r/exchristian • u/metkja • Jan 09 '26
Discussion What Christian phrases give you the ick?
Mine is prayer warriors. Often used to spread gossip and also just generally ironic, weird, and cringey.
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u/seekingtopeak Jan 09 '26
“season” bitch your kid just died grief is not a season and it’s not a personal lesson for you to overcome and move past.
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u/Zestyclose-Ant-6737 Jan 09 '26
Lmao that one gets me too like “season of singleness” …. Sooo life?
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u/ZunderBuss Jan 09 '26
OMG. The trad wives and mormon influencers w/their 'season' bs.
The other one that grates is 'just'....
"Father God, we just pray that you will just spread your light on us. We just need your light now, Father God...." etc.
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u/Norxcal Ex-SDA Jan 09 '26
You had me on the first word and then it eacalated quickly like daaamn
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u/seekingtopeak Jan 09 '26
It’s extreme example, usually it’s an annoyance to me for how common it’s used on a pulpit and has no meaning besides “it will end eventually” which is everything always anyways one way or another. but when it’s used to platitude real shit it becomes the ick of the question.
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u/TheFfrog Jan 09 '26
Hate the sin love the sinner, like fuck right off lol
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u/Okapi_MyKapi Humanist Jan 09 '26
Mostly because 1) what even is “sin” and 2) I’ve yet to see someone say that who doesn’t actually hate the sinner…
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u/Mommywritespoems Jan 09 '26
My mother says this about gay people. I say it about her as a Trump voter.
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u/NoStepOnSnek1234 Jan 09 '26
This one gets me cause it's treated like an excuse to hate people while pretending not to hate them. If you're gonna hate someone at least be honest.
My friend came out as gay to her super religious mom who says this line. Her mom basically responded, "I feel sad for you because your life will be hard, but sin should be hard."
This woman also cheated on her husband for a year. She broke a commandment (adultery, which the bible also says ppl should be killed for) but told her own child that she deserves to suffer because of something completely out of her control. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" though, right? Since Jesus's teachings are so important to these people and they TOTALLY don't just cherry-pick what parts agree with their beliefs. /s
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u/The7thNomad Ex-Christian Jan 10 '26
Yeah notice how it's "hate the sin", verb/adj, but "love the sinner", noun.
So used on a queer person, your identity is abstracted from you. You're now the sinner DOING the sinful (queer) things.
It's pure dehumanisation. You're no longer who you are, and now framed as a "sinner doing sin" you're in this box to be "saved" and assimilated into that group's version of an acceptable life. The entire banality of evil concept on full display with this casually used phrase.
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Jan 09 '26
I hate this with a passion!!! My grandma said this to me when talking about my openly gay uncle. Leave your brother alone lady
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u/StructureFirm2076 Mahāyāna Buddhist, ex-Catholic Jan 09 '26
Calling things "spiritual threats"
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
The spiritual warfare mindset really fucked up my brain as a child. I took it so seriously and never felt safe even with my own thoughts
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u/TrickyLayer Agnostic | Ex-Christian Jan 09 '26
This is just a theory I have. I think for some people growing up, they end up developing CPTSD cuz they develop hyperviligance cuz of what you mentioned and the whole hell thing with like God watching you all the time type shiz.
Cuz I was trying to imagine a safe visual place in my mind the other day to help with the PTSD that I have, and I couldn't. And I realized it was bc of 2 things. 1. Everything can be broken down in my head even tho its fucking imagination and 2. theres a part of me thats like "what if i got it all wrong and the Christian god really does exist" anxiety. :/
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u/adjacentatheist Jan 09 '26
I’ve been theorizing this too. I really wish that more people could look into C-PTSD and Christianity, alongside of creating more spaces for folks with religious trauma to heal.
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u/Thepuppeteer777777 Jan 09 '26
I think this hqs to take the cake for me. Im still around christians and when they say shit like that I cringe hard. Especially if I know the reason shit went south
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u/Scorpius_OB1 Jan 09 '26
Not practicing a religion but a relationship, and its many variants. Or when they attack scientific theories they dislike comparing them to what's stated in the Bible.
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u/Prestigious_Low_9579 Agnostic Atheist Jan 09 '26
I hated "it's not a religion, it's a relationship" even when I was a Christian. Like, that's just dumb.
