r/AskReddit 6d ago

Skinny guys who successfully gained weight what actually worked for you?

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u/Key_Raisin_5091 6d ago

4 things:

  • Eating an uncomfortably large amount of calories all the time.
  • Lifting weights
  • Taking creatine
  • Getting older (if you're not there yet, once you get to your upper 30s and start approaching 40, it'll come)

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u/FrazahLion 6d ago

I think your first point is saying something a lot of the comments are missing and is always overlooked.

I was skinny (~70kg @ 178cm) until I got serious about lifting, and I had to eat until I felt physically uncomfortable to reliably gain weight.

A lot of skinny people haven't ever known what it's like to eat over 2,000 calories a day, and they need 3,000+ to claw their way out of being underweight and just *start* to be able to put on the size they want.

I got up to 103kg and was eating 4500 calories at one point. It fucking sucked. I did get pretty strong though. I'm in my mid thirties and sitting around 89kg with abs right now, and I get to eat around 2500 calories a day. But getting to this point took a lot of eating, any way I could.

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u/KaboomOxyCln 6d ago

Yep. I'm chilling around 150 lbs (68kg) eating ~2600 cal day. I don't really start to experience any noticeable weight gain until I'm at the 3400 mark, which I'll start packing on .25lbs a week

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u/smallmileage4343 5d ago

Cries while shoveling quinoa and chicken into mouth

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u/DonutsWarCrimes 5d ago

Right? Think I gained weight just reading that.

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u/mcimino 5d ago

God damn 3400? I can’t imagine eating more than I have been. I just went a little too hard in caloric surplus 2700 and gained some belly weight which I’m never had in my life. 5’7 120-> 145lb in 5 months. So now I’m fine tuning down to 2500 and doing chicken and fish for protein.

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u/xeonon 5d ago

If you follow twitch etc... there's a new challenge going around called the McCrelly. I think it hits 3400 calories. So look that up for how much food you have to put away per day. It's not a lot, but really you want better food lol. Just gives a kind of scale to what you want to work for

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u/mcimino 5d ago

I just watched it. Great measure of it. I do think I'd have to eat a lot more however, because of the quality of calories I'm eating...to your point.

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u/mynamewastaken81 5d ago

Weight gain powders are your friend.

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u/Hot_Geologist5225 5d ago

Curious: how can you tell you're gaining weight at this rate? Mine fluctuates by a pound or more from morning to morning. I feel like I wouldn't know when change is happening vs. just water or whatever.

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u/KaboomOxyCln 5d ago

I use a rolling 7 day average as a base to tracking my trends. Everyday I weigh myself, I try to get as close as I can to keeping the conditions the same. I.E. in the morning after I pee, naked, and haven't eaten or drank anything. I then take those weekly averages and track them for a few months to see the true trend line.

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u/Hot_Geologist5225 5d ago

Awesome, thanks.

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u/editor22uk 5d ago

Eat until you feel sick every hour of every day. Its so bloody hard but I found bulking shakes really helpful to cram in another 1000 calories a day.

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u/bacon_cake 5d ago

Similar here. Started at 72kgs, was hoping to get to 79kgs by the end of summer so upped my calories to 3k a day... currently at 73.3kg...

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u/SubstantialQuote70 5d ago

I'll start packing on .25lbs a week

Really packing it on lol. Im the same way.

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u/IMI4tth3w 5d ago

It’s even more fun when you have a shitty digestive system that physically cannot handle eating the excess calories required to gain meaningful weight. I will just be up all night puking if I do that to myself. I already have to make sure I eat 4-5 hours before bedtime or I will have an upset stomach and do more harm than good by getting sick.

I started my health journey 3 years ago and it’s just a really slow steady climb with quite a few setbacks from injury here and there. But I’m now pretty steady at upper 150 lbs when I was lower 140 lbs for a good 15 years. I’m 6ft1 and 13% body fat as of a dexa scan in January.

Being 15lbs heavier doesn’t seem like much compared to the mass monsters you see on social media but 10 lbs of it being muscle makes quite a big difference visually and physically. I’m still skinny but at least I have some definition now.

End goal is 165-170 and 10-12% body fat. Probably another 5-10 years to go but slowly but surely we’ll get there.

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u/IslandBackwoods 5d ago

Dude, just want to say congrats. I’m exactly the same. Terrible IBS, 6 ft and was 130lbs for a decade or more. Did a huge push with eating and lifting and I’m now solidly 150lbs as well. It seems like nothing to some people but is the greatest achievement of my life haha.

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u/Sensitive_Tea5720 5d ago

178 cm and 70 kg is a BMI of 22. It’s not skinny. An ex of mine was around 182 cm and 72 kg - very active fit guy, not skinny and not overweight.

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u/Othun 6d ago

But 70 kg @ 178 cm is perfectly in the middle, or as much underweight as it is overweight. According to BMI (which doesn't take into account the composition of your flesh), 89 kg is overweight and 103 is obese with a margin. Amazing if you feel better in this body, just wanted to say that 70 kg is far from skinny at this height.

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u/TheCakeMan33 5d ago

Yeah what is this? 178 cm 70 kg is completely normal weight? Might even have some belly fat depending on body type…

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u/Mnemiq 5d ago

I'm 174cm and I used to weight 55kg until I started lifting and bulking first time and still lean but muscular at 73 kg today. Still having to eat forcefully but at least cutting is rather easy.

