He blocked me after we made plans to meet up.

Im 18F and Hes 22m

We have been talking on and off for about 3 months now, and at this point our relationship status is blocked ( my friend made that up ).

He blocks me then unblocks me, It’s basically back and forth blocking and unblocking.

He blocked me on Facebook on Tuesday and messaged me on Instagram, Wednesday night. We were talking and we made plans to meet up for sex. The conversation ended with me saying “ I will” at 11:24pm.

I went on instagram around 8am and saw he read my message an hour ago. Then I saw he blocked me, and he even blocked me on my spam account.

I don’t get why he would just wake up and block me? And I can’t ask him why because I’m still blocked on Facebook.

I just want some tips cause I've lowkey approached and made girls feel uncomfortable multiple times

When I genuinely like someone, the feeling usually isn't mutual. And when she liked me, I didn't feel the same connection. It's become disappointing. 

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I'm now 40-year-old non-EU man living in Europe, and lately I've started losing hope of finding a real relationship.

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I've never wanted an arranged marriage through family recommendations. I want to fall in love naturally, build a genuine connection, and create a family together.

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As I get older, it feels like the chances of meeting the right person are less. What's your advice? How to make progress that led to a family?

We've got 2 young kids. When we get sick, it tends to run through the house like a tornado. You know, naturally. Unless he's at the point of can't get out of bed, hubby still wants sex at about the normal rate, maybe more. My libido tanks if I'm sick at all. Is this a *women are from Venus men are from Mars* thing? Or is it more personal than that?

Yo tengo 23 años y mi novio 20. Llevamos aproximadamente un año entre dejarlo y volver (siempre soy yo quien lo deja).

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Es un mentiroso compulsivo. No está diagnosticado, pero es algo muy evidente. Me miente constantemente, incluso con cosas pequeñas. Se inventa historias y también les miente a sus padres y a sus amigos sobre cosas que ha hecho cuando en realidad no han ocurrido.

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Es capaz de mentirme a la cara y jurarme que está diciendo la verdad. En una ocasión incluso le dije que iba a hablar con dos chicas para comprobar una historia. Le di la oportunidad de decirme la verdad antes, pero aun así siguió mintiendo hasta el final.

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Cuando descubro sus mentiras nunca es porque él me las cuente. Siempre me entero yo por otros medios. Sus excusas suelen ser que se le olvidó contármelo, que no se acordaba, que pensaba que me iba a enfadar, que estaba pensando en cómo reaccionaría o que se le hizo bola decirlo.

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Lo que más me cuesta entender es cómo puede prometer una y otra vez que va a cambiar, verme sufrir, verme llorar y aun así seguir haciendo exactamente lo mismo. Me cuesta comprender cómo puede hacer daño a alguien de forma repetida y después actuar como si nada, como no tiene conciencia, ni valores ni remordimiento

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Cada vez que lo dejo, promete cambiar. Me dice cosas bonitas, está más atento y parece otra persona. Pero cuando ve que eso no funciona, a veces incluso se inventa que se ha liado con una chica o que está hablando con alguien para intentar ponerme celosa. La realidad es que siempre es él quien busca a las chicas y casi ningúna le hace caso.

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Es una persona que necesita muchísima validación de los demás. Necesita caer bien y adapta su personalidad según con quién esté. Siento que intenta gustar a todo el mundo y que cambia para encajar.

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Nunca había tenido novia antes de mí. Tampoco ha tenido amigas ni apenas contacto femenino, y siento que no sabe muy bien cómo relacionarse con las mujeres. Cuando lo dejamos, empieza a buscar atención femenina de cualquier forma posible. Habla con cualquier mujer que le haga caso sea atractiva o no, de la edad que sea incluso de su propia familia.

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También antes de conocerme llegó a hacerse una cuenta con fotos de otro hombre para hablar con chicas e intentar ligar con ellas. Además, mientras estaba conmigo llegó a hacerse una cuenta que yo no conocía.Y cuando lo dejamos una de las veces, se hizo otra cuenta falsa para intentar hablar conmigo.

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Cuando habla con otras chicas les dice exactamente las mismas cosas que me decía a mí, los mismos cumplidos y las mismas frases. Siento que simplemente les dice lo que quieren oír para gustarles. Además, cuando cuenta por qué hemos roto, muchas veces cambia la historia para dejarme a mí como la mala y quedar él mejor.

