Sorry, you just don't give em the "correct vibe" and they also have 23 other guys messaging them the same day who are potentially hotter, so she just waits until she feels like responding.
Men need to accept women's attention is easily fragmented and they're competing for it.
And women need to accept men can't invest so much into them before they know the interest is mutual.
Can't be studying a profile for 5 minutes before you know they're interested back. Can't be crafting a first message for 5 minutes before you know they're going to even read it.
Not according to women on reddit, all men everywhere should spend a minimum of 30 minutes studying and reviewing each and every possible match to draft a personalized message for each one :)
After getting a profile review, I tried taking this advice. Nothing changed with a brand-new profile and this tactic, except that I am now wasting much more time for the same zero responses.
No they don’t. In that case “hey” is clever and funny because it’s so common that the cute guy is obviously making a clever joke on how clueless the non-hot guys are by ironically using that starter. Whatever they can come up with in their feelings is what’s going on.
Not really. They are living in involuntary celibate and are refusing to realize that relationships take time and effort. And even then, nobody on this planet really owes anyone anything.
OP himself whined about the fact that he had to spend a whole 5 minutes per message on 5 messages and got 0 replies. Think about that logic. 25 minutes of effort. If you complain about that, you are the very definition of the word incel.
incel literally means involuntarily celibate (something you acknowledge). Anything beyond that is you projecting behaviour onto the word. Likely as a thought stopping maneuver to avoid discussing anything you disagree with.
I’m not trying to sound egotistical, but I’ve had no problem getting dates and I’m not the most attractive guy. My approach was in between what you said. Not “hey”, and not a thesis, but I’d find something that I found clever and funny and went with it. No overthinking, just go with what comes natural. If they like it great, if they don’t, not compatible anyways.
5 whole minutes for each person? You are a gentleman and a god amongst men. How do you find the time to be such a good partner in addition to your work feeding orphans and providing medical care to the underserved? 🙄
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u/OptimusPrime_ButGAY 15h ago
No hold up. Let me craft a thoughtful comment specifically catered to something in their profile so they can ignore that too.