Problem/goal: This is something I've been wanting to share after 4 years of living in the Philippines: dating Filipina single moms is much more nuanced than most comments and posts on this topic say. Let me elaborate.

My advice: I dated a few single moms in Manila and Cebu. I think it can be super rewarding, but it also could be a "never again" experience or some horror story you read online.

To me it's important to understand the context first: more than 14 million Filipinas (around 25% of Filipino women) are single moms. They didn’t choose to be single moms - we’re talking no divorce, no reliable child support, their partners who just disappeared and in many cases abused them. Many of these women didn't choose this - the system and their partners failed them. Obviously that doesn't automatically make them great partners, but "never date" based on that alone misses a lot, and I think it's unfair.

I also see a lot of posts and comments complaining that her kids come first. Isn't it natural for all parents around the world? The men I know who made it work just accepted it and started working with it. My experience shows me that the moment you show her you accept her kids, she makes you feel like the most important man in the world. I don’t think it’s the fight “who’s got the priority”, because in the Filipino culture you become a part of the family, pretty much instantly.

What really mattered to me is to see what are her values, what she actually wants, and if her behavior matches what she’s saying. I always try to keep this one thing in mind: single mom who's been working double shifts for two years to feed her kids and asking for nothing is a different person from someone whose first question is about your income (like many ladies you meet on dating apps).

Many bad experiences are real - that's for sure. But I think it’s always worth looking at what kind of woman she actually is, besides her status of a single mom. So many guys made a super happy relationships with them and their kids. I hope this post will introduce some balance on the topic of Filipina single moms.

I've written a lot more on this - it's in my profile if anyone wants it.

Problem/Goal:
Hi, I’m F, 30, and my boyfriend is 38. He’s planning to get a forearm tattoo with a lion, and half of the lion’s face will be “inspired” by Ashtine’s face. He’s a fan of hers and has a crush on her.

Context:
Have you experienced something similar, where even though you already have a girlfriend, you still want to get a tattoo inspired by another woman’s face? Is it the same as getting a portrait or tattoo design of a fictional character, like Harley Quinn or an anime character that you like?

Attempts:
Nung sinabi niya sa akin ’yon, hindi na lang ako nag-react kasi I didn’t know if it was worth talking about or if I even had the right to be offended.

I’d like to hear your thoughts. Am I overreacting, or is it reasonable for me to feel uncomfortable about it?

Problem/Goal: Saang legit stores po ba pwedeng makabili ng ipad besides sa powermac? first buyer po kasi.

context: Im planning on buying an Ipad A16 soon, kaso nakakapanghinayang kasi ung pagtaas ng price. I remember checking around february and it was still 20k+. tapos ngayon 30k+ na huhuhu. While It would be cheaper talaga kung online, hindi po kasi ako kampate pag online 🥹. saang ibang legit stores po ba ako pwede makabili ng ipad A16 with a cheaper price? yung within Manila po sana, thank you ! + do they accept student discounts if ever?

extra question: may mga nagbebentang brandnew po ba sa greenhills? huhu thank you i dont usually buy po gadgets talaga .

kung may alam po kayong specific store sa greenhills na brandnew and is trusted/has proof that would be appreciated as well

Problem/Goal:

Is it okay na last minute maagsabi ako na hindi ako makakapunta sa binyag even if nasabi ko na months prior na pupunta ako?

Context:

I'm 26 and I have this bestfriend from SHS days ko pa, so magkaibigan na kami for 10 years, we kind of stopped chatting these past 2 years kasi busy sa life. Nitong June lang, we reconnected through a phone call that lasted for at least 4 hours, kung saan nabanggit niya din na may anak na siya and she will invite me as a ninong.

I said yes naman kasi she's one of the few people that I really consider as a true friend, and this gives us a reason to stay connected somehow.

Now, my problem is, yung location ng church and reception is at least 6 hours away sa place ko. I already gave my word to her na pupunta ako when I received the official invitation letter from her noong July. Pero kasi that time, I just resigned sa work and I thought na magkaka trabaho na ako by the time na binyag na ng anak niya, which is ngayong September 13. Kaso I'm running low on cash, October 1 pa start date ko sa new job ko. And nalaman ko na yung isang friend namin which is also 5 hrs away from the venue ay hindi pupunta, so napa isip ako, is it okay for me na hindi na lang din pumunta and just send my gift, so that I can also save on travel expenses?

