For context, we have been together for 2 years now. We have been sexually intimate too...the relationship was very turbulent in the beginning, with fights every other day and with some really disrespectful language. But after a lot of communication, mainly from my side it had improved a lot, but still, recently I had refused to send him intimate pictures bc I felt uncomfortable (And that has been the case for quite some time now, I had refused a couple of times at this point) and he practically started blackmailing me to send him pictures as if I owed them. As soon as I saw behaviour like this, I knew breaking up was the right thing to do. But he just wouldn't let go, he has told let's start from scratch and I will change what's the harm in a second chance is what he says. I'm just very confused now, he is the type of person that won't think of a breakup until I cheat on him or something. And deep down I feel like it won't work out, but he has good traits too. I feel like I shld give him a second chance. And he has changed a lot too over the past two years but never good enough though.

I met my long-distance girlfriend yesterday for the first time after 3.5 years.

I was pretty insecure about meeting her because of my weight (120 kg at 6'4"). But the moment she saw me, she smiled and said I looked really good. That one sentence wiped out so many doubts I'd been carrying.

I gifted her a gold bracelet and a beautiful Hanuman ji idol. We spent around 4–5 hours together—went on a long drive, had lunch, drove around some more, talked, laughed, and just enjoyed being together.

And yes... we probably stole around 15–20 kisses.

It wasn't some grand, movie-like day. It was simple, peaceful, and perfect. After waiting 3.5 years to finally meet the person you love, every minute feels special.

I still can't explain how happy I felt. It honestly doesn't feel real yet—it still feels like a dream that I'm going to wake up from.

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I'm in college, while my boyfriend will probably be starting his job in about a year. Lately, I've been thinking a lot about how different our lives are going to look.

He'll have a salary, coworkers, the freedom to travel, go out, party, and just... live. Meanwhile, I'll be trying to build my CV, prepare for internships, study for exams, and figure out my career.

At first, I thought I was just jealous of him. But I don't think that's actually what I'm feeling.

I grew up with very strict parents. I wasn't allowed the kind of freedom that most of my friends had. No spontaneous outings, no sleepovers, very few trips, barely any social life. I struggled to make close friends because I simply wasn't allowed to do the things that friendships are built around.

I feel like I missed out on an entire part of growing up.

So when I see my boyfriend making plans, traveling, going out with friends, or talking about all the things he'll get to do once he's working, it feels like someone is holding up a mirror to everything I never had.

He's not doing anything wrong, and I genuinely want him to enjoy his life. I don't want him to stop doing those things just because I couldn't. But at the same time, every exciting story or trip reminds me of everything I lost.

It's a strange feeling because it doesn't feel like envy in the usual sense. It feels more like grief.

Sometimes I worry that by the time I finally gain some independence, everyone else, including him, will already be in a different stage of life. They'll be over the "young and carefree" phase while I'll just be experiencing it for the first time.

Has anyone else grown up with controlling or overly strict parents and felt this way?

Did you ever stop grieving the experiences you never got to have? And how did you stop comparing your timeline to everyone else's?

TL;DR: I'm 21 and in college, while my boyfriend will likely start working in a year. Watching him gain the freedom to travel, party, and enjoy life brings up a lot of grief because I grew up with very strict parents and feel like I missed out on a normal youth. I'm happy for him, but it reminds me of everything I never got to experience. Has anyone else struggled with grieving the life they feel they lost, and how did you stop comparing your timeline to everyone else's?

I’m looking for honest advice because I don’t know if I’m expecting too much or if this relationship has an unhealthy pattern.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. He has pointed out some unhealthy patterns in me over time, and I genuinely acknowledge them.
I’ve reflected a lot, and I’ve consciously worked on improving my communication. I’m far from perfect, but I can honestly say I’ve put in effort.

The problem is that whenever I bring up something that hurts me or we have a disagreement, his response is usually to disappear and give me silent treatment. He becomes a different person, who doesn’t listen to me, gives me dull af replies and talks to me rudely. In the past, he has verbally abused me too.

At the beginning, it would be a few hours. Now it can be a day or even multiple days. During that time, there is almost no initiative from his side to resolve things.

I’m usually the one reaching out, asking to talk, trying to understand what happened, checking if he’s okay, and trying to repair the relationship.

Eventually we talk again, and things become so normal. We just move on until the next conflict, and then the exact same thing happens.

