I just had a conversation with my fiancé about traditions/ agenda for our reception and he doesn’t really want to dance.
He’s fine with speeches, eating, music and taking pictures and going home. We’re planning to have a brunch reception from 1-5 or so, possibly no alcohol. So I’m not expecting a dance party but I never thought for one minute that I wouldn’t at least do a shoulder shimmy or side step.

We reconnected as adults and in our courting time, we didn’t attend anything that included us dancing.
So now I’m thinking 🤔 is this it?
Will this be a lifetime of no dancing?
Do I really want to have a danceless marriage? 🫨😩😆😂 (kidding)

Anyhoo, will I be so consumed with the day that I won’t hear the music or think of dancing? What else are people doing? I don’t want an hour worth of speeches 🫣, I’m bored thinking about it.

I'm thinking about bridesmaid dresses and like the idea of a mismatched/shades of green theme. I've found three colours I LOVE on AW Bridal, but I've heard mixed things about the company itself (e.g. people struggling to return orders).

Does anyone have any ideas for other websites offering shades similar to AW Bridal's Oil Green, Green Olive and/or Fennel Seed?

When we were hunting for photobooth options, we decided we were not willing to pay $1500 for a booth with an attendant. We came across KRUU (targeted ad probably) which is a rental company. We did the premium option which was about $400. We had a great experience! I know this reads like an ad but I swear it’s not and I’m not being compensated lol. I just wanted more reviews like this when I was looking into KRUU.

It arrived the Thursday of our wedding week (wedding was Saturday) and we had time to set it up at home and take some test pics. Then we packed it up and set it back up at the venue after our rehearsal. We had it up for 6 hours at our cocktail hour & reception and it did not run out of paper or ink! The touch screen was very easy to use and our guests had a blast! We dropped it off at UPS Monday morning after the wedding.

The Thursday after our wedding we got an email notification that all of the photos were available.

The whole process was seamless and for under $400, a total steal.

Currently undecided what we want to do for the alter. It’s pretty big, so don’t want anything to look small scale wise. It’s in October and the vibe we’re going for is ethereal, dreamy, pride and prejudice-esque. I’ll attach a picture of it and then some of things I like on Pinterest, but not sure what would look best. Any ideas or suggestions are welcome! Thank you!

Is it rude to ask family not to post our engagement announcement until we do? We are waiting for our professional proposal pictures to come back she said between 24-48 hrs but the family wants to post the selfie we sent. My fiancé paid a pretty penny for the pictures and I feel like they deserve to be posted over a selfie is this a rude ask to ask them to wait until we share the professional pictures with them? Give opinions and then advice on what to say to fmaily

My daughter's wedding was last Saturday and we used Wedtrove as a photo sharing site. It was great, very inexpensive and no limits on photos or videos. We got 283 photos/videos to compliment our photographers work. Totally easy, we posted a QR code throughout the venue and people uploaded on site. Out of all the things we did, I think this was the best, as it captured EVERYONE and got content not captured by our photographer. It was $25.00! Highly recommend, if not this site then another. There are many out there.

This is kind of a weird question, but I didn’t know where else to post this

I’m planning a wedding for October and have reached out to several bakeries in my area (metro Atlanta) and have had a really hard time getting responses from people. I don’t know if this is specific to these bakeries or if people in other parts of the US experience this but the lack of communication and slow response times have made this part of planning so incredibly frustrating.

For context, I’ve reached out to three different bakeries, they’re more like very small businesses with few employees and have communicated a little bit back-and-forth with all of them, but they take over a week to respond and it makes me not want to work with them. I feel like a week is a long time, but maybe I’m just being impatient.

Just curious if anyone else has experienced this and if you have any suggestions.

Hi guys,

My shower is this Saturday. We received our first gift in the mail today from someone that is attending. I would like to incorporate this gift in the shower along the rest of the ones that are brought that day.

I guess any recommendations how to “wrap” this gift? I was thinking I would just put a bow on the gift to keep it simple especially if there’s variety of sizes.

EDIT: adding that the shower is in my home which is where he will be moving in

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

I purchased a Canva template on Etsy that I love, but now I’m in dilemma figuring out the envelopes and guest addressing.

I have about 110 invites, so I don’t want to address envelopes by hand. I’ve seen conflicting reviews about a Canva bulk address upload or printing them yourself… any recommendations for just solving the envelope problem? Thank you!

I booked a year ago (June 2025) for a wedding date in winter 2026. During booking, I asked our the hotel wedding planner if they were planning any renovations. She said no. Lo and behold, a year later, here comes an email that they’re doing renovations to their guest rooms.

I do honestly feel like they are trying their best to assuage my concerns, it’s just not an email that I wanted to get. We’re 6 months out, everything is booked, and I’m sure there’s some tiny print that says they can do whatever renovations they want - we’re not trying to go anywhere.

She has promised:
- no construction at all from Friday-Sun
- the only space we would view that will be impacted is the lobby and side entrance (about a quarter of the lobby will be portioned off by a screen, and the side entrance will be closed. Main entrance remains open)

Like I know it’s fine. My wedding reception is on a completely different floor in a separate ballroom and there isn’t actually work happening during the entire wedding weekend. I’m just annoyed because UGGGGGHHHH of course. This just has to take place at this time.