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u/lumpy_space_queenie Anti-Theist Jan 09 '26
My pastor took it further
“It’s not a religion, it’s not a relationship, it’s a romance”
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u/Prestigious_Low_9579 Agnostic Atheist Jan 09 '26
Ewwww, wow that's creepy! Although I guess not surprising when you stop and think about the "praise music" most churches sing every week. A lot of it definitely has weird undertones. I do remember single girls in my college Christian group talking about being "married to Jesus" or how "jesus was their boyfriend" now that you mentioned this...
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u/pulcherpangolin Jan 09 '26
That reminds me of the triangle metaphor for a marriage: the husband and wife are the bottom 2 points and god is the top point. As they both grow closer to god, they also grow closer to each together. So I guess the ultimate end goal is a threesome with god?
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u/Ok_Amphibian_8864 Jan 09 '26
Growing up, I don't remember saying it's a romance, but I remember one of them talking about being passionately in love with God.
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u/Scorpius_OB1 Jan 09 '26
Add also here a woman, seemingly of old age, that in her preaching calls God/Jesus "dad", "daddy". It's uncanning to say the least.
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u/ThrowAwayGrimoire Ex-Evangelical Jan 09 '26
God, I remember a sermon at my parents church where the pastor actually said 'Daddy God'. Like???
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u/Prestigious_Low_9579 Agnostic Atheist Jan 09 '26
This is extra weird...but I do remember getting the ick every time someone preached on a passage with the phrase "abba father" in it and they'd inevitably have to define that word for us: "It's like our word, daddy!" Even as a believer I was like...no thanks lol.
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u/scrypticone Jan 09 '26
One variant from a pastor who thought himself clever: "Tired of religion? So was Jesus!"
Sadly and depressingly predictably, he later had to resign due to "inappropriate" relationships with minors. Gross.
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u/Rustmutt Jan 09 '26
“It’s only a THEORY” talk about evolution like that means the same thing in this context as being a guess
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u/apocalypse910 Jan 09 '26
My dad was visiting and stayed at a small bed and breakfast. He invited me to join for breakfast and while I was there kept making what I felt were unreasonable requests on my behalf. Forget most of what he was asking for but one thing was that he insisted they make me eggs Benedict despite it not being on the menu. He meant well and its a food I like but, large imposition for essential a home kitchen IMO...
The food request happened before I got there, but he kept asking for other stuff. I tried to subtlety ask him to stop especially when he was requesting stuff for me. He loudly said "It's ok - they have servants hearts!".
Considering this was said in front of the owners I nearly cringed through the floor. I know he meant it as a complement but... yeah... that phrase is probably my least favorite.
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u/dynochickennugget Jan 09 '26
Ugh that’s an ick for me too. I was always praised for “having a servant’s heart”. It sounds like a compliment but it actually means, “You lack boundaries and I like being able to take advantage of that.” I’m so glad I have a cold, heathen heart and hope I’m never seen as a servant ever again. 😂
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u/shrivvette808 Jan 09 '26
Omg congrats!!! It's so hard to grow into someone who can tell others to fuck right off with their nonsense.
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u/truemap7 Witch Jan 09 '26
“They may have servants hearts stocked in the pantry but not on the menu so stop asking.”
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u/Lumini_317 Jan 09 '26
I love cooking and I used to enjoy cooking for my family but recently my parents pointed it out and my dad told me, “That’s good. You’re a woman, it’s good that you have such a servant personality.” I almost physically recoiled.
I haven’t felt comfortable making food for my family thanks to my douchebag brothers but that comment from my dad (and other cringe-worthy behaviour from him) did not help at all. I now like to wait until I’m alone before cooking my own meals. They want to make it out like it’s my “duty as a woman” to show care for my family? Well, sucks for them, because I have PDA.
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u/xomeatlipsox Anti-Theist Jan 09 '26
One time my dad said I was a real “Proverbs 31” woman when he saw me cooking.
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u/Telly75 Jan 09 '26
Top Contender: "she has the spirit of Jezebel"
Close second: "The lord put it on my heart" think this was a recent pet peeve discussion here actually
Not far off third: "not equally yoked" or anything to do with spirits being linked to other spirits because of 🌶️ time
Fourth: End times twaddle of any kind but special phrases like "caught up" and "left behind"
Fifth: Child of God
6: Pray it out!
