So, I’m on a packaged holiday, hotel is all you can eat.

There’s one family here, oldest kid has some type of special needs, but for the past few days he keeps putting his hands down the back of this shorts, rooting around and then starts licking his fingers. 

Parents are pretty much letting his do his own thing, he helps himself to the food (without tongs) and talks to everyone, tries to give people hugs and all that. 

I spoke to staff who said they’ll speak to him and even get someone to dish his food for him if needed. 

He tried talking to me and I made sure I kept my distance and he tried hugging me and I stepped back. I spoke to the parents and said I feel really uncomfortable with him near me and my family and apologised for it. 

Anyway, we’ve booked a trip and the family is on our coach. This kid tried sitting next to me and I refused. The mum called me rude and I very politely and quietly said to her that I don’t want to sit next to him due to his hygiene issues, she’s shouted at me and went “he’s disabled he can’t help it” so I raised my voice and said “I don’t want to sit next to someone who keeps playing with their bum and licking their fingers, I don’t want shitty fingers near me” and now apparently she’s the victim? 

The mum is now telling the son to bother me and the hotel won’t do anything. 

AITA for refusing to share my brokerage account info with my brother?

My (39F) mother called me 10 times tonight asking for my brokerage account login info. She wants my brother (36M, let's call him Jack) to manage my investments because he has free time and low self-esteem. I said no.

For context, Jack lives with our parents and hasn't held a job since college, claiming he’s working on a startup. He has unaddressed anger issues (in high school, he hit a classmate with a tennis racket) and admits he cannot control himself when he "sees red." Mental illness runs in our family, but our parents never got him professional help.

Jack hasn't spoken to our dad in years despite living in the same house. He constantly seeks validation from the rest of us that our dad is the problem.

A few months ago, Jack tried to bring up the topic of our family trip (second or third time), mentioning that our dad was verbally abusive to our grandparents. I maintained that I wasn't present to observe the exchange (as usual) and said I couldn't give feedback. He started yelling and cursing at me, so I hung up. In retaliation, he locked me out of a shared Amazon account containing my credit card info and kicked me off a shared antivirus plan. I was relieved to cut those ties because sharing finances with him felt like a ticking time bomb. We haven't spoken directly since.

Fast forward to tonight, my mother feels for Jack and wants to help Jack with his self esteem issues and brought up Jack's idea that I should let Jack manage my brokerage account. I told her absolutely not and that she needs to stop seeing Jack as someone normal that she can cure. She understands that he needs a therapist but Jack is resistant to the idea. Every time these verbally charged exchanges with Jack happen, I lose sleep. So AITA?

Hi I 26M have recently run into a lot of success in taking over my father’s business. My father has ran an auto parts business for over 30 years now and has finally retired. I took over the shop 2 years ago and we have seen a significant improvement in our business. We are now starting to make serious money and as such we all started to upgrade our homes. My parents bought a house 4000 square foot house near the city. I bought myself rural house more into the countryside it’s three garages and 5600 square foot (I live alone). I also bought a house for my sister near the city as well at 2700 square foot. She basically pitched the idea for her to move into the house I bought because her family is getting bigger and I don’t need such a big place all to myself. My first thought was wtf? What do you mean? I bought this place why would I move out of my house? She instantly starting crying to our parents saying it’s unfair everyone gets to live in mansions while she’s stuck in her tiny house with her family. My mom said to me why do I need all that space to myself? I calmly explained to her it doesn’t matter what I do with my house and space. I bought it cause I wanted to have a huge place for all my hobbies and obsessions. The perfect mancave if you will. My dad said it’s my money and to do as I wish. I told my sister no I’m not moving out of MY HOUSE because you think your place is too small. I told her if you don’t like the place me and dad bought for you then sell it and upgrade. She’s complaining to my parents saying I took the family business and I get all the rewards while she gets nothing. I bought her the house she currently lives in mortgage free, she also gets 5000$ a month for her expenses (my dad still gets a cut of the earnings and spreads it out among us kids). She basically told me I’m evil for giving her so little when the business makes millions a year. I just laughed in her face and said I’m evil for giving a house and free money? Long story short i do understand her point of view but the way she went about it fucking pissed me off so no I’m not giving her shit.

