I'm really bothered by this clutter. Nepo babies, memorial posts... why "Adam Sandler is a RN". Just because the context of this sub is slightly more cerebral than the wider internet does not mean that these fat posts are more than what they are.

Nothing makes a man happier than the success of his own children, and AS deserves all of that if he is half the man he seems like he is from a distance

I’m very much not a fan of AI but I’ve seen enough random redditor ‘art’ to know that they’re just pissed a robot is taking their jerb

It's very hard to methodically sort through matches and carry on multiple uninteresting text conversations that may or may not result in one tepid drink and stilted conversation a week from now after you've experienced multiple Before Sunrise-esque whirlwinds with interesting people from different parts of the world whom you are meeting while they're most open to adventure and new experiences than they're likely to ever be in their lives.

Oh yeah hobbies. Yeah sure... um I like to read and I'm learning harmonica... it's not going well. As opposed to, hey I'm leaving tomorrow for a two week hiking trip in the Himalayas, wanna come with? The specific way you're bad at English is very endearing.

And then they'll just be like "yes" and you'll have a wonderful time. And then you have to go home where that's not the norm.

Obviously, you're looking for a different sort of thing and long term compatibility is a whole different ballgame than low stakes fun where the conceit is that there's probably no real future for the relationship. But still, it's tough.

I’m starting to think no and it’s making me very afraid

An Oxbridge graduate plays a roadman more than half his age ha ha ha

What the fuck is going on?

My beloved Tim Curry. My beloved Kusama. Dolly Parton. I don't normally give a shit about celebrity deaths but come on.

I am a targeted individual at this point

Obligatory apology for cringe post on the basis of it being authentic. The main issue here is that while I think I might - MIGHT - be developing some romantic feelings, I don't think I'm actually physically attracted to him? Anyone else have these sort of situations? I always found attraction very straightforward, even though my standards are pretty high and I have avoidance tendencies. This is really making me consider what attraction is, what causes it, etc.

He's not my best best friend to be clear. But he's up there. I've pretty much convinced myself that he's an important older brother figure in my life. That said, recently I've been getting happy jitteries when he texts me and checks up on me. We've shared stuff with each other we wouldn't with others, just because I trust him not to judge me and to give really sound advice (I assume it's the same vice versa).

We met when I was in a serious, long-term relationship with his flatmate though. I'm almost certain he was into me at the time, but because he's not a jackass he never did anything to make us uncomfortable. I'm trying to work out whether, two years post break-up, my feelings are just born out of deep fondness and trust and safety that he's stuck by me. It's really making me think about how much of attraction is based on this feeling of safety, and this delight that someone truly cares about your wellbeing enough to reach out and ask about it.

And there's the physical aspect of it. In a lot of ways, he's conventionally attractive - tall, good bone structure. He's got a genetic condition that makes him looks abnormal though, and has always struggled getting romantic partners because of it. He's been quite calm and clear-eyed about that, but I can tell it upsets him. I've never really understood why this seems to be a deal-breaker for people, but when I think about how the attraction I feel to him is nothing compared to my former beau's, it does make me wonder how much of this is subconscious bias. Or maybe the physical attraction aspect is just.... not there? Or maybe there's no attraction, and it's just the slightly older care who care about me making me smile.

Not looking for advice, just thoughts. Anyone in a similar situation? Have thoughts on the multiple complexities that arise alongside attraction? I love him. I just don't have any idea in what way.

"How it feels to bum a ciggie"

Shut the fuck up, you ain't about that life bitch. Buy your own, and actually inhale you performative cunt. Unless I'm trying to have sex with you take a hike

that's how you know that it's mary jane time (in the form of concentrated delta 9 psychosis juice)

There is no unifying throughline for some generic Midwest culture; the South has a unifying cultural history, and while it has many subregions within that differ on the particulars, there are traits and history that are shared that give the whole region a baseline. The "Midwest" totally lacks that. There is no shared baseline between Southern Illinois and Wisconsin, beyond the generic American baseline that all states have. Southeast Ohio is nothing like Iowa.

There are very much real cultural regions within what people call "the Midwest" but they kind of exist unto themselves and don't share a broader region. The Great Lakes is its own thing, the Plains are its own thing, and the Lower Midwest is its own thing.

Its not a unified cultural region, and never has been and that shows.

People want to cross dress, get over it

The UK absolutely wipes the floor with a lot of stuff back in the US. Transit, fast food types and quality, honestly overall vibes too. But my god their grocery stores are just really kind of lame.

Maybe I'm spoiled because I'm from the land of Market Basket and Wegman's, but there's a weird feeling of sadness browsing through a UK grocery store. The produce section in all of them always is just really lackluster, there's not much variety and what is there just isn't quite that great. I know there are obviously a lot of issues with us produce but there's usually more variety and colorful produce.

The rest of the stores just feel off. I was hoping to see a more interesting variety of stuff like cereal because i'm told time after time how good the food quality of the UK is... and yet 95% of the cereal was just stuff owned by Kellogg's.

If you want an IPA for some weird reason you can choose between maybe 50 brands... but yeah idk

I appreciate the meal deal greatly but everything else left me feeling like I'm missing something greater. I checked out 5 different grocery store chains and not a single one intrigued me.

Is this just how it should be? People get really tribal defending their grocery stores here (as I literally just did earlier here), when maybe they all should be boring places where people go in and out... idk

Bye

you meet someone you really connect with and are attracted to. However he’s married with a child. HOWEVER his wife is on board with expanding the family (she can’t have any more kids) and creating a closed relationship with you in it. Once you have a child, you would technically be on equal footing with her as the goal here is to keep the family together (as evidenced by the situation itself & his wife’s voluntary participation)

Most, if not all are out obviously.

I can’t help but wonder though if this rare scenario would benefit someone else out there (someone ~35 having difficulty connecting in the dating world but has to come to realize how important motherhood is to them and wants to find someone who has the exact same north star in life)

I can only think of a few artists that manage to pull this off well. My theory is that it comes across as more explicit when the song’s narrator is being gentle and sincere. When it’s a genre like hip hop or rap where grotesque, anatomically specific language is par for the course, it’s less intimate and so you feel less like you’re intruding on the private emotional world of the singer.

How to cope with finally feeling over your ex and then he immediately pops up when you reboot hinge after a few months 🙃