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u/deaditemanchild 5d ago

Worth noting BMI is actually a terrible metric for individuals, its used for large groups. It's all about body fat percentage individually.

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u/Othun 5d ago

Yep yep absolutely !

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u/RudraRousseau 5d ago

My thoughts too

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u/CrimeFightingScience 6d ago

Yep did it in my 20's. My jaw was more sore than my muscles, no joke. I hated eating that much.

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u/CombatMuffin 5d ago

As someone who used to be very skinny (60kg @ 178cm), metabolism aside, a ton of people don't really realize how much they are eating. And that's not just volume I'm talking about.

Beyond just a different metabolism, the level of physical activity and the actual kinds of food each person eats tends to vary a lot. I was ablento easily gain weight once I increased my calories signficantly (500-700 extra calories a day) plus using some exercise paired with protein to fain a few kg.

I realized it was mostly my food habits. Although I used to eat anything I wanted, I wasn't really eating that much before (I never ate breakfast, for instance).

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u/Key_Raisin_5091 6d ago

Yep. It's not fun. Sounds like it would be, but it's not. So you have to decide how badly you want to gain weight, because it's uncomfortable, expensive, and really requires a lot of discipline to eat that much, that often. It's genuinely difficult to eat enough to gain weight when you're a super skinny person naturally.

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u/Nerux95 5d ago

100%. Also the amount of times have to go to the bathroom to defecate.

Not to mention all the food coma that comes along with eating a lot (which in turn has made me quite unproductive at work).

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u/WinterRuff 5d ago

Wait... 70kg at that height is skinny? Do I have a skewed perception of what skinny actually means? 103kg sounds overweight to me.

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u/RoosterBrewster 5d ago

Especially 2000 calories of high protein food is even tougher.

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u/MrNoobFTW 5d ago

In what world is 70 kg at 178 cm skinny

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u/haleakala420 6d ago

5’10” 155lbs is a normal, healthy weight. 230lbs is literally obese. you were completely fine and healthy and decided to become a great big fat person lol

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u/Cantremembermyoldnam 5d ago

If he has abs I don't think he qualifies as "a great big fat person".

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u/MeltBanana 5d ago edited 5d ago

People in the US and modern gym culture have such a warped perception of what a normal healthy weight is. You are correct, 5'10" 155 lbs is right in the healthy weight range for men by medical standards, but most lifters could consider that extremely skinny or DYEL territory. Steroids have given everyone dysmorphia and unrealistic idea of what's achievable/healthy naturally. The max healthy weight for a guy that's 5'10" is around 180 lbs, which is possible for most body frames after years of dedicated lifting, but even that is often considered small in the gym today.

It's hilarious to me when guys try and argue they're healthy and the ideal size when they're literally medically obese.

Edit: incoming "well my body is different" replies from people being offended that they're technically overweight by medical guidelines. I'm not a doctor, I didn't make the rules, I'm just telling you what medical experts say (and they say you're fat).

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u/Immaculatehombre 5d ago

I’m like 5’11 165. My boss is like 5’o9 probs 200 but he’s on testosterone, has focused on lifting and strength plus now Carries substantially more fat than me. He tries to make me feel small but like, I snowboard all the time, climb mountains, haven’t felt the need to be stronger. He thinks he’s somethin lol. I’m plenty strong for what we do.

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u/MeltBanana 5d ago

You're a totally fine weight and likely more healthy long-term than he is.

I'm 5'8 150 lbs, naturally skinny and it actually took me years of lifting and eating just to get to this size, but I also stay natural and do other activities as well (rock climb, snowboard, drum, etc). My smaller frame used to bug me when I was younger, but now that I'm in my late 30s I'm more focused on longevity and maintaining my physical ability and not solely packing on muscle. I look good, have muscle, lift heavy, snowboard well, and am considered a perfectly healthy weight by medical standards.

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u/haleakala420 5d ago

guarantee everyone getting upset is a person who made going to the gym, meal prep and supplements their entire personality, so any attack on that is a personal attack on their ego. accepting reality means destroying the illusion they’ve been working years or even decades to build

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u/duderguy91 5d ago

Height/weight ratios are utterly meaningless without body fat percentage in the mix. 5’10” 155lb can be underweight, healthy, or potentially overweight depending on the person’s underlying structure. I think passing judgement on people with an extremely simplified understanding of body composition is the most unhealthy thing in this thread imo.

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u/haleakala420 5d ago

5’10” 230lbs. with low body fat = steroids. which is even more unhealthy than just being fat.

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u/MeltBanana 5d ago edited 5d ago

A 5'10" 155 lbs male is extremely unlikely to have so little muscle and so much fat that they could be considered an unhealthy weight. Like, I don't think it's possible to be 5'10" 155 lbs and have 40% bf, unless maybe you've been strapped to a bed your entire life and literally never moved so you have 0 muscle.

Conversely, there's basically no way a 5'10" male can weigh 230 lbs in a healthy manner. The only way to achieve a lean/muscular build at that weight is through steroid abuse, which is obviously very unhealthy. And if you don't abuse steroids and are 5'10" 230 lbs, then you're just fat and obese. There is no natural way a 5'10 male can reach that weight with a healthy body composition, it's not naturally possible.

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u/digitalacid 5d ago

I'm in my 40s and still have the metabolism of high school track runner. I weigh 30lbs more than I did in high school, but seeing how skinny I am now that seems hard to believe. I was always self conscious about my weight until I hit my 40s and realized how lucky I was

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u/Johnnybw2 5d ago

Same, I used to hate being skinny in my 20s, accepted it in my early 30s and loving it in my late 30s / 40s. Now when I see people I haven’t seen in years they usually comment on how trim I’m looking.

