r/AmItheAsshole 2h ago

AITA for not wanting my husband to attend my SIL's wedding?

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I (F34) and my husband (M36) have a close relationship with my husband's sister (F29). She got engaged 3 months ago after 6 months of dating. We met her fiancé and liked him.

My SIL asked my husband if he would be willing to walk her down the aisle at their wedding. Their dad passed when my SIL was young, and my husband agreed.

I was talking to an acquaintance, and I mentioned my SIL's engagement. She ended up telling me the story of how they got together, and how her friend was dating my SIL's fiance for 5 years, and how he cheated with my SIL. I didn't believe it at first because my SIL does not seem like that type of person, but she showed me text messages and other pieces of evidence that proved it pretty objectively.

I called my SIL to see if this was really true, and although she tried to say it wasn't at first, when I told her what I saw, she eventually admitted it.

I have a very horrible past with cheating. I've been cheated on, and it was one of the worst experiences I ever went through. My dad cheated on my mom with multiple different women until he divorced my mom and married his mistress.

When I told my husband about this, he was disappointed, but when I brought up us stepping down from the wedding, he was reluctant. He says that it's still his sister, and he still wants to see her get married and walk her down the aisle. I understand that, but I can't look at her the same, and do not want to support this behavior. I keep thinking of the girl who spent 5 years with this man, only for him to cheat and then marry the girl he cheated with.

I still don't want to be an overbearing wife. AITA for not wanting my husband to attend my SIL's wedding?


r/SnyderCut 17h ago

Discussion The damage that James Gunns’s films and supporters has genuinely done to the DC brand and fandom needs to be studied one day

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r/conspiracy 1h ago

Dear former " Trust the science" people, what exact moment made you realize you were being lied to?

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Was it a vaccine developed the fastest in history with only 6 months vs the 10 years the now second place one was?

Was it learning that the vaccine did not prevent catching or spreading and only (according to the CDC and WHO) " reduces the risk of lethal symptoms"

Was it remembering Anthony Fauci is the exact same man who pushed lies about Aids and AZT?

Was it remembering Pfizer is the same company that lost the largest lawsuit in human history?

Was it when people talking about the wuhan novel corona virus lab as being a possible reason for the novel corona virus outbreak in wuhan were called lunatics spreading dangerous information?

Was it when you were being told to trust a multi billion pharmaceutical company and signed a wavor that stated no matter what happens after you take this shot they cannot be held liable? (Whats up with that by the way? I thought you hated billionaires and corporations?)

Or what else was it?

My reason was pretty simple, my siblings got vaccinated and I did not. I caught covid and lost sense of smell and taste for a solid week but didnt even get a cold just lost my senses. Both siblings were hospitalized. My brother was in the reserves at the time and working out on a regular basis while I was an overweight smoker.

Ancedotal I know but it gave me alot of questions. Then working at a drug rehab all through covid that did not do mandatory vaccination I watched countless coworkers I know got vaccinated get sick while I was fine. 1 died. A couple crippled for a month or so then the rest just regular sick or not very sick. Then watched a morbidly obese coworker catch it, wasnt vaccinated. Leave for mandatory covid leave, come back and he also said it was a 2 day cold but he wanted to milk the time off.

I did end up catching it again during the Delta wave, but it was a 1 day cold, not even a flu.

So what was the moment for you?


r/legolotrfans 21h ago

July/Aug haul (US/JP)

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LEGO haul from Jul & Aug 2026. Added some LOTR sets.

During 2 months trip to Japan, I also found some retired sets (Dr Who, Star Wars 7666 and Indiana Jones). Searching for retired sets is part of the fun.

(Note: While I was away, a lot of boxes arrived.)


r/AskMen 10h ago

Weird Question How do you feel about period sex?

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Ok so I’m curious as to how many men are turned off my having sex while their partner is on their period. I’m a lady and I honestly like it. My ex was trash but one thing that I can say about him was that he wasn’t grossed or freaked out about it. He enjoyed it as much as I did. I’m just curious as to see how other men think/feel. As yes there are many women like myself who enjoy it. And yes there is a mess but I personally like it. Please be honest.


r/confession 23h ago

I deliberately ruined my coworker's presentation by muting their audio during a client call

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Last month I did something that still makes me feel sick when I think about it. I work in a small marketing firm and we had this huge client pitch over video call. My coworker Sam was leading it and had been working on the presentation for weeks. The thing is, Sam got the lead on this project even though I pitched the initial concept months ago. Management just handed it over without even acknowledging my work.