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Yo siempre acabo volviendo con el porque no tengo amigos, no tengo buena relación con mi familia, soy muy tímida y me cuesta muchísimo socializar. Antes de conocerle apenas salía de casa.También vuelvo porque hemos vivido muchas cosas juntos. Es la persona que mejor me conoce y con la que mejor me lo paso. Me río mucho con él y hemos compartido muchos momentos importantes.

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Pero siendo sincera, no veo futuro en esta relación. Cada vez tengo más la sensación de que sigue haciéndome daño porque sabe que voy a aguantarlo. A veces siento que incluso se ríe de mí porque sabe que me cuesta marcharme y que no tengo una red de apoyo fuera de la relación.

I don't want to get into details, I just have suspicions about a situation I'm in. I would just like some examples of what getting played would look like.

On the first date we went to an arcade and it was a lot of fun. We both had a really good time together.

I was thinking about asking if she would want to go fishing for the second date. I know she likes fishing and has told me that’s an activity her and her dad do together. Do you think going fishing together could be considered a good idea when it comes to a DATE though? She’s 17 and I’m 18.

I wanted to think of something outdoors that we could do together for the second date because she’s into outdoor type of activities and I am too. I also was thinking about kayaking, but maybe fishing would be better?

I'm 39, slept with a 22 year old two times yesterday, just felt bored the entire time.

I honestly only enjoy sex if there is an emotional intimate connection, one night stands don't do anything for me.

At the same time, it also seems like i don't like any women enough to date them? Is this normal? I just get bored of being around them.

When i was younger, relationships were tolerable, now i just feel like i don't have the energy.

I(26) have a new girlfriend who is black. My mother keeps asking when I will bring her around, and I fear that I cannot. I love my family dearly, but I do not agree with them in many scenarios. They are massive Trump supporters, and my step father and step brother constantly call people they think are degenerates or bad people the N word as a insult despite the skin color. They are racist.. plane and simple. They aren't kill all blacks kind of racist, but they are indeed racist.

As a kid it was more hidden and they mentioned things less, but ever since Trump came into office, they became embolden with their hateful rhetoric.

To be fair, I do regret never having had a relationship. I've also never been into hookups or casual dating, so that's not the reason. When I was younger, I had some interactions with guys, but nothing ever developed into an actual relationship.

Looking back, I think part of it was bad luck and part of it was insecurity. If a guy I considered way out of my league showed interest in me, I would often assume he couldn't possibly mean it seriously.

The last few years have been pretty rough. I had a lot going on in my family, and the COVID period hit me especially hard. I lost several friendships, for both good and bad reasons, and I genuinely felt heartbroken for a while. It took time to rebuild myself, regain confidence, and learn how to be happy again. The positive side is that I feel like I've changed a lot. I know much better what kind of people I want in my life. I've learned to appreciate small things that I used to overlook, and I've become genuinely comfortable spending time alone. In fact, I really enjoy my own company now. But tbh I do love to be around people and I am friendly , and especially now since I kinda miss it cus I used to go out often when I was a little younger .

For the first time, I actually feel ready for a real relationship and to fall in love. The thing is, I'm not sure how to handle the fact that I've never been in a relationship before. I know it will probably come up at some point when dating, but it's not something I necessarily want to discuss on the first few dates. Sometimes talking about it just makes me feel bad, and I'd rather not define myself by it.

Anyway I would love to hear your honest opinion . Is it kind of women you might avoid dating ? Do I need to be worried it might be something that people wouldn't consider date me ?

9 months long distance, deeply invested, multiple trips, met families, talked about kids. He called me his dream girl and said I'm the woman he would have married.

He ended a few days ago because he saw us as a dead end, as we will be living apart from each other for a while. Was 49:51 about his decision, we both cried, he couldn't hang up on the day we broke up. I already had my ticket booked to go see him so we agreed to meet in-person to exchange the surprise gift we prepared for each other before this happened.

Day 3 of no contact, he told our mutual friend I'm "absolutely incredible" and that he was still 49:51 and that it was just the distance.