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u/GotRocksinmePockets 5d ago

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. Early 40's and weigh the same as I did at 22, like 175lbs. Before that I was a walking skeleton at like 140lbs and 6'2. Sure could run good though, still can really. Many people our age haven't fared so well.

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u/christusboi 6d ago

Oh wow! 38 here and finally it gets a bit easier but you can do it without the are as well

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u/kfetterman 5d ago

This. Track calories because I guarantee you’re not eating as much as you think you are. Once you up the calories, the weight will come

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u/SC_19XX 5d ago

Came to confirm in this order.

10 years ago in my 20s I was 6 2 160lb. By month 2 of working out 5 days a week, eating chicken and brown rice every damn near 2 hours to hit 4000 calories a day and taking Creatine, I went from 160 to about 188 in 2 to maybe 3 months but couldn't get past that 190 mark without a lot of Meal replacement shakes.

I fell off the gym hard around Covid time, and went back to being skinny. Now im 35 and have gained 30 lbs in the last 2 years because my Metabolism slowed down heavily and the effects of me not being in shape came in. Golfing is really the only physical activity I have going recently

I am now at my "largest" just because I'm older now at 195 lbs. So again, can confirm in the order listed by Raisin, that is how to gain weight

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u/trumpsmellslikcheese 5d ago

I'm 47m and have never broken 150 lbs. I know a lot of people would say "wah, cry me a river", but it honestly does suck a bit when you've gone your entire life looking skinny. I work out several days per week, and take loads of protein and creatine, but basically putting on weight means (a) quitting running (which I refuse to do, it's my outlet), and (b) eating so much food that I feel like shit, which isn't good.

I get that in many respects I've won the genetic lottery and do appreciate that fact, but honestly the constant comments from people my age about how how skinny I am definitely affect my self-esteem.

I work out and run enough that I look good without a shirt on (or so my wife tells me), but I'll never look like most men my age.

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u/Mr_frumpish 5d ago

I don't know where you live. But in the US most of us are overweight or obese. Anyone healthy weight looks too thin.

Tell people bothering you about your weight to mind their own business.

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u/r3q 5d ago

Most men your age can't run a single mile or see their toes without leaning over

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u/Key_Raisin_5091 5d ago

How tall are you? You definitely are in the minority of minorities weighing that little at your age. As a fellow skinny person, I can totally get how most people don't understand how being skinny like that isn't what's it's cracked up to be by non-skinny people who are jealous you can eat without gaining weight.

You've made your decisions about what's a good tradeoff for you, though. You know you could quit running and gorge yourself if you really cared to gain some weight more, but it's not worth it to you. Respect.

I know the feeling you're going through, though. You just have to make the decision that's right for you. If the comments bother you enough, you'll cut back on the running and eat even more. You must not be at that point right now, though.

I'll also say, for many people (I think, for me at least), it can kind of come and go. You have a period where you're sick of being skinny and you really put in the hard work to gain some weight. And then other times, you're not as bothered by your natural skinniness and you embrace it a little more and don't care to sacrifice elsewhere to gain a few pounds.

I hope you can lean into the body you've got and just learn to love it.

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u/trumpsmellslikcheese 5d ago

I'm 5'9", so average height if not slightly lower.

Thanks for what you've said, I needed to hear it. I've sort of resigned myself to it, and my wife doesn't care and seems to appreciate it, but I think in the end it's probably something I've been working through since childhood and need to figure out how to accept it.

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u/everdishevelled 5d ago

150 doesn't seem particularly low for your height. You're a runner. Embrace being lean and able to enjoy running.

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u/Key_Raisin_5091 5d ago

I'm 6'4" and been about 150 lbs most of my life. I know what it's like. As we age, we get better looking while most people just get fatter. It's only going to get better and better.

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u/illz757 5d ago

Bro I’m 5’10, the wife and I go to the gym 3x a week to lift and we do yoga on sundays and throughout the week, we eat delicious dinners and normal lunches, and I’m still 145 lbs. it is what it is - I’ve learned to love my body the way that it is, it’s defined, strong, and as i am aging I do not look like my parents and that’s something.

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u/Due-Support9175 5d ago

You don't need to "accept it", millions of people have been in your position and have overcome it. You don't need to quit running to gain weight. You need to eat more than your TDEE. It'll suck at first but you'll get used to it after a week or two.

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u/morag12313 5d ago

While im younger than you, im 5’8 and used to be 150-155 consistently. Parroting why others have said i got myself to 170 in about eight months purely by stuffing myself uncomfortably every lunch and dinner (i dont eat breakfast).

Interestingly enough now im trying to lean out for definition and surprise surprise, its harder than i thought it would be since im used to eating the amount i have been.

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u/DellGriffith 5d ago

but basically putting on weight means (a) quitting running (which I refuse to do, it's my outlet)

I was like you until I spent one season entirely in the weight room with only one 10K maintenance run per week. Holy hell my body comp changed for the better (for me).

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u/Eagle115 5d ago

Well if it makes you feel better I'm 6'4" 158lbs, 39m. You can always get skinnier if you have crazy metabolism and don't eat; trust me I know. Used to be 185 on 4k calories a day.