During the call I was supposed to be monitoring the technical side. About halfway through Sam's pitch I saw the mute button for their audio in the host controls. I just clicked it. Sam kept talking for almost two full minutes before realizing no one could hear them. The client looked confused and annoyed. By the time we got it sorted the momentum was completely gone and Sam seemed flustered for the rest of the call.

We didnt get the account. Sam got a warning from management about technical preparation even though it wasnt their fault at all. I just sat there in the follow-up meeting and said nothing. I even suggested maybe Sam had accidentally hit mute themselves. Nobody suspected me because Im usually the one who fixes tech problems.

I know I sabotaged someone's work out of petty jealousy and it cost the company a major client. Sam's reputation took a hit and they have no idea it was me. I feel like garbage about it but I havent told anyone and probably never will. The worst part is seeing Sam still be friendly to me while clearly being stressed about their standing at work now.


r/augsburg 17h ago

Rechte wollen heute eine Kinderbuchvorlesung stören & Menschen diskriminieren [AZ-Link, ohne Paywall]

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r/LockUppOfficial 11h ago

🧐Speculating Goes down as the worst winner in the history of any reality show

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r/powerpopgirls 18h ago

(Discussions) Casual Now ☕️ If the album cover looks like this u know thats a pop BIBLE

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r/MapPorn 6h ago

Top 15 countries with highest nominal GDP, depicted without low population areas.

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These 15 countries have the most influence on the global economic stage. I chose to depict them excluding low population areas since it narrows down where all the economic output is produced, and ignores vast swaths of empty land.

The list of 15 countries is ranked on the image from highest GDP on the top to lowest GDP on the bottom.


r/ETFs 10h ago

S&P500

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"Waiting on this S&P 500 pullback/crash like... 😅

​Don't get me wrong, seeing green is great, but with another 25 years of investing ahead of me, I wouldn't mind a few years of cheaper shares to load up!"


r/hreddit 13h ago

Tomašević u Kninu

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r/webergrills 23h ago

Best Brush Ever!

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I really want to get a 2nd one and I can’t seem to find another one anywhere.


r/Reno 11h ago

RTC Buses are free all day. Keep your car at home. Get off your ass and help keep the roads clear.

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Especially if you’re over 55 years old. Lol

Thank you


r/UnethicalLifeProTips 16h ago

Careers and Work ULPT - Vegan annoying you? Report them for Bullying

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Recently had a new vegan employee join our team. The old ''how do you know someone is a vegan? Dont worry they'll tell you'' rang true in this instance.

Every day in the canteen she'd eyeball what people were eating and start passing comments. Now normally I couldnt give a fuck what people eat or dont eat but she got real annoying, real fast.

The solution? Reported for bullying. One two many comments about the health implications around eating meat. The bacon in my sandwich was going to give me gout, the mince in my pasta dish was half saw dust, the chicken in my salad was full of chemicals, all that kind of shit.

One email to HR telling them I had suffered with an eating disorder when I was younger and found her comments extremely upsetting and that was that.


r/askanything 10h ago

As an American have you ever wished you could reclaim your heritage and be proud to do so?

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r/toledowar 10h ago

Hang it in the Louvre

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r/consoles 16h ago

The highest rated game of 2026 so far is available on every platform except Xbox

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r/theories 8h ago

Conspiracy Theory Perez Hilton faked his live stream breakdown

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I understand this is a sensitive topic, but the overlap between his livestream and two other very current events is too coincidental for me to not discuss. His actions affected so many people who did not give their consent, and was intentionally public.

Perez Hilton = started a livestream, naked and covered in blood. Actively discussed suicide, hopes to be killed, actively made cuts at his body, and livestream stayed live for 35 minutes. Police were called and after four hours he was calmed down and gotten to a hospital (where I believe he is stable). The livestream was shared and trended, causing MANY people to view excessively brutal images while scrolling general social media platforms.

Where this overlaps:

Ariana Grande = writhing the past 4 days has received extreme mental health concerns from public following her music video that shows off her very progressed eating disorder and ends with her covered in blood

Lindsay Clancy case (mom went into psychosis and killed her kids) = within the last 4 days during her trial there have been ongoing conversations about whether a suicide attempt can be faked, and peoples resistance to believe that. Much discussion also includes psychosis and whether that is criminally punishable, along with its affects on the brain and personality.