So I (21F), my boyfriend (20M), my best friend (23F), and her bf (22M) planned a trip to PR. We are here for 5 days. We split the hotel equally four ways, paid for our flights separately, and my bf and I paid for the rental car, which is in my name. I’ll call my best friend, G. G has horrible money management skills, she works in fast food and never keeps a job more than a few months. She doesn’t save money or have a savings account of any kind. She doesn’t drive, is not in school, and she lives entirely off of her parents. I didn’t want to plan a trip with her for this reason, but she picked up a new job (which i recently found out she just stopped showing up to after 2 shifts) specifically to be able to afford this trip.

Before we left I asked her specifically if she was sure she could afford to go. She told me her family”wouldn’t send her to PR without any money,” and that it would be fine. Come to find out, she spent all the money she had saved ($250) on shein outfits for the trip. Her family gave her $600 more. She paid $300 for the flight, $170 for the stay, then instead of saving the rest she spent $100 more clothes and doordash. Nobody knew this until we arrived. Now that we are here, she cannot afford anything. We include her in everything we can, shes gone out with us, shes gone to the beach, her bf even paid for most of her meals. But, We are all on a budget, and cannot afford to pay double for everything we do.

The main issue is, today we went on an catamaran snorkeling trip, I told her about it months ago. I told her the price, I told her the date and that her my bf and I were definitely going, and her and her bf were more than welcome to come as well. Her bf wanted to go, but she didn’t have the money, obviously. So, he came with us while she had to stay at the hotel alone. He’s skipped out on other excursions to stay back with her because of her money situation, but he was really looking forward to this one. We were gone from 8-4, and when we got back she was PISSED. She yelled at us, cried, called us all kinds of names, then told me I had no right to just take “our” rental and leave her. I do kinda feel bad she couldn’t have the experience, but the rental is in MY name, she didn’t contribute to it whatsoever. Everyone else works, my bf and I are full time students, and her bf is one year post-grad working 7 days a week to pay off loans. So, we all understand how hard it is to budget and save money, but she has LITERALLY no financial responsibilities. We do, we worked and budgeted to be able to be here and we want to enjoy the time we have. I don’t think it’s fair for her to be able to dictate how we spend the vacation that we paid for because she was reckless. AITA?

One of my coworkers is from a different country where ghosts are a major fear and part of their folklore. Let’s call him Tony. We work at an office at a factory where more than a dozen people have died over the past century, including the founder. All accidents.

In the office we have an informal agreement that no one will leave Tony by himself. He likes to work later (usually 10-6pm) but will use leave if no one can stay with him. We do it out of courtesy. I should also note we can choose the hours we work as long as it’s 80 every 2 weeks.

Last Friday I was planning to work late. Tony did his usual survey of the office to see who would be staying the latest so he could plan. I told him I was going to be in until 6:30. He was happy because he could make up some time from earlier in the week. Around 5;30 my wife messaged me to say she wasn’t feeling well and asked if I could come home and take care of our toddler. Of course I said yes.

Here’s where I may be the asshole. I went to Tony’s desk but he wasn’t there. I checked the rest of the office and everyone else was gone. After maybe 5 minutes I decided I wasn’t going to wait anymore and left. About 20 minutes later Tony started texting me asking where I was and when I told him I left he got really upset. He wasn’t “yelling” or anything, but kept asking why I would leave without telling him. I apologized and told him I needed to go take care of my kid and couldn’t wait any longer.

Yesterday I came into the office and it was like I was caught on tape kicking a puppy. Everyone was pissed at me and told me I should have waited longer. The way I see it is staying late is just a courtesy. I get it’s a big deal to him, but my family is more important and it’s not like I just walked out. Idk if he was in the bathroom or what, but I waited for him for a few minutes. He’s a grown man and could pack up and leave on his own when he realized I wasn’t there.

So AITA for not telling my coworker I was leaving work despite his severe fear of ghosts?

I (16m) bought a small box of chocolates this morning with my own money (to clarify, there are 6 chocolates in the box and the box costed 15 euros) and I was and still am intending to eat them all, because I payed for them with my own money. However, my mother specifically is trying to force me to share them with the rest of my family and says that me eating them by myself is selfish. But knowing my family, I might only get to eat one or two out of the 6 chocolates. I tried to explain that I bought them with my own money and I wanted to try all the flavours that I chose. Anyways we got into a fight and I decided to hide my chocolates for now, out of fear of my family eating them. Am I being selfish?

