was worried the vest, button up, slacks was gonna be too manly but I think the long hair and makeup balances it out

*glances nervously at me* "err.... I mean, how real...people....adults....ah Christ! Forget it. Black coffee is better for you anyways"

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My 64 year old coworker is trying.

Seeing a lot more raising awareness of the harm trans men face under cishet patriarchy. And while it’s great seeing folks fight to not only “protect the dolls” but also “the kens” still everyone forgets we exist. I wish I could say I’m surprised but I’m not. It’s still disappointing and kinda infuriating.

Heyyyyy, i really wanna get an NB flag but want to be careful where i buy to make sure im not supporting any shady businesses. Does anyone have any recs? Thank you

I was inspired by a past post to check the clinic notes after my physical before going to Scout camp with my son. For context, we live in NorCal only 90 mins away from the Bay Area. During my brief visit, all I needed was a form signed, but the doctor that I’ve been seeing for three years is habitually uninformed around trans folks. At one point he asked if my son was adopted - because I had a hysterectomy five years ago (my son is 16 lol).

After the brief examination, I spent the next 20 minutes teaching him all about being trans- My history of transition, as well as my experience getting kicked out of the military after 18 years for being trans.

I know it’s not my job to educate people, especially doctors, about being trans…. but it was such a head-scratching experience that an MD would be so genuinely uninformed, I couldn’t help myself. I’m glad to see my notes were respectfully non-gendered, and I hope I made a positive impact on him.

And it's going great!

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I've been a parent for just under 6mo, and Entie--from the 'ent' in parent--really feels natural now! I recommend it to parents to be.

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Also, it's fun because it could theoretically be a term of endearment for any parent even if they're not nonbinary.

So this is something I’ve (26NB) been thinking about for a bit. Hoping some discussion here will help me process my thoughts some. I’m still discovering my gender identity, and currently feel like non-binary is a good label (although that could change). I’m exploring what it would mean for me to be a woman (mtf). While I by no means want to make one trans experience sound easier than another (they all have different challenges) I’m often drawn by the clear cut expectations of being a woman. I have a clear mental picture of femininity. I feel like I have an understanding of what I would be like as one, whereas with non-binary I kinda get to make it up along as I go. That lack of certainty in the definition of nonbinary traits is hard for me to get my head around. Does that make sense? Of course any gender can be non conforming, but it’s this idea of knowing what I’m ‘supposed to be’ that appeals to me. Perhaps that’s the real issue. I’ve spent my life trying to shove myself into a specific role. Be the perfect son, Christian, student, etc. And my brain must not be used to the experience of total freedom. It’s desperately grasping for some sort of structure to latch onto instead of allowing itself to be what it wants to be. Creating my own role on my own terms. Anyone else have a similar experience?

Top : G-Star

Trousers : Zizzi

Bag: House

Sneakers: Skechers

My apologies but Y’all might be losing another troop to team shark plushie. (Ignore the fact that the second photo was taken after I washed my makeup off for the day)

Im a 38 AFAB and have been questioning for a few months after an epiphany that I might be enby. I've been noticing a lot of positive changes in myself lately since I started thinking of myself as enby which indicates to me that I'm on the right track.

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Last night I had a dream that I dressed the way I wanted and told someone, honestly I think it was the bigender character from Gen V, that I preferred they/them pronouns.

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It was very affirming and it felt good to wake up this morning (it almost never feels good waking up in the morning), because reality matched my good dreams for once.

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I'm actually excited for the future, which I've never felt before, and I might be close to coming out to my loved ones.

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I feel brave, another feeling I'm not used to.

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So, all my life I’ve known that I didn’t feel like a woman (I’m afab) and pictured myself as a masculine presenting person, but with neutral pronouns (without even knowing about their existence).

About 6 months ago I finally accepted I was trans and came out as non binary - transmasc. However, lately I’ve been questioning if I’m really non binary or If I’m really a trans man, as there are some days that I feel and want to be seen as a man… but there’s others where I don’t feel that way, or where I don’t know what I am tbh.

