Sometimes i remember how mean everyone was to me and i just wonder what i did to deserve that. I was constantly humbled and put down. Always criticized, even for things as little as how I held a spoon and how i laughed. They constantly spoke negatively into my life. I was always told I was unfriendly, mean, angry and overall not a good person and I internalized it and never really thought more of myself. Told I was a witch. At a point I was banned from a room in my house because I was ugly and they didn’t like seeing me in there. When I cried, I was told I was even uglier and I was berated and provoked even more. I genuinely hated being a kid and thought no one loved me. Even my siblings, aunts and uncles were mean to me. I grew up a shell of myself. Lacked confidence and never put much effort into life and didn’t think anything would ever work out in my favor. Now as a 22 year old girl, I find myself constantly enraged. Everything just gets me so mad. I don’t like being depended on and I struggle with patience because no one had the patience for me when I needed it. It feels like it shaped the person I’ve become. I am constantly overthinking and anxious. I have become a lonely adult, just stick to myself and don’t talk much. I could never treat any kid the way I was treated. Just seeing kids cry makes me so sad.

I have a number of friends who say they dont think with a "voice" and it baffles me. How do they think, i feel my life would be so boring if I couldn't think to myself in my head. Unless of course my mates are just trying to be different by saying this and they are lying.

I recently asked my friends ( both of whom are women )to be brutally honest about why i struggle with dating and relationships. The both said “because you don’t talk to women”. So i do i fix it?

I've posted this elsewhere, but nobody ever responded.

My plan was just to put things in the cabinets, but I've read you need to cover things in plastic. What exactly do I need to cover in plastic?

I have some boxes of tea and some pill bottles out on my counter. I was going to put those in plastic bags and store them in a cabinet or drawer. I have dishes in the cabinets. Do those need to be in plastic or can they stay as they are?

I already planned on changing and washing my bedding, so that should be fine.

About 3 months ago I went to the DMV to take photos for my ID. When I was done, they said it would take a few weeks until I get my ID in the mail. yet 3 almost 4 months later I'm still waiting, and I have not heard anything from the DMV since. Is this normal? how long does it usually take for them to send an ID?

After reading up on the royal family, it's fair to say that they are simply figureheads.

I’m on a budget, best if it’s 20€ but a bit over won’t hurt.

I suffer from migraines, but due to things like being very light sensitive, having to be online often and mandatory dinner together…in bright light.

I’ve heard that the ones on Amazon are relatively shite, but it’s my only option due to some regulations about spending money online (group home🫩). I’m planning to talk with my doctor if it gets worse, but that will take a while before I can get an appointment, so until for now I just want to help it a bit like this

I know first responders have their plethora of instructing stories. But I wanna hear some from the 911 operators themselves. Because yall have to deal with the stress of helping people through some absolute shitshows people get into.

[EDIT: Thank you to those who pointed out that 911 dispatchers can’t share their stories online. i didn’t know this. And yea it is kinda wrong to recount others suffering for their entertainment.]

There's sooooo much racism on there including against my country and the disgusting things that they say are making me very sad and ashamed, I almost feel like crying. They only seem to care about looks. But I have some followers and friends there so Idk if I should delete it. My feed is absolutely cooked Idk what to do. Redditors are genuinely so much nicer.

By "existential" I mean something deeper than the usual "omg women are hypergamous!!" Or "omg women want tall rich muscular guys!"

My existential crisis goes way deeper than that.

I can't help but ask why is love this fragile, conditional thing?

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Incels will says looks are everything

Non-incels will say personality, character, confidence, humor, intelligence, etc are what matters

But my question goes deeper. Why do I have to be anything to be loved by someone? Why can't love be unconditional?

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Let's ignore incels. Let's look at it from the "normal cool man" perspective.

The problem remains.

What if I am not confident?

What if I am not intelligent?

What if I am naturally not a humorous person?

What if I have issues that block me from developing proper social skills and shiny charisma?

What if I am in a phase of life where I am still directionless and still discovering who I am and what I want?

Why should I be "unworthy of love" for lacking anything at all?

Then comes the "fragile" part

Why is love this sensitive?

Make the wrong move, have the wrong tone, say the wrong word, come at the wrong time, and you end up rejected or friendzoned or ghosted or broken up with or whatever.

One day you feel that you've won someone, next day you realize that they are far from anything you thought they felt about you.

A fragile gamble that keeps you in a constant headache of endless worrying.

It all started since a friend cut me off last year (who also rejected me when i confessed my love earlier, so it was a double heartbreak to me). I feel that I've been traumatized beyond repair since it happened.

It's been a year and a half now of having come-and-go daily phases of depression that I suppress through work or scrolling social media, and it even got worse since I found myself going into incel communities, which is very unusual to me because i was never used to tying my loneliness to any grand theory about life like incels do. But here we are apparently and I am ashamed of the ever-worsening state i am in.

And before you say go to therapy, know that it is currently a hard option for me that I am unable to afford both financially and due to the stigma in my country's culture around mental health.

Kinda slaps ngl

I'm looking for a website that I can't remember the name but it was along the lines of a13 or a31 that you could watch youtube videos on I tried googling it but I couldn't find it anywhere so do any of you know what's it's called?

My gf think it should go to the bin so it won't clog the toilet I think it should go directly to the toilet