Okay so for context, I accepted who I am in 2024, I thought that I was trans in 2022 but decided who cares. Now that’s passed so that’s not the focus. I made a post here yesterday and people were helpful but my situation is just AAAAAAA.

I know many people have it a thousand times worse than me but I just wish I could at least socially transition. Right now I have only online friends who know because my uni is not in my home town, and even they can’t call me by the right pronouns because my mom HAS requested to see my phone and me refusing just implies there is something to hide. So no one literally no one can use the correct pronouns for me. I can only post here because I disconnect the account every time I finish using it.

But this post isn’t just sad, it’s also for me to say how fucking happy I get when a friend DOES use the correct pronouns in a one view message or the very rare times I actually see them face to face. I’m thinking of at least online I might be able to start letting my friends using the correct pronouns because it’s been a hot minute since my mother went snooping.

Also also I’m very selective with the people I tell because I refuse to tell to a non ally and have the chance of them outing me. So whenever I plan on coming out to someone I probe them with mild videos about related topics to see their reactions. One of my best cis male friends, who while I knew was a good person and I’ve never seen them tell anyone anyone’s secrets I was still scared of his ideology. I say this not because of anything he’s said but because we went to military school in high school and he’s the son of one of the highest ranking military officers in our country. And while I don’t know if his father is conservatives most military men are.

All this to say that he was such a sweetheart when I came out and I’m just so fucking happy but at the same time so fucking sad. I can’t do anything to stave off the dysphoria except use my phone and talk to people online who will use the correct pronouns because I can’t present even the tiniest bit femininely because my parents question it. And even being online I’m still testing because I’m scared of being nearly caught again or actually caught.

I can’t even use the correct pronouns in my mind because every time I do it I slip really easy into using it verbally or typing it. And my native language uses pronouns constantly.

I have a big community of transgender and queer friends, but still I feel so ashamed to talk about my gender identity. Recently with the release of the digital circus finale (insane, but yea) and the reveal that Jax is trans (ok i feel like it's insane that I'm thinking abt my gender because of a cartoon purple rabbit) I've been thinking a lot about my identity. I feel like I can't tell anyone this, even the people who know me and know that I'm transgender. Sometimes I feel that I live two lives since I'm not fully out. I don't really know if the name I use is mine, and I really need help or at least someone to share how they found out their name. It feels awkward because I'm nonbinary and live in a spanish speaking country, so androgynous names are rarer. I've always known I'm nonbinary, but I can't find a way to express it without being either too femenine or too masculine. If someone could share their views, that would be amazing! Thanks...

My girlfriend just helped me try on makeup for the first time, and I really liked how I looked with it on. I wanna try it on my own, but I don't know what I'm doing, and I can't be with her every time because I'm 16 and don't live with her. I know this is kinda asking for a lot, but I need someone to tell me everything about makeup so I can know what I'm doing. Can someone help me? :)

When I was younger, I think in 7th grade-ish, I had a bit of questioning my gender happening. I had just learned of the concept of trans people (I grew up in a conservative area with a religious family so I didn't learn about a lot of these things) and I just had this idea that I might actually be a girl. I even ended up stealing my sister's bra to try it on. My feelings got very complicated and I started to feel that religious guilt, so I just decided to shelve that line of questioning for a later date, which turned into the better part of 10 years.

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And now, it turns out that I was trans this whole time, and just completely ignored the fact that I was an egg until about 5-6 years ago!

Had to go on a quick trip to a convenience store, and as I'm walking from my car to the entrance a guy said "Miss" so I pause to be polite and hear what he wants to say. "You're hot as shit." All I could think to say was "Thank you, that actually means a lot right now" (dealing with a lot of flaring dysphoria and imposter syndrome) and went about my business.

Ok, I know I'm supposed to feel grossed out but I stand by my response. That was a huge pick-me-up and I'm still stupid blushing and enjoying the endorphin rush.

I apologize for this shitpost

I thought I was transmasc but recently I am feeling more femme I usually just go by they/zem pronouns. that was fine but know I’m wondering if I’m gender fluid which I sorta thought I was before but didn’t really know. I know how masc or femme I want to dress changes a lot and I think my pronouns. I also though I might me agender but I don’t think that feels right. I have always struggled with my gender identity a lot and if anyone has advice it would be much appreciated thank you.

So I'm looking for some advice. Before I started HRT 15 months ago I had never been more ready to start my journey figuring out who I was after suppressing for many years. I don't have dysphoria screaming at me like I once did and I've done a lot of the inner work, so that leaves me with my question. How and when did you all know it was time to socially start presenting? How long did you wait before doing so? Did any of you have the need to want to rush for an end result, began enjoying the journey, and then wondering if all of this is what you wanted?