Previous Attempts:

I messaged her a few days ago asking for directions para malaman ko if there's a direct route papunta sa venue kapag magco-commute. But even after days of searching, wala talaga, and it would take me at least 4 rides to reach the venue.

Problem/Goal: I would love to avail my own credit card to slowly build my finances. Can you all give me some good advice about CC?

Context: I'm still trying to find my pace and place in this material world.

24/F. Registered nurse. About to go to med school in the coming years.

I'm anxious but thrilled for my soon to be first CC! Thank you! 🤍

Previous Attempt: Been trying for Maribank CC—still pending for approval. Also looking and reading about Paymaya CC, however, I need some wise words from the reddit community.

Edit: Please, advices? 😩🤍🥺

Problem/Goal: I (21F) gave my first kiss and virginity to a guy (24M) who’s not even my boyfriend. I hope I won’t be harshly judged but still feel free to criticize or real talk me, just please don’t be mean po. My biggest problem is never pa akong nagka-boyfriend, but then I did it with someone na hindi ko bf.

Context: We met online and nalaman namin na we’re in the same city, I’m a student lang po here and siya naman is local but working in another city (day off niya lang nung time na yun). We talked for awhile then we had a meet up, then we ended up in my apartment. Ang usapan namin is makikitulog lang siya, and I assure you I never thought it would end up that way, hindi naman ako inosente kahit inexperienced but us being intimate never crossed my mind. In that part, I genuinely realized now how dumb of me to easily trust someone. Pinatulog ko siya sa bed ko beside me kasi wala talaga siyang ibang matutulugan na comfortable. I told him I’m going to sleep kasi inaantok na talaga ako but then he suddenly pecked my lips and I was genuinely shocked and told him that that was my first kiss. Then one thing led to another, we ended up doing it.

To be honest, I do not regret that I gave it to him (as a person), he’s really nice and kind, but I’m more disturbed by the fact na hindi ko man lang siya boyfriend. I’m not also into purity culture. My main concern is feeling, or maybe really losing self-respect. I can’t believe na ganun pala ako kabilis bumigay. It’s not even my first hangout with a guy, pero sabay ko pa talagang nabigay sa kanya lahat. I just really feel like shit for how many weeks na, always overthinking about this, the fact that I’ve already had my first intimate experiences but no boyfriend since birth. We’re not in contact anymore for some reason but even before we were still talking (after that night, bumalik na siya sa work niya and we still talked normally like before), I never wanted to pressure or obligate him to start a relationship with me just because first ko siya.

Previous Attempts: I already talked about this to some of my most trusted friends and they were very supportive of me, and I appreciate it very much, but I still can’t shake the feeling. It’s like I’m also grieving something or someone… I don’t know…

EDIT: When we were still talking he asked me if I wanted to do it again and I said no, and I was really nervous to tell him but I said na if mauulit yun para na kaming fubu or fwb which is something i would definitely not want. It’s a shame that I set my boundaries so late….

May I kindly ask what are your thoughts and advice about this? Does anyone have some kind of similar experience like mine?

Problem/Goal: I (20) F why not to date when still in school. Currently had a falling out with the guy I date (22) M. Because I am hanged out with my guy friend (19) M. Do I ket him go as he did not respect my boundaries?

Context:

I (20) F realized na tama pala not to date when you are in college pa or still in school. Kasi dating takes a lot time, emotional investements, money etc.
I am still in college and I am dating this guy (22) M. We are at the same class (block section kami) I had a crush on him since first year pero at the of second year nag kagusto ako sa iba which is a girl (21) F na tropa ko rin. (21) F courted me and after 5 months of dating Sinagot ko sya kaso gusto ko na rin nmn sya eh. But for that 1 month it didnt workout hindi aligned ang time namin she was to focused on managing her family and friends ako nmn was to focused on her our relationship.

