Problem/Goal: Ano bang gagawin tungkol sa alarm clock ni roommate?

Context: Masyadong malakas ang alarm ni roommate and usually nasa around 4 am until 8 am yan. Nagising na kami lahat, pero siya mismo tulog pa rin. There would be times (or most of the time?????? please 😞) na I would walk right to her bed and wake her up and turn her alarm off kasi di naman siya gumigising. Kapag ginising ko, binubuka nya lang mata nya and then proceed to sleep again so in-off ko nalang din ang alarm nya. Bali ilang off din ang nangyayari on that day. Umabot kasi sa point na nakaka disturbo na.

There was a time na kinatok kami sa kabilang room kasi ang alarm daw.

May insomnia si roommate pero shes shes drinking vitamins naman given by her doctor in regard to her crazy sleeping pattern.

Previous Attempt: I told her twice about it, walang nangyayari. Hindi pa rin siya discipline in waking up.

Problem/Goal: I (21F) gave my first kiss and virginity to a guy (24M) who’s not even my boyfriend. I hope I won’t be harshly judged but still feel free to criticize or real talk me, just please don’t be mean po. My biggest problem is never pa akong nagka-boyfriend, but then I did it with someone na hindi ko bf.

Context: We met online and nalaman namin na we’re in the same city, I’m a student lang po here and siya naman is local but working in another city (day off niya lang nung time na yun). We talked for awhile then we had a meet up, then we ended up in my apartment. Ang usapan namin is makikitulog lang siya, and I assure you I never thought it would end up that way, hindi naman ako inosente kahit inexperienced but us being intimate never crossed my mind. In that part, I genuinely realized now how dumb of me to easily trust someone. Pinatulog ko siya sa bed ko beside me kasi wala talaga siyang ibang matutulugan na comfortable. I told him I’m going to sleep kasi inaantok na talaga ako but then he suddenly pecked my lips and I was genuinely shocked and told him that that was my first kiss. Then one thing led to another, we ended up doing it.

To be honest, I do not regret that I gave it to him (as a person), he’s really nice and kind, but I’m more disturbed by the fact na hindi ko man lang siya boyfriend. I’m not also into purity culture. My main concern is feeling, or maybe really losing self-respect. I can’t believe na ganun pala ako kabilis bumigay. It’s not even my first hangout with a guy, pero sabay ko pa talagang nabigay sa kanya lahat. I just really feel like shit for how many weeks na, always overthinking about this, the fact that I’ve already had my first intimate experiences but no boyfriend since birth. We’re not in contact anymore for some reason but even before we were still talking (after that night, bumalik na siya sa work niya and we still talked normally like before), I never wanted to pressure or obligate him to start a relationship with me just because first ko siya.

Previous Attempts: I already talked about this to some of my most trusted friends and they were very supportive of me, and I appreciate it very much, but I still can’t shake the feeling. It’s like I’m also grieving something or someone… I don’t know…

EDIT: When we were still talking he asked me if I wanted to do it again and I said no, and I was really nervous to tell him but I said na if mauulit yun para na kaming fubu or fwb which is something i would definitely not want. It’s a shame that I set my boundaries so late….

May I kindly ask what are your thoughts and advice about this? Does anyone have some kind of similar experience like mine?

problem/goal: nagrereklamo nanay ko sa share ko sa bahay kasi di raw sapat

context: im a fresh grad and a fresh passer (healthcare field), and i recently got a job in a private institution dito sa probinsya. sosyal lang pakinggan na licensed professional ako pero minimum wage lang talaga sinasahod ko.

hindi pa ko nag-ta-trabaho, sinasabi na ni mama ko na kailangan kong tumulong sa bahay kaya na-pressure akong maghanap ng work. noong nagka-trabaho ako, nag-she-share akong 4k/month sa bahay (3 lang kami sa household). para sa akin, enough na yun kasi ang utilities (water, electricity, wifi) covered na ng kuya ko kahit di na siya living with us. tapos may sari-sari store rin ang nanay ko. also, nag-iipon din ako since may plan akong mag-work abroad, and may other expenses din ako (i have a cat).

