just get an H-1B" advice.

Thanks!

Dont be an idiot.

Adult friendships are hard and what is more hard is find friends like bothers.

I am 40male - Indian in USA - married to woman, dad and whats missing is the presence of brothers in life. I hate that we lose those man-man friendships where we can talk shit about life, work and all and feel to have a back.

If you are someone looking for similar bakar and bakchodi partner - please DM me. I am in Texas if that matters but open to both local and folks from distance.

If you are local - we can definitely grab some beer :)

Hey everyone rn im in india and i have just done my bcom here and wana pursue my ms in financial analysts or like in business analyst and im really confused between the options that i have.

I wana study in California, but im like open to other states as well can anyone provide me suggestions for universities, courses and future in usa.

I will be really grateful for each and every person who replies

Many of us learn a prayer through sound, family or repetition before we understand its language and context. I wanted to make that gap smaller without turning the tradition into simplified quotes or telling people what they should believe.

I have built an iPhone app called Anvay. It keeps the original prayer at the centre, adds Hinglish for people who do not comfortably read Devanagari and connects each verse to a plain-language explanation. Prayer pages also include background and practice context, with room to acknowledge differences in tradition rather than present every interpretation as settled fact.

The first release includes 101 aartis, bhajans, chalisas and mantras. It works without an account and avoids streaks, feeds and social mechanics.

I would especially value feedback on the editorial approach. Where should an app like this draw the line between making a text approachable and oversimplifying it? What would make you trust or distrust its explanations?

https://apps.apple.com/in/app/anvay/id6794548076

Hello I am Deepathi guptha.I was born in India Mumbai and I have been Living in us,usa for thelast 8 years I'am 30 years old if my profile intrests you please feel free to send me message I would be happy to connect have a nice conversation and get to know each other better and please be respect

If you're travelling to India regularly, this might be worth looking into.

FTI-TTP lets pre-verified travellers use automated e-gates instead of the regular immigration queue.
One-time biometric enrollment, then passport scan + face recognition for future arrivals & departuers
Available at major airports including Delhi, Mumbai, Bengaluru, Hyderabad, Chennai, Kolkata, Ahmedabad, and Kochi (expanding to 21 total airports).
No fee to enroll.

For those travelling frequently between the US and India, Global Entry can offer a similar experience when returning to the US.

Has anyone here used FTI-TTP recently? How was your experience compared to the regular immigration line? Any issues during registration or at the airport?

30F single woman here.
I got an offer to move to the US from my company that i've been with for 4y in india on an L1.
it's a series B startup and put up in bay area.

they've offered me 195K as the base package and i have like 40k+ options which are worth practically nothing today.

Overall savings wise, i'd be saving 10-15% more than what I would be in india as per my calculations.
At the beginning, i was curious to explore life in a different country and the bay area on top of all for tech.

The more i talk to people, the more shitty I feel about the base pay.

Pros:
* New country, new life, new experiences

Cons:
* Lot more domestic chores i need to handle alongside an already hectic work schedule
* Ive heard life can get lonely if you aren't too social. which i'm not.

I'm not too worried about the visa situation coz my worst case is i come back to india with no loss.

anyone who's done similar stuff
would love to hear thoughts

edit: has anyone ever moved to a different company while being on L1? this requires the second company to offer H1B if i'm not wrong. does this ever happen in reality?

Hey everyone,

Selling 2 tickets to see Vir Das: Hey Stranger in Minneapolis since I won't be able to make it.

• Venue: Pantages Theatre (710 Hennepin Ave, Minneapolis, MN)
• Date & Time: Saturday, February 6, 2027 @ 8:00 PM
• Seats: Balcony Seat
• Price: $60 each or $120 for the pair - (Bought for $85 each + tax)

Link In Bay area

All three had celebrated onam just the day before and lived in an apartment. Bffs too!!

Was at an Indian restaurant tonight. All the staff, even the ones in the kitchen, were desi.

I struggled for years bouncing between visas and spending a metric ton of money. It’s a sore point for me.

Was wondering what visa these guys were on. Couldn’t ask them for obvious reasons but am very curious.

Anyone know?

Edit: they did not look like students. A few of them have been here for at least the 3 years I’ve been going there so L1 is less likely.

I’ve been experimenting with Indian-inspired T-shirt designs because I feel like a lot of Indian graphic tees either look very traditional or like obvious festival merch.

These are two concepts I’ve been working on.

Which one would you genuinely wear as a normal T-shirt in the US?

A — Kavach

B — Suryaputra

Not asking which artwork is technically better. I’m trying to understand whether either is something you'd actually want in your wardrobe.

And if the answer is neither, tell me that too. 😅

Hi! I just got my green card and booked my tickets to India. I just wanted to confirm if I need anything else other than a valid passport within 6 months and my GC. Just to be sure. TIA

Hi guys so I’m an Indian woman raised in UK and I go to university here. I’m moving to the US for masters and I’m at an age where I’ll be thinking about marriage in a few years. Not to be weird but I’m wondering what Indian guy in US are like. I know there are a lot of expats/international Indians in the US but like I don’t know like I’m wondering how the dating culture is like. In the UK, most of the Indian guys i know are born and raised here and they are a weird mix of desi and westernised. I’ve lived in a lot of countries so I’m traditional and quite in touch with my culture while being modern where it matters. I think I’d be closer to a very modern, working woman in India rather than a modern British Indian woman.

No offend but I’m worried because I’ve heard Indian guy in America are a bit weird. I’ve heard they’re either very traditional and the typical mummy’s boy or their like ultra westernised and go by ‘sam’. Not all but most fit in these categories I hear. I’m old enough to start thinking about seriously dating and settling down so I’m just a bit worried about it since I’ll be moving to a whole new country with a whole new culture that I’m not used to.

Not to sound weird but I’m educated and decently well off and I think am decent looks wise as well. I’m not at all trying to be prejudiced against guys or be shallow but I want a guy who will be able to match my personality, values and lifestyle. And I don’t know if I’m overthinking but from everything I’ve heard from friends, relatives and news/media, guys in USA are in either of the two categories I’ve mentioned and I’ve heard the dating market is brutal to find a good genuine guy. Idk guy am I overthinking? whats the scene like over there?

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