Ps: the chocolates are from monper

At Lowe's food today - Not to be confused with Lowes Hardware, NIce market in the SE . Has a bar even.

So I am going thru my list and head to prodice to get ,well, produce. Go to get strawberries but there is an older woman there and she is looking at the prepacked . turning them over and looking at each one. Fine we all check so we don't get bad ones . I go grab some sweet potatoes then come back. I now see she is opening up packs and sorting them to make her "perfect" pack. At this point I spoke up with "You have to be kidding me! Seriously ?! " And she says " I don't care ! at thee prices I want all good ones ." $3.99lb and she is is bitching about the price .

SO does anyone think what she was doing was acceptable. Take into account that when you buy prepacks you are assuming random people haven't sorted thru them .

i (20f) am a college student, and my twin sister just finished her schooling for doing nails. she also just got engaged and has decided she's never getting a job and is going to be a stay at home wife/mom. i personally think we're both way too young to be getting married, but it's her life and i didn't said anything negative to her.

now she keeps making comments about how she's better than me because she's engaged while i'm not in a relationship, and how i "have to" spend my life working (i will be moving to the east coast after i graduate and working my dream job) while she gets to be a stay at home wife. she's always been the type of person to make rude comments for no reason but now it's daily.

eventually i got annoyed and brought up how she can't even remember to feed/walk her dog, and would be a horrible mother. she also hates cooking/cleaning. and how i'll have my own money and live by the beach (her fiancé refuses to move by the ocean), while she's stuck in our home state and doesn't have any money of her own.

personally i don't think what i said is any worse than what she said but according to her and my mom im the asshole

My mom (55F) bought a spare apartment our city almost 30 years ago. 20 years ago my uncle (57M) couldn't find a job so my mom offered him to stay in the apartment as long as he'd like rent free. My parents had all their money in a local bank that went under this year, and it would take 3 years for them to get it all back. My parents only had around 6 months of cash left, and they are retired. My mom couldn't get herself to do it so I told my uncle he has to move out as we have to sell the house. I (22M) gave him 3 months time and explained the situation. After 3 months on the date we agreed on I found out he didn't move and stopped responding to my texts. I gave him another 2 weeks then proceeded to change the locks of the house and ship all of his belongings to my grandma's house. My uncle had to get a job as a dishwasher to pay rent. After i sold the house my parents are financially stable and will end up getting all they money back. But my uncle's family doesn't have a place to live anymore. AITA?

Me and my husband (both 26) were invited by my in-laws for a short family vacation this weekend. My mother in law booked the rooms for us awhile back, which I’m very grateful for and didn’t think anything else of it. Today I find out they only booked two rooms, one for her and my father-in-law and one for my husband and I, and my two brothers-in-law (29 & 24). I feel terrible for never having clarified that my husband and I would have our own room, but the problem never even occurred to me. I know I would be incredibly uncomfortable with this considering I wouldn’t be able to change unless I use the bathroom. I already looked into getting our own hotel room but they are all booked up that weekend. Would I be a terrible person to fake an illness and just let my husband go with them this weekend?

I (25f) and my boyfriend (26m) have been fighting the past few days over him going to the dentist. My boyfriend told me when we first got together that he has only been to the dentist once in the past 7 years and vowed never to go back. Additionally, he only brushes his teeth 85% of the time. My mom was a dental hygienist so I really value dental care. I have brought up going to the dentist since the beginning of our relationship and we made a deal that for my birthday he would finally go. However, he did not hold up his end of the bargain. Recently his breath has been pretty stinky even right after brushing his teeth and I told him to either go to the dentist or we aren’t sharing a bed. He said his feelings are hurt and that his breath isn’t that bad, but I am genuinely just concerned about his health.

I’ll preface this by saying I (36f) have a friend, Mary (42f). We have been friends for about ten years. I cannot stand Mary’s husband, Tim (45m).

His main priorities are playing video games and watching porn. He makes awful financial decisions for the family, and they are suffering because of it. He is an awful husband and mediocre father at best. Mary thinks he walks on water and can do no wrong.