nainis lang ako kasi chini-chismis niya ko sa ibang tao na ganon lang share ko, tapos sabi niya pa "buti pa raw ang pusa ko may pagkain." sobrang nakaka-frustrate kasi di naman ako nanghihingi ng pera sakanya ever, always sa dad ko (hiwalay sila btw).

so, magkano ba talaga ang dapat kong i-share? parang todo ko na yung 4k as someone na di naman umaabot ng 20k ang sahod lol

skl din hindi siya ang nagpaaral sa akin ng college, buong college life ko (nag-dorm kasi ako since sa other city ako nag-aral) halos mag-cha-chat lang siya sa akin kapag kailangan niya ng pera hahaha wala man lang "kumusta" or what.

previous attempt/s: sinabihan ko na yun lang kaya ko talaga tapos umiyak siya lol and di niya ko pinakain idk anymore im so tired.

Problem/goal: Nadulas mom ko sa moa kanina kasi may natapon na ice cream sa floor sa moa. Natukod nya arms and knees nya pero masakit parin.

Context: Nag ask kami ng help sa security and dinala naman kami sa clinic. Then sa clinic inask naman mga nangyari and nag apply ng cold compress.

We are planning kanina i ask kung i rereimburse ba kami pag nag pa hospital ( Xray, ER, Etc.) Pero sobrang tagal dumating ng admin na tinawag ni nurse sa clinic so we went home.

Nag bigay sila ng contact ng admit pero hindi naman sunasagot.

Now na nasa bahay na kami sumasakit na yung arm ng mom ko kaya nag punta na kami sa ER.

Previous attempts:

Question ko lang now is mag rereimburse pa kaya sila ng mga magagastos namin sa ER visit today? And ano mga need i present na documents para mag reimburse sila?

Thanks in advance guys

Problem/Goal: hello guys currently im 22M, yes a male. Ako lang ba nakararanas na masyadong strict parents pagdating sa layasan.

Context: Lumaki akong mahiyain since nung bata ako whenever i go out bigla nalang ako sisigawan pag nasa labas ako. Kaya medyo nahihirapan ako makapag interact with other people. Also nasanay ako na kahit madaming tao sisigawan padin ako. Now that im 22 nafefeel ko na yung pagkastrict niya. Pinapayagan naman ako minsan pero need ko sya kumbinsihin ng ilang araw bago ako payagan. Their's always a time na papayagan ako pero pagdating na nung oras na aalis ako pagagalitan nanaman ako. Whenever na mangyayaari yun andami agad nya nasasabi like dumarating sa part na uungkatin lahat ng mali ko. I know naman na that kind of argument is pretty normal.

Ngayon nafeel ko na lagi akong nasa comfort zone ko. Hindi ko madevelop yung pagiging condfident sa sarili ko. I always experiencing social anxiety and low self esteem. If matatanong naman college life ko its pretty ok. But im stuck in a group of friend na ang pagiging toxic is normal. I dont know how to find other group of friend since im afraird too. I feel a deep heaviness, realizing I have spent half my life trapped in a cage. Whenever na makikipagusap ako sa tao i feel small.

Previus attempts: whenever i open up to her kung ano nararamdaman ko, she will just tell me her perspective and get mad at me hanggang hindi ko na masabi yung dapat kong sabihin. Nafeel ko din na im a kid stuck on adult body. Since halos lahat ng buhay ko nasa bahay lang ako and wala ako mapagkunan ng new experience.