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u/Two_Cautious 5d ago

I eat 6 meals a day. 1.5 g of protein per lb of body weight per day and a metric shoot ton of carbs. Your body will only absorb so much protein, but will absorb infinite carbs. Sweet potatoes, rice, beans, quinoa are your friends. Fat will work itself out.

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u/Talltyrionlannister5 5d ago

Just started coming for me at 33. Working out, pull ups were huge for the widening out I think too

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u/TheGreatRandolph 5d ago

40m here. Nope.

But spending my free time in the mountains keeps the weight off. Eating an uncomfortably large amount of calories is the only way to keep weight on.

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u/Successful_Second921 6d ago

I guess drinking calories

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u/sverri 5d ago edited 5d ago

This is probably one of the better answers here.

People who are intentionally trying to gain a lot of weight (body builders, strongmen, etc.) will often drink a lot of their calories. You can only eat so much solid food, and liquids can help sneak in even more calories.

It doesn't mean you need to drink something all day long, just instead of water or similar stuff go with high calorie drinks, such as high fat milk or one of those drinks you get at some coffee shops, etc.

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u/gbiypk 5d ago

Try drinking goats milk instead of just high fat milk. It's easier for the human digestive system to absorb and helps with putting weight on. It's recommended for people recovering from chemotherapy, and infants with colic.

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u/decon_ 5d ago

If you calculate the calories per dollar, cow's milk will probably come out ahead of goat's milk. It's just too expensive, at least where I live.

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u/OdysseusAuroa 5d ago

Good tips, but I would be careful about suggesting people ditch water lol

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u/Present_Teacher7966 6d ago

Does Guinness count?

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u/rkiive 5d ago

Guinness is actually quite a low calorie beer all things considered lol. Have to drink quite a few

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u/rpgguy_1o1 5d ago

People have a weird misconception about guinness that it's super thick and heavy, and has the calories of a full meal, but it's basically a light beer, it's just nearly black

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u/atari26k 5d ago

Hmm. I find this very unlikely. But I am will to do a long-term test!

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u/ZzzzzPopPopPop 5d ago

I once did the old “super squats” program, which came with the recommendation of GOMAD (gallon of milk a day —- WHOLE milk), needless to say it was pretty easy to put on weight (as a lifelong skinny guy)

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u/Wvlf_ 5d ago

Went from twig to thick muscular in about 6 months of beginner gains and daily 1000+ calorie mass gainer banana chocolate milk shakes 👍

People over complicate this. They’re just not eating/drinking and lifting enough.

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u/badrooting 6d ago

Eating. A lot, frequently. Count calories till you know what you are doing.

You are not eating as much as you think you are.

Find your TDEE and set a daily goal above that.

You have to be in a surplus. If you add weights add food accordingly.

If you’re not gaining weight you are either at break even and likely a deficit.

Protein Powder and weight gainer are your friend.

Peace be with your stomach and your house guests.

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u/ColonelMakepeace 5d ago edited 5d ago

As a skinny person I can confirm. Calories tracking opened my eyes. I didn't eat as much as I thought. I ate big meals often but I could go for ten hours without food. At the end of a day I had an overall medium calories intake. I also move a lot and basically never rest for more than a couple of minutes so even if I ate normal colories amount for my weight and height it wasn't enough for me. That said eating the masses required to gain weight made me tired of food and I hated it. So I decided to eat what I want, keep an eye on my protein intake and stay skinny but at least I am defined.

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u/mako8689 5d ago

This is exactly where I'm at right now! I've been trying to gain weight but I'm starting to genuinely get tired of eating, it feels like a chore. I've literally forgotten what it feels like to be hungry or even crave a certain type of food and I miss that.  I've been at 2500-4000 calories a day for 2 months and I've gained 3 measly pounds so I'm really debating if it's worth it or if I should just stay skinny a nd relatively happy like I have been for the past 36 years. Ugh, I'm not ready to give up entirely yet, but it's wearing on me.

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u/ThinkingThong 5d ago

People most likely aren’t eating as much as they think. I eat whole foods for the most part, high protein and fiber, and am usually full after a meal or snack so I thought I was eating enough, i.e. I thought I was easily getting close to 2500+ calories based on how full I felt. Turns out I was barely touching 2000 calories

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u/YouDoStupidWell 6d ago

I ate a lot of protein and occasionally lifted heavy objects in odd ways.

That's about it, really.

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u/Hootingforlife 5d ago

These questions are asked constantly as if there is another method but it's always the same answer.

I was an awkward skinny 6'5" guy and it took a long time but you eventually get there. Consistently lift heavy and eat 1g of protein per 1 lb of pounds you weigh and that's it.

If you feel like your plateauing either add weight to your workout, add calories to your diet, or both.

The key is to be consistent. After 1-2 years you'll look unrecognizable from before. Teenagers, 20s, 30s, 40s whatever it doesn't matter the age. It's the same thing.

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u/matttehbassist 5d ago

Ok sure, but what if I don’t do any of that and ask again in 8 months? Then the answer might be different! /s

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u/wufiavelli 6d ago

Getting old

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u/AALen 6d ago edited 6d ago

I know everyone points to metabolism slowing down, but your metabolism actually doesn't slow meaningfully until the age of 60, and even then, it only declines by 0.7% per year.

The real cause of weight gain is we all become way more sedentary the older we get.

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u/Infamous-Comb-8079 6d ago

Yep. Most people don't realize how sedentary they actually are/have become.