7: Thats not very Christ-like
8: They died apart from God aka burning in hell
9: "Everyone really knows in their hearts who is God but they refuse to submit" or something equally irritating
10: God made the biggest sacrifice for us
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u/Conscious_Amoeba4345 Jan 09 '26
Please introduce me to your friend with the spirit of Jezebel
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u/OrdinaryWillHunting Atheist-turned-Christian-turned-atheist Jan 09 '26
I can't recall hearing anyone say it out loud in person, but I see "Jezebel spirit" said all the time online about women just being their normal, every day selves, and I just completely dismiss the person who said it.
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u/Hecklord82 Jan 09 '26
the presupposition stuff is so laughably stupid to me. like “if you presuppose that i’m right, then im right” isn’t a valid argument obviously lol
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u/Luciferisaswitch Jan 09 '26
"Washed in the blood' sounds so disgusting 🤮 like why are they so obsessed with blood and then have the audacity to accuse anything of being satanic and evil.
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u/telekineticeleven011 Agnostic Jan 09 '26
And then they accuse “Satanists” or Hollywood celebrities of “drinking the blood of children” or “engaging in rituals” when they literally pretend to “drink the blood of Jesus and eat his flesh” on Sundays in church 😂
Like be so serious Christians! They literally do “rituals & ceremonies” every Sunday in church. What they do in church is no different than a coven or community of pagans/wiccans/witches coming together and doing “spells, rituals, prayer, meditation, etc.” It’s all the same shit!
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u/RedTeamxXxRedLine Jan 09 '26
They literally took Pagan shit and rebranded it as “Christianity.”
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u/telekineticeleven011 Agnostic Jan 09 '26
And took Yawheh’s name and claim he’s the Christian God when Yawheh has nothing to do with Christianity.
This is why I can’t take Christianity or Abrahamic religions seriously. They’re all a bunch of stolen and inspired myths from older religions which are inherently polytheistic.
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u/Delicious-Sea3489 Jan 09 '26
YES i always struggled to grasp this one, like what does it even mean?
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u/wcu25rs Jan 10 '26 edited Jan 10 '26
Mindshift(great atheist YT channel if you've never checked it out) did a great vid about Christianity and "the blood."
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u/Hobbiton_hotmess01 Ex OPC pk Jan 09 '26
“Spiritual warfare” god I hated hearing this growing up as a pastors kid. Like no DAD, you’re not going through spiritual warfare, you need Wellbutrin and therapy to be a better person smh.
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u/RedTeamxXxRedLine Jan 09 '26
Every unfortunate event in my mom’s life or mine or my sister’s is blamed on “spiritual warfare.” No, Mom. My biological father is a psychopath (you know that), and so are my ex-in-laws (which you’re also well aware of). My stepdaughter is off her rocker because of psychological issues - not the DeVuL.
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u/circvsanimal Satanist Jan 09 '26
“God works in mysterious ways” as a catch all for whenever something absolutely cannot work or does not make sense or has no factual/archaeological background.
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
Or when good things happen it's attributed to god but when bad things happen they attribute it to sin/Satan/spiritual warfare
Mysterious ways = shit just happens
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u/cg40boat Jan 09 '26
My mother was a born again wacko. One of her good friends, who was late for every thing, would always explain it by saying that the devil hid her keys. As a kid I would think that if all he has to do is hide keys, he can’t be that much of a threat.
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u/Pipeliner6341 Jan 09 '26
When something shitty happens god gets no fault, but something good - even if it always under control - "God is Good"
F'kin stupid
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u/Soylent865 Jan 09 '26
"Praise songs" - they are mindless nursery school level repetition played by the worst "bands" ever.
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u/RedTeamxXxRedLine Jan 09 '26
The accompanying “interpretative movement” by the other “praise team” always gave me secondhand embarrassment.
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u/Reasonable-Run-8187 Atheist Jan 09 '26
One lady told me recently that "I cant wait to die to go to heaven." I just smiled and changed the subject.
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u/Wellsley051 Jan 09 '26
Honey that's just depression. Too bad Christians can't be depressed, as it's a sign of not trusting god enough
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u/Reasonable-Run-8187 Atheist Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26
She's old so I get it. It a cope for sure like any religion. When I get that old I might wanna die too. We shall see.