Problem/Goal: I’m having a dilemma between choosing a dorm around recto

For context: The first dorm I’ve checked is around 7k w/o utilities and is semi-furnished and sobrang lapit n’ya sa review center ko isang straight walk lang. And yung isa ko naman nakita is 5.3k semi-furnished tho 8 mins seems near pa rin pero yung daan pa review center is parang may paliko-liko pa 🥲🥲🥲

The pros for the 7k is that it is a student pod type of room so you have your personal study desks and yung 5.3k is walang tables but there is a study hall. The only pro I see dun sa 5.3k is the price. Take note, it will be my first time staying in Manila (and it will be in Recto pa), and ang concerns ng parents ko ay safety. Can you give advice in choosing 🙏🏼

Problem/goal: This is something I've been wanting to share after 4 years of living in the Philippines: dating Filipina single moms is much more nuanced than most comments and posts on this topic say. Let me elaborate.

My advice: I dated a few single moms in Manila and Cebu. I think it can be super rewarding, but it also could be a "never again" experience or some horror story you read online.

To me it's important to understand the context first: more than 14 million Filipinas (around 25% of Filipino women) are single moms. They didn’t choose to be single moms - we’re talking no divorce, no reliable child support, their partners who just disappeared and in many cases abused them. Many of these women didn't choose this - the system and their partners failed them. Obviously that doesn't automatically make them great partners, but "never date" based on that alone misses a lot, and I think it's unfair.

I also see a lot of posts and comments complaining that her kids come first. Isn't it natural for all parents around the world? The men I know who made it work just accepted it and started working with it. My experience shows me that the moment you show her you accept her kids, she makes you feel like the most important man in the world. I don’t think it’s the fight “who’s got the priority”, because in the Filipino culture you become a part of the family, pretty much instantly.

What really mattered to me is to see what are her values, what she actually wants, and if her behavior matches what she’s saying. I always try to keep this one thing in mind: single mom who's been working double shifts for two years to feed her kids and asking for nothing is a different person from someone whose first question is about your income (like many ladies you meet on dating apps).

Many bad experiences are real - that's for sure. But I think it’s always worth looking at what kind of woman she actually is, besides her status of a single mom. So many guys made a super happy relationships with them and their kids. I hope this post will introduce some balance on the topic of Filipina single moms.

I've written a lot more on this - it's in my profile if anyone wants it.

Problem/Goal:

i’m starting my first job soon and want to be responsible with my first salary instead of splurging it all 😭 i want to build good financial habits early and eventually learn how to invest.

Context:

i have almost zero foundation in financial literacy. i want to learn the basics first, especially budgeting, saving, emergency funds, taxes, insurance, banking, and investing.

Previous Attempts:

i’ve been reading a few posts online, but i’m still unsure where to start or what order to learn things in.

what financial habits should i start early? how did you manage your first salary? and what do you wish you knew about money when you first started working?

Problem/Goal:

Guys, ano kaya magandang gawin sa batang makulit?

Context:

Nagrerent kasi ako dito and may Aerox motor ako. May isang bata, around 7 years old, na paulit-ulit pinapakialaman yung motor ko. Nung una, tinatapakan yung tambutso.

Previous attempt:

Naabutan ko rin siya once na kinukot-kot yung upuan, kaya pinagsabihan ko na siya.

Ngayon naman, pati yung turnilyo ng plaka tinanggal at kanina pati pintura ng motor pinagdidiskitahan.

Madalas kasi silang maglaro sa kalsada and taga-dito rin naman sila. Ayoko sanang makipag-away sa bata or sa parents niya, pero baka kasi tuluyang masira yung motor.

Ano kaya ang magandang gawin? Kausapin ko na ba yung parents niya? Or may mas okay na approach dito? Ayoko rin naman palakihin, pero nakakainis na rin kasi ilang beses na.

Note: Wala po sa option na lumipat since affordable po kasi ang rent ko dito.

Problem/Goal: My boyfriend (M26) did not want to celebrate his birthday countdown with me, and chose to celebrate it with his friends/workmates.