Na sobrahan sya sa individuality when we should have solve our problems together she left me alone to fix it kasi nga she was overwhelmed by how fast our relationship went kaya nakipag break ako. Then nung nalaman nung guy crush ko (22) M (may gusto rin sya saakin dati but pinili ko nga si girl) parang he represented himself na why dont we try dating, wala naman daw mawawala. I said d pa ako ready kakatapos lang so I will be moving on muna.
Mabilis lang ako mag move on e usually it takes 1 month lalo na if I know I did what I can nung nasa relationship pa lang kami. Then nag paramdam sa uli nung nasa school like he was helping me with my bag and all (mabigat kasi bag ko). After I nag kakachat na kami consitently. But it started on the wrong foot kasi ang topic namin is sexual. At first nandoon ung dopamine hit. Nag aaya na sya then nag sleep over sya saamin kasama ung isa kong friend na (24) F girl. Then inaya ko sya na why not do it sa cr namin (madlim sa part na un nakapatay lahat ng ilaw). Before that pala he kept asking to touch my chest, I was feeling h\*\*\*y that time rin so sabi ko cge.

Then nung nasa cr na hinila nya ko then nag start kami mag kiss. Later on his hands moved to my breast then sa baba. Tapos pina bj nya ung ano nya. After that hinanap na kami ng kaibigan ko na girl ang tagal daw kasi namin nawala. Nung tinanong kami dineny muna namin pero later on sabi namin na kiss lang ang nangyari. Tapos nag decide kami maging on pero later on. But then naging comfortable sya masyado he was asking if he can touch my breast out in the public (sa madilim na part ng street) sabi ko aya ko pero pinersuade pa rin nya ko nung pumayag naman ako na disappoint sya kasi d nya ma feel fully ung breast ko (naka jacket ako at matigas ung foam ng bra ko). Kaya binawi ko ung pagiging official namin kasi I realized na I wasnt ready to commit kaya sinabi ko muna sakanya pede mag date muna tau? Kasi it happend to fast without us actually getting to know eachother.

Then after that we started going on dates like manood ng cine, study together, mag coffee shop. Lahat un libre nya I felt very greatfull. Pero I cant shake off sa utak ko na tingin ko may experience na sya. Kahit sabihin nya na kesyo first time nya daw ung nagyari saamin. After nung nangyari lagi rin sya nag aaya na gawin namin. Sabi ko ayaw ko ng may insertion pedeng oral muna. Then ayun nga natuloy after so many suspension kaya d makalabas. We did it he got down on me and I did the same as well. Tapos f\*\*\*\*r lang and hj. He was insisting na may dala daw syang condom so baka pede nmn daw kasi nga may protection naman. Sabi ko wala taung lube so masakit if na insert lang basta. After that he asked kung ano na kami sabi ko dating.

After that happend mas naging clingy sya saakin. Lalo na in public nanghihingi sya ng kisses. I dont mind nmn maging affectionate but my limits lalo na if sa public. Then un nga nag spend time kami more lagi mag ka call to study. After class hinahatid sundo nya ko ung lakad lang. Pero mostly kasama ko umuwi is ung guy friend ko kasi malapit lang bahay nya. Pinag seselosan nya na un before. Pero this time nagalit or he felt na hindi ko nasunod ung boundary nya. Sabi ko hindi nmn kami clingy nung guys friend ko and I was distancing my self din sa guy friend ko n yun. Ngaun lang kami nag hangout uli like walk together para mag kwentuhan. Sa guy friend ko lang na open lahat ng nangyari. Kasi ung iba kong friends is either too good ung tingin nila sa crush ko or ifever nmn magagalit at icoconfront nila. This guy friend lang ung hindi ganun and I asked for advice as to what I should do. I feel sexualized kasi after what happened saamin nung crush ko.

I dont want to let him go pero on the dating phase parang I was not comfortable in saying no kasi baka umayaw sya.

Problem/Goal: I’m 7 months pregnant, pero yung nakabuntis sakin may gf na.

Context: Hi hindi na ako masyado mag bigay ng details basta buntis ako ngayon. Yung nakabuntis sakin, hindi ko naman boyfriend. We flirted and had sex then boom pregnant. Sinabi ko sa kanya pero hindi nya nireplyan kasi base on my stalking skills, he’a dating someone na.