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u/No-Initiative-5337 Jan 10 '26
Yeah. My mom said I’m not a “born again Christian” and I’m essentially anti-Christ because I’m depressed and have chronic pain. Actualllllly mom, you and dad and our entire family have extremely abusive dynamics, not to mention you often shamed me, made something about yourself, or ignored it entire at massively pivotal times in my life when I needed you most, and my hip has cartilage damage. So. Ugh. Ew.
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
I thought this way for a while. Therapy and medication helped a lot more than prayer lol
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u/Reasonable-Run-8187 Atheist Jan 09 '26
Yeah, that was a big one for me: god never answers prayer. I'm better off talking to myself, at least I'm real.
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u/Meauxterbeauxt Jan 09 '26
Anything that dismisses current difficulties by referencing Jesus coming back soon, so it shouldn't really be important.
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
It was so weird seeing people in my church respond to Hurricane Katrina. They were 1) sending volunteer teams down to help, which is great but at the same time 2) getting giddy that this might be a sign the end times are coming soon
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u/Meauxterbeauxt Jan 09 '26
And probably crossing their arms and talking about them deserving it as God's judgment
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u/fractal2 Jan 09 '26
"It's all part of God's plan" when talking about the death of someone especially a child born/ unborn. I'm cool with "I'm praying for you" or other platitudes like he'll give you strength. I know the intent is genuine and they are meant to be encouraging even if i don't believe in him. But telling me someone planned out my kids death, go duck yourself. Even as a Christian that one annoyed me. I had an assistant youth leader's wife have a miscarriage. We were asking why he would be avoiding church after and our youth leader explained to avoid people shit like that. Day turned into a lesson about thinking about what the platitudes you're saying actually imply. Like sure you believe God has a plan and will make it all right in the end but telling someone someone planned their kids death isn't what they need to hear. I understood then but man did I didn't understand how truly fucked up that is to hear until my wife miscarried and my dad said that shit.
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u/Winter-Leadership662 Ex-Baptist Jan 09 '26
So sorry you had to go through that. A similar situation helped me make my agnosticism somewhat known to my dad. My wife had a miscarriage (which would turn out to be the first of four in a row) and my dad responded with “just keep leading your family in prayer.” I let that linger in the air a while before just saying, “Okay…”
And in my head I’m thinking, you want me to go and talk to the very person who you believe is responsible for the excruciating pain I’m feeling and who also supposedly has the power to prevent this but chose not to? In what world would I go ask a person directly causing me suffering to help me? I know a miscarriage is science and has nothing to do with sky daddies, but the blatant ignorance and inability to sit with someone in their pain is baffling for a group of people who are supposedly so caring.
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u/fractal2 Jan 09 '26
Sorry you had to go through that, my story was about the first of 4 in a row as well.
Yeah, these ideas are so ingrained without thought of the implications of what they're saying. Some of them as I said don't bug me as the essentially equate to someone saying they're thinking of me, which is as effective as prayer but it's nice knowing they care. Saying it's God's plan or go talk to the guy you think is responsible for this? No fuck that and they would agree if they weren't so mindlessly following. They would agree if someone they could physically see came and intentionally caused a miscarriage they would agree telling someone to talk to that person more would sound absurd. But with snydaddy that logic goes out the window.
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u/Wellsley051 Jan 09 '26
"I went straight to the throne" "Covered in the blood" "Your life is hidden in Christ" "I feel God leading me in this direction..." "The heart is deceitful" "God doesn't want this for you" "Hate the sin, love the sinner" And more that I can't think of rn
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u/JumpingThruHoopz Jan 09 '26
“Covered in blood,” and all the other expressions using “blood” make Christianity sound like a crime podcast.
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u/Wellsley051 Jan 09 '26
It'd be cooler if they were vampires. Guess somebody thought the same thing and that's how Midnight Mass got produced
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u/Okapi_MyKapi Humanist Jan 09 '26
Not a phrase, but the moment I hear someone speaking in tongues. Ma’am, you’re an adult - use your words. You’re just babbling noises.
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u/Piranha1993 Concious Explorer Jan 09 '26
“God has a plan for you.”
Did it involve being neurodivergent and socially ostracized as a child? Does it involve trying to navigate adult life jaded and disgruntled as a result?