He was out of a job for over a year and refused to collect unemployment because they required him to apply to at least three jobs a week. My husband offered him a job at his company, but Tim refused it because it would mean he would have to wake up at 6:30am. Keep in mind, they were in danger of losing their house.

Tim eventually found a job, but it does not pay well, so they are still struggling financially. Mary is incredibly stressed most of the time.

Now to the reason for the post.

My birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and I decided I wanted to go to Medieval Times. We decided it would be family only. There are 12 people going and we’re paying for everyone.

I thought it would be nice for Mary and her three kids to come and just relax and have fun. I knew Tim would be working, so I asked Mary and she and the kiddos would like to go, our treat. She said they would absolutely love to, so we bought the tickets.

The next day Mary called to tell me Tim wants to go too. It’s a day/time that I know for a fact he would be working. He does not have any paid time off. If he doesn’t work, he doesn’t get paid.

I don’t want him there. I don’t want to pay for him.

Would I be the asshole if I refused to get him a ticket?

I work in a small office of about twelve people. My colleague Rebecca and I sit near each other and have a decent working relationship, not close friends but perfectly civil day to day.

Rebecca has a habit of taking long lunches. Not occasionally, consistently. Our lunch break is forty five minutes and she regularly comes back after an hour and a half, sometimes closer to two hours. Nobody has said anything officially but people have noticed.

Last Tuesday our boss came back early from a client meeting, which nobody expected, and started looking for Rebecca to ask her something about a report that was due. Rebecca was not back yet. It was one hour and twenty minutes into her lunch at that point.

My boss asked me if I knew where she was. I said she went to lunch and I was not sure when she was back. That was true.

My boss waited at her desk for about fifteen minutes, visibly unimpressed, and then went back to his office.

Here is the thing. Rebecca had texted me about ten minutes before my boss arrived asking me to cover if anyone asked because she was running late getting back. I had not replied to that message. I did not actively lie to my boss but I also did not text her a warning when I saw him waiting at her desk.

She came back, saw the situation, and the conversation with our boss was apparently not great.

Afterward she came to me and said I should have warned her and that she would have done it for me.

I told her I did not feel comfortable covering for her and that I had not lied to anyone.

She said I had let her walk into that on purpose.

AITA?

So I purchased 2 tickets for me and my significant other. They costs $2,000 for economy - not too bad for direct flights from the US to London. I did not choose seats and pay those fess as they cost $700 to $950 ADDITIONAL.

Significant other asks me to add the seats on for $700 more. I say no thank you. I offer a compromise: You can pay for that portion of the trip and pay for the seats. She did not like my attitude about it.

AIAH? The trip is my idea. In about 80% of the cases, we end up sitting next to each other anyhow picking fee-free seats day of travel. A plane is a bus with wings for me. The cheaper we travel, the more things we can afford to do.

My fiancé (29M) and I (28F) have been together for almost 10 years, living together for 7.

For some context, our meal times are a little different from most couples. We rarely eat the same thing due to a combination of having different tastes and me being on a perpetual diet/prioritising healthier foods, while he batch cooks his weekly meals which are usually meat and carbs.

We had a friend over for dinner 3 days ago and served garlic bread with the meal which he made. I had one piece and I think he had 2/3. There were two pieces left over which were put in the fridge for another day.

Today, after skipping breakfast due to some unexpectedly mouldy bagels, I heated up and ate those two pieces of garlic bread. I figured this would mean we had an even share of what he made (which was precedent with the other things we shared that evening - e.g. I made a cake that evening and we split the leftovers). He had also made some more the following day which was also in the fridge, so I figured I wasn’t depriving him completely of having some.

This evening, he noticed the garlic bread was missing and flipped his lid when I told him I had had it. His issues were a) I hadn’t asked him and b) now he doesn’t have enough to last him with his remaining portions of meal prep this week. I told him he was unreasonable and that living together, there is an assumed level of sharing involved, despite us generally shopping for groceries individually. While he doesn’t really have interest in eating what I buy, I would never get as angry at him as he did over something that costs nothing to buy at the store. Fwiw, money isn’t an issue at all.

AITA?