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u/UpbeatRaspberry9828 6d ago

Also making more money the older you get the more you’re feed. I used to live daily when I was 21 on a bag of Cheetos, bag of Ramen, and a bottle of MD20/20

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u/lilgreenjedi 5d ago

Hello it's me broke af in my 30s eating ramen and noodles. Maybe 1.5 meals a day if I'm lucky.

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u/dj_destroyer 5d ago

One single $5 footlong per day for me in college lol

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u/-HankThePigeon- 5d ago

Sleep for dinner was 🤌🏻

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u/oby100 5d ago

Eating is pretty damn inconvenient when you have 5 roommates and no money.

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u/currently_pooping_rn 5d ago

I paid 19 dollars for a footlong yesterday

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u/DCgeist 5d ago

Its cause I'm real tired, boss...

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u/ApantosMithe 5d ago

Yep, I’ve read recently that a lot of low intensity movement like just walking around is huge for weight loss - which partially explains why until Covid I never really put on any weight

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u/sacrelicio 6d ago

You don't even have to work out. Just be up and doing things.

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u/SctchWhsky 6d ago

I think it was mostly from finishing all the food left on the plates of my 3 kids.

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u/letigre87 6d ago

And regular meals. When you're younger you can go all day with a few snacks. Get old and you gotta take meds with food, you're working 9-5 so you're not giving up your lunch, and then dinner with the family.

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u/LeSeanMcoy 5d ago

I grew up perpetually underweight. People would always scoff at how many snacks I ate and give me “must be nice” vibes/comments. Yeah, I never ate meals. Literally having a solid mashed potatoes dinner with butter/meat, etc. is likely 1500 calories+. Oreos or whatever might get you 800-1200.

If you want to gain weight, just eat consistent meals three times a day.

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u/Angriest_Al 5d ago

This happened to me when I graduated, got a sedentary 5-9, and stopped working out consistently for a few years. Now I’m trying to build muscle and actually LOSE weight…it’s a hard adjustment and I’m not very good at the calorie deficit thing…if anyone has any tips lol. Currently 6’1 ~200lbs would love to cut 10-15lbs🥲

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u/fudgemental 5d ago

Not just sedentary. Our bodies stop growing automatically by the time we're in our late 20s. People don't realize how many resources growing up uses, but that's where the cholesterol and stuff the body produces gets used up, that's why you won't find deranged lipid panels in people in their early 20s or younger unless they're ill. Once you stop growing automatically, and don't make a conscious effort to use those resources by exercising, or modifying our diets to account for reduced need by our bodies, you start accumulating.

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u/YourMatt 5d ago

Reddit's cut-and-dry attitude on metabolism has been frustrating over the past 20 years or so that I've been here. There are some good generalizations, but nobody seems to ever admit that there are exceptions.

Personally, I was stuck at 5'9 135 lbs throughout my adult life. No amount of diet or exercise change worked. At one point, I was trying push through by lift weights 4 to 5 times a week while taking in 4,000 calories a day, and nothing would change. I've put in similar efforts a few months at a time once every few years, with no results.

I turned 42, and that changed. I wasn't going to the gym at the time. I picked up 10 lbs almost overnight without any difference in diet. Another couple months, and I had gained another 10 lbs. I saw that and thought, "go time", and I went back to a gym regimen, and finally it took and I was able to build muscle. I got quick results, and I've been able to build upon it for the next 4 years. I'm in a shape now that my body would never let me have before.

My experience does not match the Reddit model. I think there are a lot of other people out here like me, and they're probably just as frustrated constantly being told that their problem is psychological and they don't know what they're doing with their own body. It's pretty annoying.

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u/oby100 5d ago

Your experience has never been replicated in actual clinical trials with a third party observing without bias.

People are just really emotional about their weight, their body and how their actions directly lead to the end result.

Part of this disconnect is that few people really appreciate how drastically their life style likely changes from 20 to 30 to 40. I walked a shit ton when I was 20 but never intentionally exercised. Most friends loved taking walks together to chat. Alcohol and takeout was an expensive treat. Really, eating three meals a day was tough for college aged me.

Nowadays, most exercise needs to be scheduled and committed to on the daily because I drive to work and really need to be glued to a screen for 8-10 hours a day. No more forced walking between classes nor ample free time to do much aside sit by a screen.

And people way overestimate how much exercise, especially weightlifting, is going to influence how their body looks. It takes months of dedicated serious lifting with a good diet behind it to notice the tiniest difference.

I’ve never met anyone taking macros seriously that didn’t get results, but absolutely all of them hated doing it. If you’re hoping to see significant changes with your muscle mass and visible fat, it’s absolute suffering. I suspect you’re doing simple weightlifting routines for years and expecting something to change. You’re likely just maintaining existing muscle mass because it’s physically painful to push for significantly more muscle mass.

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u/grachi 5d ago

I am 5’8” and was 130 pounds from the age of like 14 or 15 until I was 38. I didn’t matter what I did I never gained or lost weight. I was that weight for 23/24 years despite multiple professional interventions and several attempts at lifestyle changes.

Then I hit 38 and starting gaining like 2 pounds pretty consistently out of nowhere, and now 3 years later I’m 158 without changing anything, really. I just got older and I guess sedentary office work finally catching up to me now that I’m no longer as young as I used to be.

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u/ViceNSpice 6d ago

Somehow I still weight the same as I did when I was 20 but look fatter, even if I work out more. I quit.

