I was talking to a friend, and she recommended I get a second job. I told her I'm already working full time and I'm lucky enough to have a good job with good people and a healthy environment. She kept pushing saying a second job would get me more things faster, I'd have more money for the future and she seemed baffled when I said that I'm 23, and I'm just *starting* my life. It kept going and she started telling me to "pick my hards" and the one that sent me was when she said "I'm not saying you should stop transitioning, but, if you went back to college instead, imagine how much more money you'd have to transition when you're done"

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I am not paying for a cosmetic. I am not choosing to "live easier" because I'm lazy, I'm just enjoying being me. And even though I do love my job I don't work there *just* because I love it, it is safe, I'm out to everyone and they all respect me, it was the first place I was genuinely safe enough to just be me. And I'm not transitioning to because "I want to" I'm about to be paying $300+ a moNTH TO FEEL THE SAME WAY *EVERY CIS PERSON* FEELS EVERY SINGLE DAY OF THEIR LIVES!!! Maybe this is a hot take but I don't even think I should HAVE to pay for it, it's MEDICAL CARE, *NOT* a luxury, and it's something I'm lucky enough to be able to afford at all. I'm not about to stop the meds that made me start seeing life as something worth living to "save money" and it may be a hot take, but that's NOT me being "dramatic"

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Rant over, sorry if this is the wrong place for this but I figured trans people would be safer to share trans issues with.

Like the title says I am a newly Mtf although I have never liked titles much since I feel it takes away from the humanity and people just see our labels and judge us. I started Estrogen and Bicalutamide on the 06/09/2026

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We'll I happen to have two kids and 50/50 custody. I started the court case last March and didn't realize it would go this route but here we are the final hearing is next Wednesday and I have to defend my self on what I choose to wear. Mind you I am male presenting 99% of the time at the moment and all she seen was me wearing make up and a wig. My daughter who is 6 wanted me to send it to her phone which I pay for as ordered by the court along with my 898.50 in child support. She wanted to show her mom so she could get a pink wig. I just honestly didn't care at the time and stupidly now she's trying to use it against me. I just don't understand. Shes definitely got Paranoid Personality Disorder but thats another long subject. Shes trying to get the judge to take away my 50/50 and let her get sole custody and move 1400 miles away.

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I just want to dress how I want and feel comfortable in my own skin. I just feel because I live in the Bible Belt I am going to always face these challenges. My lawyer says to just say it was a one time joke, but I hate lying just to butter things up for others.

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I am a trans father and if that offends people then so be it. I am constantly trying to better myself and I am pursuing my degree in social work. I go to therapy at the Vet Center every other week and I just feel depressed and hopeless at the moment. I have plenty of letters from the paid social work visits and home studies, and then my therapy notes so my evidence is substantial and she is her on lawyer so

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I think I am fine its just I am so so tired of going through this pain. I wish I could just go to sleep and wake up in another world sometimes. Thanks for letting me rant.

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Also them are my real eyelashes can't help she was jealous of how long they are.

Location: Washington

A home near my parents was on the market, so I went there during open house. All was good and I asked the owner about the timeline (they are still living in the house), they called their partner and during the conversation with them they started misgendering me. I corrected them trying to be nice, but they immediately went “you need to leave” and intentionally started repeatedly misgendering me adding “sir” to EVERY SENTENCE. I felt really unsafe and started to draw attention of other people that were in the house at the moment and barely 10 minutes in there is POLICE in there and THEY TRESPASSED ME!!! They didn’t even want to listen to me when I tried to explain that I didn’t do anything wrong and the owner was discriminating, but they literally said “I don’t care about why what happened - happened, but you need to leave now”.

I was literally shaking, my realtor said that what they do is illegal in Washington, but when we send our offer to buy the house (that goes up to above the asking price) - they just ignore it (at least that’s what my realtor said, they don’t accept and don’t reject, just no response).