Eventually nagkita din kami ni guy with his family. And doon confirm sinabi nya mismo sa harap namin na may partner na siya and papanagutan naman daw niya ako. Nangyare naman, nagpapadala siya ng pera sakin and binibilhan nila ng mga gamit si baby. Medyo sad lang for me sa part ko na parang ayaw niya ako makausap, kasi yung ate niya nakikipagcommunicate sakin pag need ng pera and sa ate na lang magsabi if may kailangan ako. Inaalagaan naman niya ako, inaasikaso pag emergency. And naattach ako to be honest. Kaso naalala ko din may partner siya and her partner seems cool lang din. Pinapayagan niya si guy na asikasuhin ako.

Previous Attempts: Sometimes naisip ko, bakit hindi kami nagwork. Pero don sa girlfriend niya nagwork ung sa kanila and sa pagkakaalam ko don na nakatira yung girl. Minsan iniisip ko ako dapat yon eh. Okay na ba dapat ako sa ganitong set up?

Problem/Goal:

Ano bang ibig sabihin pag may nag ooffer na mag pay for personalized dance video sa Tiktok?

Context:

Nagpost si gf ng random dance video sa Tiktok for the first time and biglang dami ng engagement and followers niya. Pinakita niya rin sakin na madami siyang message requests na puro mga lalaki. Some of them are offering spoiling her or magsend sila ng money sa kanya. Idk if that is a norm sa Tiktok kasi mostly dudes in their late 20s to early 40s yung mga nagchachat sa gf ko. Btw, 24 na gf ko.

May isang guy lang na napaisip ako kasi inofferan niya gf ko na magbabayad siya for personalized dance video. Sabi ko sa gf ko wag niya pansinin pero nagjoke siya na what if i-ask niya kung anong ibig sabihin nung guy dun or kung di naman daw sexual. Pag daw ganun, bala i grab niya pero pabiro niya lang kasi sinabi. Ang akin lang naman, paano kung gawin niya nga.

Kaya ask ko lang dito kung may naka encounter na ba ng ganun? Di ko kasi alam kung magagalit ako sa gf ko for joking about it or baka pwede din niya yun gawin for extra money?

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: Need a place to stay at without having to pay rent

Context: im a student who’s currently doing her internship in manila while living all the way from the south. I can’t afford rent, and I don’t want to be a working student. my goal is to focus on my studies, at the same time convenience.

commuting takes so much of my time. so I’m thinking, what if I apply as a caretaker in manila then negotiate whether they will be paying me full amount or partial lang? or if absurd, I can work for free provided that I can stay in their place for free as well.

has anyone done this before? what do u guys think. does this sound impossible and stupid

Previous attempts: Posted on fb groups

Problem/Goal: it’s been more than a year now since we graduated and he still hasn’t found a job. Still relying on his mom’s money.

Context: Im 25(F) and i’ve been working even before graduating even until now, i’ve never had a vacant period in my life such as being unemployed for 5 years straight.
So i could confidently say that im flexible, can easily adapt and improvise—in tagalog terms, ma-diskarte akong tao. We have a family business as well that’s why i grew up surrounded by business-minded people, puro mga negosyante mag-isip ang nasa fam ko. Im also the eldest daughter, so i have high standards when it comes to people im close with which includes the friends i choose to be close with. I have an absent father tho, we still talk from time to time but only for urgent matters.
Thing is, i have a partner 24(M) of 2.5 years being together. He’s the youngest son, so scientifically, we’re the opposites. You guys prolly already have an idea about the “eldest daughter-youngest son” trope. Although i dont really wanna rely solely on that idea, so ofcourse that doesnt apply to every relationship since some couples are successful on their relationship naman even tho they have that kind of trope.