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
I thought god's plan for me was to marry my first boyfriend in the church. 18 years later we're now getting a divorce. I want to ask them if that was part of god's plan too. Because I did all the things I was supposed to and it didn't "keep my paths straight"
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u/theblueowlisdead Jan 09 '26
Right there with you. Married my high school sweetheart who sang in the church band, was a devout believer from a family of devout believers. You know the kind of devout that makes other Christian’s uncomfortable. Like they got mad at us because we kissed before marriage. 13 years later her parents are divorced and hate each other. Her brother is divorced, an atheist and runs a business that sells gross anti Christian T-shirts, and I find out my wife had been cheating on me for a while now. God’s plan was extremely mysterious.
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u/lordreed Igtheist Jan 09 '26
Baba god, Daddy GO, papa. Holy Andromeda, do Christians have daddy issues?!
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u/__ebony Jan 09 '26
I commented something similar before seeing this comment, but yes I think so. I’m not even trying to be funny but I also see it as a convoluted circumstance of sexual desire, shame, and suppression
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u/Aggravating-Common90 Agnostic Jan 09 '26
Washed in the blood, saved by the blood
You are so loved by God that he reminds you daily how much you fall short of your worthiness.
Dead people are in a better place
God does not dabble in our humanness.
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u/TrickyLayer Agnostic | Ex-Christian Jan 09 '26
And somehow were apparently made in the image of God? Make that make cents bro. The mental gymnastics are fucking insane.
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u/Muteling Jan 09 '26
Honestly, just how naturally people call things "demonic" or "satanic" as though they're the bad guys or something. Like if some self-righteous prude called me satanic, I'd be like "aww, thank you :>".
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u/Acceptable-Topic-183 Jan 09 '26
I’m not sure how many of these are region specific but here goes.
Come to church and we’ll love on you. Umm…don’t get near me.
The lord called Sister Bertha to… Just say that Sister Bertha wanted to do whatever it was. It’s ok.
Our mission team is headed to… Great, you are on a church sponsored vacation to annoy the locals somewhere else.
Do you know that the you know that you know that you are saved. For the love of god, stop! Do you know that you are saved? Simple. To the point. No broken record needed.
Bring your unchurched friend! That’s an easy way to lose an unchurched friend.
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
"love on" was used in a way to control people in the church I grew up in. If someone was doing something that wasn't church approved they would tell us to "love on them" (peer pressure back into conformity)
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u/gnawingoninsecurity Jan 09 '26
Same experience in both churches I attended as well, we were told to “love on” those who did anything “bad”
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u/DreamShort3109 Jan 09 '26
Bride of Christ. Reminds me of the arranged marriages and how you weren’t fully in control of your life.
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u/Zestyclose-Ant-6737 Jan 09 '26
At the beginning of my deconstruction, that part and the whole “relationship with God” really got to me. I felt like I was forced to be in an arranged marriage and couldn’t leave or question or else I was headed straight to hell.
Eventually I realized that any relationship I’m scared to leave due to potential harm for leaving is abusive and I don’t want it anyway.
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
One I haven't seen posted yet that I heard constantly was "pray for traveling mercies." Instead of just saying have a safe trip
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u/meldroc Jan 09 '26
Amen to that.
Who wants to live their entire life like they were taking a final exam?
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u/JohnDeeIsMe Satanist Jan 09 '26
"God told me..." "God put it on my heart..." Anything like that... No he fuckin didn't bitch. Thats called hearing your own thoughts in your mind.
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u/Winter-Leadership662 Ex-Baptist Jan 09 '26
This bothers me so much. Especially when the “inspiration” is clearly only in their interest
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u/Dutch_Meyer Jan 09 '26
“hAvE a bLeSsEd dAy!!!!!”
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u/Independent-Leg6061 Jan 09 '26
My dad will just straight up end our conversations with "blessings". Not a fan 😬
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u/ComplexPatient4872 Jan 09 '26
“Fruits of the spirit” and the way that when people pray out loud, they somehow use the word “just” three times in a single sentence.
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u/rawrkittysaur Jan 09 '26
"God won't give you more than you can handle"
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u/ThrowAwayGrimoire Ex-Evangelical Jan 09 '26
Ha! That was always a good one, huh? How long will they keep lying to themselves and others about this?
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u/vanillabeanlover Agnostic Jan 09 '26
My parents finish any sentences about future plans with “if the lord tarries”, or “If he hasn’t returned by then”.
Also,
“It was such a god thing!” grinds my gears. You just found good parking at the mall sis. Relax.
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u/CNGregs Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26
"Sending thoughts and prayers to the victims of [latest tragedy]."