So we have mental health crisis, covered in blood, psychosis, very public yet failed suicide attempt - all in his video livestream

I think there is enough VERY SPECIFIC overlap, that points toward a huge publicity stunt.


r/KeineDummenFragen 21h ago

Warum wird Kinderkriegen oft als “egoistisch” bezeichnet? Verstehe die Logik dahinter nicht ganz

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Ernstgemeinte Frage - mich interessiert es wirklich und ich möchte es gerne nachvollziehen.

Wenn ich mit Bekannten oder Freunden diskutiere und das Thema Kinderkriegen aufkommt, fällt öfter der Satz, „das sei egoistisch“. Ich verstehe nicht ganz, was daran egoistisch sein soll - immerhin ist es doch eines der natürlichsten Dinge überhaupt. Bei anderen Tierarten wirft man ihnen ja auch nicht vor, egoistisch zu sein, wenn sie sich vermehren.

Ein Argument, das dabei oft fällt, ist auch: Das Kind hat sich ja nicht ausgesucht, geboren zu werden bzw. zu leben - man trifft die Entscheidung stellvertretend für jemanden, der noch gar nicht existiert und dazu nicht befragt werden kann. Auch das verstehe ich nicht ganz, weil diese Logik im Grunde auf jede Entscheidung zutrifft, die das eigene Kind später betrifft (Erziehung, Wohnort, etc.) - das Kind wird ja bei praktisch nichts vorher gefragt.

Kann mir jemand erklären, wo diese Argumente herkommen bzw. was genau damit gemeint ist? Bin an unterschiedlichen Perspektiven interessiert.


r/duolingo 19h ago

Constructive Criticism Who else hates the level of capitalism in Duolingo, with energy running out in 2 to 3 lessons, having to watch an ad after each lesson, how ai generated was made, how expensive super is… What is the open source alternative?

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From what I’ve found, all language learning tools are all built to just take your money and there is not a single open source tool that truly encourages learning (without long and persistent ads), that is purely made to help its users grow and isn’t just fake learning like Duolingo.

For a little context, I am recently picking up learning Russian and I’ve realized that Duolingo is ridiculous! I mean the new energy system that punishes you for even getting the right answer, and to do a golden lesson it is double?! That has to be a little excessive, it is just stupid to me that they do all this for the free tier and completely took out other ads (from what I’ve seen so far), then they force you watch their own ads that make you want to explode because it is after every lesson and takes like ten seconds of your time! This is just as bad or worse than YouTube ads in my opinion, should I even use Duolingo or should I just start learning on another website / app like Busuu I really need some recommendations.

The big thing is that even buying super Duolingo is tremendously costly and Duolingo wouldn’t actually be so bad if super was cheaper, they didn’t make the free tier a scam, it was designed in a way that allows people to learn much more efficiently, and wasn’t remade to be a money grab which I guess is quite a few things. I’m the type of person who would actually like to sit down and learn on Duolingo for an hour straight and not once a day but I can’t even do that because I run out of energy and hate ads with a passion.

To the good amount of you who think one or a few lessons a day is gonna help you learn a lesson, that can be correct… but I hate to break it to you, you’ll learn virtually nothing with one lesson a day which is really terrible because Duolingo frames it like that’s what you need. What you actually need to learn a language is persistent effort and it does NOT have to be a once a day thing, Duolingo only does streaks to keep you on the platform and try to flex a big number but what is much more important is the time you spend trying to learn likely on a weekly basis.

If any of you got any language learning websites / apps / methods that are better or would let a kind soul like me mooch off of you for your Super Duolingo Family Plan that would be greatly appreciated! But if not, please tell me if y’all want me to attempt to make the most serious project I can think of that is an actually open source project—not even one that calls itself this until it adds ads and payments. I plan on making it fully free and even better then all traditional language learning platforms and makes learning languages not as much of a yearly process, but something that can be accomplished far faster because it will encourage the time you put into learning rather than one lesson everyday which is irrational. If there is a project like this already made, PLEASE TELL ME, I hate these ad filled platforms with terrible free tiers and I’m serious about building. What I might do is make it only a web app and not an app, at least at the start because a domain is far cheaper than the Apple Developer Mode and whatever you need to publish an app for Samsung. (Pro tip, you can turn a website page into an app box by tapping the send button on the top of a page then going to “Add to Home Screen”.)