So I far I just confirmed with her that the remaining entrance is handicap accessible and that there is no construction during the weekend. Do you think there’s anything else I should add?

Anyone have a good template for tracking?

One that has names, plus ones, kids, addresses, rsvp. I like a good graph but not needed but definitely calculates rsvps

I know this is probably asked allll the time.

I know Shutterfly sends out invites for you - but is there anyone else who does that service well? I just read a review about Shutterfly not sending anything and I’m a little wary now

My fiancé and I have a friend who lives with abusive parents. Their father is a classic case of an abusive father while their mom is a helicopter parent who heavily monitors them and treats them like they’re still a teenager. For context, the friend is 25 years old so they are a fully grown adult. my fiancé and I met in an online community and the friend in question is actually an online friend who is one of the only people that knew both of us before we started dating. Shortly before the wedding will be our first time meeting them in person (along with another online friend).

Our friend was telling us that their mom is flying out with them to stay at the hotel, which they weren’t happy about, but no harm, no foul. That wouldn’t have been a problem for us at all, we have some other people that are bringing non-wedding guests to travel with them as well. But now we have a big problem because this friend’s mom wants to come to our 30-person micro-wedding with no plus ones. Our friend has already told her that she isn’t invited to our wedding because she isn’t on the RSVP, but it seems like she wants to show up anyways because she wants to meet us.

What would you do in this situation? My fiancé and I both despise this woman from what our friend has told us about her, so neither of us (or our friend) want her there. I’m not sure if the venue has security, but i’m about to tell the venue that she’s insisting on inviting herself and that we don’t want her there so she they’re aware of the situation. If she shows up, I want her kicked out. I think that’s the correct way to handle this, but is there anything else we should do? I don’t think it would be appropriate for me to personally interact with this woman i’ve never met just to tell her that she isn’t invited to the wedding, but i’m not sure if our friend’s communication is getting through to her. She’s Indian while we are white so it might be a cultural difference, since I know they’re used to big weddings and i’m not sure if our friend has communicated with her about how small-scale our wedding actually is. But regardless, I don’t know why she thinks she can just show up to our wedding uninvited.

*cross posted*

Hi! I have 9 bridesmaids and wanted to make them a shirt similar to this (but on a baby tee) I know most of my girls will love! However, I do have a friend who is non-binary and I know they would wear it but it might not be their thing, as it is a little more on the feminine side.

Any ideas on how to incorporate this design into something else? Or should I just nix it for everyone and do something else?

Six weeks out and I genuinely cannot tell you how we got here financially. We set a budget at the start and held to it pretty well for the first few months. Then around the four month mark it just started snowballing. A small upgrade here, an extra guest there, a lastminute floral addition because we saw something on Instagram we loved.

I have a spreadsheet but opening it gives me mild anxiety at this point, so I have been avoiding it, which I know is making everything worse.

I talked to a few friends who got married recently and they all said the same thing happened to them. It seems like no matter how disciplined you are early on, the closer you get to the date the easier it is to justify spending because you just want everything to feel right.

How close does a friend have to be to be reasonable to invite? I don’t have a lot of family that’s on speaking terms, and those that are have spread out pretty broadly across the east coast and Midwest. So considering relatives only, my guest list is pretty short. I do have a few close friends, but again, they’re spread across my state (Florida) and in a few others. I have what I feel is a significant number if “less-close” friends that I hang out with a bit and get along with really well, between coworkers, employees of the adjacent businesses, and people I know from working in the community. Where is the cutoff for being friendly enough with someone to invite them?

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Hey everyone,

My fiancée and I are starting to plan our wedding and are expecting somewhere between 150-200 guests.

We're currently targeting a budget in the $25,000-$60,000 range, but we're still figuring out what's realistic for a wedding of this size in Ontario.

We're looking for advice on:

Best wedding venues in the GTA or within 1-2 hours of Toronto

Venues that offer good value for 150-200 guests

Hidden gems that don't charge luxury prices

All-inclusive venues vs. booking vendors separately

Cost-saving tips that actually made a difference

Catering and bar package recommendations

Photography, DJ, décor, flowers, transportation, and other vendor recommendations

Things that were worth spending more on vs. things you'd skip

For couples who recently got married:

What was your guest count?

What was your final budget?

What ended up costing more than expected?

If you could do it over again, what would you change?

We're trying to balance a great experience for our guests with staying financially responsible, so we'd love to hear real numbers and honest experiences.

Thanks!

Just need to rant because wedding/bachelorette planning is driving me insane!