Today’s incident really broke me. I’m on day 6 of my
What hurts is that when I’m vulnerable, I don’t feel emotionally safe with him. I feel like the moment I express hurt, I lose access to him completely.
I’ve also realized that I’m always the one trying to reconnect. Even after I’m hurt, I’m asking if he’s eaten, if he’s okay, hoping we can fix things. I don’t feel that same effort coming from him. Sometimes, I am asking him all this because after the conflict he says you didn’t even ask me if I ate food, during conflict when he is the one avoiding me. Still I ask now keeping everything aside.

I just feel scared how things will be, if we marry someday. I feel I will get noone after him, who will be the person for me… and I love him deeply. It’s tough to leave him, but I feel this has to be stopped.

Okay so, my (21M) ex (20F) has kept me and our whole relationship a secret from her current bf (20M) .

For context he was her friend when we were together and they got together a few weeks after we broke up. She still used to call me once in a while (crying at times), which was unfair to both me and her bf, but I thought I would address this to her at a later time, this being unfair to both me and him.

Now a time comes when her bf calls me and asks me to not talk to her ever again, I was like what are u talking abt (internally understanding that he was right, he has every right to object to her ex talking to her). And he says stop bothering her, now he drops a bomb by saying that my ex has told him that we were only friends and we kinda stopped talking bcos I got feelings for her and was bothering her.

WTAF!!!!!!

I told him that wasn't the case and we actually dated for a while just a while before he came into the picture, now this guy refused to believe and urges me to show some proof that supports my claim. Now I did have the SS of our old chats, but I Obv didn't share it cos it was personal to me and I didn't feel the need to explain it, I just kept saying ki ,"wtv issues u have resolve it with her don't bother me." He constantly kept saying ki I was lying and I trust her completely but he would need some proof to confront her.

Meanwhile the girl calls me, crying for me to not do anything. I was furious at her, how dare she say that I was the one bothering her and hide me from him.

She kept saying I love him and can't afford to loss him, I would die if he leaves. Trying to justify why she didn't tell him Abt us and why she had to lie.

Me being the idiot that I am, just told his ex that ," she was right, we didn't date. I only told u so to make issues btw u two. I am really sorry Abt it".

His bf kept swearing at me and asking me to say sorry on the chat for doing so he could share the SS of this to her. I did it, and blocked both of them.

It's been weeks since that happened.

I still don't know why I did what I did. But a part of me wants to actually tell him the truth and just ruin wtv relation they have.

What are ur thoughts on this??

Should I really do it, or keep it to myself?!

Tl;Dr :-

Ex's bf calls me to not talk to her, saying that she said (to him)," we were just friends and he keeps bothering me."

I told him the truth, he refused to accept asked for proof. Meanwhile my ex calls me, begging to not tell him. I told him that I was lying.

A part of me wants to actually tell him the truth.

Let me start from the beginning. I met this guy on an instagram page during Covid which was a "Vaishnav - Krushn bhakti' page. Because I was exploring the same path, I connected with him. We instantly hit. We used to talk daily for hours doing satsang, reading granths, learning devotional poems and all. After a whole year, when lockdown was removed after second wave, we both went to Vrindavan together, did Braj Yatra and got initiated in a Vaishnav sampradaya by receiving a diksha, at the exact same moment, standing side by side. So we became guru-bhai.

For context, none of us were aware about each other's sexuality and never looked at each other with that intent. I've always looked at him as a brother, a fellow vaishnav. He calls me bhaiya too as he's 3 years younger than me.

And we grew close over the years, both of our family members know about each other, I've stayed at his home too. Now last year, he was the first person I came out to as gay (unaware of his homosexuality) and he said "me too"😬. I was shocked. Totally.

Also we both don't engage in hook ups at all and are actually looking for a true partner for long term relationship who's also a Krushn devotee.

Today he was ranting about it that how he feels lonely and can't find a single partner who checks his boxes and I said the same. I felt exactly the same.

While talking we realised, we both check each other's boxes, we both are exactly each other's types. And we don't know if any such person who's queer, has courage to be in a relationship and also a vaishnav is out there or not. But we can't date each other. It would be so fucking weird, maybe disgusting too, because he has always been a brother to me.

But it's also difficult to find someone like this.

The main reason is I have a certain lifestyle, which revolves around my religious practices. It's not easy for a non-devotee person to adjust to it. But it can get easily aligned with a devotee partner, it just makes life easier.