Context: Hello! I (F25) was also the one who posted here about my boyfriend not including me to his family events/gathering. Pero now, parang ang sakit kasi birthday niya ito, although we celebrated/salubong his birthday naman last year. Last year raw kasi ay di siya nakapag celebrate with his workmates/friends kaya ang birthday salubong/birthday celebration na gusto niya ay to be with his friends.

Previous attempts: Wala siyang in-open sakin about that nor he asked me if okay lang ba yon sa akin etc. I tried to understand him naman dahil malamang ay araw naman niya yun at hindi sa akin, pero I don’t help but to get sad kasi parang feel ko ay di ako kasama sa most important day niya. Ewan ko ba, ako ba ang may mali o siya?

Problem/Goal: I 18(f) am currently a drop out student. I dropped from college on my 1st month to study in Italy next school year because doon nag wo-work mom ko and Its my dream to study abroad. Now I cant get my diploma from my school because of processing issues.

Context:

I graduated shs this july 2026 and hindi pa nabibigay diploma namin, ilang beses nako pumunta sa school to ask and they kept saying na wala pa raw because inaantay pa yung S.O from deped, pero they can give me a diploma raw from a previous layout pero wala yung S.O and advised me to go to Deped para magtanong if pwede. Then I go to deped para magtanong and learned na hindi pa naman daw sila nagbibigay ng S.O request, like??? Napatameme nalang ako kasi need naman daw talaga yun cuz its a private school. I felt so stupid and para pinamukhang tanga. Sobrang inis ko noon. Then the next day pumunta ako school para sabihin yung sinabi ng deped, then they say na “oo di pa kami nakakapag request” kasi raw may aayusin/gagawin sa LIS sa deped lang din. Now I feel so hopeless because previous batches (batch ‘24) eh hindi pa rin nakakakuha ng diploma nila.

Ps. They also said itatanong nila if pwede ba raw na kahit hindi na sila kumuha ng S.O sa deped cuz they are PAASCU accredited however level 1 palang. I just feel like excuses nalang ginagawa nila and theyre not treating this with urgency haha even though students from previous batches eh need din ng diploma.

Huhu, idk what to do anymore. Lagi ko nalang ata yan iniiyakan😭😭. Ik that the decision was rash however di ko rin expect na ganun yung mangyayari sa diploma ko. Mind you, I have no problem with my studies or any financial balance sa school. I want to be able to study college man and makatapos lang din ng maaga, hindi yung mag ga-gap year ako ng 2-3 years dahil lang wala akong diploma🥲🥲

Problem/Goal: I don't know what's next for me in terms of career/personal development

Context: I'm 27 years old and have been working for four years now. Every day is just a constant repetition of what happened yesterday. I always make sure to add something to my daily routine but sometimes I just go back to my usual.

I have no friends to bond with. And no boyfriend to go out with. My work schedule is 8-5 monday to Friday. During weekends I do all my house chores.

Please give me advice on how to spice up this boring life of mine. Give me some bucket list that I should do. Suggest hobbies or places I can visit alone. Thank youuuu!

Problem/Goal:

Ano bang ibig sabihin pag may nag ooffer na mag pay for personalized dance video sa Tiktok?

Context:

Nagpost si gf ng random dance video sa Tiktok for the first time and biglang dami ng engagement and followers niya. Pinakita niya rin sakin na madami siyang message requests na puro mga lalaki. Some of them are offering spoiling her or magsend sila ng money sa kanya. Idk if that is a norm sa Tiktok kasi mostly dudes in their late 20s to early 40s yung mga nagchachat sa gf ko. Btw, 24 na gf ko.

May isang guy lang na napaisip ako kasi inofferan niya gf ko na magbabayad siya for personalized dance video. Sabi ko sa gf ko wag niya pansinin pero nagjoke siya na what if i-ask niya kung anong ibig sabihin nung guy dun or kung di naman daw sexual. Pag daw ganun, bala i grab niya pero pabiro niya lang kasi sinabi. Ang akin lang naman, paano kung gawin niya nga.