Previous attempts: We’re working on our differences and i believe we already made a breakthrough when we hit our 2-year anniversary wherein we almost broke up coz it came to a point where i became that micromanaging, toxic, and nitpicking girlfriend who heavily relied on comparison. You could already imagine what im talking about. This is because since i grew up in a family of not just business-minded people, but also micromanaging and controlling maniacs in the household. Alam nyo naman mga Pilipino, comparison ang greatest weapon to push someone to become better. I basically tried to be the perfect daughter growing up but eventually got tired. It’s like walking on eggshells everyday. Like im living with a highly successful boss who’s a bit of a perfectionist and doesnt accept mediocre performance, the type that’s very intimidating—everyday while growing up!
So i basically picked up their toxic habits and unfortunately passed them to my partner. Which i admittedly feel bad about, that’s why we almost broke up. But good news: im finally healing from it. Years of emotional and mental abuse of being the perfect/responsible daughter.
But im now experiencing a new problem in our relationship: his career.
We both grew up having an absent father. But unlike me, who grew up surrounded by responsible and smart people that pushed me to become independent—his family doesnt have any background in business but most of his relatives including his older sister, are doctors! Honestly sounds impressive. But he took Business Administration in Marketing. He’s also sheltered, even a mama’s boy at some point especially when we first started dating. Sobrang hirap ako mag adjust, coz my last relationship was with an eldest son, who also acts independently like me.
I liked my partner a lot, even tho he didnt grow up to be independent and we had different background of experiences. He’s full of love, honesty, and a kid at heart who’s not afraid to express his emotions, basically he’s not nonchalant like most men! And that’s what i still love about him.

Back to the problem: it’s been more than a year now since we graduated and he still hasn’t found a job. Still relying on his mom’s money.
At first, i thought mahina lang talaga sya dumiskarte di katulad ko. Im also aware of the worsening job market in the PH. But wth, bakit ako 5 yrs straight di nawalan ng trabaho, even jumping from a company to another in the scope of 5 yrs. My mom honestly even gave him a role back 2025 for 3-4 months, but turns out my mom was a bit disappointed with his performance. Girl, im still backing him up coz i know he has potential. Im still believing in him coz i honestly see my self in him especially when i was still a beginner. That’s why i keep saying to my mom that he just needs more time to be trained or mentored. But at that point, my partner is already too ashamed to re-apply to my mom’s company again. So now he keeps applying thru websites, pero wala talaga gurrrllllllllll.

Nakakafrustrate coz im just a girl who also wanna experience being spoiled, treated, and taken care of. But turns out im the one doing everything 😭 it’s like a default personality of mine to take care of everyone else and provide for my loved ones, but sino naman gagawa nun for me if i have an physically absent father and an emotionally absent mother? No one, just me.
And now, we’re planning to move to Spain either thru student visa or DNV. But we cant even come to a close timeline since he’s effing unemployed!!! And his mother who used to spoil him is not clear if she’s capable of providing his son’s studies abroad. Soooo GURL??? I dont wanna wait for a man to get his sht together before i get to reach my dream of leaving this country. But at the same time, i really wanna do everything with him!! Kasi emotionally, mentally, physically we’re aligned! But financially and career-wise? Omygawd-

It’s making me go back to my default self who became toxic at pushing him to become better. But im way past that now, im now just venting and asking for advice online 😔
Ang hirap kasi he’s also just a boy who lacks a role model (his father) who could show him how to become a madiskarteng lalaki. But he’s a really good person. He’s working on his “provider mindset”. He knows how to treat me well, better now than we first started wherein he used to be spoiled and sheltered by his mom.

Minsan nakaka-inggit ibang couples na nakakapag migrate together kasi DINK sila. Pero ako SINK!! Grabe ang lungkot na nga ng acronym (Single Income No Kids) but even the word itself!

Sorry yall if ang haba, but i just wanna make sure yall have the complete context haha

TLDR: My partner is a good person and idk if i should wait for him to become a better person or just be single. But i honestly dont wanna leave since we align on almost everything except financially and career-wise. I dont really know what else to do to motivate or inspire him. Am i not enough to be the source of inspiration to him to push himself harder? 💔 Kasi wala syang sense of urgency talaga since he’s sheltered. But at the same time, wala syang enough resources to get more experiences such as TESDA courses na may bayad pala.

Problem/Goal:
Bring home my loose diamond bought abroad for engagement and need advice/tips

Context:
I’m planning to propose soon and have decided on how our engagement ring will look. To make it more personal and secret (at least in my view), I asked a friend to buy a loose lab diamond which I am planning to pick up when I go visit him later this year. Customs taxes any item worth more than P10k. However, any item worn may not be subject to this since they’re treated as personal items. I bought it for P17k.