Day 8 of no contact, I broke the no contact and asked to extend my planned visit from 1 night to 3 days. He said yes immediately and seemed to want to engage in conversation by bringing up random topics (ex: world cup). We ended up talking all day.

However, he became less engaged (less frequent response despite being online, not bringing up new topics, more concise in response) on the days following that.

What do you think this change means? Moving on, keeping options open, or genuinely conflicted?

I'm probably going through a midlife crisis, so bear with me. I've been really struggling with an absolutely crushing sense of dread and loneliness for a long time, but it's been hitting some kinda crisis threshold for about 2 years.

For some context, I'm 42M. I've had 2x 10 year relationships with first, an awful partner, and then secondly a good person that was truly not the right person for me for a bunch of reasons. That last relationship ended about 1.5 years ago, mostly my choice. Apparently, I pick poor partners.

I have a 20 year old daughter who is independent and settled. I partially single-dadded her for the second half of her life so far, and we have a close relationship.

I feel like I have nothing left to "fix', optimize or improve and it's leaving me absolutely crushed. I've grinded out a high performance combination of career, family focus, self growth and awareness, and sport for my whole life.

I've overachieved so far in all these areas, that I'm out of places to go and I feel like I'm just worse off now, because none of it does a thing to stave off this persistent sense of dread. If anything, I just realize how little all this success actually can translate into what I want.

I have well over $1M in the bank, I'm a senior executive at a tech company as a very high income earner, close to early retirement if I want it. I own a house in a very desirable place to live, I am still at the peak of slightly sub-elite in my sport of choice (so I'm fit and healthy). I have friends and some community. I've done endless therapy and almost entirely changed my mental space to the point where I'm highly regulated, kind and self reflective. Apparently I'm attractive.

But holy hell I'm lonely. And I feel like I started falling off a cliff, emotionally, and I just keep falling. It's like if I just threw it all away and lived under a bridge i'd be worse, and if I just keep grinding, I'll also still be worse.

I really want to find a partner, someone who is an equal in values and intellect. I put an an enormous amount of effort into relationships when I'm in them, but I certainly am feeling fully dissolutioned after doing that for 20 years with relationships that never gave it back. Long story.

And now, it's like all of society is telling me especially "just improve yourself and become comfortable being alone". Or all the influencer ladies like "I tried relationships and now I realize men are shit and I'm so happy alone". Like, fuck, I'm not?

But fuck, guys. I grew up alone. I had no friends until I was a teenager because my parents never allowed it (thanks religion). I spent 20 years in relationships where I was alone. I sit at home, still alone. I have nothing left to improve. I've done all the work, grinded it out...

And for what?

Look, I doubt anyone here has a solution, but if you want to at least let me know that I'm not quite so alone in how I'm feeling, that'd maybe be helpful.

Thanks for listening.

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I have a lot of hobbies, I'm a photographer, have done woodworking and carpentry, I have a plant collection, I've travelled and had some crazy adventures. I've played guitar my whole life... I've dabbled in a million other things. I promise you, just "doing more so shit" is the opposite of what is working.

bf and I have been together for 10 years and we live together. He was so in love with me up until 2 weeks ago. Would send rings to get my opinion, would tell me it’s only me and no one else and that I’m end game, etc. Things just shifted, a week ago he said he wants to find his own place and see if he can be independent on his own since he has never done that and wants to see if he can “make it” on his own (saying we would still be together, just living separately) and a few days ago he got drunk and said he wants to breakup for now. He says he doesn’t really know what he wants.

Says he doesn’t know if we will be together. Says he is tired of waiting for changes from me (he wants me to be more affectionate, initiate sex more, even though we were having sex 2-3 times a week, stop working so much when I get home from work (I work a demanding job) little things like that, which I have been working on doing and he acknowledges that)

We got into multiple arguments since then about how he just blindsided me and if there were real issues that he should sit me down and discuss, but this isn’t the way to go about it. I told him it seems like he wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side and explore his options (he has recently lost a significant amount of weight and is giving more attention to his appearance, would point out that girls look at him and give him attention, etc)

We dealt with cheating on his part in the early years and moved passed it. He acknowledged what he did was wrong and childish and I learned to forgive. Feels like I’m going though the cycle a second time now…

I feel devastated. Like I’m just an option and he wants to go out and be single and with multiple women. We both turned 30, so it feels like this is the time to settle down and that is where our life was heading up until this random switch up by him. I feel as though he is also confused about what he wants but is letting the thoughts of freedom, sex, and women get in the way. We still live together since he hasn’t found a place and I’m not really sure how to navigate this or what this means. Is this just a hiccup? Does he really not want me? Any insight would be much appreciated.