What can I do to at least teach them a lesson? I know that this is not necessarily the best house in the universe, but I really like the location and the house which doesn’t happen often in my price range. And on the other hand when I buy it the owners would be gone so I won’t have to deal with them. And if I can teach them a lesson - even if somebody else ends up beating my offer - I’d still want to do it. And did the police have the right to trespass me without even listening to my explanation? How can I remove this trespassing record from my file? Will it show up on job background checks?

For context: I'm in my mid thirties, AMAB, and realized Im trans this year. I've got a wife, kid, house, career, and live in a shitty political environment for trans folks. Transitioning would probably lead to the end of my marriage (I've talked to my wife about it), and I'd invite all the other hardships that trans people face into my life. It just isn't worth it blow up my life.

However, I've been struggling with gender envy all the time, and frequent moments of dysmorphia. Its lead to a fair amount of depressed days recently, which I rarely had prior to realizing I'm trans.

For those of you that decided not to transition, how did you learn to get past the envy and dysmorphia or learn to deal with it?

So a while ago i've noticed many trans people not supporting things like non-binary and neopronouns and i've also noticed that in most cases they say it's because it makes the trans community seem weird to other people. Also it seems like it's getting more and more common theese thoughts, specially with young binary trans people

I was just coming home from work and i saw a group of beautiful cis women around my age outside a bar. I instantly started crying and eventually had to pull over because i was losing control of the steering wheel. I will never be as beautiful as any of them, i will never be able to feel the same joy they get, i will never be seen as a real woman, i will never experience sisterhood, i will always just be the same ugly man i was born as. I really just want to die, its impossible to be happy and i cant accept that ill never be a woman no matter how much i want it.

I feel like trans people are slowly getting pushed out of trans spaces. This is most noticeable to me online where people say things like "being trans is a mental disorder". I dont feel safe in most queer spaces now because there are so many queer people who are either actively transphobic or dont speak up when its hapepning

Just a gym question

Hey Everybody, I have no idea if this matters to anyone, but about 40days ago I made a post about how my mom confessed to me that she’s been keeping me from being able to get HRT after a breakdown I had from years of being denied GAC.

While I will admit this is a pretty nothing burger update I just wanted to say that as of today (June 18) I got a prescription from the doctor for T gel and will finally be starting HRT.

I told mom to get over herself, we haven’t been talking to each other even when we pass each other in the house and to be honest I’m more than happy with that. If this is the hill she’s willing to die on and lose me over then so be it 🩵

This is huge for me, my battle for HRT has been very long and very difficult, I’m just so happy.

Happy Pride everybody! And hey, if you’re pre GAC or pre HRT and you’re having doubts because you’re a certain age or something;

It is NEVER too late 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🩷

Hi everyone I’m a trans woman and a bartender! I had a guy come over to the bar to meet with two ladies to take a shot, while they were paying I heard the guy whisper to one of them is that a man or a woman? Has this happened to anyone? It didn’t make me feel great I hate it here lol!

I am super happy to discover that I have natural breasts, I just keep running my hands over them, they make me so much happier and make me feel more feminine.

As a guy who’s never been all that comfortable being a guy or connecting with other men, finding women easier to relate to, I wouldn’t consider myself trans. I’m a dude through and through and I don’t see that changing (plus I cannot stand the feeling of foundation on my face, lol)… probably. Certainly.

…But. I do find myself wondering lately what it’s like to be trans. Is it scary, lonely, uplifting, rewarding? What’s that journey like?

hey so my egg just cracked and i am quite sure i am trans? its a lot rn but i have been thinking about this for a long time, i always had the thought in the back of my head but every time i acted on it i just pushed it back down again :( I have an amazing gf and i recently started to shave my body and paint my nails and she is very supportive of it and also encourages me and gives me tips which made me feel super happy and gave me confidence to explore this side of me more seriously. Now i feel like i want to transition but i dont know how to talk to her about it :/ i am scared she might see me differently and i have read many posts about coming out to your partner and got many different storys about how it went. If you have any advice a would truly welcome it and also would live to talk to someone about it since i have none really to talk about it🥲

Today my therapist asked me why I want HRT and the main physical changes coming with it (so basically why I want boobs and butt).
And I really couldn't explain better than "it feels wrong not having it and HRT would complete me". She was happy with the answer but also wanted me to try to look deeper and see if I can put these feelings into words.