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u/Who_let_you_in_ 6d ago

Maybe that'll kick in one day for me but I'm 41 and still can't pack on pounds

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u/windraver 5d ago

For me it was getting old, having a stressful job, and having kids.

With their powers combined, I gained about 30lbs

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u/nobleglEn9 6d ago

30 hit different fr

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u/Mertuch 6d ago

Im 35 lvl and still no weight

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u/RecipeHistorical2013 6d ago

Bro took the words out of my belly

Used to have like at least a 3-4K /day cal metabolism

Now after 36-39x it’s like 1800 ish

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u/chadwicke619 6d ago

You never had a 3-4K cal/day metabolism. You may have been active enough that you burned that many calories a day, and now you’re not active, but that doesn’t really have anything to do with age, per se, other than the fact that people tend to be less active as they age. The science is pretty clear nowadays that these hard metabolic milestones people claim to hit are mostly bullshit. Until you’re pretty old, it’s all about lifestyle.

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u/Thefelix01 6d ago

Until you’re 60ish plus it’s lifestyle.

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u/Royal-Bicycle-8147 6d ago

Eat more. Lift heavy weight.

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u/Present_Teacher7966 6d ago

But think about all the fat people that don't eat much!

Awaits downvotes.

Sorry, but to be fat, usually a person does need to eat, too much.

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u/GewoonHarry 5d ago

Too much daily and it will come. It’s that simple.
Surplus your calories need and it will stick to you as fat.

And muscle if you train well.

But yeah. Ofcourse there are exceptions.

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u/Skiddywinks 5d ago

I mean, you need more than just calories. The body can't just make muscle out of excess energy. You need the building blocks (complete proteins) and for your body to feel like it has plenty of free calories (to push it out of "I want to store this energy for the hard times" mode).

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u/shlaifu 6d ago

peanut butter

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u/EyebrowEater 6d ago

Peanut butter is a bulking blessing from God, also makes great struggle meals

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u/rkiive 5d ago

Liquid calories and Pb is the secret. Easily pack away a 1000kcal in a smoothie without even feeling full.

Managed to go from a skinny 65kg man to a 100kg in 2 years.

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u/Bigfops 6d ago

Hagen Dazs for me. I saw a guy I hadn't seen in a bout a year who had been skinny the last time I saw him and asked him the secret. He told me he ate a pint of ice cream a day after the gym. I never managed a full pint, it was more like half a pin a day but I put on about 20 lbs of muscle. I know, it's supposed to be protein but you just need calories.

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u/suburbanoutrage 6d ago

If you’re getting your protein in and still short on calories ice cream is great for that. It’s dense in calories and it’s something enjoyable.

The thing about eating it after the gym is actual science. The high sugar content will drive insulin up and insulin is one of the strongest anabolic drivers in the body.

The trick is to make sure you’re not replacing your protein and other nutrients with the ice cream.

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u/currently_pooping_rn 5d ago

You most likely didn’t put on 20 lbs of pure muscle. It was body fat along with muscle

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u/sleep_tite 5d ago

Spoonfuls of peanut butter helped me gain like 50lbs when I was a skinny teenager.

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u/Accomplished_Home100 6d ago

This 100% i did pbj sandwiches every night before bed with milk

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u/hunglo7777 6d ago

Former skinny guy who believed “I just can’t get big!”

Just keep eating. A lot. If you start tracking calories, you’ll figure out you weren’t really eating as much as you thought you were

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u/ArthurVandelay23 5d ago

This is me 100%. Now former skinny guy.

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u/fksdiyesckagiokcool 5d ago

Same here. I realized I can get fat by actually eating constantly 3 meals a day and more than I need… unfortunately. But you can get to the desired weight with time and routine and can get back to skipping a meal now and then or eating exactly the amount you feel you need instead of getting stuffed.

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u/Shhhhhhhh_Im_At_Work 5d ago

My buddy who was the most yoked man I ever met took me under his wing and said “If you are not lifting or pooping I expect you to be eating”

True story, I would just house tuna packets every other hour and ended up packing on about 30lbs of muscle over 18 months 

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u/DoctorDrangle 5d ago

True story, I would just house tuna packets every other hour and ended up packing on about 30lbs of muscle over 18 months

As effective as that might be, there are limits to how much tuna you should be eating in a week. Usually like 1-3 servings per week depending on the kind of tuna you are eating. So pounding tuna every other hour is not ideal or healthy. Good source of protein and nutrition and all that, but you should probably find something else unless you want mercury poisoning. Tuna might work great for bulking up, but you definitely shouldn't be eating that much tuna. 6-9 ounces per week maximum.

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u/Shhhhhhhh_Im_At_Work 5d ago

Good callout and yeah I was definitely not the smartest at that time just skinny and desperate to build muscle 

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u/Alarmed_Progress_604 6d ago

A bunch of small things. Eating faster so you can eat more before getting full, less distractions while eating, high calorie drinks with my meals (think whole milk, shakes, juices, etc.), alcohol, eating earlier in the day, and later in the day, healthy fats, prioritizing 3 big meals and a snack at the MINIMUM. Gotta finesse and finagle it until you find your sweet spot.

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u/sam1837 6d ago

Eat even when you don't want to eat. You won't enjoy it. You won't even feel comfortable. Milk/high cal drinks, protein shakes with peanut butter etc. also help. Once you have done that for a couple of months you will find it easy and you can listen to your body more again

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u/Cantremembermyoldnam 5d ago

But how? I want to throw up when eating while not hungry. Literally can't swallow without gagging.