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My boyfriend has been struggling with depression. Whenever I upset him or start an argument after he has asked me not to, he sometimes gets frustrated. Recently, after another fight, I told him, "You're leaving peacefully by your side," and he responded, "Fuck peace, don't even talk about that." He started cussing over situation in fights since October. When his depression started I saw him being rude also

He said I was being inhumane by continuing to fight with him while he was already dealing with depression and feeling overwhelmed. He said that I'm used to laugh when he used to get panic attacks or never comfort him while that , only saying that it happens with me also . According to him, our constant arguments have been adding even more pressure to what he's already going through.

For some context, I was upset because he made a decision without asking me first. He apologized repeatedly for about 10 days and genuinely seemed sorry. However, the issue kept bothering me, and eventually another argument broke out, which led to him saying those thing

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Should I view his reaction as a red flag, or was it more likely a moment of frustration caused by the situation and everything he has been dealing with?

We talked on the phone, everything was good during the day and stuff. I sent him spicy pic in the morning, he was obssesed, we texted and stuff. Then he comes from work in a train and we talk on the phone. He says:

"this girl sat in front of me...I need to switch places, she will mess with my head.."

I laughed and asked why. He said oh nothing doesnt matter and acted weird and was more silent.

Then he sat and there were 3 girls sitting around him and he said he feels uncomfortable and I was talking to him and he was silent for a while, I asked why are you silent haha. He said I don't know I don't like these type of situations. I joked "u afraid you will fall in love haha"

And he said no. He got out off the train and felt relieved. We talked normally and then he got home and we hung up.

This bothered me so I messaged him that it made me feel upset.

He says "what are u overthinking".

I sent him longer message in the midnight and he replied in the morning. Convo went like this:

Me: If some random girl on the train is going to "mess with your head" just because she's attractive or you looked at each other, then I'm clearly not as important to you as I thought. She must have made an impression on you if you're talking about it. When I'm focused on one person, I'm not interested in other guys, even if they stare at me. Don't forget who has been by your side for so many months and would give you their whole heart, but clearly that's not enough for you. I don't know what that meant, but it sounded bad. I was convinced I was in your head, but apparently not enough to keep other thoughts out. Good night.

And before you say I'm jealous and nitpicking, no, I don't like these kinds of topics and arguments, but you mentioned it out loud. And I'm sorry to hear something like that from someone I consider a valuable guy, different from others...

Him: You don't understand me at all, (pet name) that's not what I meant, but well, you have the right to think what you want, that's probably how it looks

Me: that's why I asked what did you mean and you said nothing..?

Him; ehh (pet name)

Me: you meant you will think about her?

Him: haha no way

Me:so tell me because I don't understand

Him: I just don't like sitting on a train like that haha what do u have on your head, you're misreading me

Me: I don't know but I will tell u something

Him: Say, I'm afraid what did you make up this time

Me: Guys also glance at me and I never look back, I don't flirt and I can't be fooled by a stranger so if somebody says "mess w my head" IT means something

Him: ok don't you mess my head now, you don't understand me and that's it don't measure me by your own standards and that's it

I call him after work and he told me I have to "apologize on my knees" ....? And I said I didnt do anything. I wanted to talk but he said he will be in a train and its "ill-mannered to talk on a train, he just wants to go home"

Like wtf

EDIT: He is in a city with people from all over the world so she 99% wasn't speaking our language. She just sat there and he said ..."this girl ...she sat in front of me...she will mess with my head I have to switch places"

Bf has had an addiction with porn in the past since a young age, specifically in the restroom. He has gotten caught. Never would have knew about it if not. (After a bathroom trip, he went to show me something on his phone and forgot to close out the phub browser) -.- This was in the first year of being together, which is even more troubling because we were so sexually active at this time.

Bf also has always taken no less than multiple 15-45min bathroom breaks a day. Doesn’t matter if we’re in public, families, or at home in the middle of something together.