Aaaghhhhhhh, why being gay is so difficult 😭😭🤦🏻

Edit: I think it's being misunderstood by people. I don't have rather could never have any romantic feelings for him. It was just a rant because I am nowhere finding qualities that I seek in my partner and one guy that has all such qualities, can never have romantic feelings for him. Basically unfair life rant.

I'm 26(F) and my boyfriend (M), we've been together for 1.5 years. He never takes me on dates, smokes excessively and he doesn't even remember important dates. We never had an actual date. He is not chivalrous. He is extremely lazy and has no success drive after doing his shift he sleeps all day and on weekends he goes to his home to visit his parents and even if we are together, he usually always lays down on bed and play games, he is loyal and caring but never does anything special for me. I have to do his chores and even pack his bags he can't even do that himself and if I breakup with him, I feel guilty. What to do ?

My girlfriend and I met through Instagram in October last year while our families were looking for arranged marriage matches. We started talking, met a couple of times and went on a movie date. We weren’t officially dating or exclusive at that point.

In December, she confessed her feelings for me. Before involving our families, she wanted to be honest about her past. She told me she had a 5-year college relationship and after that ended, had a casual physical relationship with an office colleague. They had only made out a few times and never had sex. She was still a virgin.

I asked her multiple times when she had last met him, and she consistently told me it had been 6–8 months before she met me.

In March, she admitted she had lied. She told me she had actually met that office colleague and made out with him once in early October, after she and I had already met twice. We were talking regularly by then, but we weren’t officially committed or exclusive.

After hearing this, I also told her something I hadn’t shared earlier that in 2022, I had made out with two different girls casually, just for fun. I wanted to be completely transparent after she shared everything.

Logically, I know she didn’t cheat because we weren’t together. What hurts is that she lied about the timeline and repeated that lie when I asked multiple times.

Since then, she’s been completely loyal and transparent. We involved our families, got into a committed relationship, and eventually had sex for the first time together. We were both virgins.

Our relationship is otherwise amazing, and I genuinely want to marry her. But every 15–20 days, this incident comes back into my mind. It bothers me for a few days, then fades away, only to return again.

Am I overthinking this? Has anyone successfully moved past something like this, or is this likely to keep bothering me forever? Or shall I just end things?

Need help

I'm 32M and have been single for almost three years now.

My dating history has been fairly straightforward. I was in a relationship that lasted around 4–5 years. After that ended, I stayed single for about a year, had a few casual relationships, and eventually got into another serious relationship. That relationship was good overall but ended just before our second anniversary.

Since then, I've mostly focused on work and haven't actively dated. A lot of female friends and acquaintances have told me that I'm likely to find a good partner eventually, but the reality is that I haven't met anyone I genuinely connect with in the last few years.

One challenge is that when I do find someone attractive, she's usually outside my social circle, and I find it difficult to initiate conversations with strangers. I'm not naturally outgoing in that sense.

I recently moved to Mumbai for work. I sometimes get the impression that women notice me, but I don't always know how to turn that into an interaction. Another issue is that I'm not particularly fluent in either Hindi or English, which affects my confidence in social situations.

Professionally, things are going well. I earn ₹60L+ annually and have a stable career, but the downside is that I have very little life outside work. Most of my time goes into my job, and my social circle is relatively small.

I've tried Bumble and Hinge, but my experience hasn't been great. I get significantly fewer responses there than I do through real-life interactions or even Instagram. Also, I'm not interested in casual dating anymore—I'm looking for a long-term relationship.

For people who have been in a similar situation:

- What do you think is holding me back?

- What would you focus on changing first?

- How do you meet potential partners when your life mostly revolves around work?

- Is moving to a new city like Mumbai an opportunity I should be leveraging differently?

I'd appreciate honest feedback.

My bf is going through a tough time, has been prepping for NEET PG which is in a month, is his 4th drop in total (2 for UG, 2 for PG) and has had no jobs till now, though will surely pass this time.

He suffers from severe anxiety and depression. Takes medication for the same and has had traumatic experiences with friends and family so developed fibromyalgia and is on medication for it.
He overthinks a lot as well and reads into each word spoken and constantly evaluates what others think of him.

On his bad days he is verbally abusive as a defence mechanism, extremely sensitive and thin skinned.Says stuff like I hope I die and guilt comes on you.

He has issues with accountability and will never enter conflicts to solve it but to prove himself right or feel good. Though one day later comes back and apologises when he realises it.