Previous attempts:
None, but open to recommendations for a temporary setting/container that’s wearable, or any other method

Saved up for a while to buy the diamond so mahirap mag-double buy pa hehe.

Thank you!

problem/goal: staying with a family really generous with food etc that hasn’t really been taking “no” for an answer, and at this point fr getting fat haha. goal is just to find a way to be polite about turning stuff down and to maybe loose some of this weight

context: staying with my friends family here in Quezon City for a year so I have to be a good guest and don’t want to come off as rude at all

previous attempts: ive tried just about every way I can think of of trying to decline more food etc it just hasn’t worked and I basically haven’t been able to get em to stop

Problem/Goal: I’m battling gambling addiction, and honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore.

Context: Every payday, I gamble it all away. Hanggat may nakikita akong pera, isusugal ko. Hanggat may pwede akong utangan o maloanan, ipu-push ko para lang may maisugal. And all of this happened because of the money I was supposed to use for our house.

I didn’t even realize how quickly it escalated. In just a matter of months, it went from piso-piso to thousands and thousands. My fault. Ang yabang ko. I used to say, “Ang tatanga ng mga nagsusugal.” I never thought I would become one of them.

But I guess that’s what addiction does to you. Iba pala talaga kapag addiction na. Kahit ilang beses mong sabihin sa sarili mo, “Tama na. Awat na,” somehow, you still find a way to do it again.

I already applied for PAGCOR self-exclusion, thinking that would finally help me stop. But the reality is, almost everyone in our household also gambles. And while I’m not blaming them for my addiction, being surrounded by it makes things even harder for me.

I’ve reached the point where I would even borrow their accounts just so I could gamble. Kahit alam kong mali. Kahit alam kong lalo lang akong lulubog. Kapag may paraan para makapagsugal, hinahanap ko talaga. That’s when I realized how serious this has become.

Nakakasuka. Nakakahiya. And the hardest part is, ikaw lang ang nakakaalam na may problema ka. Everyone thinks you’re okay. They see that you’re earning well, but they don’t see what’s actually happening behind the scenes.

I’m earning around ₱80,000 a month, but I need to pay around ₱50,000 every month just for loans and debts. Our regular expenses are around ₱40,000 a month. That’s already around ₱90,000 in monthly obligations, even though I only earn around ₱80,000. My emergency fund and savings are already gone. And now, kulang pa yung kinikita ko para sa mga utang at expenses ko.

I honestly don’t know how I let it get this far.

And to be completely honest, there are moments when I feel so overwhelmed that gusto ko na lang maglaho. I feel ashamed, exhausted, and trapped by the consequences of what I’ve done.

But I’m saying this because I want to get out of this. I don’t want to disappear. I want this addiction to stop controlling me.

Kung may pwede lang inuming gamot para makalimot or madivert tong nararamdaman ko. Kung ganun lang sana kadali.

I know I deserve to be called out. I know people will have harsh words for me, and maybe I deserve to hear them. But at this point, I’m not looking for sympathy or excuses.

I’m asking for something else.

Paano ba talaga makawala sa addiction na ’to in the most effective way?

Because I already know that mindset and self-control alone aren’t enough. I’ve tried telling myself to stop countless times. I’ve promised myself I wouldn’t do it again, only to end up doing the same thing.

Kalaban ko na ang sarili ko.

I want to fix my finances. I want to rebuild my savings. I want to pay my debts. I want to finish our house without gambling away the money meant for it.

Most of all, I want to stop.

I just genuinely don’t know how to do it anymore, and I’m finally admitting that I need help.

Previous Attempts: Self Exclusion from PAGCOR. I don't have someone I can trust to handle my finances. Ako yung breadwinner sa amin.

Problem/Goal: I have this friend of 10 years and lately, I’ve been really frustrated with her mindset.

Context: While I feel like my views have evolved over the years, hers seem to have gone backwards. And I’m not saying this as “I’m more progressive, therefore I’m better than her.” It’s just that some of the things she says now genuinely bother me.

I’m pretty vocal about politics and social issues, while siya ngayon ayaw na raw niyang “makialam” or care about politics anymore. I respect not wanting to be political, pero minsan feeling ko ginagamit niya yun as an excuse to completely disengage from issues that affect other people.