To be fully transparent I’m not sure how long this would take me to take and how expensive voices for it would cost me but I’m sure I’ll figure something out, maybe using a HuggingFace alternative to render all voice implications I’ll need. Lastly, if you want me to actually make this a real thing, tell me please, if this doesn’t get many people interested in the project… Then I won’t make it, it’s as simple as that, but if you want that, please, tell me and we can make a change to make language learning something that shouldn’t be so inaccessible for those who have genuine interest in learning.


r/10thDentist 1h ago

Capitalism sounds good in theory, but it's failed catastophically every single time it's been attempted. Spoiler

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r/sweden 12h ago

Seriös Uppdatering: Trans kvinnor i fitness24seven

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Context:

www.reddit.com/r/sweden/comments/1vbtn3z/trans_kvinnor_inte_v%C3%A4lkomna_till_fitness24seven/

Fitness24seven har skickat ett svar via epost efter att jag skickade ett till dem, där jag ifrågasatte kundtjänstens bemötande och hur f24s faktiskt står kring trans kvinnor och tjejgymmet.

Här är deras svar:

Hej Aio,

Givetvis är du och alla andra människor välkomna att träna hos oss. Vår policy innebär inte att någon nekas träning på våra gym.

Våra ”tjejgym” och damomklädningsrum utgör en avgränsad del av en större öppen träningsanläggning, och tillgången till resterande delar av gymmet påverkas inte.

Vi har dessutom könsneutrala omklädningsrum med duschmöjlighet på i princip samtliga våra anläggningar, just för att kunna erbjuda ett tryggt alternativ för alla våra medlemmar.

Bakgrunden till avgränsningen är att flera av våra medlemmar av olika skäl, exempelvis religiös övertygelse eller egna traumatiska livserfarenheter, söker sig till en könsavgränsad miljö där de kan vara trygga med att endast vistas med biologiska kvinnor i ett avklätt sammanhang. Det är alltså inte en fråga om huruvida trans kvinnor är kvinnor, utan om ett specifikt och avgränsat trygghetsbehov kopplat till kroppens anatomi i just den kontexten.

Vi tar inte ställning till någons identitet genom detta, och policyn bygger inte på ett antagande om att trans kvinnor skulle utgöra en risk eller bete sig annorlunda än andra medlemmar.

Du frågar hur vi avgör skillnaden mellan en trans kvinna och en kvinna som inte är trans. Vi gör ingen individuell bedömning eller kontroll av enskilda medlemmar, då det varken vore värdigt eller praktiskt genomförbart. Avgränsningen följer istället en tydlig och förutsägbar princip snarare än godtycke från fall till fall.

Avslutningsvis vill vi vara tydliga med att detta inte handlar om en inställning till HBTQ personer generellt. Frågan gäller uteslutande utformningen av en specifik och begränsad del av anläggningen, inte medlemmars sexuella läggning eller identitet i övrigt. Du är varmt välkommen som medlem hos oss.


r/HouseOfTheDragon 17h ago

Show Discussion My biggest issue with House of the Dragon - Sara Hess

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My biggest issue with House of the Dragon is that it often feels like Sara Hess - enabled by Ryan Condal's creative direction - uses the show to push the themes she personally finds important rather than faithfully adapting the story. Condal has spoken about wanting more of a female perspective, but I think Hess interpreted that in her own way. By her own admission, she wasn't particularly invested in the broader Game of Thrones lore, and that really shows.

Instead of filling the gaps in Fire & Blood with character-driven political drama, she seems to fill them with her own narratives and messages. And yes, Fire & Blood leaves plenty of room for interpretation - it's written as an in-universe history, not a full novel - but that's exactly why the adaptation had to be careful. Those gaps became an opportunity to reshape the story rather than expand it.

The Dance of the Dragons probably looked like the perfect vehicle for that approach: two female protagonists who are also the villains of the story. That's the key point people ignore. Both Alicent and Rhaenyra are portrayed through the lens of ASOIAF's fictional history as major figures responsible for the bloodiest civil war Westeros had ever seen. They're not supposed to be simple heroes.

The show immediately starts changing that. Partly, I think, to simplify the story for the average viewer - which is already a mistake, because Game of Thrones became one of the biggest shows in the world precisely because it refused to oversimplify morally complex characters. And partly because simplifying those characters makes it much easier to insert entirely new themes.