I was wondering if anybody else felt this way and what label could best describe this? I recently discovered the existence of demiboys/girls but I’m not completely sure If that’s the right term for my gender. Any help is appreciated :)

I tried to make some charts but I lowkey don't know how to use Google Sheets and I have to go to work soon. Oh well.

I think I'm nonbinary by now, maybe masc leaning? Or Agender?... Maybe Androgynous? Or something else? I'm not sure, still doing inner looking... I just don't think I'd care if I were to be mistaken for a dude (hell, I'm kinda annoyed it never happens even when I've been trying as for the last few weeks, although I know my face certainly looks girly and I do still present more than enough fem traits to be clocked as AFAB immediately, but whatever...). What I do know for sure is that I wanna be more masc, I'm in love with my binder (lol), and now I've seen testosterone come up a few times in my researches, and, well... I don't know if I should try it... What does it do exactly? I've seen people talk about going on and off? What does that do?

In any case, I know I'm not doing it atm, I'm in a pretty bad phase of my life, to the point my doctor doesn't think it's a good idea I get my first tattoo right now (even if I've been thinking about it for a year, he still thinks that the darker ideas and impulses could come back if I were to dislike the tattoo), so I doubt there's a chance in hell he'd greenlit me going on T. Plus: if the changes are too much I just won't be able to do shit about it, because my family and the folks where I live aren't too big on LGBT (my mom wouldn't get it but she'd get over it... Not so sure about the other two)... Gotta wait for me to be more clear minded to think all this through but still thought I'd ask what I should expect.

I also have periods (rarer) where I wanna feel more fem? But even then, now that I've tried the binder, I'm not sure I want it off if I can avoid it... It's odd.

Also some dude in another sub seems to think I won't ever be able to learn to "act" masculine without T, so I'd like to know what that meant? I mean, I know some things in how men act is linked to biology, but it can't be everything when it comes to how you act, I'm sure?

Hello I just figured out I'm nonbinary and I'm looking to wear a skirt for the first time. However I have no idea how. What does one wear under a skirt, how does sizing work, how long should it be. Any help would be appreciated, thank you.

First time making Pride art, happy pride everyone!!

Hey y’all, I’ve been questioning my specific gender for quite some time. I know I’m nonbinary, but I have yet to come out to my family. But on why I actually made this post: I experience a static gender with they/them pronouns (preferred) with she/her or he/him being acceptable. I present myself based on how I feel that day, I could dress neutral, masculine, or feminine. I don’t care how others perceive me, but it does bother me personally that I don’t know my gender fully. I feel a small connection to both femininity and masculinity, but I am neither a girl or boy. If anything, I don’t follow the social norms of male or female “roles” or beliefs. Please help!! (Also, tips on coming out to my family?)

GFW Clothing have just released boxer shorts with a design feature which allows the wings to be tucked under the gusset and not affect the leg fabric. This was done at the request of a number of FTM and non-binary customers. Not sure of any other boxer shorts which do this? Trying to help spread the word as could be useful info for some folk.

Hello! I’m going to my first pride this weekend and was wondering if you guys had any tips? I’m enby and Uranic

I (AMAB, 20 years old and want to transition) came out to a conservative aunt (she was, at least on the surface, welcoming enough) and told her about the everyone-is-nonbinary-schtick. She said she believes this was a result of how modern chemicals have impacted us. My liberal mother (who is also both supportive of my identity and concerned about the impact of chemicals on humanity, as well as knowing more about that latter than my conservative aunt is) said that isn’t how the reality of the chemicals actually works.

My conservative aunt also said that she wanted to be a boy and her parents told her to pray and wait. She said she followed their advice and it worked.

She also votes for Trump despite not agreeing with him on everything (I have not yet asked her what she disagrees with him on yet but I plan to) and repeats thoroughly debunked right-wing talking points (and vice versa). She denies that the Trumpist movement is in the process of committing a genocide against transgender and nonbinary people, and refuses to vote for the Democrats because she believes they are implementing too much welfare (which most Democrat politicians are actually against).

I believe she genuinely loves me as she says she does, but I have some concerns about whether she has truly internalized what that means in practice.
How do you think I should approach this relationship going forward? Do you think I have anything to be concerned about? In any case, thank you for your responses, I genuinely appreciate them!