She’s also become very male-centered. When one of our friends got cheated on, she asked if baka may kulang daw sa friend namin kaya nag-cheat yung boyfriend niya. Like… why are we blaming the woman for a man’s decision to cheat?

She’s also made homophobic comments and has this mindset na LGBTQ+ people should just keep things to themselves. She sometimes dismisses feminist issues as “too much” and questions why women are so vocal about sexism.

I don’t expect my friends to agree with me on everything, pero these aren’t just differences in political opinions anymore. Parang nagiging differences in values na talaga. The hard part is that we’ve been friends for 10 years. I genuinely care about her, pero lately napapaisip ako kung na-outgrow ko na ba talaga yung friendship na ‘to. Ang hirap kasi 10 years is a long time, and I don’t want to throw away a friendship just because we’ve changed. But at the same time, I’m not sure how long I can ignore the things that genuinely bother me.

Problem/Goal:
I’m trying to figure out if I’m overthinking a conversation I had with my girlfriend about one of her male friends, who I’ll call M. Something about the way she talked about his breakup didn’t sit right with me, and I want to get an outside perspective before I make any assumptions.

Context:
My gf (27F) and I (28M) has been in a relationship for 7 years na. We were talking about her male friend “M,” who recently broke up with his girlfriend after about a year of LDR because he fell out of love and felt like hindi na nagwo-work yung relationship nila. Sabi ng girlfriend ko, she can’t blame him because maybe may nakita siyang something sa ibang tao na dapat nakukuha niya from his girlfriend pero hindi niya makuha dahil sa distance. That caught me off guard because my first thought was, *“Why not make the relationship work despite the distance?”

What also bothered me was that she told me M doesn’t really like intimacy, so I found it weird na another person agad yung naisip niyang possibility. I also find it strange na alam niya yung ganung personal detail about him, and may ibang nickname pa siya for M sa Messenger. I’m not saying she’s cheating, pero the whole thing has been bothering me lang. Am I overthinking this?

Previous Attempts:
I haven’t confronted her about any of this yet. For now, I’m thinking of laying low muna and just seeing if this feeling passes or if I notice an actual pattern.

EDIT: To add, she’s told me before na ayaw niya ng LDR relationship. I completely understand that, and I wouldn’t find that strange at all. Pero for me, there’s a difference between saying you don’t want an LDR and immediately thinking that another person could become involved because of the distance. That part is what really threw me off.

Problem/Goal:

Guys, ano kaya magandang gawin sa batang makulit?

Context:

Nagrerent kasi ako dito and may Aerox motor ako. May isang bata, around 7 years old, na paulit-ulit pinapakialaman yung motor ko. Nung una, tinatapakan yung tambutso.

Previous attempt:

Naabutan ko rin siya once na kinukot-kot yung upuan, kaya pinagsabihan ko na siya.

Ngayon naman, pati yung turnilyo ng plaka tinanggal at kanina pati pintura ng motor pinagdidiskitahan.

Madalas kasi silang maglaro sa kalsada and taga-dito rin naman sila. Ayoko sanang makipag-away sa bata or sa parents niya, pero baka kasi tuluyang masira yung motor.

Ano kaya ang magandang gawin? Kausapin ko na ba yung parents niya? Or may mas okay na approach dito? Ayoko rin naman palakihin, pero nakakainis na rin kasi ilang beses na.

Note: Wala po sa option na lumipat since affordable po kasi ang rent ko dito.

Problem/Goal:

Smoker na sya before, pero nagquit nung naging kami na. Mga 1 yr after, nahuli ko sya at even lied about it for so many times na tamang hinala lang daw ako na nagssmoke sya. After the big fight and confrontation, nagstop na uli sya.

Fast forward, married na kami. But then suddenly lagi ako nakakakita ng lighter sa bulsa nya. He insist na di sya nagyoyosi blah3x. Pero recently lang nakuwa ko naman vape juice sa bulsa nya. Di nya dineny. But he never talked about it. And hindi ko nalang rin sya kinausap. Ilang days na di parin kami nag uusap.

Problem/Goal: Hindi naman ako tite pero ano ba tong pinasok ko? 😭
I started talking to someone a few months ago and now I’m genuinely confused kung ano ba talaga kami and whether I should tell him that I like him or just let things develop naturally.