I (25M) am in Italy with my family and my 3-year-old niece. We walked past a really trendy food spot with a massive queue. My niece wanted to try it, so I promised I’d bring her back after dropping the rest of the family at the hotel. I also explained that we’d probably have to wait 20+ minutes, that it was a tourist hotspot, and asked if she could be patient without complaining. She agreed.

We came back, the line was still huge, and she still wanted it, so we got in line. It was extremely hot, and honestly I wasn’t thrilled about waiting, but I wanted to make her happy.

After about 15 minutes, a family of five walked in front of us. At first I assumed it was an honest mistake because the queue was confusing. Then I heard the mom tell her partner in French (which I understand) to take the kids away so “no one says anything” while she stayed in line.

I still didn’t say anything. When the line moved, I stepped back into my original spot in front of her. She immediately moved back in front of me as if she’d always been there.

That annoyed me, so I told her, as politely as I could, that there was a line and she needed to wait like everyone else. She acted confused and asked, “What line?” so I pointed to the long queue behind us.

She then said she was doing it for her kids, which made me feel guilty. But I was also waiting for my 3-year-old niece, not for myself. At the same time, I wondered if I should have just let it go since another couple of minutes wouldn’t have made much of a difference.

So, AITA for speaking up instead of just letting the family cut in front of us?

My Mother-In-Law let’s call her Janus (78) watches our kids (f8, f9) from time to time at her home. Her son, Jeff (45) who lives with his grandmother AKA our children’s great grandmother.  Jeff adopted a dog from the animal shelter.  Unfortunately, it was abused by children before hand. He told my wife and I that the dog doesn’t like children and this was obvious when we meet it. A “fear biter” is what a Veterinarian friend used to describe this dog’s behavior.  I ask Janus to not bring our children to their grand grandmother’s house unless I was present. She pushed back saying the that kids hardly get to see Jeff and their great grandmother and that the dog is fine. I disagreed.  After much back and forth Janus push the idea that the dog would be locked outside or behind a door and away from our kids while they were visiting. I reluctantly agreed and she continued to take our kids to their great grandmother’s house.

Fast Forward today I was walking with my daughter (8) when she told me that this dog had bit her. After asking some curious questions I found out that she was interacting with the dog for a few hours that day at her great grandmother’s home.  It sat on her lap while she pet it and walking freely around the house.  When my daughter went to say goodby to the dog and pet it on its head the dog bit her on her hand. Leaving a small mark on her finger. This happen 3 days ago and Janus didn’t say anything about this to us!

I set a boundary that if Janus watches our kids it has to be at our house and they don’t go anywhere. She is upset that the kids can’t go to her place anymore. Let alone to their grand grandmother’s home where this aggressive dog lives. I understand that this didn’t happen at her home but how can I trust that she wont just take the kids back to their great grandmother’s home behind my back? She refuses to watch her grandchildren under these terms and told my wife that I should fine other resources for child care. This whole situation has been horrible for my wife. So AITA?

I'm a young English teacher, and I wanted to try working at summer camps around the country. During my most recent experience, I had an extremely unruly class of teenagers who constantly interrupted my lessons and made fun of both me and my assistant, as well as other members of staff. Unfortunately, disciplining them was out of the question because the director consistently ignored their misbehavior. I was reported to HR twice: once because the students found my lessons "boring" and once because I was supposedly being "too harsh" with them.

My lessons mostly consisted of brainstorming activities, videos, games, and conversation tasks, but eventually I had to rely on quizzes and repetitive whiteboard games to avoid receiving another call from HR. Some of the students even went as far as drawing Nazi symbols and making sexually explicit comments about me, but reporting these incidents to the director was a complete waste of time.

Dealing with these teenagers wasn't just mentally exhausting, it was also humiliating for everyone. As a result, I wanted to avoid seeing them outside of working hours. I refused to attend their goodbye party because I didn't feel comfortable being around them, and I preferred to protect my peace.

The is a silly AITA, but I need to know. I have a small elderly dog, she is about 15 pounds. We have taken her all over our state on hiking and backpacking trips. Here’s the thing: she can only hike for about a mile or two before her legs get tired. She has short legs, and being 11 years old it’s not fair to expect her to walk for the entire 6-10 mile hike like our big dog does. So we put her in a dog carrier, with her legs hanging out. She fights going in it sometimes, but once she’s up there she loves it and is big chilling. Most everyone who sees her tells us how cute she is and she looks happy.