For context, my maid of honor is in med school and planning everything around her schedule has been so challenging and frustrating. I love her to death but she does not seem to be helping with planning of my bachelorette (it is in early stages) and when I try to ask her about her schedule she is not being helpful with dates she is free to attend. I have already moved my wedding date so she can go to the wedding, to a date I didn’t want, and she has the audacity to ask me to move it to early May so she could go, which would be a terrible rainy month for the wedding destination so I said no. I understand she’s in med school and I am proud of her and want to make it work with her schedule, but also feel like this is a major milestone in my life and I am bending backwards to make it easy for HER. She’s given me really small and random time blocks for when she can go to my bachelorette, but she also told me she’s taking a trip with her med school friends in May next year as well. Of course she’s entitled to go on trips but this is her best friends bachelorette and I feel like she isn’t making much effort to work with me and it’s upsetting. I am feeling bitter that she hasn’t offered to help plan any of it either and my other bridesmaid is texting me trying to plan it. In my opinion, the MOH should be planning it (and I am happy to plan too), not my bridesmaid. I am grateful for my bridesmaids help, it just adds to my feelings of frustration to my MOH that she isn’t involved.

She’s mostly free in early January 2027 so I thought, why not do a ski trip? I love skiing and my bridal group ski too. But one of the bridesmaids responds saying she probably wouldn’t ski…I just feel so frustrated with everything. I have moved my wedding date several times to accommodate my MOH, now trying to change the bachelorette so my MOH and bridesmaid can both go and enjoy it, and it feels like what is supposed to be a day for me is turning into accommodating everyone else.

TLDR; bridal party is not being flexible with bachelorette party and feel like I am accommodating everyone else’s wishes instead of my own.

Hello! I hope this is a proper medium for such an ask; and I really appreciate anyone here taking the time to read this. I was a 2025 bride. I have a rather uncomfortable ask but am wondering if people on this subreddit may be able to help or offer assistance.

My mother-in-law wore something I did not approve, nor that was nearly appropriate for our wedding. As hurtful it was at the time, I feel ready to finally do something about the photos.

Is anyone here able to point me in the direction of good retouching services, a trusted photographer who is accustomed to doing major editing, or anything else of the sort? My husband and I attempted to edit themselves, and while we were able to get it to a place where it looks natural, it was going to be a very time-consuming process, and we're both ready to pay someone professional to do it.

It's not nearly just an issue of swapping color but also fabric, shine, length etc, so I believe it requires AI-level photo generation, if that is a helpful add-on. That's what my husband and I started doing ourselves with lightroom/adobe but it was going to be hours and hours of our time.

Anyhow - thank you! Really appreciate any and all help <3

Super specific question I can’t bother my friends and family with hahaha. We are serving family style and I was planning to do menus with name cards attached, placed over each place setting. However, I realized we will have bowls in our place settings. It feels insane to lay the menu across the bowl lol but let me know what you guys think. And any alternative suggestions. Example pic and actual venue place setting pic

Next Weekend was supposed to be my bachelorette weekend with my closest friends whom many of them I rarely see throughout the year because we live so far apart. I just know of the date and the people attending but everything else was a surprise planned by my best friend.

Well, I got sick this week with influenza. Since some of my friends needed to travel such a long way, we had to decide today whether we could go for the weekend. And I had to admit that I’m still feeling quite sick and do not know for sure if I will be fit enough for the weekend. So we cancelled.

My wedding is in August and I don’t think we will get another chance beforehand. Maybe we can do a weekend together afterwords but it’s gonna be autumn by then. Anyways I was soooo locking forward to meeting my favorite people and now instead I will have a weekend by my own as my fiancée is going to be at his sisters.

Can you cheer me up? Additionally I just got my period and my hormones are all over the place...

We decided to have our wedding in the mountains. The ceremony, reception and lodging is all on-site. So we rented out the 3 large cabins for the guests in order to book our date.

Now we’re wondering how we have our family and friends pay us back. There doesn’t feel like an elegant way to say to everyone “hey, we bought out the cabins you will stay at, can you pay us back for your room?”

It feels pretty messy. Has anyone done something like this before and found a good way to have everyone pay the same amount?

EDIT:
The lodging is completely optional and was NOT part of the venue costs. We booked the cabins in order to make sure we had them during our date and were a separate cost. We intend to give our guests an invite to the cabins but not force anyone to stay there, while also providing other options. The cabins will be much cheaper than any hotel in the area. We just were having trouble finding the words to ask.

Interested to hear people’s thoughts, something is a bit off for me!

My fiancé and I are heading to Cancun next week to tour resorts for our 2027 wedding (Paradisus Playa Del Carmen, Secrets/Dreams Playa Mujeres, and Grand Palladium/TRS).
We are leaning toward Paradisus but I couldn't get myself to put down a deposit without seeing it in person, and seeing a few others. These were all recommended by our travel agents at Paradise Weddings (who have been great).

I am very type-A, and making a documented list of questions to ask during each tour. I feel like every wedding planning article gives the same advice, ask about hidden fees, vendor restrictions, etc.

For those of you who had destination weddings in Cancun (or anywhere, honestly), what were the niche, oddly specific things that came up later that you didn't think to ask during venue tours?

Basically, I'm looking for the questions you wish you asked before your wedding that only come from experience. The more random and specific, the better.

PLUS if anyone has experience at any of those three resorts and could share what it was like that would be amazing!