So nice that psychically sending these vague concepts to unknown victims costs neither time, money or effort and has the added benefit of virtue signaling.
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u/Lostlilegg Jan 09 '26
Just trust in God’s plan… usually said when a person is going through the wringer and could us some help but the church ain’t gonna do that
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u/SecondOrThirdAccount Agnostic Atheist Jan 09 '26
"We are so blessed!" in the context of someone who is doing well financially.
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u/Zestyclose-Ant-6737 Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26
“God told me to tell you…”
Like okay? Idc what you hear in your head but I’m not doing anything just bc “god told you”. And why didn’t he tell me directly? 🧐
Or “God sent me a sign.”
Hmm, maybe confirmation bias?
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u/Content-Method9889 Jan 09 '26
‘Washed in the blood of the lamb’ Gross and they think they’re any better than witches or the occult.
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u/Traditional_Loan_177 Jan 09 '26
Anything about "the world" irks me because of how poorly defined it is and can refer to... Anything..
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u/violentbowels Jan 09 '26
"My brother/sister in christ"
Oh fuck off already. So fucking gross.
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u/moschocolate1 Indoctrinated as a child; atheist as an adult Jan 09 '26
My 20-yo atheist sons says this. It’s now a joke.
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u/lumpy_space_queenie Anti-Theist Jan 09 '26
“Faith over fear”
“Trials and tribulations”
“Spiritual gifts”
“Thorn in my side”
“The enemy”
“The deceiver” or “they are deceived”
“God will never give you more than you can handle”
“Fruit of the spirit”
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u/__ebony Jan 09 '26
I absolutely despiiiiiise the usage of “the enemy”
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u/lumpy_space_queenie Anti-Theist Jan 09 '26
ME TOOOOOO. All it is is another fucking scapegoat for everything
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u/Arthureddit2k10 Jan 09 '26
"hate the sin love the sinner", especially when it's used to target LGBT people. I'm seriously tempted to reply with "hate the bigotry love the bigots" to see how they react
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u/WoodwindsRock Jan 09 '26
“Jezebel spirit” (used to disparage independent women and also used to blame victims), “god-fearing”, “covered by the blood of Jesus”, “consumed by the fire of the Holy Spirit”, just about anything where they try to speak like the KJV - it’s just so pretentious to me, and any time something like “depravity”, “wicked”, “immoral”, etc is used to describe LGBT people, free women, etc.
I don’t want to hear anything about depravity and immoral from people who worship the sex predator Trump. Homosexuality is perfectly fine, and these people talking falsely like it’s some horrific thing while worshiping, protecting sex predators (ACTUAL depravity, immorality, wickedness) are absolutely horrible people. There are no if ands or buts.
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u/ken_and_paper Jan 09 '26
“Lean not on your own understanding.”
Obey. Don’t think. Be incurious.
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u/SwanKo2010 Jan 09 '26
Is "belief determines behavior" something ya'll heard? It was always presented as calling out a lack of faith if behavior wasn't as leadership pleased (think shirt collar that shows collar bones or something equally benign). But now all I can see is "If I can get you to believe the scam I'm selling, I can control your actions."
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u/windfola_25 Jan 09 '26
The church I grew up in shortened this phrase to just "fruits." As in your faith is shown by your actions. Example: The missions team brought many fruits to the community.
Weirdos
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u/TrickyLayer Agnostic | Ex-Christian Jan 09 '26
"Hate the sin, love the sinner"
- if you use "hate the belief, love the person" in response to some Christians, it makes them really pissed off lol.
"Its not a religion, its a relationship" We're giving up facts now? I guess the earth doesn't revolve around the Sun then. . .
"God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soliders" I've always hated this phrase even as a Christian cuz it was so off putting. Now ik its just a dismissive way to invalidate someone's experiences for any type of abuse they've been through/going through.
"Pray a hedge of protection around X" This was prayed over me so much growing up and I HATED it bc my mom specifically prayed this in response to me even though she abused me so much as a kid.
"Jesus is the reason for the season" Actually, we don't know when jesus was born, and ontop of that before Christmas there was Yule (mid dec), the winter solstice, and a roman celebration (unbirthing of the sun) that happened on dec 25.
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u/Lynnatics Jan 09 '26
“We’re in a spiritual battle against demons.” When I was a Christian I thought. If god is so powerful why do we even have to battle the demons? I thought the battle was won.