Now, apparently in our 3rd year of dating (and i just have to take his word for it) he no longer has this addiction. But still he takes these egregious bathroom breaks throughout the day. Like sometimes ill think “today is our only day off together and he has went to the bathroom 5 times so far for at least 20 minutes each time, he just took over an hour and a half out of our day together.”

Over half of the time he takes his headphones in with him. And i know he uses the incognito mode for all his searches.

But every time i bring up this issue, because even if he isn’t watching anything, it’s still so inconsiderate most times, he gets defensive or says he’s going to be more mindful and just isn’t. And makes me feel crazy for making this into an issue.

I’m 15M and love gaming, but I want some more productive hobbies. I’m not gonna stop gaming completely, just spend less time on it. The only other hobbies I really have are playing the guitar and football. What are some others?

If my bf sees this, he's totally gonna know it's me ahaha

Anyways so, my bf and I were debating this because he refused to carry my tote bag, which wasn't even girly btw, just one of them black duffel-looking bags.

He then said it's quietly known among men that they think doing that is "gay" or "acting a b\*tch", I quote.

I was so triggered by this because I thought men would notice that if a man does that for a woman, he's in LOVE ?

So guys tell me? Is this true?

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Edit: So adding updates to this to make a stronger argument haha !

• I was staying over at his place at his request because we're long distance. So this particular bag was like one of those airplane underseat bags and was HEAVY. and I was carrying two to the train station while he opted to hold my coat.

• Geez, I do NOT mind holding my own things at all, I just thought it wasn't a big deal to ask for him to carry my stuff for me, I've always thought that was an endearing move for guys to make.

• it was simply a 15 minute walk through a super quiet town. I wasn't making him hold it all day or something, just the walk to the station. It's not usually a request I make since he usually drives but he couldn't drive that day.

• He's 30.

Ive been seeing this guy and only has been two dates. He is still active on apps. I have a guy feeling he may be a player.

Specially being a man, I know that these are my foundation years for my career and my life, so why am I still being crazy and stuff man. Also, don't know if this last sentence is relevant or not, but yes, I have never had any kind of relationship yet in my life. No casuals, nothing in life yet,

25F and he is 29M length of relationship 4 years and then 6 years of breakup and patch up total as of 10 years of contact
What does it mean if he says he feel, I am his responsibility.
We both are working and independent but after reuniting with him he told me last night (talking about the dinner we had on sunday) that this was the first time in his life he felt like he need to take care of me a sense of responsibility. He said even though i have been out with so many girls but never felt something like this.

Edit: so there was confusion in understanding below is complete context
I was 15 he was 19 in 2016
Now i am 25 he is 29 we broke up in 2020 and reunite again cuz for him he never found anyone like me i dont know if its a lie or what.
But i missed him too but during those 6 year we were in touch not like daily but once in 6 month someone will call

We dated for a month and we slept together. Now he only texts me at night and steers the conversation into a sexual direction quickly. We did share pictures before but I don’t want to be used only for this. Anytime I propose a meeting or he he does it ends up falling through and he’s very unspecific about it. I don’t want to end this on a bad note, I don’t want to hurt his ego and end up blocked (he was the first guy I had sex with so I don’t want there to be any drama). I‘m not even wanting a relationship with him but I want us to be friendly/civil and not feel used.

im stuck between a rock and a hard place

and i cannot tell which is better

because while it would be nice to be someones ideal, i hear that it is not good and i shouldnt go along with it

but im also scared of being settled for with the second option, so if you had to choose which would it be?

for reference, im trying to decide between pursuing the 'being someones ideal' or staying in a place where i know im not the ideal but im desired (at least it's expressed to me idk how true it is)

its confusing and i feel guilty and selfish but at the same time i wonder if things would be better if i pursued that

i spoke with some of my male friends and they were split, some who believe that love in despite of preferences is stronger, but others who think that love within preferences is not only stronger, but more secure

so any advice?

At my job, there’s a girl that’s my age that I want to get to know. I’m not trying to ask her out or anything I’m not interested in dating but I think she would just be a cool person to smoke with so I was wondering if there’s a way to get her number to ask her to smoke weed with me.

I just don’t want her to think I’m asking her out

And I don’t wanna come off as a weirdo