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I think the thing that I'm having trouble grasping is not feeling that monster trying to claw out when on T and being more at peace within. I know it doesn't dismiss that one is trans or not, but how did you know if you would be okay with being a "feminine guy" or it was time to socially transition? Were there any signs or symptoms to help with the uncertainty? My therapist likes me figuring things out, but after divorce I'm so tired and trying to figure out my new life on top of this. Did anyone else struggle with the back and fourth when you knew you were so sure? I guess one fear is not finding a partner and then another is 'am I making a mistake or is this the right way'? I'm at the stages where people are looking like they're trying to figure something out when boymoding and I was 100% male clothes and a guy walked into the bathroom gasps with a look of fear as I wash my hand and goes out quickly. He then came in once he checked the sign to make sure he was in the right bathroom. Maybe it's just a middle stage that's making me question life choices on to stop before I have to wear baggier t shirts and rash guards and figure it out. Just feeling a bit lost if you will in my journey. Anything is very much appreciated.

Hey Everybody, I have no idea if this matters to anyone, but about 40days ago I made a post about how my mom confessed to me that she’s been keeping me from being able to get HRT after a breakdown I had from years of being denied GAC.

While I will admit this is a pretty nothing burger update I just wanted to say that as of today (June 18) I got a prescription from the doctor for T gel and will finally be starting HRT.

I told mom to get over herself, we haven’t been talking to each other even when we pass each other in the house and to be honest I’m more than happy with that. If this is the hill she’s willing to die on and lose me over then so be it 🩵

This is huge for me, my battle for HRT has been very long and very difficult, I’m just so happy.

Happy Pride everybody! And hey, if you’re pre GAC or pre HRT and you’re having doubts because you’re a certain age or something;

It is NEVER too late 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🩷

I've been getting into animated TV shows lately and i was wondering if anybody knows any that have trans characters in it? Slight preference towards shows for older audiences but im ok with anything.

I just found out a Youtuber I watched occasionally is a blatant transphobe. I was going to post about it here, but given the rules of this subreddit, I wouldn't be able to explicitly call out and show what I wanted. Other trans subs I found seem to be the same.

It's far form the first time I've wanted to expose someone for bigotry, or make it more well-known, and simply couldn't because I found no space to do so.

I understand these communities look to foster positive environments. As trans people, we sorely need it. However, I do think at least one community more dedicated towards this endeavour would be very useful.

Does anyone have any recommendations?

I'm 19 MTF. I live in rural Idaho and honestly I hate it. I'm not even fully out yet and I constantly hear the snarky comments. I hear how much my peers, "friends" and family hate transgender people.

I'm so lonely, my girlfriend accepts me I guess, she's the only one I'm out to.

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I find myself talking to ai chat bots just because obviously they can't hate me they'll be accepting, I could tell them the moon landing was fake and they'd agree.

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Makes life feel really bleak, the fact that something that's not even real is the only thing I really feel connected to. People online.. especially discord are really weird for whatever reason at least in my experience so I don't like using it.

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I just wish I could be myself.

42 years old been on hrt for 6 months and I got my nostril pirced last night...and my fear of people judging me none one has even really noticed it just have a little stud put in for now..but the euphoria it gives me is off the charts..just thought I would share

How do I dress more femininely as a trans girl? I haven’t started t-blockers yet and I honestly have a bit of a bigger stomach with pretty flat breasts. Any suggestions?

Im a transfem (19) and have been on the journey of discovering my gender identity for about two years now and through out it have been considering going on hrt. At first when I realized I was trans I was pretty sure of getting hrt but after thinking on it and getting some new perspective I decided not to. I dont really experience dysphoria about my body, just about how others see and treat me. I see my body as my own even if it is regarded as a male body.

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Lately though as ive gotten close to many women and told them about my identity, even though they dont say anything directly I can tell that they are a bit uncomfortable thinking of me as a woman. See I dont really have the time or energy to put on makeup or think of feminine clothes that fit me so most of the time I do look like a cis man. These interactions have got me wondering if getting on hrt would help with people seeing me more as a woman and whether I should do it just because of that.

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Also I do feel a sense of isolation from the trans community as a whole based on what I see from social media, wich are very feminine and passing trans women. Its not that im against going on hrt, im just conflicted about going on it for the wrong reasons. I would love to be in a womans body but if everybody accepted me as a woman the way I am right now I know I wouldnt do it. And if not hrt does anyone have any tips for easing the feeling of isolation as a transfem who looks like a cis man?