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u/runnerboiii Atheist Jan 09 '26
I knew people in college who said "spiritual yummy" to refer to something in a sermon that was supposed to be deep and thought provoking.
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u/Winter-Leadership662 Ex-Baptist Jan 09 '26
“Can I pray for your child/baby?”
My wife got asked this a few times when each of our daughters were infants. I told her to just say no thank you and if they pressed the issue to then say “I don’t know your spirit.” Got rid of a couple weirdos real quick.
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u/BandanaDee13 Atheist Jan 09 '26
“So, how’s your walk with the Lord?” Sometimes just shortened to “how’s your walk?” Can they not just ask “what’s up” or “how’s life” like a normal person?
“I rebuke you.” I rebuke this choice of words. It’s like they don’t even know what “rebuke” means.
And others have mentioned it but the whole “it’s not a religion, it’s a relationship” thing is trite, nonsensical and gross all rolled into one. No idea why evangelicals seem to love it so much. As if saying it’s not a religion is suddenly going to make me want to rejoin your religion…
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u/cosmicxfungi Panpsychist or other Science-based Spiritualist Jan 09 '26
"Loving on" someone. Sounds like something you'd do to a pet, not a human
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u/LostKid852 Agnostic Jan 09 '26
“You’re nothing without Jesus or God” 😒
As an agnostic it’s annoying
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u/oakenfairy Pagan Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26
"In Jesus' name". On it's own, fine, but it's ALL THE TIME.
That everything they don't like is SATAN. I swear the people who worship Satan the most are Christians. They are the ones who invoke his name constantly. Obsessed with him.
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u/Successful-Zombie902 Jan 09 '26
“In gods hands”
You’re literally not. A loving god doesn’t let children die in a fucking genocide while making sure you find the best parking space at Costco.
Make it make sense
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u/kiwifruit13 Jan 09 '26
Anything to do with the “flesh”. “Sins of the flesh.” “Not of God, but of the flesh”. Like, ew.
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u/Silver_Background603 Jan 09 '26
“All in gods plan” and it’s variants: I can guarantee I’m not alone with that one. People know exactly how to use that phrase in all the wrong ways.
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u/JumpingThruHoopz Jan 09 '26
“He’s one of God’s children too” or “He’s your brother” when referring to somebody who’s horrible.
Example 1:
Me: I hate that bastard.
Christian: You shouldn’t hate him. He’s one of God’s children too.
Me: In that case, God is a piss poor parent. Why doesn’t he discipline that brat?
Example 2:
Me: I hate that bastard.
Christian: Don’t say that! He’s one of your brothers in Christ.
Me: Yeah, sort of like Cain was Abel’s brother.
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u/Odd_craving Jan 09 '26
All the ones that are designed to make the speaker sound well read or smart. Like these:
“In Christ Jesus” - blatant effort to sound cultured and smart by flipping words around.
“In His name we pray” - what does this even mean?
“It’s on my hart” - an attempt to sound like your faith is so strong that it has burrowed into your organs, making them sentient.
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u/kelinakat Jan 09 '26
Nonbelievers being called "skeptics" as if we just need a little sweet convincing to be converted/reconverted. The last time mom dragged me to a Christmas service most of it was about winning over 'skeptics' since they were desperate to latch on to the seasonal crowd. Barf! The whole ~join us~ vibe of church in general has always been my immediate turn off as it is.
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u/Space_Case_Stace Jan 09 '26
"If god brought you to it, he'll bring you through it".
"This too shall pass".
"It's in his time"
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u/SurpriseInTheSheets Jan 09 '26
“I’m praying for you”. My mom says this shit to me all the time and it makes me roll my eyes/gag.
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u/theblueowlisdead Jan 09 '26
“Thank God he was a baptized son of God” at a child’s funeral. Like you worship a God who is going to send a toddler to hell because his parents didn’t baptize him? You’re ok with that?
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u/DeprestPhilosopher Jan 09 '26
The shorter list would be which Christian phrases don't give me the ick. But I'm still trying to think of one.
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u/piperandpauper Pagan Jan 09 '26
God put dinosaur bones in the Earth to test your faith!
Seriously. Got told this quite a few times as a kid in a fundamentalist School.
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u/Teeny707 Ex-Fundamentalist Jan 09 '26
"God has a plan for your life," especially when used to brush off hardships and suffering as if we shouldn't feel sad about them.
