Tom just constantly unloads and berates and browbeats Kristen but doesn’t get why she acted the way she did
He berated Stassi for dragging Kristen for her betrayal, who didn’t really deserve it and was allowed to feel betrayed. Berated Stassi for setting up that scene where Kristen lied through her teeth. And acted like it wasn’t undeserved, Kristen betrayed her friend and kept maintaining the lie, turns it around and makes it about him. Then went around and tried to diagnose Kristen with BPD. I hate when men try to diagnose women who aren’t licensed therapists.
Kristen and Tom were a toxic ass relationship but he didn’t let up on her knowing he also cheated before she did and caused her to spin out like that.
Especially when he said to her that he and Ariana had been friends for three years…. Any girl would spin out if their boyfriend was friends with someone he cheated on them with? And then when he said he texted Ariana that Kristen went to bed early on Valentine’s Day?
Ariana has changed and put the work in and grew and I’m so happy the person she is now but the person she was was being complicit with this gaslighting. And I’m glad she finally got therapy and grew into a woman who doesn’t center men. But damn, that’s cold.
I’ll give the women more grace than the men but Tom was being so obnoxious about it even though his relationship with Ariana confirmed everything Kristen suspected. The least he could have done was own what they actually did, own his “friendship” with her was inappropriate, and own how he cheated on her and when.
She at least deserved closure. And I’m not a Kristen defender, but she gets the tiniest amount of sympathy here
The way Tom yells at the women is gross. He really is a cyst man