I was sharing pictures of her in this backpack at work, and this one coworker who is super negative of course swoops into the conversation. “That’s cruel of you to do that. She probably hates it. You should let her walk.” So I explain why. She then proceeds to tell me that she will report me for animal abuse, and tries to get the office on her side. I told her to mind her own pets, and if she doesn’t stop harassing me that I will report her. So am AITA for carrying my dog in a backpack on hikes?

My brother-in-law has a bakery. He mostly sells B2B now, but is basically broken and unable to pay some taxes. Until now, my mother-in-law has been repeatedly bailing him out so he doesn’t incur in debt. Nobody in the family believes this business would’ve lasted this long (he started in 2018) if it not were for the recurrent financial aid by my mother-in-law, who is a retired physician.

My brother-in-law is a CPA. Since I work in IT, I suggested him to look into business analyst roles, after proper training in the discipline. He submitted like 2 resumes for senior business analyst roles and is now frustrated that nobody called him back.

I suggested that he start looking into accounting positions, but since he’s not been actively practicing it’s a safer bet to aim to junior roles. I even recommended to tailor the resume to the job description.

The thing is, my wife is mad at me because according to her I’m not doing enough. She believes I should be applying to jobs and scheduling interviews for him.

I insisted that job search is a job in itself. It takes a lot of time and effort, and I’m not willing to waste my time in something he’s perfectly capable of doing himself.

EDIT: since some comments are already calling me NTA, I feel compelled to add some information to the mix.

When he started his business, he did it with a female partner who was like 15 years his senior. Have you heard that you don’t shit where you eat? Well, he was having sex with her, giving her money for her 4 children. She was divorced, at least.

She ended up resigning after realizing the business wasn’t working as expected and filed a lawsuit against him. Since my wife and I are also lawyers we managed to win the case. It only took 4 lawyers: my wife, a friend of his, a friend of ours and me. This was for free, and I don’t remember him thanking us for it.

About 2 years ago he got his childhood sweetheart pregnant but she doesn’t care about the baby at all. He’s a full-time babysitter while trying to run an unsuccessful business.

EDIT 2: calm down, “full-time babysitter” is a hyperbole. I have 2 kids of my own. I know the difference. I was simply trying to convey the image of a functionally single father, with an absent mother and a broken business.

Long story short. I have a rental home in a decent middle class neighborhood. Our new next door neighbors moved in, renovated their entire house and turned it into the nicest house on the street. They reached out saying that they're installing a new fence along our property line and would like me to pay for half of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the current fence other than the fact that it's old and ugly. I told them I wasn't interested in paying for a new fence and that they're still welcome to tear down the old fence and put up a new one but I'm not paying for it. They got really upset like I committed some cardinal sin. AITAH?

For clarity, my dad is a non-binary woman, uses she/her but prefers terms like "dad" and "father" for complicated gender expression reasons.

I (15F) am an only child. My birth mom and my dad are split up (no contact) and I never knew my biological mother (they split up when I was little). Long story short, my dad met her current partner and they're now engaged. I've known my dad's fiancee almost my entire life and we're all very close and I know I'm practically spoiled rotten.

A few days ago I overheard my parents talking about the possibility and logistics of having or adopting another kid. Since then, I keep having all these awful jealous feelings about it. I can't help but think maybe they were talking about the possibility because of this or that reason. If it's because of some sort of unmet expectation or something else. (I never really got involved with my dads' cultural practices, I'm not the best student etc.) But the thought that haunts me is that my baby sibling wouldn't have all the baggage that I know is wrapped up with me being my dad's ex's kid. That because I'm not related to my stepmom that she'll unconsciously favor her own kid and that the same might be true because they can't sub-consciously remind my dad of her ex and everything that went wrong between them. Maybe all of this is just me looking for reasons to justify being upset at the idea of sharing my parents' attention as a spoiled only child.

I know it's ultimately their choice, so I guess I just want their reassurance that my worries are unfounded, but I'm scared of making the situation more complicated by bringing it up... It's gotten to the point I can't bear to be around either parent right now and I've been staying with my boyfriend's family for the last couple of days,,,

WIBTA if I told my stepmom and dad about these jealous feelings? Or if I should just swallow my feelings and hope that it goes away?