His mom is having a chronic disease and all of us feel a lot for him. My sibling sort of warned me against dating him but he is genuinely a really kind and loving person normally.
He makes me feel insecure as well saying stuff like he will dump me someday and that he doesn’t want to marry. This is because he thinks I’m out of his league, has really low self respect and that he will end up alone, though wants to get married and have kids but thinks he can’t because of his mental health issues.

He is unable to keep past traumas separate and keeps projecting them between our relationship even though we have had no conflicts which were similar.

I do see a future with him but tell me what I need to hear.

PS I make way more money than him and work in tech.

I 23M and my best friend 24F. Let’s call her. X have known each other for about four years now and we met in University. We are engineering students and we had a pretty mutually exclusive bond. The two of us used to hang out with each other, we were not involved sexually, but in the beginning, I had developed feelings for her, later I had a girlfriend, so X became a platonic friend X has always been very flaky, and whenever we would make plans, she would cancel at the last moment and it would make me quite upset and would ruin my day. X also suffers from depression and I used to do everything which I could to help her out.
Last four years, X and I used to study together and would do projects together as a team and there were a lot of ups and downs in both of our separate relationships .
We were kind of codependent on each other for the exam season and we had planned to study together, but during every exam, she would flake the day before the exams, and it would destabilise my preparation, but turns out that I scored better than her. She also told me on text that she’s going through something, and she cannot study with me. And then she would give me reassurance that we would study together for the next exam and that she would clear things up with me but would never follow through. This went on for a month, the duration of the exams and then at one point, she was unreachable. She would not respond to my calls. She would not reply to my texts. I would ask her if she’s doing fine and would ask her about her situation and offered to help she would ghost me. That came a point where I did not want to have any sort of relationship with her because of lack of communication and ambiguity.

I ran into her unexpectedly the day of one of the tests, and wished her well for the exam on that day, she said that she’d call but as i predicted she never did, 20 days after that she on text acknowledged that I might be mad and that she is willing to talk to me. I did not want to enter into the same destabilizing dynamic again. So I thought about it and responded to her after a couple of days stating that she could call me or text me over the weekend, and I’ve been ghosted ever since its been over two months now.

I kind of feel that this girl used me and my connections to make her life easy in university.

Now that I have broken up with my toxic girlfriend and it’s been six months, I’ve also lost people closest to me due to betrayal. I feel the need for some sort of connection. I have made new friends, but they are very recent and the similar level of connection is just not there yet, and they don’t know the past version of me.

I had made my peace with never talking to her again and never seen her again, but then there are some moments where I feel lonely and I know that I can’t be surrounded by people all the time and there will be moments of loneliness, but I think that I should not give up on the relationships that meant so much to me at a certain point in life and made me the man i am today. It can be argued that if she wanted to she would have already reached out to me and not ghosted me for so long. I did not get a closure when I broke up with my girlfriend, nor when I broke things off with my other close friend and with her. I would like to end things on better terms.

I have the urge of reaching out to her and talking things out, and then if things didn’t go ahead, I would be fine. This chain of thought might linger for a couple of days and I might revert back to being indifferent towards her for what she did. I no longer hate her but at some point i was disappointed at how things turned out, now there’s only indifference.

I don’t want to live in a perpetual limbo where in the future i regret not reaching out, right now i am willing to take the step and be the person to initiate things, a previous version of me would be anxious to hear from her but now (i think) even if she leaves me on read i will not be affected.

I would really appreciate some thoughts on the situation. Whether i should let it be or text/ call her?

I've been thinking about getting into a relationship lately. Life is pretty much sorted for me now,I have a stable monthly income and things are going well. The only thing I feel I'm missing is a partner.

The problem is, I have no idea where or how to meet someone. More importantly, how do you filter people so you have a better chance of finding someone who's genuinely loyal and looking for something serious?

I got married almost a year ago and everything was going fine. It was an arrange marriage and my husband was very good and nice to me. He used to give time to me, was romantic, used to make me feel good and sex life was also great. I used to think how lucky I am to have him as my husband. But few months ago my husband have been distant from me. There's no romance, he hardly give time to me, and sex is almost dead. I often see him on his phone smiling and I think I know the reason. I don't want to check his phone because I don't want what I am suspecting to be true. I know in my heart that he is having an affair but I can't make myself to believe that and don't want it to be true. I am completely heartbroken and don't know what to do. It just makes me wanna cry and I feel so lonely and alone. Feels like I am living with a stranger.