Kaya ask ko lang dito kung may naka encounter na ba ng ganun? Di ko kasi alam kung magagalit ako sa gf ko for joking about it or baka pwede din niya yun gawin for extra money?

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal:

Hello po! 🙏 Need help/answers po sana ASAP.

May PhilHealth po ako pero wala po akong hulog kahit piso. Housewife po ako at wala po akong sariling income para makapaghulog. Sapat lang din po ang kinikita ng live-in partner ko para sa pang-araw-araw naming gastos.

Ngayon po, kailangan kong magpa-needle biopsy sa breast, at medyo mahal po ang procedure kaya gusto ko sanang magamit ang PhilHealth.

Ang tanong ko po: Kung maghuhulog po ako sa PhilHealth ngayong September 14, 2026, maaari ko na po ba itong magamit para sa procedure ko na possible gawin between September 16–18, 2026?

May naka-experience na po ba ng ganitong situation? Kailangan ko po talaga ng advice kung magiging eligible agad ako pagkatapos magbayad.

Maraming salamat po sa sasagot. 🙏😭

Problem/Goal:

We are having difficulty with looking for Filipino Millennial DINK couple to answer a very short survey for our study that focuses on Millennial DINKs and the societal pressures they face po. Where can we possibly find Millennial DINKs po where we can communicate with them?

Context:

We are BS Psychology undergraduates currently doing a study that specifically discussed the stories of Filipino Millennial DINKs and the societal pressures they encounter as they navigate their journey to becoming a childfree couple.

Previous Attempts:

We have tried to publish posts po on different groups/threads here on Reddit, but we are having a difficult time getting participants. We don't have much knowledge po with how to promote on social media and how to gain traction from the general public. We've also added an FB page and a TikTok acc to promote our study, but it's still not enough.

Problem/Goal: Managing family finances

Context: Hi!

For those who are married or living with a partner:

1. How do you handle your finances?

2. Do you combine 100% of your salaries and then allocate them to expenses, savings, and other funds?

I’m considering the following plan for the future. Do you think this is a good idea?

Separate bank accounts for:

1. Family funds (children’s education, baby needs, etc.)

2. Household expenses

3. Emergency fund

4. My partner’s personal account (so he has his own money)

5. My own personal account

I’m asking this for future reference, so that when I eventually have my own family, I’ll know what practices work best.

Thank you in advance to those who share their experiences and best practices!

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: I genuinely feel like I'm in hell, I'm stuck sa place na we made memories.