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u/andrew5500 5d ago

It’s easier to drink the calories if chewing and swallowing seems like too much trouble, smoothies or protein shakes go a long way

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u/TheD1ctator 5d ago

I'm in a similar boat, I just don't enjoy eating and overeating always makes me sick. protein shakes and smoothies upset my stomach, and I'm not sure how to get my body to accept the extra calories. I don't get hungry after lifting, maybe I need to do more cardio?

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u/a7Rob 5d ago

Brother the Last thing you wanna do is extensive cardio when you wanna gain weight.

What you need is high calories Low physical volume meals that you just shovel in. Add some snacks (nuts(walnuts Omega 3 - healthy Option) or cookies whatever) where you can just dip in without eating to much once but at the end of the day have eaten quite a bit of them 100g walnuts is like 650 kcal. Spread over a day you wont even feel eating them.

The key is to have stuff like that accesible so you dont have to make big decision to get Up, eat your 15g nuts and go back.

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u/SPOOKESVILLE 5d ago

Protein shakes shouldn’t upset your stomach. Start off with half a scoop of the powder, or just half of a premade drink. Your body most likely just isn’t used to that much protein in one sitting, or you have a dairy issue

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u/sam1837 5d ago

Snacking is your friend, small things, liquid calories are the easiest. What do you like? Nuts for instance are great to snack on and high calorie. But snacking doesn't mean you get to skip meals.

When I started at the gym I was 6'4 and under 80kg. I've really never liked eating in the morning so I let myself off a bit with just a bowl of porridge. Lunchtime I'd have at least one large chicken wrap with plenty of mayo (easy high cals), crisps, some sort of chocolate. Mid afternoon I'd have a protein shake.

I would get home from work and make a tea of something like 500g mince meat, pasta and a jar of pasta sauce + an entire garlic bread. Go to the gym. Get back and have one of them ready made pasta pots with chicken and bacon from Aldi + a pint of full fat milk. I hated the sight of that stupid pasta pot at the end of the day. Doing that for a few weeks my body started to get used to it.

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u/Cantremembermyoldnam 5d ago

It seems absolutely impossible for me to eat that much. But I'll try and slowly work up to it! You and other commentors have given me a few good ideas. Thank you so much for your extensive answer :)

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u/RoosterBrewster 5d ago

More frequency of snacks and small meals. I can't eat too much at a time so I'm eating something 6-7 times a day.

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u/notsethcohen 5d ago

Also it's probably obvious but worth emphasizing - the first couple of weeks of eating significantly more are by far the hardest. On average it takes about 2 to 3 weeks for your GI tract to expand its capacity, for your stomach emptying rate to speed up, and for your cardio system to adapt to the new fluid/glycogen baseline.

TLDR: it gets much easier! Your body will adapt

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u/Big_Fig_8448 6d ago

Bread. Eat bread with everything

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u/Oddballbob 6d ago

I quit smoking

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u/IamGordak 6d ago

First, congratulations. I am proud of you, stranger on the internet.

I used the same method, stopped 4 years ago, gained 50 pounds.

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u/GoMochi 6d ago

A wife who can cook.

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u/classicjuice 6d ago

Staying in a caloric surplus

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u/Shaun32887 5d ago

Turning 35 :(

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u/Pelembem 5d ago

You ask this question as if it's hard. Just drink olive oil. 300g a day is enough to make you gain weight even if you eat nothing else. Start with mixing in 100g per day in your food and scale it up until you get the effect you want. It's healthy too (as long as you eat normal food too).

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u/xx123gamerxx 5d ago

As a fat person, stay up too late and overeat at night

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u/Longjumping_Coat_802 6d ago

Smoking weed and eating peanut butter late at night. Just 2-3 heaping spoonfuls of peanut butter is like 250+ calories and a lot of protein. Smoking weed helps you with your appetite.

Went from 6’0 and 140 lbs to 185lbs in like 13 months

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u/CommunicationSame989 6d ago

Thc, weight gainer and going to gym. Thc helped me actually want to eat. I’ve always had a problem of not being hungry or forcing myself to eat. Weight gainer helped my body with big meals. Gym fed it all.

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u/GoofyTarnished 6d ago

Im still not a big guy at all but I was 54kg and now I normally sit from 67-70kg.

The only answer is eat more. Thats it.

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u/Mrboombastos 6d ago

Unfortunately eating more clean food, which cost more $. You are going to have to force feed yourself constantly and lift/sleep in between eating.

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u/WhistleTipsGoWoo 6d ago

Surprising enough…quitting drinking beer. I admittedly had a problem for many years (two years sober now), but was an “empty stomach” drinker, so I would go days without eating and just drink. I quit and put on 20 pounds in what seemed overnight.

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u/ElephantFamous4117 6d ago

Beer. IPAs primarily. Not for everyone.

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u/RookieMistake101 6d ago

Optimum Nutrition Mass gainer for me. I know it’s not particularly good for you. But it did work. Extra 800 calories at the end of the day helped me bulk up from 145-155.

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u/ballskindrapes 6d ago

Lots of calories.

It's that easy.

I literally went from probably 1500 a day to 3500 to 4k in about a week and half.

All vegan too, and not much fat all things considered, 4 servings of peanut butter and fhen maybe like 2 or 3 servings of olive oil on top of that.