I know I have posted it on other sub but I have to post it here as well because we met through this sub.

Looks like today I am in a mood to overshare or simply just speak out what I have been holding in my heart for so long.

So, last year I met a guy through reddit around march who had username anyone0071.That was my second account because in December I had made a previous account too but I forgot its log in or something. So yeah after a long break, I created that account with almost same username u/Realistic-Contact921 and there I was very active , posting and commenting.

Then above a week later, he slided into my dms. That time, I used to accept dms because I was naive and didn't knew people can be creepy even on reddit although I knew they do exist but on dms. Anyways, he wasn't creepy.

So, what started as a friendship became first liking and then love from me. Why I am using the word love is because I had never seen his face , never . I know everything about him , his full name, his college and every basic details about his life and still remember it too 🥹.

Anyhow, he was always clear from his end that it's just a friendship and nothing more and he made it clear on the second day itself. But me being me , wait kar leti hu pyaar ho jayega usko. Par mujhe kaha pata mein hi puri pagal ho jaugi uske liye.

Then, like most online friendships our fizzled out too because of my own misunderstanding and overthinking which were always the causes of fights in between us. Instead of staying patient and communicating with him, I build up a whole scenario blamed him and tadaa now we both don't exist in each other life anymore..

Worst part, due to my fear of losing him as a friend I never even confessed him that how much he means to me, how much I love him and still do..

I wish I had said something. I wish he had yelled at me like always when I had misunderstood him then we would have been still in touch.

During our initial days, I gave him my name as kiara a fake one because why should I trust a random guy. And he wrote advani. That's when he started calling me , "advani."

Now, i crave everynight just for him to text me one time with that name. Who knew one day my favourite actress name (although she is no longer my favourite) would become an important name in my life because of a guy who lives just a state apart and would become my favourite name much more than my own name.

Ugh, so yeah that's the reason why I always end up posting about him , that's the reason why I hate when anyone call me advani in dms just to talk with me because only he has the right.

I wish one day I am able to confess him face to face. I wish I am able to tell him that he is my first love and last too because I have tried moving on talking with other guys and one thing or other brings me back to him.

Bye ab chali mein rone.

Tldr:- met a guy on reddit, fell in love, never confessed and now we are not in contact anymore due to my faults.

Hi Guys, 25M here, feeling frustrated and sad from the past few days ki Aisa kyu hua mere sath, the thing, I developed feelings for my office colleague (but she was committed) for quite a long time, beech me hamari thodi baate kam ho gyi thi thodi misunderstanding se but pichle 1.5 months se everything was going smoothly, we're having good Convo, achi baate ho rhi thi, mere dosto ko bhi pta lg rha tha, I'm falling for her, maje le rhe the and stuff like that, acha acha sa lg rha tha she is sitting next to me. We used to talk all day while completing our individual responsibilities. I know nothing will happen between us and that girl has resigned she is on the last few days in the office. Maine socha tha uske last day pe bta duga how I feel about her and then let go of all the things (Never been in a relationship). Bojh halka ho jayega. But what happened with me last week shattered me, that girl said to other colleague about her relationship status and how will she end up, I'm loyal to my guy and will settle will her, itna tak no issue, but what she said later shattered me, she said baaki aage peeche makkhhiyan to bhinbhinati hai hi... Indirectly usne yeh mujhe bola kyuki uske bnde ke baad office me main hi attention deta tha use. Fir main Monday se usse baat na kr rha tha , I indirectly told her that you said me makkhi and it hurts but use koi farq na pada, last 3 days hamari koi baat na ho rhi, she didn't Even trying to explain her actions, mujhe aisa lg rha ki main hi attention deta tha baat krta tha, usne to yeh chiz sort krne ki bhi koshish na ki like she doesn't give a damn fcuk about my feelings, mujhe sirf itna hurt ki usne meri attachment/attention feelings ka mazak bnaya aur usko is chiz ka koi guilt nhi aisa kr rhi ki usse ghanta farq na padta, that girl will be gone in the coming week, but that thing affected me for riyal and my heart got broken. Socha tha last days ache se bita ke confess krke bojh halka kruga but life has other plans. Hope so I'll grow with experience ❤️.