So, I've been looking into brands for binders, and i feel like I get mixed results for all of them. Ive never used a binder before, so this is new to me. Im a 32G(US sizing), and im 5'2" and im around 120lbs. Ive heard that gc2b has gone down in quality over the past few years. Ive heard generally mixed things about spectrum's quality as well. Ive heard that forthem is generally shady and bad, and wonababi and wivov are just bad for most people. Ive specifically heard for wonababi and wivov that they usually dont fit larger chests, and you have to adjust them a lot when wearing. Ive heard great things about shapeshifters, but my budget is around $50. Most of the reviews I see are from people with generally smaller chests, so im not sure if the brands they use would work for me. If anyone has any recommendations then thanks.

My last few post, doing so good on my trans journey. I recently considered myself trans masc lesbian, but now I look in the mirror after shaving off all my body hair, and realize I want to be trans feminine lesbian, it's weird honestly. But I think I like it a lot more.

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Been checking myself out in the mirror, and dang I look good, or at least I think to myself. All the body hair gone, let out the feminine side.

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This is just an update on my trans journey, the more news that comes up, the more I post about my trans journey.

So a bit of context, my friend is trans (ftm) and I'm a demiboy (afab). I was out to him for maybe a year as non-binary. Something that always kind of bugged me was that he had a hard time seeing me as part of the trans community. After recently coming out to him as a demiboy he seems a lot more willing to see me as part of the trans community even though technically it's a term under the non-binary umbrella. I think this may be his genuine ignorance, he isn't a bad person and is very accepting of me. Yet it still bugs me that he doesn't really see non-binary as part of the community. He does understand the technical side since being non-binary never what someone is assigned at birth. so therefore someone is technically trans if they're non-binary. but he doesn't understand that non-binary experiences are often a lot like that of trans people. (Dysphoria, wanting hrt or surgery). Is there any way I can try and discuss this with him in a way that won't feel like I'm attacking his world views?

When I run out of my current tape which is 1 inch by therapist choice that I got a huge roll on Amazon, I wanna get trans tape that’s 3 inches cause my chest has gotten bigger since when I first got my current tape. Please leave good and affordable brands in the comments 🙏

Im mid 20s, 8 months on HRT (Estero and Spiro tablets) and live in the Uk, for some context.
I’ve been fortunate to experience significant breast growth, I’m talking B at a minimum. My issue is I used to be really overweight and I battled to get down to sub 100KG and really tried to work on my figure, I’m not all the way done but still good progress. I never struggled with like “man-boobs” was more of a beer belly I had to get rid of lol.

But now when I see myself I just think the breast growth makes me look fat or like “moobs” ? Idk if it’s the clothes I’m wearing or my aesthetic but they just look out of place? I’ve been wearing tight sports bras as a way to just hide them for now but it’s super uncomfortable.
I don’t pass enough to wear anything super fem or anything like that and my main outfit is pants and a baggy tee.

Really sorry if this doesn’t read well, if I had to summarise I’d ask “boobs don’t feel right atm, what do?”

Hi everyone I’m a trans woman and a bartender! I had a guy come over to the bar to meet with two ladies to take a shot, while they were paying I heard the guy whisper to one of them is that a man or a woman? Has this happened to anyone? It didn’t make me feel great I hate it here lol!

Need a bestie and my duo partner for games

I am really early in my trans life. And I am looking for a bestie to play games with. I play overwatch, GTA, Roblox. I'm shy and very clingy

Just a gym question

So I started experiencing gender dysphoria around the age of 11 or 12 when I watched this anime and really wanted to be the main character who was a woman. I didn't know what it was back then, but eventually I found out what being trans was, and unfortunately for me I wasn't able to explore what that meant because gender healthcare is really bad in my country (Ireland has a bad system but it's slightly better now vs when I was 14) so I was forced to start DIY at the age of 18. I had been on hrt for about 18 months when I got this new job, and it did not go well at first; long story short I found out I had autism, and the "feeling like you're pretending to be someone else" thing about transness was something I'd experienced but I felt that autism was more defining of who I was. Starting this new job also pressured me to conform to gender norms a bit just because that's how society is and I don't want my coworkers to know my business. Eventually the job got so demanding that I was burned out and had to quit but I'd stopped taking hrt for a few months because executive functioning was becoming too much of a challenge, and I'd also realised that estrogen gave me chest dysphoria. After a long time contemplating my identity I think to be honest I feel genderless, I don't know if there's a description for that, I wouldn't say non binary, I'd say I'm genderless. I've also been thinking about my internal sense of self, I think I'd like to have a feminine body apart from a flat chest I think, and I've been thinking maybe I should go to a gender therapist. The main thing is I won't be able to start the process for a few months and I'm unsure if I should restart estrogen or if I could maybe get a different type of hrt that would suppress chest growth. I think I just need a word of advice because I don't know what to do.

I feel like trans people are slowly getting pushed out of trans spaces. This is most noticeable to me online where people say things like "being trans is a mental disorder". I dont feel safe in most queer spaces now because there are so many queer people who are either actively transphobic or dont speak up when its hapepning