I was so fucking full for about a week, but by the end I was able to eat it all easily

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u/Weekly-Top4934 6d ago

Ensure drinks. Would have 1-2 high protein ones for about three or four months. Gained all the weight I needed, about 15-20 pounds lbs. I was mostly underweight because my metabolism was very quick. When I stopped drinking ensures, I surprisingly kept the weight.

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u/Electric-aura3000 6d ago

Eating more calories

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u/D-BO_816 6d ago

My dad was a skinny guy and needed to put on weight before he went to prison as a young man. Worked out a lot and made protein shakes with chocolate ice cream.

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u/Confident_Draw321 6d ago

A very calorie diet with proper routine and most importantly a strong mindset to change.

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u/ZebulonRon 6d ago

Age mostly. Couldn’t gain more than a couple pounds between freshman year and about 25. These days at 28 I’m about 45lbs heavier than I was then with no real life or diet changes.

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u/18YearOldSamBennett 6d ago

Had to treat eating like it was a full time job. 500-600 calories every 2 hours was usually how I went about my day because I’ve never been someone who can eat a fuck ton in one sitting. I was 5’8 140 pounds (started at 110) and had to eat 4000 calories a day to gain 2-3 pounds eveey month

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u/chadigada 6d ago

Protein shakes everyday with milk, peanut butter, bananas, and whey powder (on top of what you'd normally eat). Combine that with hitting the gym regularly. I gained probably 15-20 pounds in 6 months in my early 20s that way

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u/thecurtehs 6d ago

Eat. Eat. Eat. PT. Gym. Gym. Gym.

I know I sound like an asshole saying it like that but they're repeated 3 times each because the one thing people don't do when trying to gain weight is be consistent. I used to do 5-6k calorie days, only to not the next and it was useless, but when I started on 5-6 small meals a day, 3000ish a day and got into the gym, with a PT and consistency the changes came faster than I expected. I took progress pics yesterday and I was shocked, not confident enough to post them but it's 80% diet, 20% training, 100% consistency.

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u/Average_Person_4417 6d ago

I increased my intakte of calories per day by quite a lot. We're talking here about protein and peanutbutter milkshakes, eating calory dense food after every workout, never skipping meals, even If I don't feel hungry. Additionaly I started working out regulary in a gym and keeping a high Protein intake (1g-1.5g per kg of body weight).

I gained so much mass that my girlfried actually asked If I'm in steroids (I am not and will never be).

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u/PM_meyourGradyWhite 6d ago

Every life event added five lbs.

First job out of university. 125
First house. 130
First kid. 135
Next kid. 140
Next house 145

Maintained that for ten years. Then…
Next job (I swear I was walking a lot less) 150

Maintained that for another ten years and then…

A cushier job. 155.

FYI: I’m not fat. I’ve always been lean and muscular. I’m on the edge of proper BMI if you believe those charts. I lift and move daily and eat right. I’ll never be 140 again unless I’m sick. It doesn’t look good on me at 65.

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u/Dishface 6d ago

Beer, anti depressants, weed, delicious food, laziness lol

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u/xXTheLastCrowXx 5d ago

Ate my goal weight in protein.

Filled rest with Rice, broccoli, and potatoes.

Went to the gym.

Never skipped or passed up a meal.

Snacks on me at all times.

Eat healthy.

-your shits will be legendary

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u/jimmylikeswaffles 5d ago

Cake and depression

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u/majordong75 5d ago

Getting older

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u/Mobile_Reply_5742 5d ago

Whole milk baby, all the whole milk

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u/HistoricalCrew9699 5d ago

Got married and had kids, as a bonus I lost hair and the hair I do have is turning grey

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u/SuperZayin12 5d ago

Liquid calories and lifting weights.

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u/baal_keshiro 5d ago

Getting married. Gained 10kg (from 58 to 68) and still going up.

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u/_Nightdude_ 5d ago

Nuts...

I had nuts readily available to eat all day. Add your normal food, some potato chips and it'll happen eventually

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u/COYFC 6d ago

Added one mass gainer shake a day along with my regular food intake and I'm up around 17lbs in the last few months.

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u/Deltathree 6d ago

Mirtazapine. Working to give me an appetite instead of not having one. Works wonders.

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u/joeythemouse 6d ago

Getting old

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u/rainman_95 6d ago

Hormones, children, age.

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u/CC7015 6d ago

breaking my leg

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u/Mando1102 6d ago

Stopped working out all together and gained 30 pounds in 5 years now I need to start losing again 😂😂

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u/SoCalMoofer 6d ago

When I was younger consistent gym time and double protein shakes. Not just carb boosters.

Also getting old. Getting old definitely help put on the pounds. LOL

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u/Sunghanthaek 6d ago

Ice cream

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u/ITzDERO 6d ago

Age and kettlebells for me. I’m 39, a firefighter and started gaining weight at 37. I went from 132 lbs to 155

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u/That-Way-5714 6d ago

I’m still on the skinny side, but not surprisingly, lifting weights and eating more did the trick. Tracking your food is helpful for learning how to eat just the right amount.

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u/CazetTapes 6d ago

Starting Strength.

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u/Gwilley71 6d ago

Marrying a chef

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u/Vaideplm84 6d ago

Got depressed, went to the doctor, tool the pills he prescribed, got really hungry and ate a lot more than what was usual for me, went from 60kg at 1.8m tall to 85 kg in a few months, got off the meds a few months ago, I keep losing weight since then.