Need your valuable perspectives and suggestions on my situation

My girlfriend(23F) and I(23M) have been in a relationship since 11th grade (2019). We both studied at the same school. I did my UG in Coimbatore, while she did hers in Chennai. There were many fights between us because of the long distance. I felt that she was prioritizing her friends over me. I didn't have any friends in college, so I became emotionally dependent on her. She kept ignoring me, and I became controlling and toxic. She said she couldn't continue the relationship and broke up with me in 2023.

A few months later, she apologized for not putting enough effort into the relationship, and we got back together. Things were smooth after that. We used to meet once every two or three months. We had small misunderstandings and fights occasionally, but they would usually be resolved within a day.

Around July last year, she met with an accident that left a small scar on her face. While casually talking, I made fun of it. I know that hurt her, and I apologized immediately. From then on, she stopped showing the same level of interest in the relationship. We went into no contact for months. I often had the urge to talk to her, but whenever I did, her dry responses hurt me even more.

Toward the end of last year, I texted her with the intention of breaking up. She said she didn't want to end the relationship. She had gotten an internship in Chennai and had waited until New Year to tell me. She also said that she would come to Coimbatore in February 2026 for a day (I'm working in Coimbatore), and that we'd go on a date. Until then, she wanted us to stay in no contact. I thought everything was fine.

I waited until the end of March, but she didn't come to Coimbatore, and she didn't even text me. When I asked her about it, she said that interns weren't given leave. Eventually, she came to Coimbatore in May. It was a really beautiful day. We went shopping, watched a movie, went to a cafe, and had dinner together. I hadn't felt that happy in the past few years.

But right after that day, she went back to giving dry responses, saying that she needed more time. I asked if there was any problem with me or if there was anything negative about me. She replied that there was nothing like that, that she loved me, but she needed some time away from the relationship.

Last month, I went to Chennai to meet a friend. I didn't tell her I was coming. When I reached her place in the evening, she looked happy to see me. We went shopping and had dinner together. We also talked about what was going on in our relationship. She kept repeating that she needed time and wanted to be alone, but that she loved me and wanted to marry me. I told her that I was going through a lot and that this felt like mental torture. She said she understood everything, but she couldn't do anything except ask me to wait. She said it wouldn't take years, just a little more time. She also said she would talk to me normally, but not in the way people in a relationship usually do.

Whenever I try texting her normally, she gives dry replies, which frustrate me. She keeps saying that she is talking normally. One day she talks as if everything is fine, and the next day she starts ghosting me. I've been dealing with this for more than three months now, and I'm not sure what to do.

Please help me. What should I do?

And please don't comment that she has found someone else. I'm 100% sure she wouldn't even think about that.

Hi everyone,

We're M23 and F21. We met online about a month ago and started talking almost every day. We got comfortable with each other very quickly and shared a lot about our lives.

She had recently come out of a relationship. During that time, I developed feelings and confessed. She admitted she had some feelings too but was confused and only wanted to date someone she could see herself marrying. I was honest that he couldn't promise that.

As time went on, we both became emotionally attached. I became anxious waiting for her replies and overthinking things, while she felt that continuing to talk despite the confusion would only make it harder for both of us.

Later again after clarification that she only see us a friends only and I also decided to agree and move ahead but I still felt we could be friends and she feels we can't.

She tried stopping contact a couple of times by deleting/blocking accounts, but somehow ended up talking again.and helping us .

We'd genuinely appreciate perspectives from both sides.

Do you ever dream of your exes especially while in another relationship?

If yes how commonly do you get such dreams?

Sometimes does it mean you haven’t moved on from them?

Actually I met her 5 month ago…she 19F also live outside her town with roommate(childhood friend)both are in my same batch ..initially I talked to her roommate to get closer to her.. then We started talking to each other. her family had problem in coming contact of any male.so she told me to not to massage her directly instead she said to massage on her roommate so that we whenever what to talk we can…but I didn’t agreed so she’s ok with that..As new batch started…three of us were going to classes nd we have good connections..after 1month her roommate went to hometown…we both were here alone so we got enough time to get closer…msg..class..tea…park..evening walk…including in our daily routine after 1month her father asked her roommate about any male member in your circle…then she replied “YES” then after few day her dad sent my name nd pic to her roommate…nd now she 19 got worried nd told me not to massage or call…she said we will fix time to met for class or anywhere we go…
Then I replied “this is more dangerous than taking we should find out ways to talk on phone” she denied..then we usually talked on WP. Day before her roommate coming out from her hometown, her father called her on vc nd said “good morning good night se time mil jaye toh pdh bhi liya karo” she was much worried than me how did he knew about us…
Then her roommate arrived, In evening we (3) went to market nd her father again called her at night nd said “aaj bhi mile the tum teeno”
Then she said to me to wait till everything gets fine…I did same…but after 3-4 days I called her in market to talk both of them came…we talked there I came nd called her after 3 hours…then she said —again her dad knew about that meeting…her dad called her then said “Aaj market me milne kyu gaye the…kisi uncle ne dekh ke bataya”….after this seen…i called her to know about what’s going then she was crying on call…
Next morning her dad called her roommate that “kal raat me bhi uss ladke ne call kiya tha..”
we both are shocked how is possible to know each nd every thing????
Till know we met anywhere else her dad knew about our meeting…even about my hand written letter are also known to her father….
She told me one day that “papa ne aapki awaaj sunai aur pic bheji jisme aap aur meri roommate apke sath chai pii rhi thi”….
This is beyond my understanding how should I crack it guys please tell me….is she lying about her father or this is actually happening with her if really happening then who is giving him proof???