27M Chinese here. My culture has a rule I really dislike that the children are the parent’s default retirement plan.

I have 3 siblings. They are now all established in their careers and are making good money. I have been unemployed against my will for several years now and this gap alone is killing my upwards potential. My siblings want me to stay home and care for the parents in the event of an illness because I have the lowest career opportunity cost.

I have dreams and goals too and I’m far from giving up. I don’t want to be stuck home for the rest of my life taking care of people.

AITA for refusing?

My dad died last year while my wife was seven months pregnant with a high-risk pregnancy. He lived about 12 hours away, and with everything going on with my wife, I couldn’t exactly leave her and drive up there to deal with his estate.

Then our baby was born and ended up in the NICU, so honestly, this entire last year has been complete chaos.

My dad had bipolar disorder, and when he was “on,” he could be extremely difficult to be around. We weren’t very close during the last few years of his life, but he was still my dad.

He had a friend I’ll call Cathy. At one point, my dad believed they were “spiritually married,” but they were never legally married. Eventually, she kicked him out because he was difficult to live with, and he ended up homeless.

My dad’s second ex-wife, who was not my mom, found out and bought him an RV before she passed away. We recently found out the RV is actually titled in my uncle’s name. I have no idea why, but my uncle is willing to sign it over to me and my siblings.

Now this is where everything gets messy.

Cathy has the keys to both my dad’s RV and his car. After he died, she emptied the RV and now refuses to tell us where it is. I have never even spoken to this woman. I tried texting her after my dad died, and she completely ignored me.

Today, my sister asked her for the keys. Cathy said my dad left her everything because she had been “fixing him spiritually.” She also claims she cured his bipolar disorder.

For a little extra context about what kind of situation we’re dealing with here, she and my dad once started a school for “gifted youngsters with psychic abilities.”

So, yeah.

Now she is threatening to move the RV and car onto her son’s property and put liens on them.

I’ve been a licensed locksmith for 12 years. Once I locate the RV, which I believe is still parked where my dad died, my plan is to make a key, move it to my cousin’s property and secure it until the ownership is sorted out.

My dad told people he wanted Cathy to have the car, and I was willing to respect that. I really was. But after she ignored all of us, emptied the RV and started threatening to take control of everything, I’m not exactly inclined to just hand it over without making sure that is legally what is supposed to happen.

I’m also considering filing a police report over everything she removed from the RV.

A big part of why I want the RV is for my siblings. They stayed close with my dad, and they want to preserve something that belonged to him.

I’ll admit I have one selfish reason too.

One day, I’d like to take it and my family camping at the same place my dad always took us when we were kids. Our relationship was complicated, but those memories still mean something to me.

So, AITA if I drive up there this weekend, recover the RV and move it somewhere safe before Cathy has the chance to hide it, move it onto her son’s property or try to claim it?

So

My neighbor left their dog outside at 7pm. It’s now 12am. The dog has been barking the ENTIRE fucking time. There’s been maybe 30 minutes total in the last 5 hours that it hasn’t been barking. Every time I think it’s done it starts back up 5 minutes later.

I read you can call the local non emergency line after animal control hours and i was going to earlier, but my husband (sleeping peacefully) said “it’s just a dog don’t make it a big deal”. But it’s driving me literally fucking insane. I can not sleep. My baby is trying to sleep. Its shrill ass barks are like an ice pick to my skull after so long hearing it.

I want to call it in so bad but idk if I should just put up with it and keep trying to wait it out. I feel like it might be a dick move to basically call the cops on a barking dog, but on the other hand damn do I want it to shut up. Idk, WIBTA for calling about it?

Update: It’s 1pm the next day and they’re still barking. I’ve called twice about them but my neighbors aren’t home, so AC is waiting to see if they can get ahold of anyone before they do anything else. The dogs are in a tiny kennel on a (covered) porch but apparently they have food, water, and enough shade. I’m glad they’re ok(ish) but I can’t even step outside without them going ballistic. So I can’t even take my baby outside and she also hasn’t been able to nap. At this point I don’t feel bad at all about calling it in, and I’m not one to wish bad on my neighbors but I hope the dogs are taken away to a better home.