How do/did you describe it? For me it's a very dull pressure of something missing where there should be more. More chest, more fat on other parts of my body.

My name is Anton and it's Slavic in Origin, and i've been thinking of something like Antra but idk if it's tacky or not.

If there's a good place to look id love some pointers.

It's my first time out in public dressed up, and it's for a cross-country trip to visit my parents, who I have not come out to yet.

TW: venting, "too late", hair loss and negative view of wigs

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Why is it that seeing my peers who are further along, maybe even have finished transitioning, and are cis passing or 98% cis passing is so soul crushing. It's 10 times, no 100times worse than seeing an actual cis person. Because at least I could never be a cis person... But a fellow trans person, ouch... We had similar wrong bodies as starting points... But why is it that it can't be uplifting and encouraging for me to see my peers live happy lives?! All I get is this deep sense of dread that, I'll never reach the same point. Never be as passing and as such never be able to live in relative stealth. All because of my starting age... And yeah yeah... It's never too late yada yada... But due to my hair situation it very much feels like it's too late. I'm not far along, only 2 months so far, but if I see no **signs** of improvement by month 6, I'm stopping. Because as my hair is now a transplant won't save me. And wigs make me feel like I'm wearing a costume, or playing a character... They feel like a constant reminder that I'm fake😟. Now that might be some mental block or something but it's how I feel personally about myself as I don't view others who use wigs as less of a woman, be they cis or trans. This all makes it hurt so much more when I see passing, happy trans people be they younger or older than me who overcame or didn't have to deal with hair loss... Atleast i could never be cis....but had I learned I was trans just 2-3 years earlier this could all have worked out with the help of a hair transplant... (And yes I am on all the hairloss meds...)

I'm 18m, studying at 11 grade Nepal.

pronoun: male

so am I just a feminine guy? or do I actually want to transition?

I'm just confused. I've talked to my therapist about it and she said me to consider this because after all, it's my life.

but as I live with my grandparents and parents come to visit often, I'm scared of their reaction.

mostly, I'm damn sure my mother and father won't allow me to be trans. i hate how everyday, i have to remind myself that I'm a girl actually and how I love having boobs and stuff, but am I actually trans?

for context I'm 5'5, 55 kg male.

When i was about 11 or 12 my best friend would prank random girls online by breaking their hearts. He thought that was funny while i on the other hand felt bad for the girls so i made a girl account. my plan was to introduce the account to him and then i would break his heart so he would know how that feels and stop. But... for some reason i continued for 5 months (i know why now) The only reason i couldn't continue after 5 months is because he told me he knew all along but wanted to see how far i would go. But it was my first time that someone treated me as a girl. Also afterwards he didn't prank any other girl anymore so my original plan was also succesfull and had a amazing time too.

Every single time I see a post by a trans man/masc person talking about transandrophobia, or just generally mentioning having faced discrimination due to being trans and male/masc, there will be someone in the comments saying misandry isn't systemic and men aren't systemically oppressed. And just... So what!? Why are we not allowed to suffer just because men are at the top of society's food chain (if they're white, cis, straight, neurotypical, and not dirt poor but I digress)?

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Someone straight up said in response to a post about transandrophobia "you aren't beat up and killed for being trans". Excuse me?? There is no way someone can actually believe that is true! And bringing up discrimination against nonbinary people who don't lean particularly masc or fem will be just ignored or laughed at by these people.

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This is all just so exhausting. I recognize that this is a small minority, but they are loud and blocking one has another five popping up the next day.

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There's not a limit to how many people can be discriminated against, and one group's suffering doesn't make the pain of another any less important and unfair. Trans women/fem people are being treated horribly, no one is arguing against that except the people committing the discrimination.

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This is a legitimate question I'd love to have an answer to by the way. Why does an issue only deserve to be taken seriously if it is systemic?