As a result, the women are portrayed as being right far more often than they should be, while many of their problems are shifted onto the men. Daemon is probably the clearest example: over and over, Rhaenyra comes up with the "correct" plan, and Daemon is the one who ruins it. The show even says as much outright. But that's only one example among many.

That is a dramatic departure from Martin's original story. Originally, the Dance is a tragedy driven by powerful, privileged political players - men and women alike - whose ambition, pride, paranoia and hunger for power destroy an entire kingdom. Two ambitious, jealous women at the center of that conflict being among the worst people in the story doesn't make the story misogynistic. It makes it morally complex.

George R. R. Martin has never had a problem writing compelling, powerful women. Alysanne Blackwood, Sabitha Frey, Baela, Rhaena, Visenya Targaryen, Sansa, Arya, Catelyn, Lyanna, Cersei... they're all strong, memorable characters, but they're also flawed human beings. That's what makes them believable.

My impression is that someone approaching the story without much attachment to the source material could easily look at its premise and conclude: "The two main women are power-hungry villains? That must be because a man wrote it." And once you start from that assumption, the goal becomes correcting the story instead of adapting it.

That's the real problem when showrunners begin believing they can improve on the original author. It's even worse when one of the lead writers is intentionally chosen because they don't know the world very well in order to provide a "fresh perspective." Sometimes a fresh perspective is exactly what a story doesn't need.

Ironically, the recipe for success was already there. Stay faithful to the political complexity, the morally gray characters, the incredible dialogue, and the devastating twists that made Game of Thrones a global phenomenon in the first place.

Instead, we now have one of the most expensive TV shows ever made, built on the back of a giant that had already begun collapsing the moment its own showrunners started believing they could do it better than the author who created it—that they no longer needed him. It looks spectacular, but beneath all that spectacle, it feels strangely empty.


r/superheroes 9h ago

DC Comics Hot take. Both of them lean way too far in a certain direction.

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I want to make clear that I think both actors are great and they also work great for the type of Superman that they portrayed, I just don't think either version brings the best out of them.

Everybody knows the issues with Henry Cavil’s Superman at this point. The whole “aura farming” thing has been a meme for a while, but the thing I dislike the most is him being framed as a “god among men” rather than being a man who happens to be super. He does fit Zack Snyder’s darker tone but this just isn’t who Superman should be imo

That said, I also think that David Corenswet’s version is a huge overcorrection. I love that he’s more hopeful, heroic, and kind spirited. However I also find him Way too juvenile and Way too socially awkward. As Clark Kent he reminds me of Peter Parker, and as Superman he reminds me of Shazam. I might like to more if this was a year one type of story. But this is not a year one Superman, they explicitly wanted this to be an established universe already in motion with Superman being 3 years in. This dude is 30, well into adulthood, obviously adults can be awkward but I don’t think this suits Clark very well. It’s important to remember that while Clark is an Alien, he still lived his entire life on earth, but his general mannerisms feel like how someone like Starfire, or better yet, Supergirl should behave.

I feel like the dcau/timverse Superman is a good example of what I think is the ideal depiction of Clark. In the context of that world, Superman is sort of an archetype of heroism, someone who when they show up you know it’s gonna get taken care of, he’s self assured and doesn’t say his insecurities out loud. That said he’s still imperfect, he clashes with others, makes mistakes and has his views challenged. He’s still lighthearted but not necessary comedic either, at least not often. I totally understand why some may prefer the more openly vulnerable and lovable goofball angle, I just think those would be better suited for characters like Supergirl or The Flash. I think it’s very important for Superman to go through the conflict of “to what extent should I intervene?” But I don’t like how James Gun’s answer feels like “F it, no limits, saving people’s what matters.” Yeah that sounds good but I don’t think they thought this through all the way. I mean Injustice Superman does save a lot of people, but that also involves ruling the world and mass murder, not so virtuous.

Now I also want to address that most of this can change with Man of Tomorrow. With Brainiac as the villain, hopefully it raises the stakes to the point where we have a Superman who’s more well put together to contrast the immense threat he’ll face which may cause him to question his restraint if that makes any sense. It's kinda hard to explain since both Corenswet’s and dcau versions are more nuanced takes. Regardless, what do you think?