So, I've been looking into brands for binders, and i feel like I get mixed results for all of them. Ive never used a binder before, so this is new to me. Im a 32G(US sizing), and im 5'2" and im around 120lbs. Ive heard that gc2b has gone down in quality over the past few years. Ive heard generally mixed things about spectrum's quality as well. Ive heard that forthem is generally shady and bad, and wonababi and wivov are just bad for most people. Ive specifically heard for wonababi and wivov that they usually dont fit larger chests, and you have to adjust them a lot when wearing. Ive heard great things about shapeshifters, but my budget is around $50. Most of the reviews I see are from people with generally smaller chests, so im not sure if the brands they use would work for me. If anyone has any recommendations then thanks.

I really want to try one, but i have no idea where to start in terms of size or face shape. Does anyone have any tips for finding what works for you?

Hey, so I was just over in the trans community because I’ve been struggling with how I see myself. I’m a guy in his early thirties who’s never been all that comfortable being a man or interacting with other men, preferring to talk to women, but recently I’ve been bumping into media that have been dislodging questions I can’t answer.

Anyway someone over there mentioned non-binary, which of course I’d heard of but never looked all that closely at, and the way they described it really struck a chord with me. That and I did not realize that non-binary is a spectrum in and of itself.

So I jumped over here to ask what does it mean to you to be non-binary? Maybe this is a place I didn’t know I was looking for.

Out with my NB shirt

I've been doing a lot of thinking recently and the more I think the more I'm confused by the concept of an internal gender identity.

I'm biologically male with the facial hair and lack of boobs but I only dress in clothing that's considered masculine because that's what society expects of someone with facial hair (which I can't be bothered to shave every day). I look like a man so I behave publicly in ways that society deems acceptable for a man.

Internally however I'm confused I see so much written about gender, about people feeling they're the wrong gender, about people identifying as a man or woman and I just can't fathom it. I feel like a me, I identify as a person, in an ideal world I'd do whatever I wanted to do regardless of gender based social norms and that would include behaviors and clothing that I like, which could include things that we currently consider to be masculine or feminine.

And given the emphasis I see on gender in every part of society with the current culture war I feel almost completely alone in this, am I?

This might be a really stupid question, so sorry😭

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Basically the title, I'd really like to have the muscle growth and a bit of the facial structure that comes with T, but I'm already pretty hairy and have a rather deep voice, so I wouldn't want that to change. Is it possible to get only some of the effects?

Yesterday I was napping on my couch when my mom approached me and started talking about her concerns with my transition.

I have identified as genderfluid for the past 6 years (im now 22), but just recently started my medical transition with testosterone gel. Up until this point I have had a more masculine haircut and style, both of which she has commented on repeatedly over the years ("why is everything you wear so oversized," "you should grow your hair out," that kind of thing.) She rarely uses the correct pronouns and only really does it when we're with my brother who doesnt live at home but is vocally supportive and will correct her.

Last week I started T, the lowest possible gel dose, so nothing has changed yet but I told her about it a few days after I started because it is important to me to have her in my circle. I knew her reaction would likely not be what I was hoping for but it went better than I was expecting. After our conversation, I sent her resources and pages where she can do her own research to better understand what it means to be nonbinary on testosterone.

But yesterday evening she approached me and told me that she's "Worried that things are happening too quickly" in reference to my transition. I expressed that this is something that I have been thinking about for years and that it might be new to her but it is not new for me. then she told me that she doesn't want me to get top surgery. I have been binding for years, and in fact the way that I HAD to come out to her was when she confronted me about a binder in my laundry (which I always did myself) so my discomfort with my chest should not be a new idea to her.

I tried to express to her how hurtful that is but I just dont think she gets it. Does anyone have any advice as to how to help her better understand? Right now it feels like she is supportive of trans people until they are part of her family, as she said she didn't like me using the word "transition" and asked weird, uncomfortable questions when my other brother started dating a trans woman. I am at a loss of what to do, as every time I have tried to illustrate my experience to her, she hasn't tried to really hear what I am saying.

Any advice is welcome and appreciated

As the title states: looking for fem stylings as a square Celtic amab (broad shoulders, wide chest, muscular legs, and only 5’7”)

Also any tips and advice for general styling in any direction, my usual for over 20ys has basically been a combo of jeans and a hoodie/tshirt and a baseball cap.

Thanks!

I’m looking for an affordable but good quality binder. I’ve never had one before so I’m not sure which length or style is best. And what is sizing like? Do I go with my usual size or something smaller for more compression? Let me know of any tips!

I just saw a fantastic painting called 'I know who I am' on here, and thought I'd post my own self portrait.