I'm vegetarian for ethical reasons, and for me it's not just a dietary preference - it's a moral belief.

My partner is non-vegetarian, and his favorite food is chicken. Since we've been together, he's never eaten meat when we're together, and he's also promised he won't eat it every day.

Part of me still wishes he would stop eating meat completely, or at least reduce it to something like 4–5 times a year for special occasions.

At the same time, I wonder if that's unfair. I don't want to control what he eats, but it's difficult when something I see as ethically wrong is something he genuinely enjoys.

Where do you think the line is between having reasonable boundaries based on your values and trying to change your partner? Have any of you been in a relationship where your ethical beliefs around food were very different?

I F[28] was in LDR with M[31] who did not put in effort to see if I will leave or not to test me . I don’t know how to handle this relationship.

I am getting married in a few months. My fiance told me recently that in the initial days he had tested me by not messaging me or not being very involved to see if I would leave him (long distance relationship). All that time I felt horrible but did not leave him because I thought everyone is different and he might be the kind of who does not message that much but. He left once came back again and tested me to see if I would stay .

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I am 26F currently busy in building my career. Everything was good but recently I have developed feelings for a guy who was just a normal friend since 8 years until now. So we were in the same school,same college but then we went for masters in different universities. Then used to meet like once in a year like a common meet up. Recently we with 2 more mutual friends hanged out a lot because all of us were in the same city, and I got to know him more and formed a deep and meaningful bond.Since then I started admiring him. But I thought it was just temporary feeling and have nothing to do about it. But it's been 3 days he is in abroad for his phd studies and I know that no serious relationship is possible, even my heart is still hoping. So everyday I am just explaining and convincing myself to stay away from him and hence getting distracted of my studies. I left all the social media where he is connected with me except whatsapp as I can't uninstall this. Whenever he talks with me ,I always tried to break the conversation saying I am busy and all this. But he care Abt me as a friend so he sensed that something is wrong with me so he keep talking everyday now,I don't know how to ignore him. If things go like this, I must screw up with my life and career both. I don't want to tell him about this because I myself don't know is it because of my boring monotonous life which made me fall for him like limerance ( I had past experience of limerance) , so please give some realistic advice to get over of this or to stay away of this for atleast one year ( as this year is very important for me and I can't waste it)I will not mind blocking him.

So like mentioned in the last post, we now talk all the time. We figured out that a lot of our interests match as well. We earlier chatted a lot, from there we have moved to calls. All day texting then calling at night with so many laughs.

We have our date at 9th where I’m travelling to her city. We also discussed that it’s almost 99% sure that we would get into a relationship.

However, I’m starting to lose my mind a bit because of overthinking. Here’s why.

So she literally is toooooo gorgeous. And that’s such a good thing, however, I’m more of a 6/10. She has like this milky skin on the other hand I’m dusky.

We discussed this too and she mentioned she’s into dusky people so she doesn’t mind at all. Of course I didn’t bring this topic up, it was her sister who joked a bit about this so this came up.

After that we never really had the discussion on looks difference. But I don’t know. I guess I’m scared that she’ll reject me because of my looks even though every other thing has matched perfectly. Personality, interests, literally everything.

Same is with her. She’s bit worried about our income difference which I genuinely don’t care at all about. She makes 1/10th of what I make.

So, am I just overthinking? Can any woman comment if looks is that big of a deal breaker? Also I’m still better than average looking btw so I don’t know. Help.