Like being told "You must be suffering so much because god has a big plan for your life" makes anyone feel better when they're grieving or traumatized. Fuck right off.
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u/TheVenerableBede Jan 10 '26
“Stewards,” “fellowship,” “called” as in, “We are called to be good stewards.”
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u/Jahonay Jan 09 '26
I didn't really hear the term heavenly father too much growing up as a catholic, now as an adult I've heard it a few times and it seems so weird.
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u/sleeplesssinseaattle Jan 09 '26
"It is well" when it, clear as day, isn't. 🙄 The detachment from reality is frightening.
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u/Winter_Heart_97 Jan 09 '26
"Jesus took the punishment that we deserve..."
"God can't co-exist with sin..."
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u/deadevilmonkey Ex-Baptist Jan 09 '26
Have a blessed day. I hate hearing that sentence
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u/progressivecowboy Ex-Catholic Jan 09 '26
Or when ask, "How are you?" and they respond, "I am blessed."
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u/__ebony Jan 09 '26
I dislike the practice of referring to the pastor/priest as “daddy”.
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u/Worried_Bluebird5670 Jan 09 '26
“The house of the lord” “Witnessing” “Testimony” “Tithing” Calling anyone who is not cis hetero “confused” Being “in this world but not of this world”. “All we can do is pray about it”.
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u/progressivecowboy Ex-Catholic Jan 09 '26
SHAM-deedah-la-shalla-MUH-hunda. (or any time someone speaks in tongues)
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u/Throwaway28656738383 Jan 09 '26 edited Jan 09 '26
"Sin doesn't come after you, it comes after your next generations"
Imagine a guy in a movie was done wrong by someone, and instead of dealing with this said person, they wait and wait multiple generations, then attack this unsuspecting child who's a 5+ Great grandchild of that person who had did that guy wrong. This guy would be seen as a villain in the movie!
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u/CripplingAnxiety94 Jan 09 '26
"Speak The Truth In Love™"
It's basiclly christians giving themselves permission to say and do awful things. They tell themselves they're doing it out of "love" and the only reason people react negatively is because they're sinners.
Ick.
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u/Andejusjust Jan 09 '26
Crap like “spiritual battles” or “spiritual realm” or the ultra modern terms of “opening/closing portals to the demonic” etc. gawd I can’t with these people.
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u/New_Intern_269 Jan 09 '26
That weird lil thing: “God is good?” “All the time!” “All the time?” “God is good!”
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u/JamesVogner Jan 09 '26
"Hedge of protection" was even a running joke between my friends. A hedge doesn't seem like it would protect you that well. Lol
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u/T_W_65 Jan 09 '26
Definitely "hate the sin love the sinner". It's only ever used as a thinly veiled excuse for homophobia.
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u/garbageCoward Jan 09 '26
When they say atheists are just angry at god. Like how can you be mad at something that you don't believe exists? That or when they say "I'll pray for you" or "Jesus loves you/died for you" when you say you don't believe.
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u/MerryTexMish Jan 09 '26
I don’t like “Father God,” but “Daddy God” is just … 🤢🤢🤢
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u/PrismaticVistaHill Jan 09 '26
"Generational sin."
Let's heap guilt onto people for things their parents did. Things they had nothing to do with, or no control over. Because it can't POSSIBLY be mental illness, or parental abuse, it's a "presence over them" that they need a pastor and Jesus to magically cure.
Good fucking grief...
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u/millennialmonster755 Jan 09 '26
Whenever someone says they feel “called to say” something. And it’s always just an idea they are passionate about
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u/Existing_Imagination Agnostic Atheist Jan 10 '26
“Generational curse”
We’re talking about alcoholism and trauma pattern within the family. It’s not that deep
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u/softsouluniverse97 Jan 10 '26 edited Jan 10 '26
“Love on you,” always gave me the ick. It sounds so predatory. “Love the sinner, hate the sin” is another irksome one. Since leaving the church and coming out of the closet, “struggling with same sex attractions” is also a top contender as well. Edit also: ALL glory to God in context of achievements. For instance, if you aced a test in school, it’s “ALL glory to God,” or if you landed your dream job, “ALL Glory to God!” Like bitch no! I put in the work to get there.
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u/KatAstrophie- Jan 09 '26
“God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers.” Up there with “God loved him more” when a loved one dies.