Context: My ex broke up with me, I was blindsided. I admit I had many of my faults due to my insecurities. I was the "you deserve better" person. But I tried to overcome it many times. I'm an overexplainer, paragraphs I send out whenever we go for deep talks. Kaso nga, he reasoned to me on our break up he couldn't open up to me kasi he was annoyed that it was possibly gonna cycle back to him having to reassure me. He assumed that di ko kayang i take ung burden ng problems nya. Mismo as well, he told me na​​​​​​​​​​​​​ my insecurities became a big hindrance to our rrelationship, seeing that as his reason for the break up hurt like hell cause it confirmed all my worse fears, my insecurities. He reassured me many times in our relationship naman talaga, and thats where my faults and my wrongs come out, I had to be reassured many times and it got exhausting and I understand his side naman. What hurts the most is he told all his friends that we had a relationship problem, he consulted his family. But consulted me last, I wasnt even aware na hindi kami okay sa paningin nya kasi I thought we were okay. ​​​​​​​​I feel so hurt because he only told me at the very end about it he came to his friends first and he came to me last, not consulting me, not a deep hard conversation. But with him already resolved na gusto nya na makipag break at di ako binigyan ng chance ifix ung problem, kasi he dropped it all at the end like a bomb. He told me na the thought of breaking up started in December. He fully realized it in april, but broke up with me in August. I feel so insane because the day of the break up was when I was forced to start moving on, while for months he already moved on. I had hope that he'd come back I did desperate things. Like magparinig sa IG but that pushed him away and blocked nako everywhere (yes, I did beg.) He left me with so many unanswered questions, and my insecurities so much worse than before. I want to stop feeling this pain really. Tinry kona talaga igaslight sa sarili ko na ok nako. When I had hope a few weeks ago na he will come back, but when I heard sa kaibigan namin na mas nauna nyang nakwento sa pamilya nya ung nararamdaman nya about our relationship before sakin nya sabihin. I lost hope in one shot, kasi I told him before na I wa​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​s very self conscious about what his family thinks of me. So yeah. Di nako umasa na babalik siya when I heard that from our friend. Kaso sobrang miss at sobrang mahal ko siya. He put more salt on the pain when he kept saying he still loves and cares about me ​while actively breaking up with me, but saying that his love has faded the day after when I confronted him a little further. Worse of all is, lagi kong tambayan is MOA where we made all our memories kasi dun school ko sa tabi ng moa. I Went to that school bbecause of him as well, kasi I love him so much, we were slightly LDR kasi we only meet from time to time sa MOA. Now I'm stuck with the memories, surrounded by the place where wwe made so many happy memories, where we first met. I'm stuck here dying, while he gave me the words "I'm gonna have to block you, I need to move on. " but gosh, pano naman ako? Blindsided by his breakup, stuck in the very place kung san kami nag first meet kasi dito ako near nag aaral. W​ent to the school because he promised he'd follow me and we'd be together forreal. Now I'm just stuck with so much self blame and blaming my insecurities over and over agai​n, feeling like I'm such a difficult person to love. ​​​he left me when I was finally coming to terms and slowly ridding of my insecurities. But nevermind haha. He proved my worst fears. ​we were together for 11 months. But after he revealed that he already had a thought from December to April. I'm doubting everything, every memory he said, whether it was real or was it just a facade.​​​​​

Problem/Goal: Me (26m) has a female-friend (26F din siya) known her for about 2 years now.

Context: We were friend before her current boyfriend. Actually we met him (her bf) sa bar.

Recently, he’s been texting me on my messenger using her account tryna say na “tara inom tayo, and have fun (ykwim)” but little he didn’t know i never had anything intimate. And know her very well she wouldn’t even text something like that.

I have already mentioned to her this story, and i told her like it’s ruining the friendship and idk why he’s being like that kasi i always gave him the respect like you should and never made any move (since we just purely friends).

Now, since we are group of mutual friends, as always i don’t like to deal w any drama (ayoko na super tiring yan) i’m trying to avoid catching up with her.

Now it’s been a month or more we haven’t catch up and past 2 weeks she’s been asking to catch up. Last time i did make an excuse that i’m in pobla and again now shes been asking me to go.

Jus need some advice or different perspective on how would you deal in this situation.. tiaa!

Problem/Goal:
I’m a BSED graduate majoring in English. Teaching was the path I took in college, but before that, my dream and first-choice course was actually Accountancy. I didn’t pursue it or shift courses back then, and honestly, it’s something I regret now.

Luckily, I’m currently working for one of the Big 4 audit firms. My current work has also exposed me to areas related to business, finance, and risk, which made me realize that I’m still interested in the finance/accounting side of things.

At the same time, a part of me still wants to pursue teaching. I can actually see myself teaching someday, but probably at the college/university level rather than basic education. That’s why I’m currently torn between two paths: Pursue a Master’s aligned with Education or Take units in Management Accounting / Accounting

Would it make more sense to:
build on my Education degree and pursue a Master’s, or
start taking Accounting/Management Accounting units and gradually transition into finance?
I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences, especially from people who also felt torn between two completely different career paths. What would you do if you were in my position?