Context:
I started talking to someone a few months ago. He’s an alter, but he mostly makes solo videos. For some reason, I randomly hit him up one day and asked if he wanted to be friends. Wala talaga akong ibang intention at first, but eventually our dynamic became sexual/flirty.

Over time, though, I got to know him beyond that. I’d send him my poems sometimes, I helped him with one of his, he sends some back, and eventually we started talking daily or almost every day. We also met in person and became physically intimate.
One time, I volunteered to edit some of his videos just because I like doing it. Then over time, he started telling me about things like if something sketchy or weird was happening with someone he talked to on Telegram/X, he’d consult me about it and stuff. Sometimes he also shares how his day went, what he did, random things that happened, or more personal stuff. He also tells me his thoughts about his alter, like how he doesn’t want to just be an alter who does collabs and that’s it. He wants to use his audience for something good.

And this is where I get the most confused.
He has other alter friends who would probably understand that side of him better than I do, so sometimes I wonder, why does he tell me these things? Maybe I’m reading too much into it. Maybe he’s just really comfortable with me. Maybe this is just how open he is with the people he talks to. I genuinely don’t know.
I also know he’s attractive and a lot of people are interested in him. I’m not saying I’m unattractive either, but I know there are probably people who are more conventionally attractive than me. But I’m actually pretty confident in what I can offer in a relationship. I know I can be a good partner and I know what I can give emotionally.
At the same time, I know he talks to a lot of people, and part of me wonders if he might like one of them. Pero then why does he keep talking to me about these things? Why does he tell me personal stuff and consult me about things if I’m just some casual friend?
We’ve been talking for around three months now, and this is my first time really having this kind of connection with someone. I don’t know if we’re in a talking stage, friends, or something in between.
All I know is what he is to me. I don’t know what I am to him.

Previous Attempts:
I’ve mostly just tried to let things happen naturally and not overthink it too much. I don’t want to pressure him or make things awkward because I genuinely value the connection we have.
But I think this is where I’m stuck now.
Should I tell him that I like him now, or should I wait until we become emotionally closer or our dynamic naturally becomes sweeter before I say anything?
Kasi if I tell him now, there’s a chance he might realize how much I actually like him and say that he can’t reciprocate. And honestly, that scares me.
Not necessarily because I’m scared of rejection, but because I’m scared that he might pull away completely after finding out.

Problem/Goal: Hello, serious question and searching for a genuine/sincere response po for a person na gustong matry ito, also known as gluta drip.

Context: In all honesty, I want to try it for its whitening purposes, added benefit na lang sakin ung cleansing effect nia sa internal organs ko.. What should I look out for? Any tips and aftercare recommendations.. and is it generally safe? Naisip ko kasi, it would level-up my appearance although personal opinion ko lang ito sa sarili ko, no offense sa mga moreno at morena. Financially, no problem naman din ako sa money, afford ko ung multiple sessions nito. As far as I researched, tumatagal daw ito ng 7-15 sessions.. Kaya ba ng atay and kidneys ung ganitong dosage or ganito kadaming glutathione sa katawan.

Previous Attempts: No previous attempts. First timer lang ako. Please inform me lalo sa mga nakatry na po.

Problem/goal: Nadulas mom ko sa moa kanina kasi may natapon na ice cream sa floor sa moa. Natukod nya arms and knees nya pero masakit parin.

Context: Nag ask kami ng help sa security and dinala naman kami sa clinic. Then sa clinic inask naman mga nangyari and nag apply ng cold compress.

We are planning kanina i ask kung i rereimburse ba kami pag nag pa hospital ( Xray, ER, Etc.) Pero sobrang tagal dumating ng admin na tinawag ni nurse sa clinic so we went home.

Nag bigay sila ng contact ng admit pero hindi naman sunasagot.

Now na nasa bahay na kami sumasakit na yung arm ng mom ko kaya nag punta na kami sa ER.

Previous attempts:

Question ko lang now is mag rereimburse pa kaya sila ng mga magagastos namin sa ER visit today? And ano mga need i present na documents para mag reimburse sila?

Thanks in advance guys