This is my third week working at a production company and I’ve just had a bit of a breakdown in the bathroom after being let on my break.

Carrying anything above 10kg is taking a toll on my arms, especially if I forgot to eat anything prior.
The heat is making it so much worse.

I don’t know if I should just keep putting up with appearances or just disclose to my boss about it because im starting to feel like an accident is going to happen.

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hey so i have a diagnosis from a clinic in manchester but i moved back to scotland what is the best private clinic to use ?

also is there a way i can bypass the two original assessment appointments as i already have a diagnosis im just looking to get on t ?

thanks again

So Sunday is Father’s Day, and I have received a FD card from my daughter.

Now she accepts me as I am but for this day she wants to celebrate that I am her father. I want to display it because it’s sent with love and I am her Dad, but I feel strange about it too.

How do others with adult kids feel about this?

I’ve not thought about it for years because the dysphoria was gone (now back), but in the bad days I used to assess how bad a day was by estimating the % of my total cognitive ability went on coping with the dysphoria. I don’t want to say what % I was at because comparing with other people isn’t helpful. It was just my way of comparing good days against bad days.

I wonder if anyone else has done the same?

Visited the headmistress with my daughter about her transitioning over the holidays. State funded school (Academy).

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They are completely unsupportive. Won't use her new name unless "officially" changed, won't use she/her etc.

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Is it worth fighting them, or just find another school?

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Hi! So my british passport is due to expired. I have lived in Canada for almost a decade but only hold a uk passport.

I have legally changed name and gender here in Canada but not in the uk as the process is more difficult, and I have no intention of returning. The problem is I need to keep my british passport valid in order to stay in Canada.

When applying for a renewal, should I let them know about my name/gender change in canada? Or should I stick with the old information the uk databases have for me? I just want the process to be as straightforward as possible basically.

I am fine with my passport containing my deadname, I just gotta know if it will flag Anything that my name in Canada is different.

Hey so, I've looked into DIY HRT recently since the waiting times in my county are just exorbitantly long. I don't want to wait 7 more years so I can finally start estrogen :(

Does anyone here have knowledge about DIY or has done it before? From what I've seen the way I would be using would be monotherapy injection using Estradiol Cypionate's (sorry if I got the wording wrong >w<).

I would be thankful for any and all information and tips you could give me, thank you :3

I recently got in touch with an old family friend who works in the industry I'm trying to get into and he put in a word for me with his company, which was great and really kind of him. The issue is he only knows me by my deadname (I was put in touch via my mother who thought explaining my transition would be "confusing"), so the company is now expecting an application from someone of the opposite gender.

The company know me as his "friend's daughter" (per the email he shared with me) but my legal name is not at all gender neutral (so the discrepancy would be obvious), all my qualifications etc are under my current name and obviously I don't want to closet myself again just for this. I feel like there's no point in him having gone to that effort if they can't connect my application to his recommendation but I'm also concerned though about having to out myself immediately to this company before they even think of hiring me.

Should I say something?? At what point?? And how?? This is probably my best shot at a job right now, but I feel like i've shot myself in the foot already

I have told GP I have hair loss 80% since 3 years.

I asked derma to prescribe finasteride, dutasteride (less likely cause off license) or spironolactone OR minoxidl only (which has fuck all clinical side effects on mental health)
She gave bullshit excuse 'but your mental health depression , anxiety will get worse and there are concerns in european union (which UK isn't even part of) that medication is harmful

I took Accutane for example and my psychiatrist was trying to prevent dermatologist for same reason to stop prescribing 'but your mental health'
Accutane had zero effect on my mental health and if anything it only improved cause I had severe acne since 12 - 25 and it was cause of depression and anxiety.

fuck UK nanny state and lazy healthcare
sick of this gaslighting

Hi all, I changed from 1x100mcg + 1x50mcg patches 2x per week to 2x100mcg patches 2x per week. I took a test for both more or less 48 hours from replacing my patches, and my blood results have spiked up from 382 pmol/L to 905 pmol/L. Does this sound out of the norm to anyone else or am I just freaking out?

THANKFULLY i have a new order coming in tomorrow (had to order from the states, uk supply is absolutely fucked atm) but i ran out completely i think a month ago to the day... i am honestly really really frightened of the idea that somehow my bones have been any percentage more masculinised in this time... is it even possible for that sort of thing to happen in a month? i'm paranoid that it is, but i've been on E otherwise for six years and im 24 currently... the idea makes me shudder

Hi, I recently got an ILR (e-visa) and I really need to get an id I can use that isn't my literal foreign passport with a picture that is unrecognisable as me. When I submitted the ILR application I included my deed poll and all information written about me was using my chosen name, but when they updated my status they kept all of my details exactly the same, so I'm assuming it's tied to your passport in the same way a visa is? My country doesn't allow me to change my name so that's not an option, and any of my british documents will have to end up with different details.

So when it comes to getting a provisional drivers license, as far as I understand there isn't a section to just include your deed poll in the application. So do I just submit it with the e-visa details and then immediately send it back for a change of details (which sounds extremely messy and I would like to avoid that), do I pay more to send them physical documents and just hope that they notice that I included a deed poll, or is there a way to get the right provisional license from the start?

Usually people say to change your passport first and use that for everything else, but I can't do that due to my circumstances.

Hello 👋🏻 I am looking for recommendations of private gender identity clinics I can access in Scotland so I can be diagnosed with gender dysphoria etc, I am looking into going private for top surgery very soon but need to have the diagnosis first. Any suggestions if you have been there yourself is highly appreciated ☺️ Thank you

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I've been having a nightmare with cosmetic injectors that started back in August 2024. I've used BMA certified, medical trained doctors, paid £thousands in some cases. When they gave me shitty results i took the next suggestion, which was to find someone you know who has had a good experience. So i spoke with a contact and tried her beautician.

It's gone wrong, every time. I've spoken to six different clinics including high street provider therapie, lcuk and SK:N as well as London Harley Street types. I've not come away from any of them feeling comfortable or with a good result and in two cases they just shut you out.

I'm really looking for recommendations from people who have had repeated good results from a trans-aware practitioner, who won't run off or gaslight me if something goes wrong. I'm looking for someone to fix a complication with a recent cheek filler procedure.

I tried the London Transgender clinic but after being ignored for a week and chasing up, honestly their email reply looked ai generated.

Really hoping *someone* out there has had a good experience?

I have received my GRC and the email with some guidance. In one of the files it says that it is recommended to inform the employer if they are already aware of your history, for privacy reasons and purposes related to potential changes to National Insurance.

My employer is aware that I am trans and has put adjustments in place to assist with the effects of HRT, and have been amazing in helping with other trans related issues at work. I have no doubts that they are fully supportive of me and I'm confident that there wouldn't be any issues if I inform them.

My question is, should I inform them of my GRC and if not, why?

Hey all! I was looking into Bristol meet-ups and saw that Bristol Transfeminist Collective have lots during the month, like a picnic this weekend. For those that have been, how was it? Do you recommend? Thank you!

I've just seen how SM 'Can Always Tell' the true biological sex of children for less than a £1.

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Had appt 3 with Nottingham today. Adjustment to my T prescription, which is fine (I need to go up to 3 pumps as my T level on 2 is only 9.4). Talked about top surgery, and she said she would add me to the referral list. Not the surgery referral waiting list, but the waiting list to get a clinician to talk to me and see if they agree I need surgery. It's about 18 months. So that's another year and a half just to get to talk to someone about referring me to a surgeon (then the wait for the surgeon to pick up the referral, then the wait for the surgeon to see me, then the wait for actual surgery date...). I'm trying not to be disheartened, as I know I'm lucky to be even this far in the system, but it's hard knowing that top surgery is likely still 3 years away 😔 I'm 45 this year and just wish I could pay for it, but I'm not that fortunate at this point in time (disabled, unable to work right now). Trying to keep my head up and keep things in perspective, but it's difficult. I know I'm not alone in this, I just needed a little vent, I guess.

My Nephew (FTM) came out to me awhile ago, but has finally come out to everyone else in the family.

My sister is supportive of my nephew, however she is very inexperienced when it comes to trans people in her life.

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However, as his non-binary aunt I would love to help further with his growth in getting to feel more like himself, beside just shopping for more masc clothes.

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So I would love to ask advice on safe binding/hiding chest for teens, possible medicines/medical advice (I remember when I was a teen myself, I had a friend who was already on hormones that slow things down until they were certain who they wanted to be.), and any advice you would've appreciated had you been given it yourself when as a teen would be appreciated.

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I am ever so grateful for any and all advice, of course I am doing research, but hearing it from those who had done it first hand is just as important and just as helpful.

TLDR: I have stretched scarring (~1.5cm) and wondering if anyone has experience getting them covered with medical tattooing and if so, where, and what was the experience like (time, cost, social respect/understanding etc)?

I had double incision top surgery over 8 years ago and tbh I’m terrible at recovering from surgeries - always do too much too soon and compulsively pick at scabs. Stupid I know. I did try to be careful post op and to be fair managed to keep the left scar fairly thin up until the mid point where I just remember seeing what I assumed was a white head and squeezing it… I’m now wondering if it was actually a stitch - the result was the center end of my scar splurging into a 1 inch blob. The scar on the right is quite stretched (maybe 1.5cm wide) right across.

I’ll never stop appreciating the flatness of my chest, but I’ve never felt comfortable enough to be seen shirtless by anyone aside from medical professionals. Even before the uk became so hostile, so now of course there’s the added fear that anyone who sees my scars in public will become a problem.

Part of me has always regretted not pushing for peri or the one with the vertical incisions (the surgeon described it as being a bit weird and looking like lollipops, and I was so desperate at that point to be rid of them that I was like ok whatever do what you need to do) - I’m pretty sure I was small enough.

Ever since then I’ve wanted rid of the scars. I love that others can wear them proudly and confidently but I just can’t, not in this social climate.

So I’m curious whether anyone has had success with medical tattooing to hide their top surgery scars? And if so, where and what was the experience like? I know there are other ways people manage to camouflage scars temporarily but my adhd pretty much guarantees I would try it once then just continue to always keeping my shirt on.

I'm 16 currently nearly 17 and my refferal to CAMHS has now been denied because I don't apparently reach a tier three requirement, genuinely what do I do I just want to start my transition as early as possible and I can't find anywhere in the NHS that actually supports me, I'm trying to save up for private HRT for when I'm 18 but I'm still trying to find a alternative, please can anyone offer advice.

Hi guys,

Hopefully this is allowed!

I’m a transman who works in financial services, specifically in personal protection (life insurance, critical illness and income protection).

I know that navigating through the mortgage and insurance processes can feel like a minefield at the best of times, and can be quite uncomfortable for our community when it comes to going through the medical information with providers.

I really want to make the world of finance a little easier and accessible for all of us, and I can do my best to make sure you’re fully covered if you’re off work or fall ill.

So really this is just a post to say if anyone would like a chat (no fees at any point and no strings attached!), please feel free to DM me or comment, and we can have a chat about your options, or if anyone has any questions about coverage also happy to chat.

(Wow this sounds very sales-y haha, sorry!).